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Racy - I needed a lot of help ;-)
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Aly I played games past tense. I haven't played games at all for about a year........ mind you I stacked up posts when I did...... lol. I guess I just like to talk..... lol. So excited about your visit! Can't wait! Roll on October!
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Have I mentioned how much I like us? Some threads, specially contraversial ones, it feels like theres people out there judging us, looking for meanings behind our words, waiting to pounce or just not "getting" us. Here is like a safe harbour where we can "let it all hang out" so to speak.
Ive been so sorry to see people go from BCO recently who still needed the support. Theres been some with odd threads like Rena and Himalaya, and some ladies who I think could have been misunderstood like Bon and Chilli. No idea if some were trolls or just had difficulty with the language barrier or if there were hidden agenda's or what but it felt like they were hunted down in a way. So glad this thread doesnt and wont develop that sort of horribleness (is that a word lol).
Anyway just wanted to say how much I appreciate each and every person on this thread and even those who read but dont post (hope you will all introduce yourselves when you feel ready to do so). Racy talking about how many postings weve all made had me realise I only joined in January this year but feel like youve been good friends and wonderful sanity savers for a very very long time now. Cant wait to meet as many as possible here in Brissie soon.
Editted to add - And thus ends my 400th longwinded post
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Linda I second what you say.
It's great here. We literally speak the same language and can have fun having each other on. I made really good friend on one thread - and still chat to them - my chemo one - but others I stay away from especially when things get personal. Chrissy and I know all about toxic threads, don't we Chrissy.
I didn't post much in the beginning, just the one thread, I now visit several and one thats really silly most of the time which is fun but others I avoid.
Cool morning on this which means I am aching bother it. Hope to get some more ofDD's quilt done. My beautiful Barney has just come up and sat by my shoulder and gave me a kiss. He is a part Russian Blue who is 15 and is now sitting leaning against me. He seems to know when I am not right. We have another cat Gus who is a square cat, a beautiful ginger who thinks the neighbourhood is his plate.
Hope you all have a good day.
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Location, location, location Jenn !! That's good. I'm giggling at Linda - our inside woman !! I love it.
Champy: Congratulations on the pregnancy !!! Don't worry - worrying won't change anything - just try and enjoy your pregnancy . . . . If you've had ultrasounds and mammogram then try to relax and just keep an eye on it for changes. Otherwise I agree with Trish - get another opinion if that will set your mind at ease !
Chrissy and Alyson - I try to play those games but have the attention span of a goldfish !!
I've had an infection of unknown origin for the last few days so am on antibiotics. They've knocked me around a fair bit so I am enjoying some 'couch time'. My poor other half had to deal with the shearing yesterday (and thankfully all my heifers bar 4 have calves without needing assistance). I went to the shearing shed and tried to be helpful but know I wasn't !! I'm lucky he is naturally a hard worker :S
Have a good day everyone
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This is a wonderful thread isn't it?! Of course that's down to all of you lovely ladies - no-one is judgemental, and we "get" the sense of humour here. I sometime wonder what non Aussies and Kiwis think of some of the things we chat about - some of it must seem like a foreign language at times lol.
Jenn - you must be looking forward to moving into your new offices?
Aly - I have a lovely image of you sitting with your cat, they do know when we need a bit of extra loving care don't they. I have a dog called Gus! He's off to the vet today, he's a rough collie (like Lassie but a different colour - he's a tri boy - black, white and tan) he has pretty bad arthritis in his front left paw and even though he's been getting injections, it doesn't seem to be helping him, so DH is taking him back today to see if we can get him some stronger pain killers.
Kelpie I was listening to the ABC this morning - they were interviewing a farmer in Cooma who had paid $80,000 for a bull! Apparently he's a "beautiful" boy with all the characteristics that make him a wonderful stud. It had me giggling a bit as the poor rural reporter was trying to describe his "manhood" - she stammered a bit after exclaiming that he had quite a lot of umm.. er... manhood, then was trying to ask if the size was normal but after using the word manhood was at a loss as to how to go on. Quite funny. Hope you feel better soon - antibiotics can knock you around a fair bit.
Hope everyone has a great day!
Trish
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Trish i told my sister to read Rainbow bridge, so she came in and read it and she said, she sobbed all the way thru, she read all your comments and thought what a bunch of wondeful girls you talk to. the support you get is so uplifting for anybody who is having a bad time and good time.
she had a good laugh at one of the ladies saying about her hubby been in line after her dogs. she said, no wonder u like going in there to talk to you all. she loves the Ausy Master chef as they are so suportive to each other, the nz and english lot are cold, ausys hug each other and support each other and its missing in the master chef. so she was very impressed with you all and the love you showed me. hugs xxx
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You ladies are funny too. Humour is important in our situation.
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Welcome Champy so good you found us. Wonderful news about your pregnancy. As the others have said, keep an eye on it and get another opinion if you want.
I am finding this situation very difficult. I have finished active treatment and of course am getting the usual comments:
You look wonderful, wow hasn't your hair grown (of course DS rolling on the floor laughing yesterday because I was trying to brush it), you are so positive etc etc etc.
This is fine and I understand these but I am really having trouble with the variations on "you're all good now, it's over".
I know I should say yes, and I do if it's someone I'm not close to, but bl**dy hell I don't feel like it's all over. Anyone else have this problem? x
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Kylie - yes we've all been there. It will take some time to come to terms with what you've been through in the last nine months or so. You've only just finished treatment, I was told it takes just as long to get over treatment as the time you were in it. So if you had chemo, rads etc for six months it will take at least another six months for your body to recover. It takes your mind a bit longer I think. It's like post traumatic stress - you've been in a war for all that time, it takes time to get over it.
I struggled for a long time, I finished Herceptin in January this year, and expected to go back to how I was before straight away. Well that didn't happen lol. I also couldn't seem to get over worrying about it all happening again. That's normal too.
Your hair hasn't grown back to how it was yet, your body is disfigured, you aren't back to normal.You need to just go with the flow, try to relax and let nature work. As to people telling you how good you look, well all you can do is take it as a compliment - they mean well most of the time. No-one wants to say to you - bloody hell you look awful, in case that hurts your feelings. Venting with us and having a good cry when you need it will help.
Be assured though - you will get to a point where you start to think about other things more, and will realise one day that you've gone through the whole day without thinking about bc and what hell your life has been.
Sending you big (((((hugs)))) it's a long road - but we are here for you.
Trish
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Kylie....as Trisha said, we've all been there!
I remember while I was going through chemo, i would get lots of comments about 'how good I looked' while feeling like crap the whole time! Thus, everyone expected that I felt better than I did & feeling like I should have been coping better.
And then yes, once you finish treatment they all think you're back to your old self......well, I don't believe that ever happens!!
My onc told me it can take a year or 2 to feel 'normal' after treatment...
I was 16 month out from chemo when my mets were diagnosed & had only just started feeling like my 'old self'
Anyway, we just soldier on but it is wonderful to have somewhere to vent & know that every single lady on here totally understands:)
Scans on Tuesday for me........scanxiety well & truly set in!!!! Fingers crossed for no progression......
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Trisha, this is my boy.
He missd out on the real green eyes of a Russian Blue, and this is Gus who is a real character. Caught him here one night.
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Oh Aly - they are both such handsome boys
And I can't blame Gus - they do like to be in warm spots don't they!
Trishxoxo
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i went and had a blood test done for onc and they put the wrong birthdate down, well year, they had me being ten years older than i am, HOW RUDE i do feel it though lately. i am 51, not 61, i was born in 61 lol, oh well been a very stressfull month with different things going on. my hormones are going to be Chaotic, they said, my cells were quite angry last time they did a proper test, they doing the fish test, this month the cells will be beside themselves, the stress and s--t mainly caused by other people and then loosing our boy. hope next month better. anyway hope everybody ok.0
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I have had one of those days. RA playing up and feeling very grumpy so have amused myself with sorting some photos.
These are my babies
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Alyson, how do you put the photos on here on the discussion part, or thread.
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Firstly, welcome Champy - and congrats on the baby news :-)
Everyone has been very chatty these past few days! I am so busy at work and with family and study at home that I am struggling to keep up... Am now sitting at the airport waiting for a flight to Port Macquarie (work there tomorrow) and am trying to catch up.
Alyson - I hope your day improves!
Well, as for my family... My daughter's actual birthday yesterday and she ended up in tears on me. Says she is struggling with uni as she can't concentrate and doesn't feel like "herself" anymore. Definitely depressed but now we are trying to figure out how to deal with this. She is in her last semester at uni and I think the fear of change next year has overwhelmed her - not to mention the whole issue of "me" this year. I feel so bad for her.
If you are keeping up with my story on finding new family in the UK this past 2 weeks... I had my cousin phone the number given me for my half-sister's last known address the other night. I had realised from her nephews that my two half-sisters had never known I existed and thought it would be very awkward phoning out of the blue! Our Dad just disappeared out of their lives forever when he and his first wife divorced :-/
Turned out to be a good decision because my cousin spoke to my half-sister's husband as she was out (YES, he and she are alive and well) and he was not sure how his wife would react and whether she would want contact with me. I sent a little intro email to the address he gave my cousin the other night and did not get a reply until this morning from the husband who has said that they are going away until next week and his wife will likely reply when they get back. He said that my "appearance" has brought back many old memories for my half-sister that she needs to think through.
It will be sad if she decides she wants no relationship with our family, but understandable. I am happily in contact with my other half-sister's sons (she died many years ago I have learned) and they seem like lovely men (38 and 34yrs!).
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I second Trisha's and Karen's comments. Last night a friend of a friend who I haven't met, called me because she is starting chemo (FEC) on Friday. I spoke to her for about an hour and told her my experiences. She is a very private person and hasn't been open to discussing it with others, so it was good that she gave me a call. I pointed her to here and told her it IS a life saver and that she would be so welcome to join in for support and information. Trisha, she lives in Canberra.
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PS Karen, keeping everything crossed for you on Tuesday.... please keep us informed, but here's hoping for NED xxx
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Hi all! Just got back from Clare where I had my nails done and did a bit of shopping. I went into the Cheap Shop were I came across a heated bed for my poor old cat as I'm sick of her yelling at me for not lighting the fire early enough for her. She is almost twenty and needs all the warmth she can get....lol.
Welcome Champy! Congrats on your pregnancy and please don't go worrying yourself silly right now. It sounds like your docs are well aware of your condition and have done as much as they can to make sure you and bub are A-okay. Oh yes we sure do get what you are feeling.
Aly those little ones sure have grown! Wow! Love the golden red hair on the little fellow.....he was almost bald when I saw him. I really like your new avitar.
Awe Jenn it's so hard when our kids are having difficulties no matter what the cause. Life sure can look scarey when you are facing it and the path to take is not clear. Hope she feels more in control again soon.
I think we are a pretty good group and embody just what this forum is all about, support, friendship, and the sharing of knowledge on a range of subjects.
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You are all keeping me company at dinner tonight. We're having very nice fish together in this restaurant :-) The pitfall of business travel is dining alone...
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Have a nice glass of wine for me please Jenn. x
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Jenn fish sounds good but what's on the menu for dessert?......lol
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No dessert... Nice glass of New Zealand red though :-) The fish is jewfish. Hope you like it!
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Mmm sounds a whole lot nicer than frittata .....lol. NZ sounds good too.....enjoy!
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But I don't like fish!!! Oh well will just have to have two -yes TWO timtams lol
Kate, please feel free to give your friend my mobile number if she would like it.
Trish
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Thanks Trish. I'm not surprised that you offered as that's the sort of kind person you are. I'll give her a call in a week or so to see how she is going.
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Yes Trish - I heard about that bull. It's a poll hereford - we breed Angus cattle. Last week one bull (unfortunately not one of mine !!) sold at an auction for $110,000 !!!
Kylie: I'm still in the 'guts' of treatment but I hope you feel better soon :S
I bought one of those beds for one of my older dogs Chrissy, it was fantastic !! She much appreciated it :P They don't get over hot so they might not feel like they are working but she was a sook in her later years and rarely left the bed when it was cold !! Ironically she got breast cancer with mets so I had to say goodbye.
I have a twelve year old daughter Jenn who has always been a straight A student and never in trouble. Recently her school work has dropped and she is in trouble for being disruptive - all of this coincided with my losing my hair. I don't know how to deal with it as she has always been pretty close to the perfect child !! I've sheltered her a bit from how serious this situation is that we are all facing but I think now that I 'look' sick it's started to affect her . . . . I'm dreading parent/teacher interviews for the first time !!
Good luck on Tuesday Karen - I hope the results are swift and good !!
Love the photos Alyson !! I'm a dog person but have 3 and a half cats. Two don't have much of a personality and live in the hay shed but my favourite that lives at the house thinks she is a dog. She isn't afraid of any of the hounds and even rides on the back of the ute with them. The 'half a cat' was mine but I don't know where he lives 50% of the time - typical male: come over for a feed every now and then and leaves without saying thankyou !!
Heres to a SE and stress free weekend for everyone !!!
Amanda
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Morning everyone.
Kelpie, my son is also 12. He has also always been a fantastic student, but last week the school principal approached me and basically said he has gone off the rails. I had noticed he was all of a suddent being really difficult at home, whereas he has always been so easy going and well behaved; but hadn't realised it had spilled over to school. This seems to have co-incided with me finishing treatment, we are thinking that maybe he has been trying to be so brave and then all of a sudden it has gotten too much.
It has been really hard to know how much to tell the children about what is going on. Personally mine find all the cancer ad's very distressing and scary. I have tried to be really positive but losing my hair, throwing up for 5 months etc. etc. is pretty daunting to them.
Is your daughter still in primary Kelpie? A bit like Jenn's daughter finishing her course Dom is finishing primary next year and going into the unknown of highschool. I had been wondering if it is because everything over the last year has been a series of unknowns and life has been so topsy-turvy and now he is having to face another big change.
It is very cold this morning. A warm bed for the dog sounds like a great idea.
I agree with you Kate. A phone call from Trish when I thought the end of the world was coming was so great. x
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Hello all, I'm at home today, having a long weekend ... and it's snowing!!!! It is freezing lol
Trish
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