INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours
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Mom has been up to her antics again. Hubby and I are doing our best not to let it bother us. She started with her usual "the holidays are at my house! You are ordered to be here unless you are sick" crap. Well last week when I went for my treatment, they scheduled my treatments for next month. I have an ironclad excuse not to be at my mom's for Thanksgiving as my 2nd treatment for November will be before Thanksgiving. I know Mom is going to hit the roof, but my health comes before her demands.
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Hold firm Mommy. You come first.
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I whole heartedly agree, Mommy, you definitely come first. It's too bad if she chooses to be upset rather than understand. Good luck with your treatment!
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Karen, I have been thinking about you and wonder how you have been! So glad to see your post. How are you doing?
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Mommy, sorry you have a controlling mommy
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.
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(galloping through--full classload AND two novel length editing jobs...) Hey, my birthday's not until November 12th, don't rush things.
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MOmmy, my mother tried ripping me over a family matter once. Hung up on her mid-rip. Worked for me. Felt no guilt because I took the attitude she had no business interfering in my life. May not hurt to start doing each time she tries to control you and your family. Think of it as self preservation
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Loveroflife,
Why thank you! I'm doing wellish. Back to work. Still sore from the lumpectomy. Dealing with lots of different types of grief from people for varying reasons. It's amazing how much more stress people pile on you in these situations.
Anyway, spending time with the tot and fiance and getting ready for chemo. They say they got it all, but found that it became invasive by 8 mm. So whole tumor overall was over 3 cm. They removed it all, but because of my age, and the triple negative and how they found it to be high grade 3 on everything, except the stage is still 1 (confuses me a little) they feel that it's still important to do the chemo and radiation. It seemed to be changing each time they reviewed it. So a wig it will be at my wedding in May. I found a place to do some window shopping at this weekend. And port goes in on the 1st...blah! But overall, I guess it's good news? Quick question...when all of this first cancer is said and done, does the preventative measures of diet and exercise and less alcohol and etc...does that make a difference in recurrence?
But it's Friday and I get to go home to this cutie.
How are you doing?
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What a lovely picture. Is she jumping for joy?
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Well I called her today and told her tha my 2nd treatment for November will be during Thanksgiving week. After a brief silence she said that Thanskgiving won't be at her house after all. My brother's wife's family invited them to their house because Mom said that they weren't sure that we were going to be there for the holiday because of me being on treatment and they didn't know how I would be feeling afterwards. She knows that sometimes I can be perfectly fine or I could be feeling like I got run over by a bus.
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Feelingfeline, I imagine she is. My neighbor wanted to practice her photography skills, so I got free awesome pictures. She is a little ham and soaks up the attention...constantly. lol
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She is a cutie!! I have been waiting for the photo
In regard to your "quick question".....I wish I know the answer, BUT it doesn't hurt to eat healthy and excercise (well, maybe your pocket). I do think stress, besides genetics, plays a role as it weakens the immune systems. There are so many things we are exposed to that disrupt the normal functions of our body. I hate that more and more are here. Ok going to take a nap now. BBL
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I have one of those hams too Karen!! (Mine is going to be 12 in a couple of weeks.)
Mommy, that was much better news than you expected - what a relief!
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loveroflife,
Have a great nap. Yeah I wondered. Stress has been huge this year with my brother dying of cancer in June..could be what happened...just bottled it. So perhaps exercise is a good thing for stress and removing the people that stress me.
Feelingfeline,
They are the best those hams...usually they have the most attitude, but they are still the best.
Alright, I gotta log out.
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Yep Feline, it was unexpected and I was happy!
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What has cbd and cbda done for you? Looking into this and not sure what it's good for and what is seems to not work with... your experience would greatly help!
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Mrszhukova,
There is a forum called "alternative medicine" under the Jump to a Forum drop down box. I'm guessing that is the best place to go where the odds are possibly higher that someone there would have that information.
I haven't personally tried it so I couldn't tell you pros or cons. Good luck on your search.
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Karen, sorry to hear about your brother. I am the same. I tend to bottle up my feelings too. I carry problems on my shoulders. No wonder my neck is always tight. Not good. One of my younger sisters told me that instead of "psych in", I need to "psych out". Ha! Slowly learning how to. Are you the older or oldest sibling?
Ms Sas, I don't like politics but I do like General Kelly. Showed the video to my DD. She took a look at the time stamp and protested "This is 20 minutes long". DH's response, " You still need to watch it." Afterwards, she told me General Kelly should be president. Hah!
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Btw, there were a lot of things on the briefing I didn't know.
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Loveroflife,
I was the youngest until the little one came along 25 years after me. lol! The older brother adored me when I was born, but almost right after he developed a brain tumor. The radiation of that cancer 40 years later caused his secondary cancer.
Yes, I definitely need to find a way to deal with stress, like meditation. I definitely need to google it or something.
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Loverly, General Kelly gave such a moving speech. The story about how the fallen are cared for and how a family is notified by the Casualty Officer who stays with them for the duration is so important is such a terrible time. I'm glad that DH thought it important enough to encourage DD to view. DD is right General Kelly's presence and bearing is striking.
Mommy condolences re: mom. Kathindc's method of hanging up when being ripped is a self preservation tool that either the offender corrects the behavior or they don't get access to you. I had to use it often with a family member and it worked.
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Karen, yogagirl is a researcher. She does evidence based research with extensive bibliographies. I suggest sifting through her research. On the linked page she has a section on diet for Triple neg. She has sections on stress.
https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/136/topics/844633?page=2#idx_45
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Good Morning Owlies!
⭐ This is a great big gold shiny star for Karen to stick on her forehead. Didja all see what she did for us? She stepped in and responded perfectly to an obvious spammer! I saw the post the poser made last night but figured I would leave it to Loverly 🤐
Karen a great big Hootie-Hoo to you Sister! 🦉 (tha'ts an owl in case it doesn't show)
Loverly, you can play sheriff next time! 🤠 😛
Sassy - I need to watch that video. Certainly must be powerful to move a certain little college gal.
Teka ~ It's so sad that our Nation's people are more concerned about tearing each other up instead of lifting each other up. All we can do is be the best people we can be and treat one another based on "who" they are, not "what" they are. "Try to be the person your dog thinks you are" - not the cat. The cat only thinks of us as slow witted servants 🐱
I am so sorry to read of the sorrows shared here. Grief is a heavy burden; no answer for that just ((hugs)). Bossy Family? Just say you have diarrhea. Works like a charm!
JunieB ~ Where are you? I'm sorry I truly thought your new place was haunted. I never knew of a doggie that barked at spiders. Ghosts yes.... If I say I'm glad you have spiders that doesn't sound quite nice. So I will say I am sorry and glad and leave out the nouns. 😕🙄
But..... Saturdays are Silly!
Has anyone ever heard of such a thing as a Border Bunny? The video below is of Champis The Sheepherding Rabbit! Love this comment that was posted about it ...
"The farm is our neighbour in our summer house. The bunny was king of the barn. The sheep was terrified of him because he bit their legs if they didn't obey him. His best friend was a chicken..."
The farm is in Sweden but I think this was really filmed in Wenchie's backyard!
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Thanks Sas. My mom hasn't learned yet that I am not putting up with her crap anymore.
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M0mmy ~ Sounds like your SIL stepped in just at the right time. Hate to say it, but I preferred the holidays much more when we didn't have family nearby. You have an outstanding DH, such a special and brave man to stand up for you! ((hugs)) to you both. oops....make that a very gentle ((hug)) for you. 🤗
I was actually looking for this video to post for you when I got sidetracked by that bunny. The Sheltie below was one of my students. Casey is Therapy certified and he and his Mom made the video while doing a school visit. Very special pair! Love how Mom came up with such a fun and creative way to involve all the children at once.
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Thanks Sas, I'll check it out. I've always been a stressed person. But then again, I'm overweight by a bit,.. okay a lot, I have a terrible diet, never exercise, drink and of course smoke. Now I'm afraid to drink - the smoking is harder to stop and I'm very tired (still healing from the lumpectomy) but plan to kick that in gear. So those forums will definitely help. Outside of the genetics or genes, I really didn't have the best life style.
Shepkitty, It kind of sounded suspect since it seemed to be an odd place to mention something that there are forums for, but I'm new so thought I'd point her in the right direction in case she was even newer than me, but it sounded sales pitchy. lol!
Questions, my doctors all thought these things were unrelated, but I find them all to be vastly too coincidental. In the months leading up to finding this lump I had a weird stomach pain. Scans and blood test revealed nothing, but never had pain like it. Then randomly one day at work I thought I was going to throw up. YOu know the salivating and running to the bathroom. Than fine. Even pregnant that never has happened...well only when hungover and I wasn't hungover. And then a horribly itchy rash under my eyes and arm pits that my dermatologist had no explanation for. Ran tests, no allergies? Finally, my right arm the same side the tumor was later discovered, began to feel sore like I strained it. I feel this was my body telling me something was wrong. You know minor symptoms because my body was fighting this cancer that was, at that point, undetected.
Anyone have any experiences like this? I wonder if we can find signs before an actual issue with breast. Quite honestly, I don't know if my brother hadn't just died if I would have paid much attention...however, that eye reaction was pretty awful...hard to ignore.
Just thought I would share all of that weirdness to see if I'm the only one out there.
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Karen, There are a lot of stories of pets acting strangely with people before their diagnosis. One dog would paw at the breast which had cancer. I have never heard of those particular symptoms, but if there's a problem your whole body is aware of it. Certainly something odd was going on.
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Dear Teka, That was exactly what I was saying to EVERYONE - "F" Politics!
I agree with you, too much garbage from all sides. The news media is so whacked out, how can anyone know what to believe? Just imagine how the bad guys from other countries must be loving all this foolishness. Friendships have been lost, family members that no longer speak..... we'll rip the country apart all by ourselves. It makes me sad and worried. For all of us. Nothing wrong with having different opinions.... just hate all the hatin' going on in our country. 😢
Karen ~ Yes, I too had signs that my body wasn't well before getting my DX. I have Fibromyalgia and was used to having pain, nausea, sensitive skin, ect. When I started with new uncontrollable pain I became suspicious something was awry.... the fallen down and being unable to get back up was the BIG tipoff. Stupid bone mets.............
It's easy to beat yourself up, trying to figure out what went wrong and what could have been done differently. We all do it. It really doesn’t matter. We can't change what has happened. We can fight like hell to gain control over WHAT will happen. Learn all you can about your DX, ask questions of your docs, take care of your body to keep it strong and healthy-ish during treatment and recovery and remember to still be you. ☺️
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