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  • kyliet
    kyliet Member Posts: 587
    edited August 2013

    Happy birthday Trish x

  • aussie12
    aussie12 Member Posts: 421
    edited August 2013

    Hi all

    Happy Birthday Trish

    Tammy there doesn't seem to be as many jobs around as there used to be, and lots are casual or part-time and I need fulltime. I feel so much better having started to look and applying for 4 jobs all ready. Good luck with your search Tammy. I also know how you feel Jenn, as my job and not my cancer gets me more upset and depressed.

    Chrissy great weather here today 25 max but is going to rain all week !!!

  • Trisha-Anne
    Trisha-Anne Member Posts: 1,661
    edited August 2013

    Here's the little Finn - to my complete amazement, he slept through the night lol

  • Trisha-Anne
    Trisha-Anne Member Posts: 1,661
    edited August 2013

    And another ...

  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 11,438
    edited August 2013

    Oh Trish......he is gorgeous! Those eyes and that kissable face........oh my! So glad he slept through the night for you......maybe because he is just that bit older. Get prepared for some fun and laughter as you watch him grow and mature.



    Love n hugs. Chrissy

  • Tammy_M43
    Tammy_M43 Member Posts: 565
    edited August 2013

    Trish, hope you had a wonderful birthday! Finn is absolutely beautiful.....

  • suzieq60
    suzieq60 Member Posts: 1,422
    edited August 2013

    Great speech by Tony Abbott today - his daughters are outstanding!!!

  • midnight1327
    midnight1327 Member Posts: 1,331
    edited August 2013

    Trish, just has a quick look in, Fin is beautiful. I love irish setters. love the colour. going very shortly to get the dressings done on hubbys wounds. hope you had a good birthday. is it the 24th or 23rd.  mine is few days after yours, 27th, dont know what we doing yet. Anyway hope everybody ok. i  will come in  now and again, i love you girls too much to stay away. i was having an exceptionly bad day the other day.  felt like the world was against us. but feeling better.

  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 11,438
    edited August 2013

    Oh Annette, it's just horrible when you feel like that. Hoping the dressing changes are getting a little easier for hubby as they in themselves can be very painful.



    You have so much going on right now that although we miss you we all understand that your attention is needed elsewhere. We are not going anywhere so don't worry, we will be right here when you need us.



    Love n hugs. Chrissy

  • midnight1327
    midnight1327 Member Posts: 1,331
    edited August 2013

    we have advertised for a couple of farm workers. have somebody going out tomorrow, Indian guy and looking at another young student to help to do the animals, feed them,  on the week ends etc, had a couple of good replies, they will do the work and hubby will just be there to direct them. maybe have 2 young guys, like for shearing etc sheep, rounding them up. maybe more beneficial than drivers, as we donot not know what will come out of other situation with, hubby as yet he sees the urologist on the 5th, they have put him on the urgent list for that problem, which will require another op. so its not over yet. thanks Chrissy.will keep you guys posted.

  • racy
    racy Member Posts: 976
    edited August 2013

    Ladies, watch Four Corners tonight.

  • Tammy_M43
    Tammy_M43 Member Posts: 565
    edited August 2013

    Annette, I hope things get sorted out for you and hubby as quickly as possible....



    Racy, thanks for the heads up....I will tune in....

  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 11,438
    edited August 2013

    Racy, what's on?

  • Tammy_M43
    Tammy_M43 Member Posts: 565
    edited August 2013

    Chrissy, it is about the increasing costs of anti- cancer drugs, who has to pay and who doesn't

  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 11,438
    edited August 2013

    Missed it. What was the upshot?

  • suzieq60
    suzieq60 Member Posts: 1,422
    edited August 2013

    We were watching it - too depressing

  • Tammy_M43
    Tammy_M43 Member Posts: 565
    edited August 2013

    It was very moving and very sad...I think Kerry summed it up well at the end with a comment along the lines that life is very precious but like everything else it is being reduced to $s....



    Of course, as a society we can't afford every treatment but how is it decided....there are no clear answers....



    I was particular moved by one oncologist who was brought to tears when reflecting on the reaction of the teenage son of a patient after he'd delivered bad news....I think he was struggling to know whether he had handled it well .....we are very lucky that some medical professionals care enough to go on this journey with us.....

  • Jennt28
    Jennt28 Member Posts: 1,095
    edited August 2013

    If you want to watch the Four Corners program you can at this link...



    http://www.abc.net.au/4corners/stories/2013/08/26/3831617.htm



    I didn't hear anything back about that job today :-/ Had the day off and spent most of it doing uni assignments, but managed to do a little shopping and took the dog for a walk :-)



    Jenn

  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 11,438
    edited August 2013

    Oh damn Jenn! That's a bit inconsiderate of them.........not quite sure what to make of their tardiness other than to think they are having a hard time making their minds up. Still hoping for good news tomorrow.



    There was a program I saw not so long ago along the same lines as the one on 4 Corners tonight. As a stage IV girl I prefer to not have to watch as I know I'm heading down that road......sigh......I don't avoid the reality but being confronted like that doesn't make things easier.



    Love n hugs. Chrissy

  • Tammy_M43
    Tammy_M43 Member Posts: 565
    edited August 2013

    Chrissy, it was confronting but also showcased a miraculous recovery.... It highlighted just how unpredictable this disease can be.... Developments are coming quickly so who knows what the future will hold.... ((((hugs))))

  • racy
    racy Member Posts: 976
    edited August 2013

    I found the Four Corners program to show very much the human side of cancer, for patients, families and doctors. It left me with the feeling that any treatment is worth the $ for the benefits that it gives, which was the theme of the program overall.



    Chrissy, I am sorry if my post upset you. The other theme was how new treatments are being discovered all the time.



    I know I hear a news article about a cancer breakthrough at least once a week. The frustration is how long it takes these breakthroughs to become standard treatments.



    I pray for a cure constantly.



  • Jennt28
    Jennt28 Member Posts: 1,095
    edited August 2013

    So I got a message today saying they apologise for the delay but something has come up and the decision process has been slowed down. Maybe someone who is part of the team is away?



    Anyway, still don't know if I have the job...



    Jenn

  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 11,438
    edited August 2013

    No probs Racy, I'm okay.



    Oh shit Jenn! Talk about a strung out affair! Maybe one of the panel has taken I'll or something..........anyway, I hope you get a positive answer soon.



    Got my cupboard in the kitchen sorted yesterday only to find that they didn't send the shelves!........grrrrrr!.....so now I have an empty cupboard in my dinning room that is taking up space I don't have to spare and its going to have to stay there until I have been to the city next week. So, the upshot is, my kitchen has stuff everywhere and there is no where to put it! Oh well, patience is a virtue so I'd best pull mine out of the closet.



    Have a good night all!



    Love n hugs. Chrissy

  • aussie12
    aussie12 Member Posts: 421
    edited August 2013

    Hi all

    I watched the 4 Corners show and found it to be very interesting and sad, especially when the son found out his Mum's cancer was terminal. It's so expensive for cancer treatment, I'm not suprised the Government doesn't want to pay for it ( they don't want to pay for anything that will benefit taxpayers anyway).

    Good Luck Jenn with your job, one I went for I didn't get, they were quick to let me know.

  • beccc81
    beccc81 Member Posts: 27
    edited August 2013

    Hi all, Happy belate Birthday Trish!

    I am doing ok, my return to work was uneventful and low key which was good. My kids are happier now especially my baby girl who turned 7 the other week, she missed cuddles which I can now do 'gently'.



    And after a long long day and a follow up ultrasound, I got signed off today with my surgeon, he said my scar and remainder of the breast look great (to me it looks hideous and deformed still) I dont need to go back for 8weeks!



    But I am feeling so down, DH and I are not getting along and not coping. At the breast clinic today I met some really lovely women and we were all talking about our 'journey' and I mentioned the benign tumour and couldnt say anything else, I lied and it was just some lumps. And listened and was supportive when one lady said she was a survivor... I just couldnt say it and instead went into full denial mode... I have never lied like that but everyone else really seemed like strong wonderful women who really were survivors... and I just felt like a trainwreck. maybe I just need time and a good nights sleep. I am so glad that I can come home and have you all here!







  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 11,438
    edited August 2013

    Becc I'm so sorry you feel this way but we have all been there and done that. Even though surgery is done and you are having treatment it's still a hard thing to face up and say out loud 'I have cancer, but I'm a survivor' and even harder for your hubby who has been an outsider looking in.



    Give yourself some time and if you are still having some troubles see if your treatment centre offers some counselling services and if they do then please, make use of them.



    Love n hugs. Chrissy

  • Tammy_M43
    Tammy_M43 Member Posts: 565
    edited August 2013

    Becc, as Chrissy has said you do need to give yourself some time and let yourself come to terms with this life changing thing that has happened.....



    After my surgery I had a couple of "teary days" when at home alone, I still have them from time to time now. I think people looking from the outside may see me as a "strong woman" but I have my "train wreck" days too...and I'm sure the lady's you met are the same.....we are all people with fears and doubts about the future.....



    Take care and use the support all the lovely ladies here provide (((hugs)))

  • Trisha-Anne
    Trisha-Anne Member Posts: 1,661
    edited August 2013

    Becc (((hugs)))) it takes time, you need to give yourself time and space to come to terms with everything.  You've been through a lot, and we all react differently.  We all know how you are feeling, and just know we are all behind you and sending you loving thoughts xoxox

    Jenn - that's pretty crappy, I hope you find out soon.  There's nothing worse than just hanging waiting to hear.  Still keeping everything crossed for you.

    Trish

    xoxo

  • beccc81
    beccc81 Member Posts: 27
    edited August 2013

    Wow I hard a really tough day yesterday, thank you so much!

    As they say, its always darker just before dawn

  • Kazzie61
    Kazzie61 Member Posts: 418
    edited August 2013

    Becc....(((hugs)))....be easy on yourself & hubby, you've both been through a lot.

    Maybe a counsellor would help with your feelings, I see one at the breast care clinic at the hospital (it's free) & it really has helped me understand a lot of things including how our loved ones may feel & react. In fact i have an appointment today & my GP put me on to her. It's a tough gig but you will get through it xxx💞💗💖



    Chrissy....I'm like you, I find those stories re terminal cancer patients way too confronting.....& choose not to watch. It scares the crap out of me. 😳

    Shame about your kitchen cupboard & shelves....as you say, pull out that patience...lol

    I don't have much either, I want everything done yesterday....:) 😍



    Jenn....still got everything crossed for your job but it must be driving you nuts having to wait so long for an answer....



    Annette....so hoping things calm down & get better for you & hubby soon....take of him & you (((hugs))) ❤💚💙💛



    I haven't been on here for a few days, my friend Kerry isn't doing too well, they've stopped treatment.....just one more radiation today for pain management & they've contacted hospice for her....I'm gutted!! I'm scared & sad for her, her lovely family, friends & I'm scared for me too (slightly selfish). I don't want to lose her & I know this is all ahead of me in the not too distant future....:( cancer is such CRAP & so unfair. 👎👎



    I've been so exhausted this week I can hardly stand up (so not like me) & my eyes are so tired they are watery!! I'm sleeping 10 & 11 hours a night & even fell asleep on the couch on Monday (again not like me) didn't wake up til Hubby got home from work!! It scares me when things out of the ordinary go on in my body.....don't know what's going on & if it's cancer related..... 😰👎



    On a happy note, I get to see my grand baby tomorrow...:) the ultrasound is in the morning & I'm very excited....must take tissues.....lol. The nursery looks fab & I have Curtain World coming tomorrow to pick out the curtains...:) 😜👍



    Anyway, hope all you lovely ladies have a good day.



    (((Hugs)))



    Karen xxx

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