The Hermit Club
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Teka I do to--but I love the spirit of Christma and yea It's sad too thinking of all the yrs behind with so many loved ones not with us anymore. But we have the young ones now so I love it--I think this will be the lat year for Santa for my S I know he still believes but next he'll know and we celebrate for 2 days and it's nice.
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Cami - hope you are ok today.
Skittle - not offended about Siamese comment (my MIL had a couple of nasty ones over the years) but I wouldn't use those terms for my own. Sucky/keep me warm/love me ... one will put his paws on DH when he comes home and cry till he gets picked up ... kind of like a 2 year old. But the were brothers from same litter ... got them as a pair ... family raised and not from a breeder. Very social and like company .... so it is great they have each other. Indoor kitties ... only in yard with supervison.
SNL Christmas special ... watched/slept my way through part of it. Shouldn't have put my feet up ... then I was awake at 3 am
Hope today is a better one for all
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Jane my D finally stopped for now anyway--but I'm off to another Dr.s app't so I'll check in later.
Have a great day everyone.
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I'm feeling so much better today.
I hope everyone is having a good day. Camille let us know how the doctor goes.0 -
OK I'm home---my blood pressure is wsay down good, lost a couple of lbs since 2 weeks ago--I told them they should not weight people during holiday time--that's just cruel and unusual punishment. I have to get bloodwork done sgsin in 2 weeks and he wants me in again. Now I have to start with the gas, Dr. very soon--when I'm ready hahaha--My onc did say I see her in Jan. she thought my scan looked good but she's going to wacth my rib--so no worries about that either---So things are goodhahaha except for how I feel most of the time--LOL and that's the same old stuff. So I'm done for a couple of weeks. YaY.
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Yay Camille, glad your bp was down!
Would you guys clobber me if I told you I put up tree #2 today
For some reason I'm really excited about the holidays this year.
Job is postponed until Jan. I knew that would happen. I'm relieved and upset about the money at the same time.
Teka glad you have until after christmas to go to the doc.0 -
My tree is still in the basement, it might just stay there..slacker I am.
But, I do have a plan for today, that will even include pictures for you guys! I started chemo Monday, so that means I have what..14 days or so till I'm bald? Seeing as how it's all going to fall out anyway, I'm cutting it short and going to dye it purple. Be back in a few with some before and after pics.
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Lol, I know. My mansion is so big though, that if you walk from one side of it to the other you might just forget that it's Christmas
I have a big one in the living room and a smaller one in the family room. Last year, Christmas was on my "good week" after chemo and I dragged the whole time. I did get the tree up and down on my next "good week" in January. So this year I may be going a little over board. I refuse to participate in that Elf on Shelf nonsense though. Creepy stuff.Stormy, can't wait to see the purple! I shaved mine in to a mohawk before shaving it off. My hair held on til around day 21 I think, but it was coming out in handfuls.
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Glad everyone seems to be feeling better today!
And... -2 pounds and lower bp, 2 trees in a mansion, short and purple hair do... I'll stay tuned for pics!
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Cami - happy for your realatively good news.
Markat glad you are feeling better today.
Purple hair .... can't wait
2 trees!!! ... if I don't get mine up this weekend it will probably have to wait for the kids to put it up when they come in 2 weeks. May try to make an effort ... Christmas was not totally festive last year.
In ultimate hermitude again tonight. DH out for 5th night in a row (3rd time for dinner) so just me, cats tv & computer again. Oh and I'm stripping the wallpaper in the kitchen ... DH thinks I'm a little crazy, because I have been saying for 2 years that I want to paint the kitchen before Christmas .... really... it is going to happen this year!!! Hopefully in next week before my surgery.
Oh, today's funny story ... Booked an appointment for a complete physcial 3 or 4 months ago with my PCP. Looked at calendar today and thought maybe I should call and ask if it is waste of time and just book to renew my prescriptions and get bloodwork. Told secretary I had all gyn stuff done already. So she asks if I have had a breast exam recently. Umm ... yeah. Told her MRI, mammogram & 2 exams 1 by RO & 1 by BS ... yep I think we got that covered! She laughed. I told her, ironically that my boobs are the least of my problems lately.
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Hi all - whew - I've been swamped with work, and haven't had a chance to pop in. Feel like I've missed so much! Cami - so glad your doc visit went well. I called my onc today to see the results of my last CA 27.29 3 weeks ago. It's down by a few points, which I'm taking as a good sign - not as anything definitive - but good in that it's not shooting up. Maybe the Xeloda and Tamoxifen is working. Only on my 2nd cycle - so too soon, probably, to really tell.
Hats off to you, Markat! I quit putting trees up after my son moved out of the house. I just hate the work of taking them down! I love the way they look - I'm just so lazy these days. Kind of like, I love awesome salads and sandwiches, but I hate making them.
Stormy - that's awesome, purple hair! May hair started really going on day 16 when I had chemo the first time.
Whaevah - I haven't read Bossy Pants - but I love Tina Fey, and have so much respect for her talent. I need to check that book out...I love books that can make me laugh out loud. I'm an avid reader, and I'm in need of a book to take my mind off of all this crud - especially to help me sleep at night, right when my mind gets up to all kinds of mischief...
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I second FLwarrior--sounds like a good day!
wow. two trees. We make an annual trek to a tree farm, hmm, going on 25 years now. Love the smell of the fresh tree, and it just makes things feel more centered somehow. So much has changed; I guess I need the reassurance of a little thing staying the same.
Purple hair. Wish I had the wild side to pull that off.
Everyone keep feeling better! ((( )))
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before...
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It went kind of pinkish...but it'll work lol
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Stormy it looks great! Love the Sturgis tee
LL, my girls are only 7 and 8, so we still have santa and all that jazz. No Elf on the Shelf though. I think it's probably the last year for santa, so that's probably another reason I'm going all out.
Skittle, I would love a real tree...but so would my animals, lol. No better time than now to let your Freak Flag fly
I'm sure your school would love it if you came in with neon green hair or something!Whaevah, my DH is a die hard golfer...like plays 4x a week. I just ordered him personalized golf balls with Schweddy on them. I hope they don't get flagged for copyright infringement or anything. I thought I was pretty clever...schweddy balls
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Purple Hair --I love it--ooo I just asked my dgtr---she's going to foil my hair--I'm all white now--never knew but I want to keep some in and foil a different color she said she can foil SOME puple and then brown and keep some silver ---Good idea stormy.
And 2 trees I love that too and Markat I really love that u'r in the mood for 2.
everyone seems bright tonite and that's such a good thing. All our Decorations r done too. My IL started out unhappy just putting up a tree---I can't believe it but this house looks like the Griswolds--cuz we combined all our lights and stuff so in and out u can wear sunglasses in here and outside hahaha And I love that too. We brightened hime up lots.
Stormy PICTURES
LL I agree about making things I actually made a sandwich today--even shocked myself--Doesn't everything just seem like alot. LOL
Bgirl U'd think all the Drs would be in sync---hahaha kibd of funny Bgirl.
I'm checking back later to see if some pict are in. Yaay
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Markat - I used to do a lot more when my kids were younger. But yeah, I still want to make them feel like they are coming home for Christmas. You are inspiring me.
Love the hair
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Purple hair for everyone! Feels so strange, and so light. I think this is the shortest I've ever had my hair.
My kids said they want to deco the big pine tree outside and that would be enough for them. So looks like Saturday I'm gonna turn them loose with my Christmas boxes out there and see what we end up with.
Have to go all out when they are that age Markat, my youngest is 11 now, so they don't get to worked up about it anymore.
Kinda sad, but it's ok, less work for me now. lol0 -
Jane, so funny about the doc! Glad you're catching the decorating bug. I've been saying that I wanted to paint my kitchen for the last 2 years also...I doubt mine will get done! I'm sure your dds will love whatever you do.
Stormy, that's awesome about the outside tree. You guys will have to remind me how enthusiastic I was about decorating when I have it all still up at Easter, lol!
Camille, you should have DD take a pic of the back of your head when she does it and post it! It sounds awesome. My house is a little Griswaldish too. I love colored lights. Our stuffy neighborhood only puts up clear lights outside, but I have a row of red candy canes in front of our walk.
Edited to fix *your* to *our*. Didn't want Camille to think I snuck over to her house and put candy cane lights up on her walk, hahaha.
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I love Easter trees...add some eggs and a bunny on top and it's good to go.
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Easter trees are beautiful. I could do all the holidays. Valentines, Mardi Gras, St. Patricks, Easter, my birthday, July 4th, back to school, halloween, Thanksgiving...and back to Christmas!
Also, no offense against people who put up clear lights! They do look pretty. I just don't like being told what to do, haha. It makes me want to put huge blow ups all over the roof and have a laser light show to music
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Markat u are in the mood----Good Morning all____and Markat u'r describing our house too, with the candy canes and multi ligts, OK I admit when I dod live alon my tree was up all year just changed for every season--I really enjoyed it at night--it was onky 4ft tho and I was lazy even then.
Anyway Markat u'r zoomin people happy,
And where's the purple hair??? I'm waiting---tap, tap, tap---that's my big ole foot in wait.
Teka r u there, just a smiley face will be nuff--unles u want to say something. LOL
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Stormy - I think your hair looks great! Cami - your plan with foils sounds good! I bet it will turn out really pretty.
I'm getting ready today to fly to Chicago tomoroww to see my DS! He's 23 (can't remember if I mentioned that before). I'm fortunate that I have a meeting there for work on Monday - so the flight there and back for me is free. And I have enough hotel points for 2 free nights at a hotel, and 1 free day of rental car. All I'll have to pay is for the rental car for one day (and food of course) - but we just made an easily $500 trip, about $100. I feel like I won the powerball! Can't wait to see him. And he is such a cutie pie, that he says he can't wait to see me too! Getting all goose bumpy just thinking about it!
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Markat ... funny about the blow-ups ... almost did that one year. We built a large detached garage on our property, able to do so because we have a pie-shaped lot on a cul-de-sac ... also able to go up because built into slope ... and if you request it they have to average measurements of 4 corners of building ... so taller than other neighbours could go for a garage. It doesn't look bad, just annoys people who wish they could build one too. They have a blow-up Santa with a helicopter. I so wanted to put it on the roof ... people would see it for miles. DH thought it would be fun too, but worried about the wind on the top of our hill ... afraid helicopter might really take off.
Bought a pre-lit tree last time ... got the multi lights ... clear are just too cold ... like my tree fun and full of memories of many different oranaments not "styled".
Have a small 4 ft tree (set on small table) that I used to put up if we were going away ... put it in family room now ... it has all the ornaments my kids made over the years ... used to let them decorate it ... everything was kid friendly anyway. I think my kids like that I kept their treasures ... often gifts made for mom & dad. Last couple of years I have let my kids do whatever they want ... they have more fun than I do sometimes and less work.
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Hello:
I am new to this web site and seeking a forum to talk to other women who may be going through treatment but not seeking out a support group in their area to go to. I saw this Hermit group and thought "perfect!" Although I am a pretty social person, I have found myself keeping more to myself anyways this year due to some other losses in my life earlier this year. And I decided when I got diagnosed in Sept that I was only sharing this with a very small/core group of friends and family members. I am a self employed consultant and am trying to keep my health issues outside of my professional community, so it does not compromise my ability to be able to work.
I was diagnosed in Sept, had lumpectomy surgery 2 weeks ago, and am now exploring my options for radiation treatment.
I also feel that with anything that goes on for any length of time, your support system wears out and some drift away. I have had so much love and support in my life this year, but know we are now in the holiday zone and people are into holiday events, shopping, xmas tree trimming, etc. I don't begrudge them this, but I am not into any of it and won't be. So I am withdrawing a bit more from a few people as a result. Any of you feeling this now in this time of year?
And as I read this post, I can relate to comments having to educate others on my process, people making comments on how good I look, people wondering when I will be done with treatment, etc. I am spending too much time trying to make other people understand my process, so I can get their support. But am learning to just tell people where I am in the process now, and what I need. Your real support system shows up, calls, cares and they want to help.
I welcome the collective wisdom of this group of women! Peace sisters!0 -
Hi, Jazzygirl -
Welcome! I am so sorry to hear of your recent diagnosis. This is a great place to laugh, cry and just commiserate.
I too made the decision to only tell friends and family - leaving work colleagues completely out of it. Though, I felt I had to tell my boss - which, in retrospect is a double edged sword. I didn't have to tell him (certainly not right away)...so now that I have, I feel that I am fighting his pre-conceived notions of what a cancer patient is/is not. He expected me to go out on FMLA immediately! I was like, wait - uh, no...I can work just fine right now, thanks. On the other hand, on the pro side - now that I've told him, I feel that I have some job protection. Imagine the lawsuit if they fired me when I do happen to be his top performer (not patting my own back- but it is true) just after a cancer dx.
I have not told any of my other co-workers, because as you said, I don't want this "out there" so that if/when I decide to get another job, that this will be used against me in the hiring decision.
I have only been living with my current dx for a month - but already, I have found I have much less patience for people and situations that sap my energy. Before, I would slog through, feeling I had some obligation to. Now? Not so much. I've been giving myself permission to politely ask for what I need, or politely decline being a part of events and people that make me crazy. And people seem to understand - or maybe they're just too 'scared' of me right now to rock the boat! Either way, I'll take it.
The women here are absolutely lovely, and I'm so glad you've joined us!
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Camille, Stormys pics are up a little bit on the board. I was zoomin last night, high on Christmas tree decorations (plastic toxic fumes?).
LL, so happy you get to see your son...and at a good price. I hope you have a wonderful time! What a sweet boy!
Jane, you should so put it up this year!! Imagine the smiles it would bring you and DH.
Jazzy, welcome! I have been at the point you are at now. It's so hard. I still am detached from people even a year later, but am slowly re-entering. I'm sorry if I sound annoying with the happy-clappy Christmas stuff
These women have supported me through the worst pain and depression I have ever had in my life and I truly love them for holding my hand through it. This is a wonderful thread for support, help, and laughter. Hugs to you!0 -
Jazzy--WELCOME--sorry u have to be here tho--but this is a wonderful group. I think we try to make the best of all our situations and these girls are knowledgeable (not me)--so ask away, vent away, rant away whatever u want or need---we've all benn around the block and I think at times we just want to hide away and not feel judged in any way--And it's common to not want everyone in u'r world to know about u'r private life and that whole feeling of just hiding away from the world sometimes.
Stormy we must have posted at the same time, cuz I missed the PICTURE--Oh it's great--I like the cut too--OK OK I know it's not staying but make it fun whenever u can and however u can. LOL We're with u here in spirit.
Bgirl that's so oldfashiony and I love that about u're tree.
LL OMG u get to see u'r son---Great for sure---are u flying into O'hare or Midway. I live in the suburbs way west of Chicago proper--And it's going to be nice this weekend too. So good for u. Happy time.
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Oh Markat I jut read u'r post and I almost felt wet stuff comin out of my eyes. U sound so much better since I met u and I'm so glad. and U'r so funny.
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Camille, as Teka would say
. You are seriously the most supportive poster on this forum. Group hug for Camille.0
