Ladies in their 30s
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Hi!
I'm 33, diagnosed at 32, I have a boyfriend, we've been together for 5 years (6th anniversary is next month), and will be getting married once I'm done with treatment. No children yet (fingers crossed that I can conceive after all of this). Having him has really helped me through this process. He keeps me laughing (most of the time, lol
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Hey There!
I'm 30 and was diagnosed yesterday! Married, no kids, just looking for advice and support.
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hi kate,
diagnosed last aug 2017 at 31. not married, no kids. started chemotherapy sep 2017.
we're here if you need support.you can do this. hang in there.
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hi all. Diagnosed Thursday. I'm 34. I live with my partner, no kids. Our wedding was scheduled for 11/3 but we are going to postpone it a bit so I can get treatment underway asap.
I have idc, 3cm, her2+ ... still waiting on all the other details.
❤
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Hi Ladies.
Without getting into the REAL “long version”, here’s my story:
Found a lump Sept ‘16, a month before my 35th. Ultrasound diagnosed as Fibroadenoma (benign tumor). It grew. Couldn’t ignore it after the first of the year. Went in for biopsy, 3 days later I’m told I have stage IDC (later found to be stage 3A. Had single mx w/no recon, and 2wks later started AC/T chemo, finished 7/17. Started rads 8/30. My rads doc thinks he’d like to stop just short of 30 doses because the tx area is an open sore, just getting worse (some of the worst they’ve seen, in fact).
Now it’s onto Hormone Therapy... which I’m dreading. I need some BC sisterly insight and where better to get it?
I’m scheduled to get monthly Lupron injections to shu down my ovaries, and also take Aromasin (AI). My Onc explained the horrific possible side effects to me better than he explained my breast cancer. I’m going to go forward with this treatment on a trial basis. But I’m desperate to know what to expect. The lowest lows. Any possible pro’s (the only one I have is that it MAY stop BC from recurring, and that’s good enough to give it a try).
My tumor was barely 5% ER positive. I am incredibly sensitive to hormonal shifts (mood swings & weight gain). Went into chemo-pause during Taxol and have not come out of it. I want to keep my marriage in tact and re-establish a sexlife with my husband. No family planning for us so that’s not a concern. I’m scared and reluctant after hearing so many negative effects.
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Hi Raque. I was dx one mos. after my 35th bday. I had a total hysterectomy and now take Arimidex. I had a clean PET scan about 6 months later. The pros - as far as I know, I am cancer free. The cons - I can't have sex at all. Not at all. My new gyn rx Osphena for severe vaginal atrophy (no estrogen) but of course I Google it and it says "no" for BC survivors. I am waiting to hear back from my MO. I was told that the Mona Lisa procedure is the only other option outside of vaginal estrogen (MO said absolutely no estrogen in any form). The Mona Lisa doesn't get great reviews and I think I have to pay out of pocket.
At the time I was going through treatment, I didn't care, I had 3 toddlers I wanted the cancer GONE. The SEs of cancer treatment are pretty much well known, but until you experience every single one of them in your 30's, it's hard to really appreciate how much your life changes.
When my Gyn said I also need to be seeing a GI doctor and dermatologist every 6 months (thanks BRCA2), I cried. I'm just flooded with constant check-ups and scans and dental visits and prescriptions. Managing the side effects of cancer is a part-time job in and of itself.
That said, I didn't get through treatment to throw in the towel now!
Hugs to you and all you other beautiful ladies on this board!
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Good morning from California! Recently diagnosed (Oct.26)
I'm 28, just married in September, and have a 4 year old.
IDC ER/PR+ HER2- and waiting for more details.
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Hi ladies, I was diagnosed in June. Multifocal IDC, largest tumour 1cm, multiple smaller ranging from .3cms to .5cms plus 9cm of DCIS. 2 nodes, 1 with extracapsular invasion. All that in an A cup!!
I'm 39, 2 kids, 4.5 and 22 months.
Hard to find other young women so delighted I found BCO
Mrs Fry, how are you holding up?
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Both, so young. We are happy you found us, and hope we can a support to you.
How are you all holding up/
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Welcome, ladies. I was diagnosed at 34. I just had my yearly MRI and am officially 2 years NED (no evidence of disease). I have two children and I homeschool, so please know treatment is is doable and you are not alone.
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Musosgirl, thanks for that. I'm heading in for dose 6 of chemo Wed. Good to hear from someone who got through this. Thanks again:)
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Stage2ire, I'm holding up rather well, considering. Trying to keep a positive attitude and looking forward to kicking cancers ass!
Musosgirl, so wonderful to hear! Thank you for your kind words
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Hi All
I am 34 diagonised for stage 2 triple negative.completed chemo,radiation,masectomy. After 6 months got recurrance again. Vey much worried now
Having scans tomorrow.I have a 6 yr old daughter giving me my goal to fight this.
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Dear Soorya,
Welcome to the community. We are so very sorry to hear about your recurrence. We are very glad that you reached out here to our members for support and information. Please let us know how we can best support you and help you to stay active here. Sending you positive and warm wishes. The Mods
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Hi, I am 34 years, mother of two kids 9 and 4.. diagnosed at stage IV from start. it's really hard to handle this after being a super busy mom..
Loads of love from husband, kids, family and friends keeps me going. Quality of life is better with perjeta and herceptin
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hi stage2er, sorry your here. I was diagnosed 6/2016. A month before I turned 37. I too have 2 kids. It's hard but def doable. You can do this. Hugs
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hello all. Wow so many ladies in their 30’s I still can’t believe how many women are effected by this. I’m 34, I have a 5 year old daughter and am married.
I was diagnosed on 12/21/17 with idc grade 3, 3.2cm tumor. Currently pending trtesting for the HER2. First test was negative. Second test slightly positive at 2.46% and now third test at a different lab apparently will be ruled as negativeanf the doc William rule me as tripple negative. Don’t know the % yet im thinking I’ll be doing AC+T. But the thought of it testing positive once for the HER2 makes me nervous.
Anyway hope everyone is doing well.
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I was 32 at diagnosis - I'm 34 now and just started treatment again because of a local recurrence. I think it's hard to get breast cancer at this age because we are supposed to be in our prime and living life! I definitely try to be grateful for the good things, but some days there's no getting around the fact that this disease just sucks.
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I totally agree with you BC does suck!!! I am 33 and some days I to find myself being alright and other times not feeling all that good about everything that has happened and that is still going on.
Wishing you and all of our BC sisters in their 30's the best in the battle against BC.
Hugs and Love to all,
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Hi everyone! I am afraid my bf won't marry me, I have been struggling with it for a while.
I have been with my bf for one and half years. I was diagnosed with stage II BC about a year ago just a couple months into our relationship. Thankfully he has been my greatest supporter, he even keeps telling me he will always be there for me. I want to get married one day, I am just that kind of girl will consider marriage as a goal of every relationship. I do talk about it with him a couple times, he says he is not ready yet and he needs time. It makes me feel sad, jealous, and even angry when I hear a friend or a coworker just got engaged, went to Europe for honeymoon, etc, I just want to be like them, healthy and happy! I was only 29 when I got this damn disease, I just want to the rest my life can be a little easier!
Please give me some advice how to get out of this downward emotional spiral?0 -
Hi I am 33.5 years old. Diagnosed on 13.10.17 with ILC, 8.7cm tumour, no nodes or metastatic disease. Begun chemo 3 weeks ago. 4 x EC and then the plan is 4 x Docetaxal, however I am going to ask for 12 x Taxol. I will then be having a mastectomy to my left breast next summer and again I will ask for the right to be removed for prevention. My ovaries will either be removed or surpassed with an injection. And then hormone treatment but I forget which, but I know it won't be Tamoxifen. I am married, 14.5 years. I am still doing some work during treatment, I am a Watercolour Artist so I am able to paint as and when I feel up to it.
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stephilosphy00 I am sorry to read of your concerns. I am newly diagnosed as well, see my above post entry. It is a very disconcerting situation for anyone to be in having cancer, and perhaps more so when one is younger. I don't know you or your boyfriend so I can't comment on what will happen or anything. Of course I hope one day you get your wish and become married to him. May I suggest you write a journal, expressing your feelings and concerns. Get it all out on paper or in notes on an iPad or whatever. And try to get a grip and a hold of your emotions. I know it's hard, believe me. I spiralled when I was diagnosed, big time, I didn't want to be alive and I was paranoid my husband of 14.5 years would leave me or have an affair. And those fears still exist to some extent. But I have have faith in him. There's always going to be that risk that your boyfriend won't marry you, the same as the risk my husband will cheat on me. But, what I don't want to do is destroy, self-destruct or ruin the relationship that my husband and I do have now. Remind yourself of why you love your boyfriend, why you are with him, his good traits and qualities and the blessings you enjoy by having him in your life. And take a firm hold of those things and count your blessings you have now because you will have blessings right now but you just have to search for them. I know it's easy for me to sit here and type all that, especially being married, but believe me, the fears won't go away even if and when you become married. And even if those fears do by chance disappear, you'll only come face to face with another fear. Keep strong Steph xxx
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Hey stephilosphy00, I'm sorry you are feeling bad about this. If it's any consolation, just remember that you are not alone. I'm in a similar situation with my boyfriend. Early in our relationship he was the one wanting to get married really quickly, but I said I needed more time. After a few years, a few setbacks, and then breast cancer, now he says it's not the right time. Now I wish we had gotten married back when our relationship was still new and life was going better. It does make me sad, even though he has been very loyal and supportive throughout this. Sometimes I am afraid that my best years are behind me already, and I'm only 34. I allow myself to feel that fear and sadness, but I stop engaging with it before I feel like it will consume me. If I get too close to the edge I pull back and rejoice in the good things, and that keeps me sane. It's hard to explain but that's what I do. Sometimes going through hard things can make a relationship stronger too, and breast cancer is definitely hard. I think PomegranatePeaches gives great advice on this. There is always uncertainty and we just have to walk forward with hope and faith, one step at a time. I'm wishing you the best!
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31 here, diagnosed last July, got my biopsy results while taking my daughter’s 3 month pictures. Talk about having your world rocked.
I am married, we just have our singleton child, I will be finished chemo January 10 and on my way to radiation 2 weeks after that.
I still need to finish reconstruction, I’m hoping to be done by my daughter’s first birthday. My team says that’s a tall order but I’m determined!
What keeps me up at night is worrying about her, not sure about you ladies but I read the posts of people celebrating 5 year survival and while I’m super happy for them I think “if I make it to 5 years, my daughter will only be 5 years old, I need a cure, I want to see my grand babies”
I’m a big future planner and this diagnosis is slowly teaching me the new “one day at a time” outlook.
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Hi Ladies,
I was diagnosed last August at 31 y/o and finished 8 rounds of AC+T end of Nov. Will be having surgery in a week. I've decided to have a bilateral mastectomy, but getting cold feet. I know it is different for everyone, but anyone have any advice on bilateral vs. single? I'm now 32 in a relationship no children living in NYC. Would love to hear from those in a similar boat.
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Hi buttonsmachine, I am so sorry about what you are going through now. Have you ever asked him why it is not the right time? My boyfriend is also very loyal and supportive to me through this, I am very thankful for that. Is marriage really that important to me? I am not sure now. I still feel sad when I hear a friend who gets engaged or married. The way you cope with the fear and sadness seems pretty helpful, I should try!
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Hi Tuna27, I'm 32, living in NYC, married with no kids. I had a bilateral mastectomy. Wondering what is causing your cold feet. I think it's probably most important to start there.
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I've been pretty firm on my decision since day 1 but now its cutting down to the wire and i feel like im over thinking and researching. How did you feel post surgery?
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well, immediately post surgery, I felt like crap. Surgery will do that to you. However, I don’t regret my decision. I was insecure in the beginning bc I’ve always wanted children and I intended to breastfeed if I could have biological children. The reason anyone would do a profylactic bilateral mastectomy is bc we worry about elevated risk of developing a second primary breast cancer in the other breast. And when we’re young, the chances of that are shockingly high over the course of our lifetim. To me, any decisions beyond life/death decisions are a luxury. I classified this as a long term life/death and peace of mind decision.
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thank you! feeling more reassured when I can relate to someone in similar shoes. How long ago were you diagnosed?
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