Bonfire of the Goddesses
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((Linda)) I have some lovely applewood here by the sweet fire, let's toss some on, mmm nice scent
VR, yay for matching shoes, that means your foot's better
Jo, hope you get that dang drain out Weds
SAS, thinking of you and still praying mightily
Love and ((hugs)) to all
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Thanks everyone! Started today still doing badly and finally realized it was just plain old pain. Took a pain pill and a nap and am feeling better. Why am I so stubborn about taking meds that might actualy help my quality of life?
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Linda- I too need some quiet time. Will sit with you all.
Then we'll do some fireworks and dance!
Know the bite was not a mosquito. I didn't see the spider, I was asleep, but bite looked like spider, two pronged look, not too hot or painful but here for certain. I used tea tree oil on it then rescue remedy spray. Lump went down immediately. It was a small spider or not much venom because no illness or whatever right away but that day I had a lot of swelling under left armpit, other side where everything seems to go for me, all better now.
I am hoping it had the cure, you know, wouldn't that be something. We don't kill spiders no matter waht, we don;t kill anything. I catch them and take them to a special place outside where they will flourish.
Used to be deathly afeared of spiders, would freak and dance and hide, but now I catch the biggest ones too and take them outside.
But the boob? Really....
Onto the fire, OWB Bill for not putting out his OWB on time and smouldering up the neighborhood and making me sick while I had to work to get ready for the barn sale. AND IDEM again for not fining him and allowing this and acting like he was just a poor old man who had to let his OWB burn out and now he would be cold at night. And IDEM for not getting it that I am dealing with cancer and I would like to get old too. Thank GOD we moved.
BarbieCorn - I canna laugh, I canna, dear one, because that did not happen to me... but I have to say to you THAT IS THE SPIRIT - Tell it like it is. Love you.
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THE HUGE SPIDER STORY
You want the willies, read this.
Once when we lived in cabin on woods I was heading to bathroom when on floor in dimly lit hall on white tile there stood a massive wolf spider. It looked like this
LOL, no I won't do that to you w a pic here bcz if you are afraid of spiders then this one will do you in, but can go to this link to see it
Edited to fix link.... http://bugguide.net/images/cache/NZILAZ7L6Z6HOH4HAH8H1H8HTHLL2ZSLGZQL4ZIHEZLLEZQL4Z0L4ZRLUZ5L1Z7LJH7LJH2HHRILBZ7LAZ2HFH9H.jpg
anyway......... wolf spider stood there quiet so I would not see it. But I did.
I yelled and Hubby came running and seeing how huge it was he was going to cream it his huge sneaker he grabbed off the floor. But that was too gross and would do me in so I yelled no - I will get it.
Taking a chance because it could choose to run across hall and into basement or into my bedroom. But it stayed still for some reason.
Ladies and men, I swear to heavens above that thing was as wide across as a gallon bucket of Schwan's ice cream. I covered it with the bucket and its legs were nearly touching the sides.
Then I slid a manila folder under the bucket then a book beneath that for security and picked up the pile annd carried to the south deck. I was going to go down stairs into yard and leave by a bush at the woods where it would flourish and promise not to come back into the house ever never again.
But as I stood on deck and Hubby stood behind me, he said "Just throw it."
And so I did.
As a gust of wide whipped up and blew that wolf spider back at my head.
Hubby is always doing stuff like that. Hubby is a very very bad man.
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Lynda--basically we are against drugs that will alter us, intrinsically, I believe we don't trust them, opinion only --no science. Now is it 5 O'Clock somewhere? ( thought that fit well here lol's).
Enjoying the sweet fire with you all, the friendship, the smells, the food. HMMMMMMM. So glad we kept the sweet fire here versus a new thread. We "get it so"......
jO CAN'T WAIT UNTIL YOUR DAMN DRAIN IS OUT.
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO ALL---L&H&P's sheila
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SAS - Yes, we do "get it" and glad another thread was not started. This sweet fire of ours is so magical and healing.
I will also be glad when the damn drain is out. It keeps me cranky these days.
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Just here to throw breast cancer in the bonfire yet again. Keep throwing it in but it just keeps coming back :-(
Over the past 3 years the mother's of three of my 20 yr old daughter's good friends have been diagnosed with BC. All in their 40's from our suburb and all diagnosed at lower grades. Two progressed and died last year and today my daughter's best friend's mother died too :-/ All went through the hell of chemo, rads etc like I am doing and still progressed and died. How the hell am I supposed to NOT think "I'm next" ?????
Stoke that fire higher...
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Jenn, That certainly does make a scary situation most terrifying! Throw the fear on the fire and let it burn. Remember that the concentration of deaths you have seen around you is not a normal concentration and is not a statistical sample.
On these topics you find women who have survived for years and are a real inspiration. Some of them stick around because of the friends they have made here, others because of ongoing challenges but all of them provide help from their experiences. Think of them rather than those who die too soon.
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It will be a rainy day here tomorrow and I sure could use this fire as I finish up my classes and grades.
Jo, am hoping you will soon be drain-free and healing once again.
Had my grandson's college graduation Saturday -- last of 6 for me. (He has lived in my home since he was 6 weeks and we raised him. So, with that, I throw in the fire the last tuition bill ... and all the stupid comments he's had to endure over the years because he lived with his grandparents... we definitely won this victory. His mom and dad were at graduation and all went well.
One more day of classes....then grades....then finish my book....then a wonderful week's vacation! SFO here I come.
Lots of fire-warmed hugs tonight.Joan
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Joan congrats on getting the last one through college. Putting six through college thats HUGE and an inspiration. Have fun on vacation, is SFO a destination?(SanFrancisco) or and abbreviation for something I don't have a clue about? What do you teach?
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sas-schatzi... FL Joined: May 2009 Posts: 4,310 Post a reply
9 minutes ago sas-schatzi wrote:
New Body Part Malfunction: musical ear syndrome--auditory hallucination. Risk factors hard of hearing, tinnitus, depressed, lives in quiet environment, can be induced by drugs(no list available). Tinnitus since 1998. Roaring at first then after progressively getting softer over a year(1999) settled into evening crickets. Some times softer than other times. Definitely prefer the crickets to roar.
Tinnitus changed after surgery. Figured it would settle down in time.
Today around 8 am. started hearing music while sitting on the deck. Thought it kind of rude to be playing music that early in the morning. Go inside musics still playing--Duh realize it's in my head. Throw key words musical tinnitus in the computer. I'm a classic case. So, I have crickets on the right, and swing jazz--big band era on the left. Why couldn't it be some beautiful classical piece. May be I can will a station change.
(A no sleep night-----oh yeah that's a risk factor)
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Oh Jenn...that is scary...let's throw all the scary thoughts we have into that fire....let it burn!!!! Burn the fear that we need to keep in the fire!!!!!! Otherwise, our lives will only be fearful. No one knows what will happen tomorrow to any of us...so I guess we just have to move forward with a positive attitude to have a decent life with this horrible disease...so sorry to hear about your friends!!!!! (((hugs)))
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Jenn so sorry, I agree with Chabba, your circumstance is not the usual, but you could contact the county Health Department for reassurance.
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VR, I wrote this for another member and thought of you too:once cleared by ortho to do physical therapy on broken ankle. Can start with other foot, it will make the whole body feel so good.
my twin(2) and brother(4) and I(2) had polio in 1952, we had physical therapy for 4 years. In polio the tendons get tight. The stretching exercises are the best. it'd be nice if you had someone do them with you. The helper actually can make a stronger/ more extended stretch than you can by yourself. Must do full body stretch minimum once a day. Can do mini stretches a couple more times a day. Also, ask your physical therapist for those rubber stretch things that you can put on the arch and pull with your hands. Remember to work the whole leg , butt and back. Add the other leg when allowed. Foot massage before working foot to loosen things up. Moist Deep heat after will help keep them from tightening up after to quick after. How to: Warm damp towel with heating pad over top--not hot, about 50-75% on the dial. If you go to physical therapy ask for the warm moist packs all over---they will have to get orders likey---you will feel immenesly wonderful. Why all over. Well just working the foot is going to fatigue the other muscles, so, you want to keep them happy---trust me. One time of the packs all over you'll agree-cautionary avoid foobs-
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Sheila....looks like you're back to yourself! Yipppeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm almost back to myself to! I am massaging my foot. The orthopedist had also told me to massage my foot. I'm still elevating and stretching my foot as well. Thank goodness I have a closet full of my orthopedic shoes! The orthopedist was impressed with my array of shoes that I brought with me to my last appointment. My next appointment is in two weeks. I'm really hoping that my foot is much, much better by then so I could resume my regular walks.
Thanks for thinking of me! Wishing you well too! Come to New York and I will take you shoe shopping and sight seeing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Folks any one wanting to read about Musical Ear here's the link to the site that I felt gave the best info. The way it reads this is the person that coined the phrase Musical Ear Syndrome versus auditory hallucination. I'm going to C&P it to Fuzzy RR and BG's too.
http://www.hearinglosshelp.com/articles/mes.htm
Vr thankssssss. ---so happy things are moving along for you too. I do hope to start some traveling, but time will tell.
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VR-----thanks for all the messages you sent me.I appreciate it.
I heard you say COME TO NY RIGHT????
Well we still have to do the reunion over again and now that your foot is doin betta....perhaps we can start to plan something before it gets too hot....
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Granny... I schlepped myself around the city on Mother's Day! I enjoyed a trip to The Museum of the City of New York. The weather, as you probably know was beautiful. The city was in such a festive mood. People smiled at one another and shared Mother's Day good wishes. Fathers were out early in Cental Park, pushing weary eyed toddlers in their strollers. Could the children have been wondering what they were doing out so early? Could the fathers have promised to let the moms sleep in on Mother's Day? It was a joy to watch! Last Sunday, the DH dragged me into the city to see a Broadway show. I had just gotten my boot off and she was ready to rumble. The show was great, as was spending time with her. We visited our favorite orthopedic shoe store as well. But honestly... Do you know what it's like TRYING to walk through Times Square on a beautiful Sunday after the shows finish??? The DD was watching every step that I was taking! I was petrified that someone would step on my foot! Nonetheless, I had a ball despite being in agony for the next two days!
I am up for visiting the city now. PM me if you or anyone else would like to visit the city before the city gets real hot and stinky!0 -
SAS - thanks for the good thoughts (re: graduation)....SFO = San Francisco....I teach geology....am sitting in front of a huge pile of papers that WILL get done tonight...soon into the fire with them.
Speaking of the fire....
This has been one heck of a challenging year for me at work....I never got set up for my fall classes due to surgery 6 days before I started back to work; then never got set for spring semester 'cause rads went thru January followed by heart cath 4 days before semester started; subbed for best friend who had hip surgery giving me 14 hours days; subbed for colleague who had tragic death in family last 3 weeks of semester; I also ran my annual student photo contest....my office looks like a battleground....and some stuff didn't get done.
So, today when a colleague said I always seem to be stressed or running around or I take on too much and say yes too much, I asked what she saw in me that made her say that. Another colleague was there and agreed with her. There was no compliment; there was no concern for me; just a comment. I told them I had dealt with cancer all year and chose to continue working through it all because I choose not to be sick.
INTO the FIRE with stupid unkind uncalled for unhelpful comments from people I must learn to not care about.
Thank for letting me vent. (sorry so long)
Joan811
PS - I have never heard of music in the ears. It must be very difficult and I hope there is a way to divert this.0 -
Joan, stupid stupid people---into the fire. congratulations again on being not just a good teacher , but a good human , to step up when others are in need, it seems your colleagues have a comfort zone that doesn't include others.
The music, I've heard of it, but never paid much attention, but figured the web can find anything if you put the right words in. I put a link above. It's very informative. Now it gets even stranger. I have no tinnitus in the right ear for the last + _ hour and about 20% in left ear. Have no idea why it's changing, so frequently , but to have silence is very tough to describe to those that have never experienced the noise of tinnitus. If I new why it's changing I would reproduce it. But there have been a handful of silent times in 14 years. So, the likelihood of return is huge, but this is very nice.My ENT doc tells all his newly dx'd tinnitus patients that it's not his fault, there is nothing he can do to treat it and do not kill him for this. When he told me this 14 years ago I said dr J. why would you say something so strange. He related that an ENT doc was killed by one of his patients b/c the tinnitus was driving him MAD and he blamed his doc for not fixing it. Read the link. you will see that it comes in all forms of noise. Like DR J described it to me is that in the situation of hearing loss the brain does not deal/accept the absence of sound. The brain "fills' that absence of sound with something. That something can be many different "noises". On the link some even described sounds like a radio announcer. others all forms of different music. That's why I joked about changing the channel. Swing Jazz to Blues. They aren't that far different----let's just say the last was more pleasant than the first. I'm not versant in either. But over the two hours that it occurred it was constantly changing and then gone, with no tinnitus in that left ear, then returning, now none in the right ear. WOW......Could I be so blessed that it would stop altogether. The phrase "the sounds of silence" would take on a joyous meaning. Into the fire with Tinnitus.
AND stupid people.
Joan --enjoy SFO>>>Great fun town and restaurants-- hmmm good.
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another link to brain function and hearing loss and tinnitus.0
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Ok VR lets make a plan to get together....
If i remember correctly Joan in goin away soon.right?
Has anyone seen Sheila!!!!!MIA for a while.gotta check it out.
May is almost done and June i have an engagement party on the 23.
Still on call with my son but i would like to see whoever was comin before the earth caved in on all of us except poor Joan.You did give me a chuckle when you said you were afraid to go out of the house.lol.
Plus anyone who wants to come just say the work.ok????
Lauren im talkin to you too.....
huggggggggs everyon K
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Hi GrannyK,
LOL - I've been re-a-l careful lately.....
I will be around after Mem Day..... I will know in a few days if my summer course will be canceled...it's at night but I'd have to be home early M/W.
Friday's usually good for me. Prob. not around June 21-24.
Ahhh wish we could have a sleep-over!
Where's Sheila? She's over in Idol-land swooning over Phillip's spot in the finals.
I hope things are going OK with your dear son.
J
I'd like to toss a student into the virtual fire.....she and her mom offered to pay me for a certain grade. Never have I ever heard anything like it. I documented with Dept. chair and Union so they don't turn it around on me!
Grades go in by tomorrow AM ... then big personal bonfire of unclaimed student papers!
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Yike Joan - doesn't anyone EARN grades any more?? My DH teaches high school and he gets so much pressure to just pass kids so they can get them on out of school. Hard to justify passing a kid who has a 30-something average, but it is all about the failure rate so the school doesn't look bad...
ETA: The honors/AP kids are even worse - the parents call insisting (and threatening!) that their child HAS to have an A so they can get into whatever college they are shooting for...
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Any Wednesday in June works for me. PM me ladies and let's meet near Penn Station for lunch...Early June is better...before it gets hot and stinky.....
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http://community.breastcancer.org/forum/102/topic/778836?page=64#post_3019796
vr. above link is for you I apparently forgot to hit submit. There are some extensive strtech exercises for, legs, butt, low and upper back on Fuzzy's romp room thread.
Granny glad son is at least stable. Included him in My Rosary novena
Folks, my musical experience in the left ear apprantly rebooted the right ear. Silence for about 12 hours. It was heaven. But now has returned in right ear--not as roaring. I 'll add link if anyone wants to read about the sience behind"rebooting the neurons"
http://www.medical.hear-it.org/index.dsp?page=18138
already had added this but didn't add the --what --- about what it had done.
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SAS - the music would drive me batty, I prefer silence and birds. It is alarming for you too, I am sure, thinking of you.
Jenn - the situation in your neighborhood is just asking for testing, something seems completely ominous to me. And to lose so many mothers aat once. The children are also at risk for what the mothers may have exposure to.
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Into the fire the attitude that if a fat person loses weight, no matter what the cause, it is a good thing anyway. Like the nurse who tried to make me feel better even though I had nausea, tiredness, irritability. But it was good that I lost 17 pounds in a few months. I showed her what irritable was.
Into the fire, that ridiculous, non-thinking attitude.
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sas-schatzi... FL Joined: May 2009 Posts: 4,341 Post a reply
4 minutes ago sas-schatzi wrote:
Essa--you are absolutely right in your assessment of weight loss in the presence of cancer. That nurse or medical assistant should have known better. Weight loss for unknown reasons has it's own ICDM-9 code because it can be an indicator for NUMEROUS diseases---cancer , thyroid, depression, mal-absorption syndrome , response to medication----on and on and on. Always should be evaluated for origin of cause.
I lost 23 lbs. with my Bc and then 30lbs. with Dh's cancer. I had to deal with the same stupids that said I looked so good. Yet I'd just come through hell. Cluck'em.
At least the nurse/ma got it, that their questions were inappropriate b/c she was crying. Perhaps in the future that person will try to learn more of the significance of what the question means i.e that it's clinically significant and assume nothing about the person. I have a word for such stupid comments "blather". You said what needed to be said---you were right.
Essa you posted on OMG, I felt bringing my reply here was appropriate b/c most folks here don't post on OMG. -------
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Essa and SAS, I really hate those people who say "you look so good!" because most of the time I dont' FEEL so good... I was just blessed with never having bags under my eyes despite being on for 36-hours at a time with my work, and the weight loss with BC and treatment was NOT the way to lose it!
Joan, I have not been offered money, but I was pretty much intimidated a few years ago by a father who sat in my office while the mother prattled on about how her daughter should be passed (a physician assistant student - very scary!!!), others have threatened lawsuits (luckily the courts have generally sided with instructors regarding grades - they don't want to clog the courts with this type of garbage), and this past couple of years with graduate pharmacy students thinking only about their "grades" rather than actually "learning" - maybe I am getting close to that time when I realize I don't want to go back to this.... or maybe just toss them all onto the fire! madpeacock, it is the pressure at the high school level to pass these kids that leads to the attitudes in college. They pay tuition, so they should get a degree so they can "practice" in our health care, education, judicial, and other professions. OK, gotta get off that soap box and get the blood pressure back down! INTO THE FIRE!!!
Sheila, so sorry about that muscial tinnitus. I have had mild tinnitus for a few years and some mild hearing loss, but since starting this little journey it seems to be a bit worse - I keep wondering just how many nerves can be affected by chemo (taxotere) besides the peripheral nerves? Makes sense it might affect some others as well. You have a whole different reason for yours, however - how much did the surgery impact it? I am suspecting quite a bit. Glad you got your glasses back on and can see, though!
Hugs to all of you around the fire tonight.0
