Ladies in their 30s
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Hoping.... It's totally normal!!! I still have the occasional "pity party" for myself.... Why wouldn't we? I'm 35 and was completely clothes lined with my diagnosis!! The first few weeks I could barely eat, sleep, think, etc....and it has gotten better as I've started to receive information and had my surgery, etc.... Hang in there....I promise you it will get easier and know that this disease is very manageable....and not a death sentence for us even though it seems like it at first. I have an 8 year old and fully intend to do everything possible to see her grow up.... And so will you with your daughter....and we'll kick cancer's butt!!!!
It sounds like your's is caught very early....so just take it day to day and know you are going to get through it!!!
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Hoping - I am sorry about your recent diagnosis but just know that the women on the site are amazing!!! we truly support eachother, and youa re not alone!! We are all in this journey together. Its normal to feel how you feel. I also do have my days where i jsut cry and feel helpless and sorry for myself, know that it will get easier and you will overcome this. I was diagnosed just before my 38th bday, I have 2 small kids (4.5 and 3yrs). Hang in there and let us know if you ahve any specific questions.
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Hi Hopingforthebest, I'm Amy. . sorry you had to join this site.. it's the club that no one wants to be a part of! But we've all been where you are, so don't feel alone, there's plenty of support here
. Did they say what stage the cancer is at? Are you opting for masectomy or lumpectomy?0 -
I don't know anything! Which is frustrating!! All they did was phone tell me there found cancer cells , and I would meet with the surgeon in three weeks to discuss my options, I really hope for just a lumpectomy, I would be terrified if I had to choose a Masectomy, so I really hope that dosent happen
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Oh!
I am starting to scare, I am at my thirties already.
What shall we do to avoid having this problem?
I could feel few signs alredy!
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Hoping - I am sorry for this, I know the waiting is sooo frustrating. I also got the news of my biopsy results that they found cancer cells on the phone, but I was lucky to see my primary care doctor thats same day and he scheduled me to see a breast surgeon and onoclogist asap. Where do you reside? do you have a primary care doctor? If you do, maybe you should call him/her and try to arrange a visit to talk to them and get a clearer pisture, I am sure they will have your results or can get them. Please PM me if you have any specific questions.
Take it easy. HUGS
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I am from Wpg, Manitoba. I do have a regular doctor, I tried phoning today , so I could see her but was told they could not get me in till Aug 26 which is pointless because I meet with the surgeon on the 25th. I just hope things move quickly afterwards. My mom has breast cancer too, and she told me the worst part is the very beginning because you don't know what is going on, and hopefully it will get better once I know. Thanks for your support
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Hi Hopingforthebest, I can't believe they told you this news over the phone but can't get you an appt til the 25th!!! That is absurd!!!! I'm sorry you have to wait that long. Can you try to seek out another surgeon? Who gave you the results, the pathologist from the lab? grrr I feel for you..
And Gerstens: I don't know how you can avoid this problem, if we knew how to avoid cancer, we wouldn't be on this site lol.. what signs can you feel already?
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Hi ladies,
Just diagnosed on July 14th, 32 yo with a 2 1/2 yo boy and supportive hubby. Found the lump of 0.75 cm myself, by accident while I was sleeping. Everything has been moving so fast that it's overwhelming. I feel like I walk through the day as if nothing is wrong and then I feel the lump and say, oh that's cancer. For some reason I just cry even though I'm not thinking of it. I caught this early, will have the Lumpectomy and sentinel node biopsy on the 18th. After that will discuss radiation. I'm worried about other treatments and being able to have more kids. I breastfed my son and would want to do that for the next. So far I've learned to take it one step at a time. I've had to have an additional MRI biopsy to check 3 other spots, which turned out to be benign. When I have questions they just run through my mind but I always have to bring it back to this moment, this treatment until I can get to the next phase. Looking to see, unfortunately, some people my age going through this emotional ride.
Thanks.
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39 when I was diagnosed, had lumpectomy, sentinel node biopsy, then finished chemo in June but just found another lump that needs to be checked out before any more treatments. Trying to be positive but it's so hard! I just ate 6oz of raw cashews out of frustration, good thing I do not have the energy to bake.
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I'm on my 4th chemo and I've had a period every month (very heavy, 5 days). Many women on here don't have a period after their first treatment. Is anyone else still having regular periods? I've always been regular and was looking forward to not having a period.
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@oanndtolivo everyone's reaction to chemo is different, however make sure you get a visit with your obgyn to get a pelvic exam to make sure that it is just your period and not something more serious.
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KRomanoFight - I am sorry you have to join this forum but it is such a GREAT forum to talk to ladies that are going through or have gone through the same road. Ladies here are just Fabulous, helpful, supportive and nice! I was 37 years when diagnosed (just turned 38 last month), I have 2 small kids (4.5 & 3yrs) and a loving hubby, been married for 8 yrs! Found a lump on my left breast, didnt think much of it as i've had a lump on the same place 6 yrs ago that turned out to be a cyst, BUT still mentioned it to my priamry and he suggested i do an US and mammo then biposy confirmed the lump had cancer cells. Had a lumpectomy 5/23 and am now going through 6 cycles of TC chemo, have done 2 already and 4 more to go. Next treatment will be RADS then Tamoxifen for 5 yrs! All I can say is, you will get through this, I am very spiritual and i find that this helps me. I bel;ieve that God does not give you a hurdle that he doesnt think you can overcome:-) Beause of my age, my Oncologist advised that I get the Zoladex shot every 4 weeks while going thru chemo to help protect my ovaries while going thru chemo. You can talk to your MO about having more kids etc. All the BEST!!! Hang in there, cry if you want to, let it out!! Just know that you will overcome this and this too shall pass!:-) Sending you a Hug!
Browniefrank - I am sorry about the other lump, i can jsut imagine how frustrated and scared you must feel. I hope it turns out to be benign.
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I had my first zoladex shot yesterday, the needle was scary, but all in all not so bad!!!
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aimska - I have not seen the needle, i keep looking away during every shot, I HATE NEEDLES!! LOL but my hubby told me that if i see the needle i'll be traumatized haahahaa....
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hahahah I looked at it, and I was like OMG!!!!!! I had to look away, yeah it is a big THICK scary needle..
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Hi guys! I've been posting mostly in the August 2011 chemo thread but thought I would say hi here. I'm 31. To all of you just diagnosed, when people tell you that this time is the worst because you don't know your plan and when you will be getting treatment, etc, it really is true. Not knowing the plan just leaves everything a big question mark. And I have asked a million questions and done so much research (although this is sometimes a bad thing because you freak out thinking that every single bad side effect WILL happen to you). I cried so much when I was first diagnosed. There were points when my husband would literally have to pick me up off the bathroom floor and make me take a Xanax. I was a mess. Now that my plan is in place, I feel more at peace. And that will come for you guys too.
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oandtolivo - I had my first treatment on August 4th and got my period on August 9th. And it's still going. Of course, it came as a surprise because I had to give up my beloved Seasonale at the end of June and I had been on the pill since I was 18. Always knew when it was coming. Now I don't and it's so annoying. I don't think that periods stop for everyone during chemo. Due to my age, my onc said that if they do stop, I have like a 70% chance that they will come back after chemo.
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Hi Kasi!!!! welcome
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Thanks Amy!
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Thanks Ladies. I'm seeing gyn on Tue and Onc on Monday. It just makes for a long weekend
I'm not sure if my pain is from the chemo or from this horrid period. I hope everyone has a good weekend 0 -
Snoopy73: Thanks! Your story sounds similar to mine. I found a lump about 3 years ago that turned out to be a fibroadenoma on the opposite breast. I WAS going to leave this one go. So for about 2 months I followed it, size changes, pain etc. When it didn't really do anything I got an ultrasound. I had a feeling it was something. Oh man, but didn't really expect this! I'll need radiation but have no idea about Chemo til after the sentinel node and testing. BUT, the BRAT genetics test hasn't come back yet even though the comprehensive results were back last week. Myriad has no idea, saying it's taking longer to result them, giving no time frame for when they expect to have them.
So frustrating, and worrisome especially when you work in healthcare! Hugs to all.
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this is my first time posting on this thread. Wow. There are too many of us here in our 30's!
KRomanoFight- It is true that waiting for results and a plan is the worst part so far. Once you have information, decisions can be made. I also found a lump myself and followed it for a couple of months before having it checked out. My mom had breast cancer and at her suggestion I got it checked out. I almost even cancelled my biopsy because I was sure it was just a cyst. I had lumpectomy and SNB, and re excision to obtain clear margins. I surprised when my onc said I did not need chemo as my tumor was so small (8 mm) I am 36 with a 4 and 6 year old and a supportive husband. I am currently waiting for my BMX surgery. Good luck with your surgery next week, sending you healing vibes.0 -
bobeena: Thanks for the info. I do feel much better to hear stories and how everyone else is doing. Just relieved to see how well everyone is doing and feel optimistic that everything will be fine.
Thanks again for the healing thoughts.
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oandtolivo - Hope you're not in too much pain this weekend!
Agreed. There are way too many of us in our 30s in this thread. Sad.
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Just a question, what is BMX?
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Bilateral mastectomy, but I liked the days when it was a really cool kids bike 0
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Hi
I was 36 when diagnosed, 37 now. My daughters were 2 and 5 at the time. Im very lucky with lots of family and friends supporting me, and my husband has been amazing, but its hard going to see the effect it has on the children. My 5 year old in particular has struggled with seeing me ill, and weve had her referred for counselling to get her some help and support.
Having said that, there isnt a good time to get this bc thing, but im hoping being younger will help with recovery.
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haha, me too. I tried to look it up on the internet and all I hot was the bikes 0
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Deep respect for every young woman with children and BC!
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