Bonfire of the Goddesses
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ducky, I too had some really stupid things said to meMy younger sister who had cervical cancer several years ago: "That is from all the physical abuse you did to your body!" I said Me? What are you talking about?
She said all the drugs you took (referring to anxiety meds and antidepressants) Even If it were true that I had not taken care of my body but abused it, that still is no way to respond to your sister! By the way, I didn't smoke, drink, drugs or burn myself out in the sun like she did! I wouldn't ever say something so cruel!
another sister: You are not Angelina Jolie! No need to be hasty! How do you even respond?
Still another sister: 'Really are you serious?" Yes I am.
The oldest never even mentioned it, She called a week after my surgery to tell me how busy she has been, and that I will be alright"!
Last but not least is the woman who taught them all....Our Mother (Mind you I lived in Florida the last eleven years and didn't have health insurance after my divorce because my ex husband did not provide it for me as was in our agreement) ((He is a pharmacist! he knew I had pre-existing conditions, he is spiteful.))
My mother said...." At least you are somewhere now you can get everything taken care of"
That has left me stunned!
From friends, there was the.....What stage is it?
What is the prognosis?
When do you start Chemo?
And of course you will have new perky boobs!
It is almost as if people want to morbidly see you look really bad!
Having said all of that I have had support and love from dear friends and my brother, and his family and my kids.
I thank God every day for the support I have gotten from BCO. You ladies are wonderful!
I don't usually us cuss words but found myself telling a few people to STFU!
Love Robin
P.S. I don't have any baby pics with me, they are all in storage in Florida.
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Robin
Yes we heard it all
If u can find a pic of U from the past
We will accept it.lol
It's just a fun game
Have U gone to the stfu thread yet
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yes I have. I will look for an old pic. I am following the STFU thread also!
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I also meant to ask what is that info about the 50 post? Not sure what you are talking about?
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Seriously.. There is No CURE for stupid !! No matter how many times you through the idiots into the fire or tell them to STFU , you can't stop them.!!
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send a message to the mods
Do u no how to do that?
I no U have to have 50
Either posts or pms...not sure
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FK - haven't had a chance to get to STFU thread yet
tomboy - I wasn't talking about you. Anyone on this thread is allowed to say sorry because we know it's sincere becasue we all been there
gmafoley - cute pic
duckby1 - you had me ROFLMAO.....thanks, I needed that
RAK1 - when you find out about the 50 PM's, let me know. I also want to say I know how it feels to have no support from your own blood relatives but I think I can top yours. Hold on to your seat. When I was going in for my BMX my mother told me I shouldn't bother anyone and I should take a cab to the hospital. Really, I'm going in for a 5 hour surgery and you want me to take a cab??? But she was also in huge denial and still is and thinks I chopped off my boobs for no reason. Wait it gets better. After 7 months when I was finally ready to go in for the TE exchange, she told me to postpone my surgery to take care of all her doctor visits becasue after waiting two years until a lump was the size of a grapefruit and her breast was all black she finally went to the doctor and was now diagnosed with Stave IV breast cancer. Wait, keep reading. When I was going in for my revision she told me I should drive myself to hospital so I can drop her off for chemo on way and then pick her up on way back from surgery. yes, this is all true. To this day she still thinks I chopped off my boobs for no reason. If anyone can top that, I would sure love to hear it So I'm throwing all that into the bonfire!!!!
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Are we posting the pics now on STFU,, or waiting until the party? I have one of me when I was about 5.
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Glennie.. We are Pm ing them to Slow.. and she is going to put them up.. It's a guessing game.. and we have to.guess who is who.when we were babies..
Mjh.. Oh my.!! You certainly have some horror stories there.!! Sorry to hear your Mum is stage 1V though
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lucy55 - thanks. But I do have a strong faith in God which is probably why I haven't gone totally crazy yet. I don't even know if they have those kind of odds in Vegas for mother and daughter to have BC at the same time although mine was really nothing compared to that. I was BRCA negative by the way.0 -
throwing in a head on / T-bone collision. cannot talk about it but tossing the broken stuff, pain n stress the best i can. like breast cancer, the sun is still shining n have to find a way to enjoy it n live each day to fullest regardless. getting a wheelchair to go to state park n to garden.
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Here is my STFU story.
Yesterday we had to bring our dog in to the vet. He was diagnosed with several tumors, but due to his age the vet suggested we leave them alone. We were talking about our other animals that we lost. Both of them with cancer tumors. I mentioned how after having operations on both of my animals, they didn't survive very long - their tumors grew right back with a lot more tumors. The vet said that sometimes happens once they are opened up. Kind of a weird statement considering he recommended that we have the surgeries on both animals. Then he proceeded to say, it's the same with people. Once you open them up it spreads stuff around. WTF??? I said, "Stop right there. I really don't want to hear that - I recently had surgery for cancer." He didn't really know what to say after that. I'm not one to get too irritated, but what a foolish thing to say.
I feel like sending him this.....
I've been pretty fortunate as far as my family members go.
Edited to add: Didn't see you up there Tomboy. Good to see you back!
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I was gonna say, mjh, you win with the STFU, and then i read about Slo's vet!!! O my God!!! What a jerk!
Okay, I think something weird is happening.. is this happening to anyone else? all my faves are going to the very first page.
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yes, Tomboy, that was happening to me too,, but I think it is fixed now. Or at least it is for me. It was doing it for about an hour now.
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Okay, I just did run into Slow over at the "post your tech glitches section." So, after visiting there and seeing that is was a problem, then, I just skipped to the last page, that I knew I had read here, and so when I came back, it didn't jump to the first page again. The mods are working on it, but if you tap all your faves, read the last page you were at, then it will keep your place again.
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I had a problem logging in but it seems to be fixed now. I had to reset my password a few times.
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Sleepy time for me. Sleep well Goddesses.
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Slow... Ugh.. Gosh.. I can't believe what an idiot your vet was to say that.. I'd love to get hold of him., and kick him where it hurts the most.. and I'm not talking about his shins.!!
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Slow - you must know by now that people and doctors sometimes don't think before they say something.. They are only focused on what THEY think.
Ok ladies I'm up off the stairs but still struggling - I went up to see the grandsons as I had an appt with my PS up their way. Going home tomorrow - Had Grandma day at little GS's preschool last friday - pictures coming later.
Saw my plastic surgeon Wednesday - he will be doing an "in office" revision in July or August - The open wound scar is very thin and keeps opening. He wants to pull it together and give it better skin to heal - He will also fix the dog ears. He also mentioned that he used to have a cone shaped device that he uses for lipo in office, but they don't use it anymore. He said he would figure out away to still do the lipo 'in office' so not to cost me more money. He still is suggesting I do a 3-D tat on my breast with no nipple or would be happy to try to make me a nipple. Told me to think about it - that I deserve to look nice. Anyway - I am concerned - it is the radiated side he wants to add the nipple to and with LE in the torso also - I just don't think it is worth the risk of cellulitis or another open wound. It did heal well from the reduction/reconstruction. At my age, I'm just not sure its necessary..
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GMA, so good to see you coming back into the light! Grandma day sounds like so much fun. I can't wait to see the pictures!
As far as the tats go, I think you can never go wrong when you follow your initial instincts. At least that's how it's been for me. I almost always get into trouble when I go against them. I don't know much about tats, but is this something you can decide to add at any time?
MJH, Sorry to hear your Mom is stage 4. You've sure had your fair share of troubles. I'm glad you have your faith to get you through the trying times. You also have all of us too.
Bluebird, I really like your attitude. That's all we can do - enjoy each day as much as we can, and throw all the bad stuff into the Bonfire. Collision sounds awful. Gentle hugs to you. Have you posted here before? I apologize if you have - I can never keep up. If not, welcome to the Bonfire!! If you have, just ignore me. I often feel like Drew Barrymore from the movie 50 First Dates. Difficult to remember from day to day!
Happy Friday to all. I'm so glad the weekend is almost here!! Love to all.
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bluebird...welcome back
Hello to all my sistas
Does anyone have to log in every time they come on here?
Tomboy...always nice to see U
Where is Ducky?
Wonder if she is still cookin.ha
As predicted it's snowing...gonna get about 4-6 inches
Enuf...of this white shit.
Bbl
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I have to change my password every time I log in.
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We made the shirt together: its a going to grandma's night shirt for him
Snack time
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He is a cutie pie GMA. Love the shirt.
Ducky is probably looking for her baby picture. haha
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Yes.. I have to log in every time.. and it's taking me 5 or 6 goes to be accepted in.
Gma.. Cute photos. 😃
bluebird ..Hi
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GMA - cute pics. I had my TE deflated to debride some dead skin and restitched to get better closure. Yes, it's a pain but it was necessary and now the skin looks great. You can hardly tell the two areas on each breast I had restitched.
FK - yes, I always have to log in.
Bluebird - sorry to hear of collision. how awful. mend well.
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Slow.. I don't actually change my password.. It says it's wrong, but I keep just retrying the same one over and over and eventually it accepts it.. I don't understand.. Gosh if I had to keep changing my password to get in I'd never remember the new one.!!
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Hi, I"m here......dinner was a success......got tired of hearing all the Thank you's and how much everyone appreciated it.......onl'y kidding.....the were all grateful, and it was good..
Well here is the first day of Spring in the Philly suburbs...
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I'm gonna ask the mods
About this log in thing
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I'm still having the same problem with after typing everything slows down, and it is like snail posting.........gets on my friggin nerves...........I'm going a helling typing , then look up and see i"m ten words ahead of what is showng on the screen....
Ok, there it goes again SOB......
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