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  • rachelvk
    rachelvk Member Posts: 564
    edited May 2013

    Karen - So sorry to hear about your Dad. I'll keep him, and your family, in my thoughts.

  • karen1956
    karen1956 Member Posts: 4,622
    edited May 2013

    My father passed away Thursday May16th, the second day of Shavuot at 12:50pm.  My husband and I were with him at the time of his passing.  The funeral is Friday the 17th.  We will sit Shiva at my house. My grandfather passed away 25 years ago on the 2nd day of Shavuot....my mother will have the same yarztheit for her husband as she has for her father.   Karen

  • Latte
    Latte Member Posts: 141
    edited May 2013

    Karen, so sorry to hear about your father. Wishing you and your family long life.

  • Leah_S
    Leah_S Member Posts: 1,929
    edited May 2013

    ברוך דין האמת

    Karen, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I know the special bond you had with your father, and the pain you have now must be immense.

    המקום ינחם אותך בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים

    May you know no further sorrow.

    Leah

  • JoanQuilts
    JoanQuilts Member Posts: 265
    edited May 2013

    So sorry for your family's loss, Karen.  May his memory be for a blessing.  Joan

  • pessa
    pessa Member Posts: 137
    edited May 2013

    So sorry to hear of your father's passing.  May you have no more tzaar and may Hashem bring you comfort.

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 5,290
    edited May 2013

    Karen,

    I am so sorry for your loss. May your father rest in peace.

    Caryn

  • dassi52
    dassi52 Member Posts: 152
    edited May 2013

    Karen, so sorry to hear about your Dad. At least you were able to be with him till the end  . המקום ינחם אותך התוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים

  • ablydec
    ablydec Member Posts: 36
    edited May 2013

    Karen,

       Hamakom yehachem etchem, both you and your mother.  We are all thinking of you, and wishing you comfort.  Shoshana

  • JoanQuilts
    JoanQuilts Member Posts: 265
    edited May 2013

    I'd like to share some good news from my family:  my son's bar mitzvah this past Shabbat and my graduation on Monday with an MSW (Masters in Social Work) from the Rutgers School of Social Work.

    Last year at this time, I was 6 days PFC.  What a difference a year makes.  Wishing you all nachas and all good things now and forever.  Joan

  • dassi52
    dassi52 Member Posts: 152
    edited May 2013

    Mazal tov on both counts!

  • ablydec
    ablydec Member Posts: 36
    edited May 2013

    Mazel tov!  I was a Rutgers girl too.  (I'm a psychologist, and went to grad school there.)

    (p.s. what is "PFC"?)

  • karen1956
    karen1956 Member Posts: 4,622
    edited May 2013

    Joan....Mazel Tov to you on your son becoming a Bar Mitzvah and on completing your MSW  Laughing

    Ablydec....not a Rutgers girl, but PhD. is Psych....practicing School Psych here!!!!

  • pessa
    pessa Member Posts: 137
    edited May 2013

    Mazel Tov on your son's bar mitzva and on getting your MSW.  I have an MSW , too.  My nephew went to Rutgers (BA in psychology).

  • Doragirl34
    Doragirl34 Member Posts: 38
    edited May 2013

    Wow I'm so excited I found this thread! It's nice to be here with my Jewish sisters.



    Joan, my son just became a Bar Mitzvah April 27th. He was amazing! I'm so proud of him. I've spent the last year battling cancer, surgeries, and chemotherapy and that boy continued to study and practice. Hearing my rabbi call him to the bima gave me chills. Ahhhh I'm still pumped from his day.



  • JoanQuilts
    JoanQuilts Member Posts: 265
    edited May 2013

    Thank you all!  And Dora, mazel tov to you too!  It is amazing to watch our kids achieve!

  • NYCchutzpah
    NYCchutzpah Member Posts: 148
    edited May 2013

    Just want to put in my 2 cents. I love reading a board that has so much good news.    Mazel Tov to the lucky ones.

  • Doragirl34
    Doragirl34 Member Posts: 38
    edited May 2013

    So true. Many boards are really negative or kinda downers. But on the other hand sometimes it hard not to be. When you consider all the stuff we've gone through, are going through, and face to face it becomes intense.

  • Gayle56
    Gayle56 Member Posts: 111
    edited May 2013

    Karen so sorry to hear about your father.  My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

    Joan - congrats on both fronts.  This Tuesday will be the one year anniversary of ending radiation - you are right - a year makes such a difference.

    Dora -congrats on your son as well. 

    It is nice to come here and hear some good news.

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 5,290
    edited May 2013

    A big mazel tov to you Joan and your son! What a proud moment for you.



    Doragirl, glad to have you here and mazel tov to you too. As many here know, I am from the Bronx. I grew up assuming that there were few, if any Jews, outside larger cities. I was surprised, when I lived in Texas, to find Jews there ( Shabbat Shalom, y'all). Even though I know better now, it still surprises me to find Jews outside of metropolitan areas. So my first thought when I saw your post was, Jews in Stockton? I laughed because my younger dd is getting married in two weeks to a nice Jewish boy from Dublin, CA. We are all over the place! I'm in San Jose, so we're practically neighbors. Take care.

    Caryn

  • ptdreamers
    ptdreamers Member Posts: 639
    edited May 2013

    Got married in the temple in Stockton forty eight years ago. Even then we were all over.Smile

  • Doragirl34
    Doragirl34 Member Posts: 38
    edited May 2013

    Yes even in Stockton, lol.



    Ptdreamers-you did? Wow! I was named and confirmed at Temple Israel. My babies were named there too and the bar mitzvah. We are very lucky to have such an amazing Rabbi and educator. Was the Rabbi who married you Rabbi Rosenberg?

  • rachelvk
    rachelvk Member Posts: 564
    edited June 2013

    Karen - I'm so sorry to hear about your father. I hope you and your family are comforted with his memories.

    Dora - Welcome. This is a special group of women.

  • karen1956
    karen1956 Member Posts: 4,622
    edited June 2013

    Shava Tov.....today marks the end of the sheloshim for my father.....tonight, I'm having a really tough time with it....just want to have a good cry (but I can't cry)....not sure if tomorrow being Father's Day has anything to do with it, or what.....have a lot of thoughts running through my head... guilt,  sadness and lots of feelings that I can't explain....trying to figure out how to move on for the rest of the "yud bet chodesh.....his first yartzheit is June 5th....so the year is really more than a year on the secular calendar......this is harder than I could have ever imagined!!!!

  • JoanQuilts
    JoanQuilts Member Posts: 265
    edited June 2013

    The first year is tough for everything, Karen - holidays, birthdays, etc.

    Little by little it gets easier.  Wishing you strength, peace and love.

  • rachelvk
    rachelvk Member Posts: 564
    edited June 2013

    Karen - I hope you're feeling a little better. I've never lost a parent, so I can't offer any real advice. But you're in our thoughts.

  • Doragirl34
    Doragirl34 Member Posts: 38
    edited June 2013

    Karen as my moms yahrzeit approaches 7/15 i miss her more than ever. I cry whenever I need to. I simply can't hold it back. I miss her, I need her. When I say mourners Kaddish I think of her every single time. I'm approaching 3 years since she passed and I hate it.

    Having cancer and not my mom by my see was so depressing. But I still held my head high.



    Keep your head up and continue to honor your father.



  • karen1956
    karen1956 Member Posts: 4,622
    edited June 2013

    Joan, Rachel and Dora....thanks.....I've been doing better the past week or so. Father's day was extremely hard in the morning...I just cried...but as the day went on it got better. We had MOm over for a cook out and grilled steaks....she was thrilled!!!!    Last week, Mom and I met with an attorney regarding Dad's will (which I had read many times) and I thought it would be tough but it wasn't.  My parents have a contract on their condo in Florida and all the paper work is coming to me.  It seems, when I am doing "business" things its okay.  Its the other stuff that is hard.  I didn't go see Mom today (only the 2nd time since they moved here) but I talked to her on the phone twice.  In some ways, I think it is good for mom, but I don't want to slack off.  Tomorrow we have to get the papers for the condo notarized.

    On the 4th we are going to visit my DD and SIL in Toronto for 4 days, then to Montreal to see my uncle and aunt (MOm's brother)...we will also see one of my cousin's (her mom was Dad's oldest sister and she passed away 3 1/2 weeks before Dad).  Mom doesn't really want to see her other cousins, so that is okay by me.  Mom hasn't really travelled the past couple years because of Dad.  I'm looking forward to it, yet I am also nervous about it.....I used to travel with mom but thats been more years than I can remember....maybe before kids and my oldest is27!!!

  • JoanQuilts
    JoanQuilts Member Posts: 265
    edited July 2013

    I hope our friend exbrnxgrl (Caryn) doesn't mind my posting this here.  She lost her dear mother last week after a short illness.  Caryn and her family are sitting shiva in New Jersey.  May you and your family be comforted among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem, Caryn.

  • karen1956
    karen1956 Member Posts: 4,622
    edited July 2013

    Baruch Dayen HaEmet....Caryn, I'm so sorry for your loss....may your memories bring you peace.  Karen