Ladies in their 30s
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Rachel have you lost/cut your hair?? I started on 6/12 and I dog wanna cut it!!!!!
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Alibeths, I had super long hair before and chopped it all off a week before starting chemo. I'm only day 7 now and still have it all up there but once I start losing it I'll definitely be shaving it! I'm bummed because I actually love my new short hair and wish I could rock it for a little while longer. But oh well. How about you?
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I'm day 13 n haven't cut anything yet.
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Mine started falling out the day I went for my second treatment. For those with little kids - maybe consider having them participate in the shaving. I prepped my 4 year old for several weeks that I'd be shaving my head soon. The day it started coming out we set up a little shaving station downstairs. My boys watched and each took a turn with the buzzer - with my husband's help. I think it made it less weird for them. And I know it helped me deal with it better. Good luck!
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Great idea Ramols! I have a 4 yr old as well and that sounds like it might help make it less scary for them. Thanks!
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That's a fantastic idea ramols! If I have to do chemo, it's something that i think they will be able to particiapte in as well as help with their dealings. ((hugs)) to all. I have my oncology appt on Tuesday to find out what the next step is
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This sucks!!!!!! So do you sleep with something or no?? I would think your head would get chili!!
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Alibeths. You're right. It does suck. But look on the bright side - you won't have any bad hair days! I bought a very soft cotton cap and slept in that when my head was chilly. It was thin and light so comfy for sleeping - but still provided some warmth. Glad my shaving activities will work for some of you. Good luck!
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Somehow my wig manages to have bad hair days...WTF?
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Lol!!! What do you guys sleep in. And where can I learn to tie a scarf?
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quick scarf hint someone else gave me on one of these boards what seems like an eternity ago. If you struggle to tie them, you can use a hair band to loop it all together - kind of like doing a ponytail.
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Lol my wig had bad hair days too....just put the straightner onto it and looked good again!
Tieing scarfs wasnt my thing, so i bought little bandanas that were cotton and tied already....were the best for summer when i needed it the most!
Im sure if u try youtube for info it may help...good luck hun0 -
I'm 34 with a 3 and 6 year old. Started chemo in may. My hair started falling out about 17 days in. I have been living in my buffs. I even figured out a cute new way to wear it.
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Hi, ladies-
Well, I found the amazing breastcancer.org website when I was diagnosed exactly 1 month and 1 day ago from today. I honestly do not know what I would have done without this support forum; it has been a Godsend for me. Even though this officially marks my first post, I have been on the site navigating around multiple times a day, everyday since May 24, 2013, the day the changed my life forever. I find myself Triple Positive. I had my bi-lateral mastectomy one week ago and will be going in for a re-excision to get cleaner margins tomorrow morning at 9:00 AM.
As my username states, I am 32 years old. I am a middle school English teacher, wife (been married 8 years to a wonderful man) and mom to two little girls , ages 6 and 4. If cancer had to come into my life, I wish it would have come when I was 42, 52, or 62, when my girls were older, but I plan to treat this cancer aggressively and beat the crap out of this disease.
I am looking forward to connecting with others who find themselves on this incredible journey; I will be here every step of the way.0 -
Hello dxat.. good to hear from you but sad at why your here. I have only been here less than a month and love it here. It's been so helpful to me and the support from everyone is awesome. Welcome.
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It does suck!!!! When do u start chemo?
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Jjj
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Thanks for the kind words, Honeybunny.
Alibeths, I won't know until next week for sure the date on chemo. Still need to meet with oncologist, but my breast surgeon said today that it will start in 4-5 weeks. Will keep you posted:)0 -
Checking in. I haven't been on this thread in awhile. My youngest is 2. I was 37 when I was diagnosed two years ago. I have been where many of you are going. Chemo is do able even with kids. Make shaving your head into a party and your kids will think it's cool. Mine got a kick out of it. My kids were 6,3,and 6mo. I always got help for days 4-6 those were my bad days. I had some fantastic friends who watched the kids on infusion days. I did everything from camping to swimming during chemo. I bought a few big floppy hats since it was summer. Hated wigs, rocked the scarf, and bought some awesomely big earrings. I did get a few night caps from my local American Cancer society. Check yours, they have ideas I didn't even think to ask. Rule number one be easy on yourself. Rule number two keep a list of things you need help with and a small calender in your purse. Next time someone asks how they can help you can tell them specifically.
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hello everyone,
I am 31 year old mom of 4 children. Twins are 14, daughter10and son 8. I just got the call this morning that I have breast cancer. It is IDC. I really don't know anything more than that right now. I am in complete shock and can't stop crying. Any advice on what is to come....I am so scared!!!
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Hockeymommy - so sorry you have to be here... But you came to the right place. You will find lots of support here. Right now just focus on information gathering and getting your medical team identified so you can get a plan in place. The beginning is the hardest. Don't be afraid to ask for help from loved ones and have them come to appts with you - as you won't be able to absorb all the info on your own. Do your best not to anticipate and think too many steps ahead. And do yourself a favor and try to stay off Google. Come here for support and with questions as often as you need. And try to just breathe and take it one step at a time. Big hugs and good luck!
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Hockeymommy, hang in there! At first it will be just one day at a time, but you can do this. Just breathe and take it step by step. After my "phone call," I saw the surgeon first - within a week - so I'm not surprised they told you to contact the surgeon.
I'm 33 and have children as well and know it's tough but you do have lots of support here from other survivors. I agree with everything ramols said - once things stop spinning, you'll have your appointments, get information, and start to digest this news and make a treatment plan. When you have questions or just need to vent, you can do that here as well. Thinking of you tonight and hoping you find some rest!0 -
Thank you ladies!! I didn't sleep a wink last night, couldn't turn my brain off! lol. I am nervous and scared but I know I can kick its butt!! Thank you for the support, it sounds like these boards are filled with some amazing woman!!
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Hi hockeymom, welcome. With my short time here so far the info, help and support has been the best. (((Hugs))). It's scary that's for sure. I'm 4 weeks post mastectomy, and 12 days from the start of chemo and scared #*&@-!?-less. I have 3 kids at home (youngest is autistic/ADHD with a few other issues) I'm praying on friends to help out with him to keep his busy body occupied. I'm so glad I found this forum.
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honeybunny, How long did it take you to get back on your feet to care for your kids again after mastectomy if you don't mind me asking? I have mine coming up on Friday and I'm a little nervous as you could imagine. I only have the one very active 3 year old whom will stay with my parents until I recover, but coming from another mommy, what is a realistic time ? (I know everyone is different in healing etc) thanks in advance !
Oh and don't be scared of chemo, honestly, my BMX is more scary for me. Chemo is doable. Not Fun, but doable. I still managed work and looking after my son, but you with three kiddies, I'd be praying for your friends to come and help you out for those moments when you can't be bothered cooking or cleaning !
Hockeymommy, you WILL kick cancers butt. Once that treatment plan is in place you will feel much more at ease with what is ahead.
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That's the right attitude hockeymommy. KCA - kick cancers ass! ;-)
Just a suggestion - I got my first ever bottle of xanax after diagnosis. On those nights when I couldn't shut my brain off , I took half a pill. It did the trick so I could catch some zzzz's.
Hunnybunny - chemo is doable, even with kids. Mine were 2 and 4 when I did it. You are right to rely on your loved ones. Now will be the time to put them to work. You can do this.
Hang in there ladies - and make sure you find a bit of happy in your day!0 -
I am two weeks out from finishing treatment and I promise it is not as bad as we mae it out to be in our heads. I did not have reconstruction and I was back to full time work from home and kids care (14 months and 9) two weeks post BMX. I did not have an extreme amount of pain, and it was easier than either of my c sections. I did 4 dose dense AC, and 12 weekly taxol. The hardest weeks were the ones after I finished each chemo. I was just run down and tired. I did learn to let things like keeping the house picked up go
Take help. Our friends organized a meal delivery called takethemameal.com. We were brought dinner every night for four weeks post bmx and it was a God send. I was able to focus on healing and the kids and it was wonderful to not have to think about dinner. They also stocked our freezer for chemo. When I started weekly taxol they also brought dinner on chemo night. I finished rads two weeks ago, and although I am still tired things are starting to return to a new normal. I took my first tamoxifen last night.
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I was diagnosed just 3 days back..
I'm only 27 ....but I'm ready to fight this...
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Hi Traii, I think realistically it took me 3 weeks before I was ready to take care of the kids. It was about 2 weeks before I had to because everyone had to go back to work and it was a lot for everyone to keep living at my house (I was going insane with them here). But with them being in school still.. all I did was get them up in the morning, they helped each other get lunches/breakfasts and left together. Then I went back to bed. If I had to work, I got up and went. Now.. I am just over 4 weeks post surgery. I still find things difficult to do because of my range of motion, and I can get tired easily... but who's to say you cant have that afternoon nap still
If you can, rely on friends who are willing to take the kiddlet, and don't be afraid to say YES PLEASE! I am hoping to work and manage things with chemo. If there is anything else, please let me know.. just ask. I'm a very open person. ((hugs)) Surgery will be fine! Just watch out for doornobs with those drains. And get some soft shirts that button up. WAY easier. 0 -
politicomama ... that sounds like what my treatment will be. it will be AC every 2 weeks for 4 weeks, then T every week for 12. I am so scared. We are awaiting to find out if I am triple negative or just ER-/PR+/HER2-. The doc wanted a full confirmation on that. I've just heard/read too many scary things with being triple negative.
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