For Older People with Sense
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Perhaps some of you will want to go read the topic, "Has anyone had this sort of mistake before?" The girl is young, I think, and not advocating for herself. Her story scares the crap out of me. Halavan full dose was injected into her abdominal muscles instead of into her port IV. This happened a week ago monday. She is in Omaha and "likes" her onc. Then she goes this week and they injcet intop port IV but push in 1 min instead of 5min.
Now her abdominal skin is peeling and bleeding and she is using neosporin for what is a chemical burn.
I tried and others have tried to help her be motivated. I sure wish she had a person in her life who would call the drug company for her and a freakin lawyer. I just thought one of you might be able to add better info.
As a young adult I too wouldn't have wanted to get anyone into trouble. Her screen name is SPAMgirl
Thanks Ginger
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3jays I feel HORRID!!! It was ME that said that about Marybe and you feeling better with her there!!! I meant it as a warm fuzzy, not a bad thing!! Only meaning that Marybe possibly lifted your spirits, not cured you! I am heartbroken that you took it that way and I am so, SO sorry!! I am that SHALLOW person!!! I never intended for you to take it to mean that you could control your illness. I, too, give it 'my all' when company is here and then am bedridden a day or two afterwards. I totally understand where you are right now. Unless someone else said something worse, then I am that bad person who hurt you and for the world, I would never do that intentionally. I apologize profusely, publically, and sincerely. I don't even ask forgiveness as I don't deserve it after the way I made you feel.
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Chabba - not seeing the mountain every day is going to be probably the hardest thing about moving. We have a lovely view of it from our front window. (One of these days I'll change my avatar to that view instead of the one I have currently - which I took when we were fishing. I'd change it now, but I don't have those pics with me.) The cool thing is that I have the same vantage from work - just further away...
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Oh Barbe I have misspoke so many times in my life. I really feel proud of you that you stood up and said, "It was me!" I hope I will be as stand up, as you are, when my time comes again. I think it was me who said the "person" was shallow. We all know you are anything but shallow. I spoke without sufficient thought and apologize.
Ginger
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3jays, I'm so glad to see you posting. You've been through so much that is so dreadful and we all love you!!!
Kathy
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3jays...glad you are back, even if in a limited way, it is so bad all the things that keep on happening to you...I wish you well again soon.
barbe...I don't think our 3jays would take something you said the wrong way...we all know how waspish your humour is...just wish I were so quick to make a comeback myself. I love the way you write !
Yup, and I know what you mean by giving it your all when company is around. I am the same, stand up straight, full warpaint on, look as if I am really enjoying having company when I'm really thinking 'for gawds sake go on home !!'
I very rarely ask anyone to come on over nowadays, when I was working full time I never really encouraged people to just call, I was always too busy to stop and talk about nothing ! If I had to stop and chatter, and maybe make a cup of tea, I just ended up working late 'til it was dark to make up the time. Jobs never go away on a farm. Years ago I used to get relatives thinking 'where shall we go this weekend..I know , the farm' I used to get SO mad, hoards of kids running around upsetting the animals, and poking into things..thinking it was an adventure playground. Adults standing around , making me feel bad for HAVING to carry on with my jobs, waiting for an invite to a meal !! ( HOW is it people always assume women on farms spend their entire time in the kitchen, baking and handing out meals !!!!?) Got the wrong one here for that, I HATE to cook, and if there isn't a cake in the tin from the supermarket, then there isn't anything at all to eat !!
In the end I had to have a big argument with my brother, who was always just rolling up, with his 3 kids ( plus sometimes their friends) to run riot on the place w/end after w/end, always wisecracking I was always too busy to spend time with his family, when he was making time to come and see me. I rounded on him and said he was only coming to bring his kids where it wasn't costing him any money, and driving me mad into the bargain, having to watch what they were doing instead of being able to do my work. Little devils were always clambering up onto machines, my brother would sit reading the paper, while I had to police these kids....so...we fell out, for quite a number of years..'til his kids grew, and he could come over now and then without them. Fantastic Aunt that I was !!!
I have been busy today weaning a litter of puppies...a dirty job..but I love it...but it takes so long for them to get the hang of eating from a dish instead of mothers milk bar. I've been bathing 2 puppies who are going first thing in the morning, 2 brothers, I love it when they go in twos, never worry much about them as much as I do just one solitary puppy, looking so sorry for itself, as the new owners take it off to its new home, I can end up in tears sometimes as they drive away.
Isabella.
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Isabella, How sorry the little puppies look is exactly how all of our dogs have ended up sleeping with us forever after.
I think my Aunt Tomy, who had a large farm, must have felt the same way as you do about uninvited company. When I was an older child I remember us sitting there hungry, waiting for some food to appear, and it didn't! I think Aunt Tomy had gone on strike. My mom, who was her neice, never was one to bring along food or to lend a hand. Although it was 400+ miles away, I did love to go to Aunt Tomy's farm. I was a city child and found it to be a wondrous place, especially during a harvest, or in the fall during a hog killing. I am sorry to realize we didn't add to Aunt Tomy's day. I bet your neices and nephews have lovely memories of their visits to you even when their father was so irresposible. I am glad you told your brother.
As always Isabella, I do so look forward to your posts. Your writing and stories make my days fuller and often bring me the most wonderful of memories.
Hugs Ginger
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I'm with Ginger here!! I am amazed at the different viewpoint from the actual farmer herself! I can see how drop-in families would certainly impair the routine of life on a farm, while everyone else has a gay old time, there you are, plodding away, hoping the kids don't kill themselves on a blade or sharp tool!!! You should publish that in a local paper or something. Like a letter to an editor. It really opened my eyes and I'm sure a lot of other people's eyes could use opening too! How silly of your own brother to not realize the burden he was bringing you!! Unless he had brought a picnic lunch and everyone gave an hour or two of work to help you out....
When is your ex-DH's surgery???? When is YOUR surgery!!! My back degeneration has progressed that I now have bony overgrowths that are impinging on the nerves exiting my spine. Add that to scoliosis, stenosis, DDD, etc and it got me a 50% increase in morphine!! I KNEW something was different...sigh.
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Barbe I am sorry you needed an increase in meds. I am sending you a big floating cushion with a little propeller on it for you to just foat through your day.
I so wish I had brought food or gifts to me Aunt Tomy in her later years. She never was in a nursing home to my knowledge. What an ungratful and unseeing person I was. Just a little note about her house, it was totally paneled in black walnut. My uncle cut it from the farm and milled it at a nearby sawmill.
Laters Ginger
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That must have been stunning panelling, but oh! so DARK!!!! Someone years later probably ripped it out or painted over it without realizing what they were doing.
I like floating on a noodle in deep water the very best, but I invited myself over to my brothers twice this year and once it was too cool. The other time was fabulous weather for floating!!!! He hasn't invited me back...sigh.
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Barbe, I love to float in our pool. But I don'nt need a tube..actually I can fall asleep floating on my back..I am very bouyant if you haven't already guessed..:-)
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Doing some sort of exercise in a pool would be soooo good for me but the community pool is only open certain days IF the temperature is over a certain amount and then it's inundated with kids so not the best place for an old fart to be trying to get some exercise.......lol. I think I need to find out where the gym is in this town.......I know there is one as I've heard of people going to it.......lol.
Have a good day all!
Love n hugs. Chrissy
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Lisa, I used to be bouyant until I lost my personal flotation devices!!!! Chrissy, during the week days when kids are in school, they may have adult time? I'm thinking of signing up for the indoor pool here in our "lifestyle community", they have great classes for range of motion, arthritis, low impact, etc. $100 for 10 weeks, not bad. I can fit that in my budget at the end of the month. If I really like it, I could become a member for $600 and not have to pay separately for the class.
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Barbe our community is so small that they don't open in school hours so there are always a heap of kids there
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Good thing you at least have a pool, then!
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A pool is being built in our community (small closed community) with limited memberships being sold - everyone in the community will be able to get a membership plus a limited number will be sold for those outside the community. It was supposed to be ready Sept 1 but that's more optimistic than realistic. That's OK, next summer will be wonderful. Even if they finish it here (pool weather lasts into the first week or so of Oct) I won't go this year because I'll be having surgery and there's absolutely not way I'm getting into a public pool until I'm well and truly healed.
My surgery date has been changed to Sept 5. I called last week to find out where and when to show up for what was supposed to be an Aug 22 surgery only to be told it had been cancelled and that they were waiting for Sept to look into a new date for me! As you can imagine I was extremely upset and said NO WAY was I going to wait for that since it would mean a long wait after they finally would give me the date. Fortunately the ditzy secretary finally did her job, spoke to the doc, and the doc gave me a date 2 weeks after the original. That secretary is so good at delaying and putting things off that I've started to call her Scarlett O'Hara - "I'll think about it tomorrow".
Maybe I'll do what she does in this case, and think about the surgery tomorrow. Sure beats being nervous about it today.
Leah
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Yes, my Aunt Tomy's house was very very dark with all that black walnut panneling. I have always wondered what happened to it after she passed.
About floating, I volunteer for a mission in Haiti and we are right on the coast. I have gone into the ocean there and I float, even on my tummy with my knees bent and my feet up in the air and my head out of the water looking around. I was amazed at how well I floated in salt water. It was really nice. As a child our DD had so little body fat that she floated just under the water! Ginger
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Leah, how will you keep "others" from coming into the pool as "guests". I'd be annoyed as I get hung up on crap like that.
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Leah, thanks for keeping us posted about your surgery. I was thinking it was coming up soon, now 2 more weeks. It is very frustrating.
I sure miss going to water aerobics at the Y. My MO suggested I give my lungs a break and take some time to let them heal. My new PCP eye's got real wide and she said she didn't think I could cause more damage, but she is more worried about my bp and heart at this point. Anyhow it was social for me, seeing the same people and being part of a group. Now I just slowly swim in circles in my 18' round above ground pool in the back yard. Some friends helped me put it in the year the kid's dad died, back when they were 14 and 12. It's a lot of work but nothing beats being in the water. Now I just gotta get some friends to come over and play. Most of my friends are so busy, tho.
My DS is getting ready to head off to school in a few days. we are busy rushing around getting all the chores I asked him to do in June done before he leaves. LOL it is always the way.
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When I was in the middle of chemo, I foolishly went swimming in the pool at the Y, enough said to say I caught some bug not killed by the chlorine..we have our own pool in the backyard, but it not heated in the winter
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lisa, my pool is not heated either. I have to take advantage of every warm day left. I do like the fact that it does not have to be so heavily clorinated as a public pool.
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i I keep close watch with my own pool. I do the maintenance myself.We keep it open all year. Sometimes the foolish kids will jump in around New Years. I also have rules about who can use it..
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Barbe, since the pool will be enclosed by a security/privacy wall, it shouldn't be a problem. Like any private facility, it can be regulated without problems.
Boy did I wish it were already opened today!
Leah
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Hi all,
Do hope you day is going well. Envious of all this talk about pools and swimming just wish it was warmer. Thought spring had sprung but it retreated again today and its cold outside. Have not got near the computer recently as DH has had business reports to write and was just too lazy to set up my laptop. Also had fairly busy time.
Friday night had wonderful time with DD@ and her BFF. It was like old times because the BFF used to spend so much time here she is like another daughter really but now as she has small children we don't see her so much. Anyway they came with me to a fashion show put on by the Breast Cancer Research Trust. This is something I do support and there is no pink anywhere and all proceeds go to research both for cure and cause. Show was great (would love to be able to afford the clothes) and then we went and had tapas and dessert. Real girl night.
Had friends here for dinner on Saturday and then went to sleep watching the rugby. DH had gone to a school match in the afternoon where he caught up with several of DS's friends who were there supporting their old school team. I went in search of patchwork fabric as I am making a quilt for DD2. I know that as soon as DD1 sees it she will want one as well.
On Sunday we took the grandchildren out to see their great grandma. They were great thank goodness.
So it was all go over the weekend and yesterday, again searching for fabric a whole lot of junk fell out of a high cupboard so I had to sort that out. Two large rubbish bags of stuff have gone out, goodness knows why I was keeping it!
So now I must get back to the patchwork, then tonight I will get on with my knitting which I do until my hands and arm get sore. Have nearly made a third baby jacket while my sister is busy making booties whic the hospital have asked for.
So that's me at present. I did see my RA doc who had some good suggestions. He listens and explains what is happening and why he and the oncs don't want me to have certain drugs - ones that shut down immune system - so it does limit choice.
Hope you are all having a good week.
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We went out on a friend's boat yesterday around San Diego Bay..it is really wonderful
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Alyson, good to hear from you. What kind of suggestions was the doc able to give you? Anything that would help any of us with arthritis???
Lisa, so this is a pic FROM the water, not OF the water!!! Wow, nice weather for a boat ride!! Was it power or sail?
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power Barbe...
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We used to have a 39' power yacht until it went over $750 to fill the gas tank!!! It slept 8, with all six of us inside and was a glorious floating "cottage" for years. Then just too much $$$$$$$
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boating today is really a luxury with large boats...it is always alot of fun to go out in someone else's ..
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That's the way we'd have to go out on a boat--in someone else's! Beautiful picture, Lisa.
Barbe, I've been meaning to say how I love that new picture of you!
Kathy
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