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  • PoppyK
    PoppyK Member Posts: 1,275
    edited April 2015

    Lovely, Ducky! Thanks for sharing!

  • blondiex46
    blondiex46 Member Posts: 2,726
    edited April 2015

    Thanks ducky 4 sharing,  u r 1 lucky lady n ur family n sons are adorable 

  • m0mmyof3
    m0mmyof3 Member Posts: 9,753
    edited April 2015

    Very nice Ducky!

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited April 2015

    Mommy the big 40........good Lord your a toddler................LOL....much to young for this friggin disease..........hugs

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited April 2015

    I wanted to share this....yesterday was my youngest great-grandaughter's 1st birthday......now you all know Bobby first great grandson..........

    Well this is three of my great-grandnaughters seeing Bobby for the first time.....they look peaceful now, but 2 minutes before that there was a shoving match to see who could get closer.....I thought the look on their faces was so cute........Wow...a boy........image

  • Nomatterwhat
    Nomatterwhat Member Posts: 210
    edited April 2015

    You have such a beautiful and loving family -- and normal!!!!  You are so blessed. 

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited April 2015

    Nomatter.......

    LOL, we are anything but normal............haha

    We have our spats, moods, disgreements,ego trips............but we also have "Love", and that is what keeps me sane............(did I just say sane, well at least I didn't say normal)

    Each has their own family with its ups and downs, its good and bad days, and happy and sad times......we have not escaped heartache,............but when needed we are always there for each other...........

    I love them all........

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited April 2015

    Wonderful photos... all of them.. The little grand daughter's photos gazing at their new little cousin is priceless.. They look like three little mother - hens in the making !

  • Nomatterwhat
    Nomatterwhat Member Posts: 210
    edited April 2015

    Oh, Ducky you are SO normal!!!!   My family puts the "fun" back in dysfunctional.  After being estranged from my mother for over 15 years, she had a heart attack and when I went to see her, she wanted to know why I bothered.  I wondered the same thing at that moment. 

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited April 2015

    Nomatter..........makes you wonder doesn't it............I say peace at any price........but hurt feelings take over, and if it goes on too long, it can never be healed..............buy everyone has a story, right

  • m0mmyof3
    m0mmyof3 Member Posts: 9,753
    edited April 2015

    Nomatter, your family sounds like mine. My mom will nitpick about anyone who does not treat her as if she is the center of the universe and try to use me as the middle man to relay her messages to those she mad at, which is totally unfair, as the person she is mad at doesn't want me to be stuck in the middle. She does this all the time concerning my older brother and she did this when my older sister was alive. She's even done this in regards to my hubby. I've gotten to the point that one of these days she going to do this again and I'm going to blow my stack and tell her why some people don't want anything to do with her!

  • kathy7
    kathy7 Member Posts: 211
    edited April 2015


    Ducky,

    Your family is beautiful!  The best picture is the one with you and the babies - the one crying in the back is precious!  And all the boys look exactly the same height!  Or it was an optical illusion!

    You are truly blessed and for all of that family to live so close to celebrate is exceptional - as your arm!

    Most sincererley,

    kathy

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited April 2015

    Kath.........2 of my grandsons live in Chicago...another in St. Louis, Mo., but they flew home to be there with me.......the Chicago boys I took care of while their Mom worked, so we are very close...............my youngest daughter's 2 children the same thing, only years later.........from newborn to 15 years old........I so miss those days.....

    My grandaughter (Bobby's Mom, my newest G.Grandson) has asked me if I want to watch him 1 day a week for her when she goes back to work.............won't be till late June........shocked she trusts me.....LOL

  • kathy7
    kathy7 Member Posts: 211
    edited April 2015


    Everyone gave you good references!  Wow, that is incredible they all flew it, says a lot about the quality of the kids you raised.

    I think the "ducky" sound ring tone I heard Friday, was to prompt me to write you  - to coincidental that it was your birthday also.!!!!

     

  • blondiex46
    blondiex46 Member Posts: 2,726
    edited April 2015

    That is awesome ducky

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited April 2015

    Yes, I am so blessed..........just wish my husband would have been able to celebrate with me..........he would have been 82 this October........he only got to see 9 of the 18 grandchildren, but some don't even get that, so I guess I should be grateful......but it would have been nice...........he was a super grandather right up to the day he died.........image

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited April 2015

    Ducky.. Yes... It is a terrible shame.. What a handsome man... You two would of made a gorgeous couple !!


  • kathy7
    kathy7 Member Posts: 211
    edited April 2015

    He was handsome Ducky!  I can't imagine loosing my husband......it speaks to your character, how much love and fondness you still have for him!

  • kathy7
    kathy7 Member Posts: 211
    edited April 2015


    POCKET PARTY!!

    I guess I could use a few of you in my pocket. Have to go to the kind, compassionate doctor today to hear about the next step..  For some odd reason, he and I have not made a positive connection.

    Anyhow, give me stuff for my pockets,  although I don't think I should have anything sharp at hand today!!

     

     

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited April 2015

    Kathy.. In your pocket for today.. It is hard when you don't feel comfortable with your doctor.. Hope all goes well for you.!

  • m0mmyof3
    m0mmyof3 Member Posts: 9,753
    edited April 2015

    Ducky,

    your husband was very handsome.

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited April 2015

    Yes he was........and that picture is from the year before he died at 57.........

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited April 2015

    For Kathy

    image

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited May 2015

    Hi.. So quiet here.. Where are you all ?? Come back.. I'm lonely.!!


  • m0mmyof3
    m0mmyof3 Member Posts: 9,753
    edited May 2015

    I'm here, just getting coffee'd up for the day


     

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited May 2015

    HERE...............

  • PoppyK
    PoppyK Member Posts: 1,275
    edited May 2015

    Hi Everyone, Don't know where it came from or why.... but today I'm weepy and nearly had a panic attack. Haven't had a panic attack since shortly after I was diagnosed. The only thing I can think of is that it's all just too much, for too long. Last night I told my DH that it has been so long since our family has been happy, it just feels awful.

    Could be this crappy menopause cancer has left me with. My estrogen levels went from pre-menopausal to so low that even men have higher levels than I do. Hot flashes, fat layering everywhere on my body, not sleeping, moving around like a 100 yr old person.

    ok, rant over. Into the fire with this crap. But stupid people better stay out of my way!

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited May 2015

    Poppy......can completely relate.............all the above and a few more.

    I feel the "family issues", only compound what you are already going through......i have the same thing going on with my kids, and they are all older, and should know better......but shit happens, like "they get married, have kids, and their Egos take over their lives"..........

    Then you get the great new......"you have BC".......everyone rallies..............then shock is over.....biopsy done.......plans made.....surgery done......treatments over..............now your on the "devil pill".........Estrogen is shot.........everything goes down hill............but, and the big but.......

    Your family thinks.........OK, she's gonna be fine........so you don't complain (no one wants to hear that), so you keep it inside.................and eventually it builds, and builds, and you think to yourself.........

    I AM NOT ALRIGHT.........this outside cover you see is hiding so many things I am feeling, but can't talk about because I am suppose to be ok, and you all really belive it, but have no idea............

    So come here, vent, cause we are all in the same boat........trying to go day to day........muddling along, hoping for one painfree day, ..........

    I hate to tell you Poppy.......your normal...........hugs.......we care...........

  • kathy7
    kathy7 Member Posts: 211
    edited May 2015


    Poppy, Ducky, et al.

    I have not had panick attacks....but postal,.....yes.  When I leave the employee entrance of my public building there are always smokers.  And lately you when you first walk outside you get this wonderful rush of sweet honeysuckle.  Well, yesterday walked outside after many hours of depressing dark inside to a cloud of cigarette smoke.  And ususally, just walk by.  Yesterday, I said "you can't smoke here you need to be 50 feet out" - and some person (I hate to say this she looked like me in the middle of chemo - but it is from smoking)

    said "we only have to be 20 feet" out and I said read the sign....." it is 50 feet:

    I walked a few more steps down  and turned around and said

    Well, I just got done with chemo and I would really like to walk out into fresh air, not smoke.

    I think they got really quiet,

    I don't really know as I made a hasty exit.......don't know as I made my hasty exit.

    So anyhow, I still have to work in this building and wish I had better self control , because I will cros paths with these women, who are probably totally stressed about something, thus smoking, and I pray God will give me more compassion!!!

    So I am working at forgiving myself -

    I forgive myself and I am throwing my bad thoughts into the fire!

    And shit, I read the sign later......it is 50 feet, so I am not even righteous!

  • kathy7
    kathy7 Member Posts: 211
    edited May 2015


    Ducky,

    You can always talk and say anything here..... you don't need to hide!

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