Bonfire of the Goddesses

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  • cascader
    cascader Member Posts: 152
    edited May 2013

    I travelled to have my recon done and my sister was my caretaker this last time. A few days post surgery she got mad at me because I had a dizzy spell and had her pull off the side of the road so I could throw up. I guess I interferred with her spending the day at the beach. Sisters into the fire!

  • wren44
    wren44 Member Posts: 7,933
    edited May 2013

    If it's her car, I wouldn't have her pull over next time. She should have been glad you didn't just toss your cookies in her lap.

  • voraciousreader
    voraciousreader Member Posts: 3,696
    edited May 2013

    The DH's sister is burning now for as long as the Bonfire got started... The DH and I have been dealing with his chronic illness and all his other illnesses for the last 20 years... She doesn't have a clue how sick he gets, nor does she care to know. Last year, while he was recovering in the cardiac intensive care and was a mess, I made him call the piece of work and wish her a happy birthday. Weeks later he had no recollection of calling... and she was telling everyone how terrific he had been doing.... Mind you she hadn't even seen him. But remember,according to her, he was 24 hours post op major cardiac surgery and he was wishing her a happy birthday. Come on! How sick could he have been? She is the dumbest of the dumbest. Most selfish of the selfish. VR hasn't spoken a word to her in over 20 years and has no intentions of ever wasting her breath on her. The DH barely speaks to her as well. There's no cure for stupid! Why bother tryin'

  • voraciousreader
    voraciousreader Member Posts: 3,696
    edited May 2013

    And... As far feelin' hurt... You can only feel hurt if you let yourself feel hurt! Don't waste your energy on feeling hurt. Invest you emotion on feeling good!

  • PinkHeart
    PinkHeart Member Posts: 271
    edited May 2013

    Cascader,



    I'm so sorry, but glad? you made your way to this site. My evil twin wishes you had barfed on your sis.



    My sister has been the worst about support for my BC reconstruction nightmares and continues with mindset that I am having unnecessary surgeries and now poisoning my children.



    Unfortunately, my husband is now tied for 1st place with sister dearest and is now 100% non supportive of my remaining surgeries. Never called to see how I did in surgery. Surgeon left message on his voice mail.



    So sister, and husband and marriage -- into the fire.



    I think they just scorched the moon!

  • gonegirl
    gonegirl Member Posts: 1,022
    edited May 2013

    Remember the movie Breakfast Club? The line "Sounds like your dad and my dad should get together and go bowling." Let's send them all bowling.

  • 1openheart
    1openheart Member Posts: 250
    edited May 2013

    Can I throw my sister in too?  She never once picked up the phone and called to check on me.  If we talked, I called her....to let her know that I was having the BRCA testing done, not only for me, but for her and her daughter too.  I wish I had a sister that I was close to.  I am lucky that I have 3 wonderful friends that are like sisters to me.  Friends are the family we get to choose.

  • gonegirl
    gonegirl Member Posts: 1,022
    edited May 2013

    Folks, we have another bowler! Yes, god bless friends who are more like sisters.

  • PinkHeart
    PinkHeart Member Posts: 271
    edited May 2013

    Definitely God bless my friends who are like sisters. They are what get me through all this. And BCO, too! :)

  • gonegirl
    gonegirl Member Posts: 1,022
    edited May 2013

    I'm at oncologist now. I'm throwing all of this on the fire. My f*cking stage iv cancer, the permanent neuropathy, the ever present anxiety, now the blood clot, the depression. Screw all of this. Screw it.

  • veggy
    veggy Member Posts: 4,150
    edited May 2013

    Gritgirl - I feel for you. I dont have the blood clot but I have the neopathy and the depression and anxiety. I have had 8 months of abraxane. I'm tired most of the time. This is the second time I've had cancer. It stinks. I hate cancer. Today I see my oncologist. Yippee Skippee!

    BIG HUGS!

  • gonegirl
    gonegirl Member Posts: 1,022
    edited May 2013

    Veggy, I am so, so sorry. It's just so overwhelming at times.  I am obviously totally powerless in this situation. I take Herceptin and asked my doctor if we could do less frequent echocardiograms. Nope. Every 3 months.  I just want all of this to stop. There are points where I just think I can't go on.

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 7,545
    edited May 2013

    Yes, thank God for all the friends who are more like sisters.  My sister is so self centered it wants to make me throw up. 

    gritgirl & Veggy - I can't imagine what you are going through.  It must be very difficult at times.  I am here to let both of you know that I am here for anything you need.  Also, I want to send out big healing hugs to you both.

  • veggy
    veggy Member Posts: 4,150
    edited May 2013

    I will be dancing with NED (no evidence of disease) for atleast 3 months until I have my next scan. The pet scan was clean! My husband and I cried. My mom cried. We are so happy.

  • voraciousreader
    voraciousreader Member Posts: 3,696
    edited May 2013

    Happy dance for Veggy... Down by the fire!!! Woooh... Wooo!!!!!!!! Marshmallows are toastin' and there will be toasting too!!!!

  • veggy
    veggy Member Posts: 4,150
    edited May 2013

    In goes the chemo! And all the pills! I'm dancing around the fire! Come join me!

  • shellshine
    shellshine Member Posts: 930
    edited May 2013

    Veggy - my stomach has been in knots waiting for your report. I am soooooooooooo happy!!!!!!!!

  • 1openheart
    1openheart Member Posts: 250
    edited May 2013

    Great News, Veggy!! So happy for you and your family.  Enjoy the good!

  • veggy
    veggy Member Posts: 4,150
    edited May 2013

    Thank you! I am still flying high!

  • ptdreamers
    ptdreamers Member Posts: 639
    edited May 2013

    Great news Veggy.

  • sas-schatzi
    sas-schatzi Member Posts: 15,894
    edited May 2013

    With you around the fire veggy, CONGRATULATIOS, :)))) SASSY

  • chabba
    chabba Member Posts: 3,600
    edited May 2013

    Wonderful, Wonderful. Wonderful!!!!!

  • gonegirl
    gonegirl Member Posts: 1,022
    edited May 2013

    Veggy. Don't throw the pills away. They'll keep you in NED. :-). Fantastic news!

  • Leah_S
    Leah_S Member Posts: 1,929
    edited May 2013

    Happy Dance for Veggy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Leah

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 5,858
    edited May 2013

    Oh yeah VEGGY....doin the happy dance.....

    She must be sleeping now so let's have a bonefire just for her

    I ha e a fresh apple pie and chery pie...made from scratch..

    Eat,drink and dance to the music......

    Hggs everyone.xoxoxo grannydukes

  • veggy
    veggy Member Posts: 4,150
    edited May 2013

    Not sleeping. I was out playing games with some friends. I'm still flying high.

    The pills are for the side effects of the chemo. They not chemo pills. I am triple negative. I might go on xeloda (spelling?) if it returns. I don't to think about that right now. I never thought I would the words... chemo vacation in my wilest dreams. I prayed for the strength, patience and warped sense of humor to get me through.

    HUGS

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 5,858
    edited May 2013

    Keep flyin sista.

    I thought you knocked yourself from all the excitement and took a nap.

    Warped sense of humor....noooooo not you.hahahaha

    I ordered the masks...we gotta take a pic and post it on here.

    Can't wait to see you again...

    Ill be back real soon.

    You know I got work to do here.

    5 more min.honey...promise!!!!

    god is good.He answered all our prayers.

    Big huggg.you knocked me out today.

    Still itching..got a rash on my arm....your fault.ha.

    Xo princess purple kantalope.

    Good nite all.

  • wren44
    wren44 Member Posts: 7,933
    edited May 2013

    Veggy, That's GREAT news! Enjoy the dancing - and the pie. (((((HUGS)))))

  • veggy
    veggy Member Posts: 4,150
    edited May 2013

    Next time I will one of these...

  • mostlymom
    mostlymom Member Posts: 378
    edited May 2013

    Thanks for making my day so fantastic with your news Veggy!

    Martha