Single life after a mastectomy
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I decided to make another kids sweater
Just like the pink one .
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E- that is very pretty. Have you seen the crocheted infinity scarves with fringe on them? You add them to a sweater for a sort of cowl look. One of my consignment stores carries them and picked up another one yesterday with some credit I had on some item I took there this fall. I can send you a picture of it if you are interested?
That guy sounds pushy like you have nothing else going on in your life. Following up is one thing, acting pissed at you is not a good sign. You are busy with your studies and tests now. It is okay to let some people pass on by.
I cleaned out my fridge today and now going out to rake leaves as my front tree has really dropped a bunch overnight. Going for a walk today as it is nice, to the gym for weights and then to an evening meditation session. Go jazzy go!
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BB, Enerva, my dating advice is "steer clear of the drama". Both of these guys sound like they would bring the drama with them.
E, your sweater looks like it is coming out well. I love looking at yarn in the stores, but I'm not a very good knitter, so I've been just window shopping. I saw this at Michael's.
Really beautiful, and really expensive! I made my niece a scarf one year from Christmas, and made a tiny hat for one of my stuffed animals - that's about the extent of my skills.
Jazzy, I wish we had a Sunday night mediation group here. It's something I've wanted to try. There is a Monday night group, but it's a lot harder to get to something like that on a week night - for instance, this Monday night I have an evening meeting for work. Maybe I can get there next Monday.
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Cubbie- the meditation class tonight was so good. They are doing a chakra series and tonight was the heart chakra. The yoga studio has brought in this couple who have studied with Deepak Chopra in CA and they are very good. I won't be able to go next Sunday (have a concert to do with some friends here in town), but will continue on into December. I talked to the couple who said they plan to keep this going beyond that so I think I will be doing this going forward. It is only 30 min and I have a routine where I go to the gym and then stop there on the way home for a little quiet centering time.
One of the things one of the leaders said tonight around the heart chakra is that it is what wants us to feel united with others. And that when our hearts are closed, it creates separation with others which creates more suffering. Made me think about that and the ways I allow myself to shut down and others out. I am going to be working on some heart opening work this week through my yoga practice. Feeling separated from others is just never a good thing.
Keep looking on line in your area. Check out Yoga Finder for yoga studios that may offer something similar?
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Cubbie sure send a picture .I am nut about crocheting and knitting. I ll sell some of my favorite at an event this coming weekend
I ll try to make some fingerless gloves and hats this week.
Good night ladies hope this is a better week for all of us.
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Morning ladies!
O gosh BB and E. Yea, lots of uh hm, weirdo's out there. Be careful.
I had a male friend over Friday night. Had a great visit. Known each other for 8yrs and he has always been very open and honest about his feelings for me. That switch. Wish we had a switch we could turn on and off, ya know? Some good guys I know that I just feel no 'connection' with. Then theres the guys who seem to really give me a run for my money, aren't in touch with themselves or their emotions, and yep. Those are the ones my stoopid brain/heart, whatever, falls for.
Love the cute little sweater E. So when do you get your results?
Jazzy-whew, can't wait until I have that much energy again! Eh. Some people earn that place in our lives Jazz. Some actually work hard for it. But I agree with BB, you don't come across that way here at all.
BB-I have never done yoga. Did it help you before? Relax?
Morning Cubbie!
I am knocking out #3 to the last rad's today
SO happy! My underboob is still sore and burnt a bit past the second layer in some small places. My underarm is doing much better.Hope all have a great day!
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Good morning ladies! I slept really well last night after all the exercise and yoga. Went to bed early last night and slept through the night. That is pretty rare for me. So grateful for a good night's rest!
BB- you are right that I try to be mostly open, but certain people and situations can make me feel shut down and separate. So I try to be aware of those situations and think last night reminded me not allow external events and selected people create that feeling. Last night helped me to create awareness around it. Sometimes you just have to tell yourself "that is not my STUFF!"
Simplicity- you sound like you had a nice evening Friday with your friend. It is nice to have quality male companionship around even if you don't want anything more with them. And well, the heart wants what it wants. I too have looked at some men I just could not get a spark with and wished I could. It is good to spend time with people who care about us!
About yoga, I have been doing it since 1998 and it is really good for many things. It is really a combination of physical, breath work and has a spiritual dimension as well. Many yoga teachers will tell you that yoga is a "moving meditation." Yoga was one of the first things I was able to do after all my surgeries but that being said, given what you have gone through with this treatment plan, you should ask your doctors and/or PT about yoga. Many cancer centers have info on specific classes for cancer patients in the area. The last time I was at my breast surgeon's office for follow up, she had a flyer for a yoga class being talk by an RN who was also a bc survivor. That is the best way for you to start. I am here for questions about all things yoga and am going to a class today myself!
E- looking forward to a good week and sending good vibes out to the universe for good results on your test!
For all that are interested in yoga as well as meditation classes, this link is a great resource for everything!
Wishing everybody a good week!
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bb I am so sorry things are still terrible. I feel it's just a freaking Rollercoaster. One year we are up high the next we are down I am feeling it due to my debts it's so hard to pay all on our own. This bc made me lose all I had saved. Plus
Well I wonder what can I say to make you feel better.
Sending u lots of strength stay strong girlfriend
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I am so sad . I just know this xtmas is going to hurt so much. My sister was our xtmas spirit she was the one who always made a huge deal out of xtmas. Anyway I am making fingerless gloves
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Hugs, ladies.
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BB- I am glad you found some people who are helping you better to work towards a job. Isn't it amazing to find someone who can take some of the things you have done and spin magic on paper for you? This sounds very positive and hope you can continue down this path to find employment. so you can take care of yourself.
E- I am sorry you are missing your sister. I have not enjoyed the end of the year holidays since my brother died 23 years ago. He was way into Xmas and loved picking out special gifts for people. Rare for a man I know, my brother was a very kind and sensitive soul. There is just no way to not miss them this time of the year. I like to lay low during the holidays and keep things simple.
And those finger less gloves are super cute.
I had some business things to do this morning, and then went to a yoga class with one of my favorite yoga teachers. We chatted a bit after class and she had been commenting how Thanksgiving is one of those odd holidays out here because of the whole paradigm between the white man and the Native American Indians". Although I have definately noticed that around Columbus Day here, never had thought about it with respect to Thanksgiving. New perspective on this holiday. My yoga teacher said "I think we should just think about this week as a week of gratitude, and focus what are we grateful for." Many of the pueblos have fall feasts and dances, and I was lucky to be invited in one time for one of those not open to the public. They celebrate the harvest and being grateful (and trust me, they have VERY little......)
We are all struggling here on one or more levels. I pray we can each find one thing to be grateful for in our lives right now.
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Enerva and Jazzy, I'm so sorry you are both missing siblings. I can't imagine what that must be like. This time of the year, I miss my Dad. He was never much of a holidays kind of person, although he did like to cook. We'd drag him around anyway, and make him open presents and such. He always liked getting those cheese and sausage samplers, and whenever I see one of those displays in the stores, I think of watching TV with him and trying all those weird flavors. It seems like the older we get, the more the holidays bring up the memories of people who are gone. I feel like no matter how well things go, something is always missing.
This year I am grateful for the wonderful people I work with (who have become real friends) and for access to good medical care.
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Cubbie- I am sorry you are missing your dad. I love your comment about the cheese and sausage samplers. My dad loved those types of things too. We used to visit the Hickory Farms store in the town next door quite often when I was a kid! I remember it was tough to find good gifts for him. My father loved those fruitcakes in a tin too. He is the ONLY person I have ever known who loved a Xmas fruitcake!
What did you finally work out with your family about Thanksgiving?
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Good morning here I go on a bus to the metro lol
I cry last night I am not sure what is it if it's just me missing my sister my mom my brother my pets or if it's the hole xtmas thing which every year seems to bring only memories of happier times .
I ll wait for my test results and I ll start to study on my next exam this Saturday I realized that when I study my hours go fast and I have no sorrow no sadness I wish I could crochet all the time but it is more like a meditation for me it does not take away sad memories. Study does the trick it ll help me go through this month .
Hope you all have an amazing day
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E- hugs on the tears and missing your sister. Things still very new and raw there for you sister. I get exactly what you are saying about better days.
Having things to focus on over the holidays do help. Getting those tests knocked out is good to focus on right now. Wishing you a better day and some peace in your heart.
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Afternoon ladies.
I miss my brother too. We were really tight. Lost him in 03 not long after my exh left. It's just me and my mom now on the east coast. All have passed in the last 12 yrs. Uncle, Aunt, brother, Nany & 2 Papas's
Y family on the west coast, well, very different views and my father is an asshole to say the least. He tries, with little effort. Eh. LAST RADIATION TOMORROW!!!!!!!
Holy hell I am sooooo excited!!!! Lots of strange emotions but I'm okay. SP is slowly communicating. I don't even care to let my brain or heart try to figure that out right now. It'll be what it'll be.
E, my male friend, is a really good guy. I tried telling him that I may just be reaching for something right now. I'm not really sure to be honest. I need him to tread carefully and patiently. If he had his way we'd be married by Christmas. OY. Either too fast or too slow. Sheeesh. Such a sweetheart thou. Bastard Cupid. (sorry don't typically like the word, but it fits).
Hope everyone has a great day!!! HUGS!!
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Love the picture of cupid
I am OK today had a busy day as usual
All ok I ll finish the little girls sweater tonight 2 more days to know the results of my exam.
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Enerva- you are going to pass this one. I am rooting for you!
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Simplicity, can't believe the last day is here already! It seems like just yesterday we were discussing how many treatments you had left, back when it was still in the double digits.
I am sorry you are missing a brother, also. This makes me feel fortunate to still have both my siblings, even when we drive each other crazy.
LOL at the picture of cupid. Bad aim explains a lot.
Enerva, hang in there, crochet, and breathe.
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ok I finished the sweater and a hat and the gloves. Tomorrow ll make another set of gloves here is the finished product. I need your help as per how much should I sell these for? I ll be selling this Saturday I have acumulated a few on Friday I ll lade all in my bed so you guys help me lol
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E- those items are cute. Glad to help with giving you suggestions for pricing.
Yes, your Thanksgiving is before ours. You have Boxing Day coming up too. Do people do anything special to celebrate that?
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No people just go and line up in the mid le of the night so they can buy sale stuff lol
Boxing day is for shopping
Is similar to your black Friday event store over price things then pretend to be giving a sale
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E- consumerism there and here! The last time I did a black Friday thing was probably 35 years ago in college. That and the day after Xmas sales I used to do with my mother. I do my Xmas shopping all year long so it's done by October and so I can mail things by November.
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oh bb. I am so sorry I wish I could help but as you know I think he just does not exist .hang in there .
I finish 2 more jazz lol hopping tmw I ll start organizing to see what prices to charge.
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The only time I have done black Friday was one year there was a sale at Guitar World, and I wanted to buy a sale item for my nephew. That was more of a tactical strike. The music store wasn't too bad at 8:00 in the morning.
Enerva, I wish my stitches were as neat and consistent as yours. I know that comes with lots and lots of practice.
BB, I hope you can find a new doctor soon. Making all those phone calls is exhausting after a while, probably because it's so frustrating. I spent a bunch of time today talking to doctor's offices and the insurance company.
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good morning. Wishing you all an amazing day.
Cubbie I agree with you. I got the practice during my treatments I used this as my distraction along with school. You are right with practice the end result becomes very nice .
Today is the Xmas party I ll try my best
I don't even want to go lol
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BB- I did not see your post until this morning. Does the authorization from the medical professional have to be from orthopedic related? Can you talk to your MO or a PCP to explain the situation and see if they can give you some paperwork to help you get into this program so you can support yourself? My guess is you would be more likely to get the help you need from an established doc than someone new.
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I applied for seasonal work, but they never called me back.
I'm still looking, though. Hope you're all doing well.
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hi .life hope you get a call soon
Happy thanks giving I stayed till now it's 8:50 pm I am now on the train party was good .well lost of food and I had my 2 drinks so I got quite drunk lol red wine . I am glad I went I ll pm u ladies a few pictures with my coo- a students they are so great .
I felt wierd they are all so young and I hang out with them . Honestly I did not get to mingle with many others I sat on a table and did not move much lol
Here I go on a Train to a station then to catch a bus since I did not drive today. Knowing I was going to have 2 drinks lol
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