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  • SportsMomma
    SportsMomma Member Posts: 2
    edited March 2014

    Hello to all of you! I've been a "visitor" here for quite some time as well as other boards.  While I'm close to my 2 year "Cancerversary", I still feel as if I'm in the middle of the fight.  Recently, I've started experiencing a great deal of anxiety fearing a recurrence.  I have a strong family history...Great-grandmother, grandmother, and even lost my own mother at the age of 49.  I am 43 now and while I know God's plan is perfect....and my head tells me that faith has no place for fear....My heart argues.
    Throughout all the tests, surgeries, and chemo....I had a HUGE support system of family and friends.  And while I could still call upon them for virtually anything....I feel stupid doing so now.  I should be celebrating my cancer freedom, instead of questioning it.  Survivorship is a lonely place....which is why I've decided to join in here.  I've maintained a blog of my journey from the very beginning....working through each of my feelings. I've received much comfort from that....but I guess its nice to come here and know I'm not alone.  Thank you for the site and look forward to joining in with you all.
    Blessings.... 

  • o2bhealthy
    o2bhealthy Member Posts: 1,089
    edited March 2014

    Hi Terri ~ Welcome.

    I will be celebrating my 5 year and it does get better with time but I dont think the anxiety ever goes away.   I honestly did not start to feel physically better until the last year and a half.  Emotionally, I still have days but they are fewer and farther inbetween.  I am thrilled you had such a great support system, there are so many of use who fought our battles with little or no support.  

    Survivorship can be a lonely place.  The average person has no idea how hard it is not to wonder or worry about the cancer returning.   Somedays I can be hyper-vigilant over my health and other days I like to stick my head in the sand.  

    You may find that this thread is not very active.  The majority of the ladies in the group are now on a private Facebook group (if you are FB and want to join in just pm me your name and I will contact the admin for the group). 

    BCO was my life saver during my inital dx and tx.  Now I only check in when this thread and one other gets a post but neither are very active anymore.  

    Blessings ~ Michelle

  • burley
    burley Member Posts: 248
    edited April 2014

    Monis-sorry I haven't been checking the group for a while.  We have a group of 53 members on Facebook that talk daily.  Would you like to join us there?  Send me a friend request-Kim Melvin, short hair, glasses, live in Queen Creek, Arizona-and I can add you to the group!

    Sportsmama, the exact same thing goes for you.

    I love the group over there because it's so active.  We have so many ladies in all different stages of recovery and even some still in treatment.  We'd love to have you!

    Kim

  • srdc2013
    srdc2013 Member Posts: 9
    edited November 2014

    Hi Kim - I just sent you a friend request (I think that was you!) I would love to join the group. I am going to exchange next week and then have 5 more Herceptin treatments. The "end" of treatment is almost in sight. My local support group tends to lose people after their first few visits and it's at a hard time to get to anyway. Thanks!


  • burley
    burley Member Posts: 248
    edited November 2014

    Hi there! I did get a request from a Sharon. Is that you? I'll go accept it! :)

  • torigirl
    torigirl Member Posts: 748
    edited February 2015
    Can't find you on FB....same profile pic on FB as here?
  • burley
    burley Member Posts: 248
    edited June 2015

    Hi ToriGirl! I just sent you a private message. I'm so sorry I didn't get notification of your post back in February.

    Check your messages and we're still very active on Facebook if you would like to join us.

    Thanks, Kim

  • burley
    burley Member Posts: 248
    edited June 2016

    Hi any new girls! I'm sure this group is far back and hard to fine. We have a terrific support group on Facebook.

    If you would like to join, send me a friend request and I'll accept then add you to the group right away.

    Kimberley Melvin, should say from Queen Creek, Arizona (and my profile pic is a political sign.)

    Everyone else, Hi!

  • Kimmer33
    Kimmer33 Member Posts: 90
    edited August 2016

    hi ladies! After a quick read over some earlier and later posts, i probably fit into this group quite nicely and i would love more friends!

    I was diagnosed last year (July 2015), at the age of 46 - i have a wonderful husband and 3 daughters age 23, 22 and 19, the youngest goes to university and still lives with us. Would love to join in the conversations!

    Kim

    **edit to add that i requested to be your friend (kimberley melvin) on facebook and would love to join the facebook group. Thanks

  • Tresjoli2
    Tresjoli2 Member Posts: 579
    edited August 2016

    Burley I will send over a request tonight!

  • kmur
    kmur Member Posts: 849
    edited April 2018

    Hi you all, not sure if you followed my message on FB. Thought I would post something here to let you know I want to not lose track of you

  • burley
    burley Member Posts: 248
    edited April 2018

    Hey KMur! I’m here. We should let the groups know to

  • burley
    burley Member Posts: 248
    edited April 2018

    and oh wow do i need a different pic or what

  • kmur
    kmur Member Posts: 849
    edited April 2018

    Lol! Hey there burley

  • bgirl
    bgirl Member Posts: 435
    edited April 2018

    Hi ladies, maybe it should be 40 something turned 50 something for me. Had biopsy today. Were able to do US, so didn't have to do MRI biopsy with contrast or have a clip inserted (body made all kinds of scar tissue last time). Not expecting benign, more a confirmation that this is the source and so a new primary. Preferable to the alternative. Told my kids on the weekend, hard but did relieve some stress.

  • Eema
    Eema Member Posts: 403
    edited April 2018

    I’m here, kmur! We’ve come so far, it’s strange to be here again.

  • Eema
    Eema Member Posts: 403
    edited April 2018

    oh @bgirl! That must have been hard! So sorry

  • chantal10
    chantal10 Member Posts: 34
    edited April 2018

    hi! Wow, weird to be here! I popped in to check about the Ibrance chemo I'm on, see if any info on any thread, since I'm planning for surgery... and I see this topic come up as active! Surprise!

    I get my injections of Faslodex and Zoladex tomorrow... once a month and it's just... “ouch" is an understatement.

    Jane, glad the biopsy out of way. Are you in pain? I'm sorry. They should be able to see if your hormone status is same or different pretty quickly. I forget why your doctors think it could be a new primary? Xo take care girl.



  • bgirl
    bgirl Member Posts: 435
    edited May 2018

    Chantal, sorry - hope it is as pain free as it can be. Think of you often. Always want to throw something at the TV every time I see the Ibrance commercials (we get american network tv here) They list all the SEs but everyone is smiling, really!

    New primary on the other side would be good - found the lymph node first and it was positive for breast cancer. Hopefully this is the source. Round 2 sucks, but as you know AGAIN is better than BACK! Lymph node ER+ so expecting the same .... I'm sure by the time I'm done I will never have girl hormones again.

    Looking at our BCO signatures, forgot how close we were diagnosed. So much for the good kind speech - stage 1, no nodes, HR+.

  • Belinda977
    Belinda977 Member Posts: 150
    edited June 2018

    Oh my gosh...I just popped in too....Hello !!!

  • kmur
    kmur Member Posts: 849
    edited June 2018

    Hi You all! I hardly ever log in. I forget to honestly. You all always made cancer doable ( with your spirit and your humor ) Love you all!

  • burley
    burley Member Posts: 248
    edited July 2018

    Kim! We're looking for you. You're off Facebook and none of us have heard from you.

    Love you friend!

  • burley
    burley Member Posts: 248
    edited July 2018

    Hi friends! I'm here, and looking for KMur! PM me girl. xoxo

  • kmur
    kmur Member Posts: 849
    edited August 2018

    Hey you all. Thanks for checking on me. Sent you a message.

  • kmur
    kmur Member Posts: 849
    edited May 2019

    Are any of you 40 something's here? Just wanted to check on you ladies. I am not on facebook anymore at all. That means , I have no clue how you are ! Each year I post over on the stage three 5 years out board but have not been on in a long time. I hope each of you are doing well and enjoying whatever you are up to . Want you to know, I think of you all the time as funny things happen here and there and brings a big smile remembering all of our laughs. Love to you all! ( every-one)

  • bgirl
    bgirl Member Posts: 435
    edited May 2019

    miss your stories. I think I have your email you gave me. Will send you an update.


  • kmur
    kmur Member Posts: 849
    edited May 2019

    hi bgirl, I will send you a private message with my email if you do not have it. Been thinking of all you ladies. Miss hearing what everyone is doing. Hope you are doing well.

  • bgirl
    bgirl Member Posts: 435
    edited June 2019

    kmur that PM would be great.


  • profbee
    profbee Member Posts: 305
    edited November 2019

    LOVE you girls.

  • profbee
    profbee Member Posts: 305
    edited November 2019

    Changed my profile pic! LOL. LONG hair! 8 years out! Thank you, all. Eternally grateful to have had such wonderful friends along on the ride with me. xoxo


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