The Hermit Club
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Where's markat? Gone on a walk about?
Happy Thanksgiving markat where ever you are!
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Whaevsh--Markats probably bsking pies and going somewhere---we're loosing her. WAAAAAAAA
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Happy Thanksgiving to our American Hermits and happy Thursday to you Canadians! Do your stores open tonight for sales? Or tomorrow?
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Happy Thanksgiving to all my American friends. Hope you are all full, happy and get a good rest tonight.
Some of the stores here in Canada had sales today and are opening early tomorow. They are trying to keep the shopping dollars on this side of the border. Especially for those of us who live within 2 hrs or less of a crossing.
Baked today for church bake sale.... did a bit extra to put away .... busy but sleepy tonight .... hopefully that will last.
Love to you all.
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Happy pie to all. (Friend of 30 years showed up today with no warning. It was wonderful.) I second camille's sentiments--am thankful for each of you. Anyone venturing out for bargains? (not I, cries the hermit within)
good sleep wishes for each...
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Hermits I' home--Oh boy the stores are open all nitght in rhe cray state. It't stsrted at 8PM CST-These poor people who have to work all night. They probsbly have 5 of the big items on the big items, but u there so u'll buy something. Geeze.
I hope u had a wonderful day --zit sure felt lon but it was so nice and I'm super tired as u can read---my Katie-Kat missed me alot---so I have to cuddle with her.
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Teka, we had a beautiful sunny day here in Florida too!
Skittle LOL!!! I echo you! Anyone venturing out for bargains? (not I, cries the hermit within)
I third camille's sentiments (second skittle's)--am thankful for each of you.
I am also thankful to my BCO sister who had me over to her home for Thanksgiving Day dinner! It was a really delightful time, good company, and wonderful food that we feasted on!
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Oh, I have to tell you! I went for a drive down "Gulf Blvd. on St. Pete Beach" tonight. One of the beach/surf shops sells "Hermits Crabs" and the marquis outside was flashing..."Come in to get your HERMIT CRAB"...and it had a little picture of the crab poking her head out of the shell!!! Guess who I thought of??? YOU ALL!!! Made me smile!
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Hope that is with lots of whip cream .... you just said that to make us jealous.
No black friday shopping for me ... don't really need more stuff.... except fo a new kitchen floor.
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Oh Teka I could do that anytime, yes with real whipped cream==yummy
I' celebrsting Blac Friday with scary B movies. as usual. So u know darn well I'm not goin out today--It started snowing. And after yesterday I have a brunch to go to with my other roup of friends who I've known forever two are my cousin and sister so yea forever an the rest of the girls since we were little so I have to really rest up and be in the mood.--That means relax now and party sunday. Hey that's 3x this week--This is alot for me. LOL
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I always look forward to it---But like today Im exhaisted still from from yesterday so I barely m LOL just nappin and pickin on food.oved Teka
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Went to pick up DD#1 from school to bring her home for the weekend.
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Jane doesn't that feel good. Have a great weekend enjoying each other.
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Ya'll I am still around - so sorry I just cannot keep up with all of you wild women! Yes, we are getting two rescue chihuahuas...not until December though. Rads is going fine, 7 down, 21 to go. I feel bad posting when I cannot stay caught up with everyone else. Have a good weekend.
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Klt there's nothing to catch up on here. We're all the same, just let us know how u'r doing.
Yes we are all so wild One sentence Teka (LOL) is pretty much what's happening hahaha
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kltb04 nice to see you ! Good to hear rads are going well. Oh my, what a busy house you will have with 2 new puppies. Hope the cats are ok, mine would never adjust. I bet the kids are excited.
Playing on my laptop and I am about ready to throw it through the window. Keep losing wifi connection and won't go in the office for fear of the mounds of paper I need to address. Behind at work so I have to buckle up next week.
Have a great weekend all~
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Whaevah u'll catch up I' sure--How u girls works amazes me --sometimes I think I could work part time but realistically I'd have more days off than on so that job would fall apart. So here I am just playin on the computer and watching TV and going out when I can and Im fine My D stopped a little while ago so I hope it stays away I want to meet my GF's for lunch tom. and I have blood work and A bone scan Monday- So if it stays away til Tuesday I'll be happy..
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Busy hermits! Yay, puppies!
flwarrior--you make me miss the beach! Wish we had settled there. Love love sand and ocean.
bgirl--somehow have always been waaay more successful with puppy and dog training than hubby training. :-) Praise just doesn't seem to work really well. Dunno why.
whaevah--I sympathize with back to work woes. Seven-inch stack of essays waiting to be graded. Guess I'll have to actually face them tomorrow... back to reality.
camille--best wishes for good blood work and bone scan results. Feel good for your outings!
teka--
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Skittle...how about a bonfire !? Between us we can probably fuel enough for marshmellow for the gang here
flwarrier..went to the beach today, it was chilly but sunny...lol hermit crab
camillegal...lunching with girls is considered a job in my book, fun but still a job
bgirl...have a fun weekend with DD1, let her eat pie!
teka..
markat...hope our show is good tonight, I am having wine...again. It is delicious , really missed it
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whaevah--let the flames begin! (but since it's your idea--that I love and can fully throw my energies behind, what do I tell the parents??)
Hermits, all--whoever wins the lottery buys us each a ticket to meet, have pie, roast marshmallows, and put up our freshly polished toes in the luxury of a spa on the beach.
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Skittle ..tell the parents whaevah
got my ticket, we're all in
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Hi all! Sorry I've been gone. Crazy here trying to get decorations out, clean after the slobs and working on a picture calendar project for my MIL.
K- pop in more. Just come in and say hi!
Whaevah, is our show new or rerun?
Hugs to all!
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Journey4Life:
This is in response to your post about how to move forward.
First off, give yourself a break and don't be too hard on yourself that you received a "meets expectations" on your performance review. It might have had to be listed that way only as a technicality if you were out of the office a lot, so as to not show favoritisim towards you, and not other employees. Look at it only as a matter of HR. And if for some reason your performance was down, that's okay. You were working harder for something much more important - your life!
Second, I was stuck in limbo for several months post-chemo. 2 things helped me move forward. 1) I felt a huge sense of relief when the Moonshot Project was announced and detailed by Dr. Sanjay Gupta. He said it would cut the death rate in half for TNBC within a few years. I know there are a lot of promises out there regarding BC but I felt different about his statement. 2) get busy with stuff you did before your dx.
It made me realize that life is moving forward, with or without me. Like you said (and my Oncologist warned me it would be this way), people stop checking in on you when you are done with treatment. I looked great, have a new body (lost 22 lbs) have a great wig, so people see me only as healthy me. But I think that is good, we don't want to be viewed as sick when we are healed. And now when I get a text and someone says "how are you?" I get defensive, because I'm "fine" what does this message mean, why wouldn't I be?!! LOL
But I think in general getting busy helps, and removing things that remind you of it. For instance, if you had a certain tote bag you took to chemo, then get rid of it. It will always be a reminder. I did a purge of stuff.
Take it one day at a time. Wake up, open the drapes and say "what a beautiful day it is" - and then realize you have an opportunity to live it, and then do things that make you happy. Treat yourself a little while you are moving through this phase. And if you have a really bad day, then let yourself have a really bad day. Turn the phone off, have a good cry, take a nap, or watch your favorite TV program or call a girlfriend and discuss your fears. It can be expected to have a bad day once in a while, even with moving forward. Just give in to it the whole day, so the next day you can go back to your normal happier self.
I hope this helps you some!
Hugs.
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Debra Good Advice.---Did I know u'r a writer? Sometimes I know then I forget. And u can work from home? Wow That's impressive to me. My DD wanted to do one of 2 rhins in her life and that was one---She got extremey ill and that blew her dreams. But I'm glad u'rs are in tact. Not thst I'm opposing u'r ideas, but it's harder for some than others. I hate when I hear so many of u are so young and hae young kidds to care for.It's like a hit in my face, And I'm much older so it is easier for me I've just learned to accept it.
But my big thing was to have a computer so that I could reach out to other people--I've never been on the internet before any of this and about 2 yrs ago I started and I'm still learning, so to me it's kept me busy (just learning) and I hace met so many wonderful people from all over and it's filled my life so altho that's sounds simple--to me being my age it's magical--I never thought I'd get close to people this way never and I'm so happy knowing people like this so this is how I've moved on---Am I making sense cuz my mind feels jumbly this morning. And this group is certainly on top of my list.This is one hell of a group, caring, loving, funny and working to get past this and I love it.
And I'm in girls---if I win we all win. Yeah
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Debra, you may want to send that in a private message to Journey, it may get lost in the shuffle of our chatting. Congratulations on moving forward and achieving your goals.
I finally finished my calendar project for MIL. My 20-30yo nieces and nephews are jerks. Not one of them sent me any pictures. So I had to scour old photo books and their facebooks to get get pictures. Grow up assholes, lol.
I'm letting the girls decorate the tree today. I'm dragging!0 -
Busy weekend, not much for hermitude .... went up to my brother's about 2 hrs away. They were hosting a party for my younger brother and his family who are leaving in a month to go to Australia for a year. So lots of family... just got home a little while ago. My head is kind of spinning.... don't think I am the only one ... No one spoke at all on the drive home. Happy to sleep in my own bed tonight.
Glad everyone seems to have had a good weekend. Cami, will keep fingers crossed on the big D for you.
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Hi guys I made it out today--It was iffy this morning but I just double my pills so I went and I was so glad bit of my GFs came in at the same time from FL so we were sll together It was so much fun. I really enjoyed it.now I'm exhausted totally. LOL And tomorrow I go for the neuclear
bone scan and I hst that one--I get that stupid stuff and have to just wait for 2 hrs. ick I'll go for my blood work first. than that stpid shot-- hrs. WTF is that that's why I hate it--after all I have so much to do all day. hahaha
Markat sorry u didn't get cooperation, sometimes I think people forget easily.
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Skittles, I made it through the weekend without burning down the office...winning! Tomorrow is a new day so all bets are off.
markat, I missed our show again, sleeping. Must have been the pizza and wine I stuffed myself with. First pizza since March, DH usually makes them from scratch which I love, but this one was take out and I am now the poster child for sodium. Carried on with the healthy theme and had blueberry waffles and bacon for brunch. I look like a blowfish, but I don't feel bad or guilty, just piggish and bloated.
Last night was a sweat bath. I opened all the windows and DH cuddled up in a snowsuit. My 10lb cat slept on me, locking the blankets in place, creating a sauna. I kept moving him and he kept moving back. This morning I was telling DH how affectionate kitty was, he said...nah, he was looking for warmth in the bedroom/freezer. I was surprised he said that, I didn't look surprised though...no eyebrows.
My laptop is wanting to take a flying leap through a window but the dishwasher beat it to it. So i better post fast while waving it through the air looking for connection. I know, looks crazy but .........
markat, you have your tree up! I am impressed, envious and happy for you. Not that anyone could tell...you know...eyebrow thingy.
hope all hermits are happy
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Cami - sending you positive vibes for tomorrow - hope everything goes well and that the results come back great! How long before you know the results?
Regarding my earlier post ....
Even moving forward, there are still some times when I take a step backwards. It is a continual process. There are good days, and bad days. But in general I was miserable in limbo. I have either moved forward a little or I have gone back into denial.
) Before I wrote my post, I did have 10 months of being stuck in a rut. But eventually the rut was wearing me out.I would loathe when someone would tell me "you've got to get on with your life." That is so much easier said than done. But what helped me was getting so busy that I forgot about me. It made me feel good for once to think about someone else or something else.
I told Journey4Life, that even now, I will try to take a nap, and dream really hard, and hope to wake up and find that this has all been a nightmare. But it hasn't worked yet. Last year I waited through Christmas for the biopsy results. I keep thinking maybe I drank a little bit too much spiked eggnog and fell into a weird dream sequence. No such luck, it appears!
It is hard moving forward, but each day I get a little stronger.
I also find lots of hot green tea and dark chocolate helps.
) I remember the first time I was able to laugh again after finding out my diagnosis. Thinking of all of you right now -- and hope you all have a great week! I'm proud of myself, I didn't hit any stores this weekend. I'm planning on seeing what the internet has tomorrow for Cyber Monday.
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