Bonfire of the Goddesses

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  • RAK1
    RAK1 Member Posts: 97
    edited May 2015

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    Happy Mother's Day....... To all of you beautiful women!

    Enjoy your weekend!

    Love robin

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited May 2015

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  • m0mmyof3
    m0mmyof3 Member Posts: 9,753
    edited May 2015

    Waiting to see what my "kids" give me for Mother's Day!


     

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited May 2015

    Ducky.. Where are you.???

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited May 2015

    I'm here Lucy................Mother's Day was nice.........I did nothing was home all day by myself, but my youngest daughter came after Mass with her hus band and the kids....they did not stay becaue they can't leave Sella alone for too along in case she has seizures.....but it was nice seeing them even though they only live up the road..........

    2 of my sons came...........one who I rarely see......and the other who is the one who renovated my entire house which is beautfiul..........

    I heard from my other 2 daughters.....one who did something to her "groin" carrying a vey havy box, and can barely waslkl.........told her "get to the dr."...

    My other daughter is Bobby's grandmother our new baby, so she went to brunch with her daugher, SIL, his Mom and of course Bobby, so I did not see her, but got 2 calls.......Phil my grnadson relapsed, so she is trying to get him back into rehab...........so sa.....she is his aunt, not his mother.........

    Now the other son who came said to me in a general conversation......I have to go to Jefferson Hospital on Tuesday..........I said "what".........for what...........He said "I have Melanoma"..............they have already biopsied the mole, and the path came back, and it is Melanom in-situ.............they will cut deeper into it on Tuesday, and we are hoping for good margins, and that's it......so worried...........

    Other then that it was a good day

  • kathy7
    kathy7 Member Posts: 211
    edited May 2015


    Ducky,

    I pray your son receives the best results! 

    Take care,

    kathy

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited May 2015

    Thanks Kath

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited May 2015

    Ducky.. Thinking of you and your son.. and hoping all goes well !!

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited May 2015

    thanks

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited May 2015

    Big prayers needed for Phil ladies............he is leaving at 1pm today from Philly International to be flown to Ft. Lauderdale, Fl. for Rehab at a place called the Recovery Place.........it is a Dual Diagnostic Rehab, which I found for him..........he refused at first becaue he was "high" when we spoke, but I finally said "Phil, you have 2 choices............the first is continue on the path your going but it will be without me.({which of course I did not mean), or you go to Rehab again and try to get your life back.he finally agreed.

    The are paying his air air, and picking him up at the airport when he gets there.......he has 3 blackout days, and then things return to normal...........it will be for 30 days to begin with and if necessary he will be staying longer.........

    I am just thankful to God he agreed, now all I have to do is hope and pray he complies since he has all morning to change his mind which he can do .........a Limo is picking him up at his place in Lancaster and taking him to the airport...........I just hope he is clear headed enough to make it through security.

    I am thinking if they think "this kid is not right, he is on something" they may pull him aside and not let him on the plane............remember he is over an hour away from me so I can't see what he looks like..........he was in a 1/2s way house after doing Rehab about 2 months ago.......this time I found A Dual Diagnostic facility which will reat him "mentally" and also fr the addiction........all I can do is pray............

    T;hen at 10 his Dad is having surgery for Melanoma........

  • kathy7
    kathy7 Member Posts: 211
    edited May 2015


    Ducky,

    that sounds like the right place.  I work with a lot of clients and their use of substances, is largely due to untreated mental health issues.  It does not matter how sober one gets for however long - without treating the mental health issues, it is always a present challenge.

    Great choice.  I will pray during this day for his safe arrival and that God's hand be on him!

    Kathy

  • PoppyK
    PoppyK Member Posts: 1,275
    edited May 2015

    Oh, Ducky! Praying for your family. The treatment facility sounds wonderful. He will get the support and help he needs. I hope he works the program!

    I had my first "routine" mammogram since my dx a year ago. Crap, I didn't pass! It's more along the lines of an incomplete. The doc saw something she didn't like and ordered an ultrasound of my non-cancer breast. I was fearless prior to my diagnosis.... but not anymore. That is one thing cancer did to me.

  • kathy7
    kathy7 Member Posts: 211
    edited May 2015


    Poppy K

    You will persevere -  Your mind is stronger than anything - even cancer.....

    I am in your pocket...

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited May 2015

    My saying and the words I lived by from the beginning to the end and till today.I have cancer ....... it does not have me.I hope it is always that way........

    I gotta believe.........


  • Nomatterwhat
    Nomatterwhat Member Posts: 210
    edited May 2015

    Poppy, I'll be thinking good thoughts for you.  You beat this once, you can beat it again!!! 

    Ducky, I am glad I am not the only one who lives by "I had cancer and will now live my life as I choose".  I told that to my Onco's office the other day when they were pushing the survivorship appointment crap to me again.  The gal did not appreciate that at all and told me I had to talk to my doctor if I didn't want to do the survivorship class.  The fight is on.....

    The news is running the wreckage of the train in PA.  How horrible!!!!!  I hope your family is safe.  How is FK?  I haven't heard from her for awhile. 

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited May 2015

    Dicky.. Sending up turbo prayers for you son and grandson.. Sorry you have so many worries going on at the moment.

    Poppy.. Sending prayers for your ultrasound to show good results.. When do you have the test.. Will definitely be in your pocket..(( Hugs))

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited May 2015

    oops Ducky.. Sorry about calling you Dicky in my last post. 😃

  • joan811
    joan811 Member Posts: 1,981
    edited May 2015


    Nomatterwhat, I also saw the train crash on the late news.  I have taken that train from DC to NY and it is so hard to believe this could happen.  I think we have the most archaic trains in the modern world.

    Poppy, I am imagining that this ambiguous mammo is unnerving for you.  It has not happened to me since my dx in 2011.  I'd like to say do not worry until you have something to worry about; but I know better.  We cannot help it.  Just take one day at a time.  And don't forget to wear the big pockets.

    Ducky, so much going on for you.  It sounds like the old soap operas...the doorbell would continuously ring and each person brought a new set of issues to the story line.  You are no exception. 
    I hope you will hear that Phil arrived for his rehab as planned.  He is fortunate to have your support and unconditional love.  I agree...it is not enough to treat the symptoms...it is time to work through the causes.

    The melanoma dx is definitely a scary thing to hear.  If it is in situ, that is good news.  I hope that clear margins are found at a shallow depth.  We just never know from day to day what we will be facing.

    Tomorrow the colder air will be back....a good day to meet by the bonfire.

  • joan811
    joan811 Member Posts: 1,981
    edited May 2015

    Lucy, was that a typo or a brain skip?  I am thinking, there are worse things to be called Loopy


     

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited May 2015

    To all my good friend on here......your love nad compassion sure does steady the mind of someone.

    First off, thnanks for the laugh Lucy........I have been called worse.......

    The Ipad is acting up so not sure why it is doing what its doing, but bare with me.......I am not bolding this stuff...the Ipad today has a mind of its own......

    My son had his surgery......the hole in his leg is huge.........I could show you , but I won't gross you out....they told him margins for melanoma is normally anywhre from 2 to 5 cm around the turmor........she told him she was doing 7...and she got clear margins.......she cut dow to the muscle but said it was more across then deep which was good......it is all going to Pathology, and we will have an answer by Friday as to stage if it goes deeper then in-situ.....

    • Now his son Phil......arrangements were made for him to go to the Recovery House in Ft. Lauderdale. ad I already told you......the facility paid for his ticket, and it was at the desk at the airport.........my son paid for a Limo to pick him up at his apt. in Lancaster.....time of pickup was 1pm.....at 1pm he told my daughter that he was not home, and was not going to Fl.. or rehab........the Limo driver arrived and called my daughter to find out where he was........he gave my daughter a very hard time, and said "I can handle this myself".........finally after 3 trys the Limo driver got him, and we heard he was in the car.............
    • Before I get into more points, he arrived in Ft. Lauderdale around 8pm and was to be picked up by the Rehab facility at the airport..........he had calmed down and another of my sons text him and he answered...........
    • I had sent him a messasge telling him good luck, and my prayer is tha this is his final trip to a Rehab......reminded him that no one can do this for him, that he has to do it for himself, but he has a family who loves him and will have his back............
    • Told I always belived in him no matter how many times he fell.......I said as long as you get back up............I will be here for you, but you have to want this too.................I didnt hear from him, and was a little upset, but though......its ok..................about 1 hour after sending him the text I got a message back that said "thanks Nan",,,,I told him I loved him and always will......and he sent back "love you more"..........
    • So today is a better day........filled with hope...........God is good................
  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited May 2015

    Ducky.. Thats great news .. So glad your grandson has decided to go to the rehab.. and YOU are the best grand-ma EVER.!! Sending prayers for your grandson , and for your son's pathology results.. It's great the doctor got such wide margins.!

    Joan.. HaHa... I' hope it was a typo.. But my memory is shattered these days... So I cant be sure. 😃



  • PoppyK
    PoppyK Member Posts: 1,275
    edited May 2015

    Ducky, That is fantastic news. Getting them there is half of the battle. Knowing that he has family who love and support him will be a source of strength as he works the program.

    Thanks, Joan. I'm trying to just push my mammo results out of my mind. Can't do anything about it until I get my ultrasound, so I'm not going to let these concerns ruin today.

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited May 2015

    Well I found out after writing the last post that Phil did not get on his 5:45 flight to Ft. Lauderdale.........we have no idea what happened, but we knew he was high, and I told my daughter (his aunt).......if he was high and security at the airport picked up on it, they might not let him board the plane....I am thinking that is what happened.

    So when my son was tlaking to him at 8pm he was still in Phila......but no one asked where he was we just assumed he arrieved in Fl..............sooooooooo.............he was finally boarding the plane at 8:45 pm......which was a few hours after he was scheduled................now maybe he wandered around the airport, and miss the flight even though he was there..........

    But this kid knows how to fly......this was not his first "rodeo"......LOL............not sure we will everyfind out but the Rehab was allowed to get him on the last flight out, and now I know for sure he is there..............we talked to the Rehab people today............Phew...............thanks so much for your prayers.......you ladies are wonderful......that is why I will never leave here.............

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited May 2015

    Ducky.. Gosh.. Glad you only realised all the drama after you knew Phil had arrived safely.. It would of been very scarey wondering where he was.!!!

    Poppy.. Thinking of you.. do you know when your ultrasound is yet.?

  • blondiex46
    blondiex46 Member Posts: 2,726
    edited May 2015

    unfortunately addicts are some of the best liars out there and manipulate they tell you what you wanted here especially if they're using he's not ready to go and you can't make somebody get clean if they don't want to any obviously doesn't want to and he will they usually go back to rehab multiple times until they are really ready hands it's very unfortunate as a family has to go through that she knows you just pray for the bath and hope that he doesn't overdose or somehow get in trouble with the wrong people the others whatever he's probably a really nice guy and a really good kid well you can ask first and it's just a shame. The day you love him and I know your family loves him too so good luck and I went to know there's anything anybody can do

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited May 2015

    Great liar, great schmoozer, but he asked to go this time......but he did the last time too..

    I say find the why and you will cure the addiction...........I hope they find the why........

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited May 2015

    Ducky.. So hoping they find the "why " for Phil.. Any news on your son?

  • PoppyK
    PoppyK Member Posts: 1,275
    edited May 2015

    Ducky, So much going on with your family. My middle son had a huge wound on his leg from a bike accident. He had no skin (removed down to the muscle) on an area about 7X5X3. He healed without the need of a skin graft. His wound was on his knee, so he had to keep moving it to ensure mobility. Hope your son's wound heals as well as mine did... and they got it all, of course.

    The med center is waiting for my insurance to approve the ultrasound before they will schedule. Between chemopause, Femera and this BS, I'm a very cranky person right now.

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited May 2015

    Crankiness understood and accepted.........hugs.

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited May 2015

    Are lots of people missing from here... or am I just imagining it.?