Single life after a mastectomy
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I hope everyone has a beautiful day!!! I'll take something that has big pockets
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Simplicty- you are still tired from the chemo. It fatigues a person for a long time from all I have seen. I was very tired after my surgeries and rads for a long time. This stuff is tough on a body, but the body is strong and it will heal. You just need to take it one day at a time until you feel better.
You need protein to heal after surgery. I think I suggested you fill up the fridge, but do be sure to get some protein foods. I am a big fan of cottage cheese, good protein and better than yogurt with all it's sugar. I ate a lot of deli meats too (not with bread, just the meats). As a matter of fact, deli food is great during all this. Since I live alone, I had to just eat out of the fridge for a long time. No cooking for me. Well, I still don't cook all that much. Protein shakes are good too, I drank a lot of them too but they are high calorie so be careful there.
Button down things are good to have.
I changed the sheets on my bed before so I had fresh ones until I felt well enough to change them. Place by the bedside for a little water and your pain meds. Do get up and walk around a bit every day even if you don't feel like it. Keeping anything else from happening like clots.
All I can think of for now?
Enerva- well dang that you went through all that and it is deeper in the building. Maybe the condo building maintenance needs to get involved? One can only snake a drain so far?
June- I agree with Simplicity that your friend is just projecting her stuff your way. When people say or do things that we get floored by, it speaks more to them than anything else. But at the end of the day, I choose not to spend time with people who make me feel lesser than after being around them. I want to come away feeling equal or better. I hope your friends steps it up and stops her BS and can be nicer to you!
BB- how is the gym going? Wishing you a good day. I hope your mom is doing okay too......
Melp- I know you were possibly facing more surgery. Keeping you in my prayers. We are here if you need us?
Wishing everyone a good day. Time to get on the meditation mat!
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June- I wanted to share a funny story with you about a friend of mine who just moved here recently. She is super smart, but socially clueless a lot of the time. Sort of like Sheldon on the Bing Bang theory. However, I get that about her and don't take it personally when she has her moments.
I invited her over for dinner after she had moved here, and she made a comment when she was here at the house "well, I was very worried about where you might live." Huh? The last time she visited me in the 1990s, I was living in a nice apt, and before that, in a beautiful old home back east. Have I lived in some less than desirable places in my life, but she never saw those. Back when I was starting out when I was living in my first apt situation and had little money. But apparently there was some judgement going on around my living situations not being up to snuff! LOL!
I was a bit taken aback my her comments, but then thought later, projection. She is not someone who lives in a tidy place and has lots of animals, so it has never been a good experience to visit anywhere she has lived. I remember visiting her once decades ago and stayed in her apt and almost died from the pet smell. Although she lived in decent locations and spaces, the inside of her home made one never want to go back. I expect the same here in their new home. But I accept they live they way they want.
She also was very complimentary of my home once she spent time here. She thought it was lovely!
On that subject, I am thinking of having a party this fall with a few friends who have been wanting to see my home and the renovations since last year. Maybe in October, but will decide once I have my new contract in place and cash flow going.
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E - the sink is amazing...i like the streamline design.
jazzy, simplicity - you ladies are the best. thanks.....well she did "apologize".....she said
First, I'd like to apologize if I was being insensitive and said things that offended you - I had no idea, and it was never my intention..........(more stuff)
I had no idea that the word FOB is such a negative thing in your heart. My apologies if I used the word FOB, I honestly don't remember that I ever use to say the word FOB....(more stuff)
to be exact, she didn't say FOB, she just said FRESH OFF THE BOAT, i guess it's only offensive when you abbreviate it. i rather she didn't "apologize".....just the way she phrased her sentences which made me very glad to drop her. this is quite a typical non-apology apology. did she really think i couldn't read the sub text of the message?! i just felt the whole email really speaks more about her than about what really happened. the incident was more of a glimpse of who she really is. i wish i didn't confront her. it's just the way she worded the email, the way she down played the term FOB....at the end i am not going to lie it seems like i was the one got many issues.
and you're absolutely right about it tells me more about her than about myself. i asked her a few questions not expecting her to point by point replying to me. and she did...the only point she didn't respond head on was when i asked her if she thinks i was beneath her.....
on a lighter note.....what are you ladies doing this weekend? i was supposed to go to NJ but my friend's going to the US opening....so i am thinking of doing something else.....
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jazzy - oh your friend was clueless socially....and lol at the projection....reminded me of "Friends"....when the nerdy guy dated this hot girl and went to her place which was messy. and he suggested going to his place, she said his place smelled funny. probably soap...hahaha....
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June- I love the term the non-apology apology. I had one of those episodes with someone earlier this summer. I realized after I distanced myself from her that she really is a bully. Don't need those people in my life life. People can really suck sometimes!
I got my NDA and contract to start working on today with my atty for the new work. Had a good second chat with the tech director. I also am getting a nice referral from something yesterday for work with another healthcare or here. Start one thing and build with more. The fall is going to be my time to build my work back up again, but in a new and better way!
Simplicity- tomorrow is the surgery day. I am watching your posts on your closed FB group. I know you have been busy getting ready and also nervous. I am saying a prayer for your medical team, it helps to bless them and ask them to take good care of you in advance, even if silently. It was the only thing I could do to feel better beyond just preparing with what I thought would happen. You will do great. We will be here on the other side of surgery as you recover. Wishing you a successful procedure and quick recovery!
It is a lovely weather day here. I am going for a walk, then to the gym to do my weight work out. I hope everybody here has a pleasant holiday weekend for those celebrating the Labor Day weekend here in the US. Blessings to everyone else in other nations for a lovely weekend!
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hi ladies. Thank you for all the warm welcomes. Sorry I'm seeing them late.
Hey Simplicity. I'm 42 and had a BMX at 41. I'd recommend it to anyone. The biggest questions you're going to have to ask yourself is what you want the end result to be. Very natural? Full but natural? Full and round?
I wanted full and round. Though I thought I made this clear, my first swap to permanent implants was disappointing. I had silicone rounds but they were too small for my expanded breast pockets. They didn't look similar on each side because of this and they rippled awfully. I did not like them and they left me not feeling hopeful. Talk about not wanting to date!
I had him redo the surgery and we basically agreed to shove the biggest rounds that would fit in each pocket. They're not perfect but I love them and my joke returned immediately.
Moral of the story... It's up to you to be really vocal about what you want. These docs are so busy, they go into routine mode. I didn't want routine boobs, I wanted tits. ; )
All the best to you and all the ladies on here.
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-Amy
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omg so much going on here lol
Symplicity I will also be on your pocket hahaha wishing you a fast and easy recovery.
So I got the sneak tool at a place called princes auto only cost 14.99 and it worked I have a new working perfect sink and I loveeee it lol
I ll post later after I read all your post .I ll shower now and get to bed .
Here is the sink
Here is the tool
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Amya welcome. I am also 42. Had the same experience as you . I love my new implants size but my rad side and the scars make want to have a 3rd surgery which may never happen.
But yes Symplicity be very laud about what u really want .Ps tend to use what in their mind looks good and not what the patient really needs or want.
I am so happy it is a long weekend coming for us here in Canada yaaaii
I need to study and sleep lol
Bb how is your mom?
I wonder how Tessa is doing.
Jazz send me the link for the insomnia tread I lost it.
K need to go back and read to catch up
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Enerva- here is Insomniacs. No one ever sleeps there, goes all the time!
https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/102/topic...
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I am on the closed group on FB for Simplicity around her surgery. Many of you may have joined it too. But if not, her mother whom is with her for this posted that she is surgery now. It will be a 5 hour procedure today.
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Been out today but saw Simplicity made it through surgery. She is on the other side of it and also said she got her port out today too. She is pretty drugged and seems to have a lot of people helping her. Really good to hear.
BB-I have had some experiences with stalker men. Old boyfriends, men who had a crush on me in junior high, a guy I used to work with and met up with for beers when I first moved here. Here is what I tell anyone who bothers me "stalking is a crime and unless you want the police visiting you, I suggest you leave me alone." Trust me, it works.
I hope the new fellow calls you again. You seem to enjoy his company.
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jazz let us know how simplicity is doing. I don't have the fb info.
I am also glad that her mom is there with her
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Here it is. She posted it a few days ago for us. I cannot find the link here but went to FB to copy it. It is a closed group and think you asked to be invited in to it and someone will approve it. Be sure you let her know your handle here since we obviously all have real names too!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/455749534597748/
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In hospital bed. Tired as hell lol
Can't sleep!
Pain is tolerable for now. Mobility is good right now too. A bit surprising.....
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omg girl we are all happy it's over lol every day u ll feel better and better .I ll go look for ur fb group. Drink lots of water and rest .I know u won't sleep well for a few days but it ll improve.
Here is my new table .I ll get two more chairs tmw cuz I think I better have 4 lol
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Thats lokks great Enerva!
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Simplicity- oh that anesthesia can make you edgy. You will sleep better after you get home. Are they discharging you today from your overnight stay or will you stay longer?
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Dishcharging today hopefully. Want to go home.
Mobility is very good right now...Hm.
Chest wall hurts but only when I bend. Arms from
Multiple IV pick attempts lol
Otherwise, can't complain.
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good morning everyone.
Simplicity hope you go home today. I requested your fb group. My real name is claritza rios lol
Hope every body have an amazing weekend
I ll clean do the usual house stuff
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Good morning ladies. I have a variety of things going on this weekend. Going to go play some music to start and will reconnect with my music jam community to start. Wishing everyone a good, safe, and healing weekend (that means you Simplicity!)
Simplicity- my mobility was pretty good after breast surgery. Fortunately, no muscles involved or it would be different. Way different than other surgeries I have had in my abdomen when walking was not too easy.....
Be sure they give you GOOD meds/script for pain. You seem like you have an awesome support system and let everyone help you that offers. I am glad your mom is there with you.
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BB- good to hear you will enjoy your weekend. I have never found my self-esteem comes from other people, but from a reservoir deep within that says "I am worthy." There are times we don't feel worthy, but know you really are worthy of all the good things life has to offer. As they say, don't let anyone dull your sparkle (including your ex......)
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Sorry BB, sure you know that happiness begins within. Sucks sometimes. Not sure about you but I have enough shit to be responsible for lol
I've only taken 2 pain pills this far. Not hurting too terribly bad & I really don't like pills.
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yes I have
Spoke last night for a bit. Trying to take it with a grain of sat but he told me he loved me too yesterday. He said it hit him when he realized he couldn't be here with me. Said he paced all day lol How cute 0 -
Simplicity sounds like you will be ok soon .you sound as if u ll kick this recovery off fast.
Bb I am amazed by your courage to get out there and meet man .you go girl!!!!
I went to see an old italian couple who live close by to return their tools the old folks let me use a few of his tools .I sat with them in their garden and they gave me some grapes and pears from their back yard yummmy
Came home and started laundry then ll clean and maybe go pick up a movie.
Need to study too lol I have been avoiding it but I must.
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simplicity - have a speedy recovery.....
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thank you everyone. I really don't feel bad yet or in too much pain. But Ive always had a high tolerance for pain.
BB - yea. He's a dream. Wonder why he said or realized it now? Told me last night I was a amazing woman
I think maybe this scared him into facing his emotions?
May I ask how old you are? One of my bad habits I need to be wary of is me reaching for someone & them never reaching back, or not to the same degree.
Imo, it's all about balance. I dont think you necessarily need a man, but you want one. Thats normal. Please be carefulm thou and make sure someone knows where youre at and whom youre with when meeting people alone. Or stay very public!!
Dont 'lose BB' to anyone. Just be you.
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O'lord Enerva. Where do you get your energy?
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BB- sounds like the companion for the elderly won't work if you have to do transportation. How about a work from home job? Check out Indeed.com. There are many out there and they pay the same.
Enerva- the pears look yummy!
Went to play music and it was fun.
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