The Hermit Club
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY bgirl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hope your day is special!
Markat I will probably in the next cell over... I quit tamoxifen a year ago. Right now I am trying DIM again. (I think it has the same effects of making me edgy and irritable. The hot flashes have started back up to.) I spent all morning wrapping gifts that needed to be packed and shipped. I was really dreading going to the post office and waiting in a long line with a bunch of annoying strangers. In addition, I have been hating my hair for the past week or so...can't do a darn thing with it. I made a last minute appointment to get a trim this afternoon. So that added to the stress of getting the packages finished and getting to the post office in time to get to hair appointment. I was pleasantly surprised that the line at the post office was not that long. Everything was fine until this woman and her kid got in line behind me and kept invading my personal space. The kid who was old enough to know better kept touching me and bumping into me. His mom wasn't any better. By this time I am standing all funny with my leg/foot out to the side and elbow out to the side...trying to regain my personal space. I was really close to saying something very rude...thank heavens the line moved. Dang strangers trying to crawl in my shell. NO!
Camille, I agree with bgirl, you are so NOT a bitch! You are quite the party girl this holiday season. I hope you are having lots of fun!
Whaevah did you find the special brownies? Are you sharing? I think Markat and I may need to join you.
Skittle when I heard about the tragedy at the elementary school this morning, I thought of you. Did the kids in your class hear about it during the day? If so, how did they react to it? I feel so sad for those families of the ones shot and all the other kids and teachers at the school. What a horrible life changing event for that little town.
curveball hope you are doing well after your tx yesterday. Sounds like they gave you happy meds...composing lyrics, too funny!
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Hi Teka. I agree
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FLw--Vast majority of my kids did not hear of it until they left for the day. All media was shut down to protect them. We had a few subs with their phones on who kept getting wild on social media, so when that hit, mommas poured in checking their babies out early. That always happens when there is any emergency anywhere on the continent, or if there is a .002% chance of ice. Monday will be the rough one. They want honest answers and want deeply to feel safe. (I'll never forget teaching on 9/11... my first year to teach.) They'll need more hugs and reassurance, but will be ok. The hardest part is addressing mental illness. Most families don't address it with young ones, even if it is galloping through the living room. We'll probably start up our intruder-alert drills again, alongside fire drills and storm drills. What a world.
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My girls probably won't find out about it until Monday when they go to school and they talk about it. I'm big on sheltering unless they bring it up. I figure we might as well have a calm, worry free weekend. I just can't shake it. It's unbelievable that it could happen.
Fl, I hate close talkers and people in my space. Some kid was dancing around me at the store and the mom kept laughing at him. I shrugged it off because I had to hurry home and mainline my coffee.
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Skittle, so glad they liked the Buckeyes!
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Whaevah, hope you're watching our show. It feels weird to laugh today. But I'm glad I am.
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Hi fellow hermits:
Hope you are all surviving your treatments, the holidays, and all that went on this week with the shooting in CT. I am native of CT, although I have not lived there in almost 17 years now, but the news this week went deep into most everyone I think. God bless the children.
I am now a month post bilateral lumpectomy and doing well. Working to make some final decisions on rad treatment that will follow next. Internal rad has been recommended for my case, but requires out of state treatment and will have me out of pocket a couple times for 10 days at a time. Getting a second opinion about external rad treatment options here tomorrow. The decision here has been more complicated than anything else I have gone through, and trying do the right thing without trashing myself medically or financially.
I started back to work recently on a contract for a client I have worked for alot. Told them I needed to only work 30 hours a week for awhile, but already can see the work they think I am going to do for them is more like 60-70 hours a week. So we will have a chat this week and need to figure out a few things. I was tired after working 5 days in a row, 5 hours a day and then felt very down on friday. But snapped out of it. I know we all live with the emotional roller coaster.
I still enjoy my quiet time as it is available to me. Hermitage has it's benefits, especially during the hectic holidays. I have been invited to a few simple outings with nice people next weekend and going to try to go. So many people I have not seen in awhile and choosing my social time carefully.
Blessings to all of you this coming week with all of your treatments and the rest of life's demands. You are all so courageous to me!0 -
Jazzy I think making decisions is extremely hard--how do we really know?
Markat I copies the recipe thanks--We're planning to make it next week-end, but we did make P/B fudge--easy and good--And we'll make ting-a-lins-another no bake cookie and maybe stained glass windows. (no bake) My DD is the lead.
And my GF Donna has no limits for energy--Joey and her are makin soap today for him to ive for gifts--hes' so excited--and for Christmas she gave hime one caret each of smoke quartz and fire opal--beasutful He collects gems--and she's crazy plus more presents. I think I told u she makes fine jewelry and gave me 2 exwuisite necklaces--just beautiful-plus other things anf my DD 2 beautiful bracelets-unreal.--She's much to generous and loads of fun, but I'm falling apart LOL After all she is 20 yrs younger than me.
OK really serious now--I watched the CT school as lon as I could--It was haunting--why did all those precious babies have to die to kill his parents.? Thst of corse is bad enough--And now he's dead--it'll just be a puzzle--I wsnted my GS home right then-it was so unnervving and all those poor families, u can never recover from this tradegy for any of them. What a sad time for all.
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Jazzy I'm glad u'r doing well, but u sond like u'r workimg hard.
Jane I hope u'rBirthday was good even tho u crashed, bt u seem better
U are all a wonderful group of women----I don't know how u work, or deal with 'r kids or do any of the thins u do, but u do. God bless all of u. U'r all special.
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The whole thing was so heart-breaking, I think you can only watch so much of it.
Still tired but a bit more energy.
So today is my day to feel like a complete bitch. Hubby was talking about this group that we socialize with, told him he can do whatever he wants (and I truly don't care) but not to sign me up for anything without asking me first. In retrospect I think that sounds completely anti-social and bitchy. But really I don't want to deal with any more stress. Would rather stay home.
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I think we're all a bit wobbly with the news. Have to turn it off. Our school district administrator sent an elaborate email on emergency procedures and keeping our kids safe. I think every teacher in the country knows what to do by now...
dh took me to "The Hobbit" to escape for 3 hours. There were four other people in the theatre. Hermiting sounds wise right about now.
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Hi girls---I' way behind my GF is still here and she is a marvel really--She and Joey are so close they made home made soap today for presents for Joey to ive.---Oh what patience But he followed all of her instructions and added his own frarances and colors and cleaned everythin up so he enjoyed himself. My SIL and my DD were watching football like usual--and he walks in the kitchen and say OH I want him to like football and u teach him how to make soap--but he was laughing.
OH the news I had to stop watching it. It's so heartbreaking--everythin about it is so horrendous. They had a shooting in CA in a shoppin mall but Thank God no one wad hurt
I've been busy and Donna and I both said when she gets home she's vegetating for 2 days---Of course I am too. So she's knocked out also. Makes me feel better I can not believe Christmas is only 8 days away--WTF I' not ready .
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markat...LOVED our show, it was a respectful opening with the choir
The Ducolax commercial brought back chemo nightmares
LOL and the British hospital scene was a laugh...overall good show, DH really enjoyed it as well! Little hands!The tanning sessions are going well, 2 down 23 to go. Aching joints and trying to be patient with the chemo flushing out, but geez...there are moments I feel like I am still on it. Almost a full head of platinum hair, spiked, like I planned it?! Nooooooo. Looking forward to coloring when my scalp feels better.
Busy time for me and all...work is piling up and getting in the way of my hermitude bah humbug..
hugs to all~
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Whaevah dye u'r hair some fun colors be original like u are. LOL
Things are piling up to do for Christmas--I want and love the Day to come, I just don't want to be doing things about it.--I vant to be alone. I have to have some hermit time--it's wearing on me and not like pretty clothes.
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Hi all.
I just lost my page I typed.
Whaevah when my hair grew back it was clear (no pigment), very bizarre! I had no patience, I colored it when it was 1/2 long. I could no longer look at the "little old man" in the mirror who kept staring back at me. I had been blond for years prior to chemo. When I colored it I went darker because I wanted to "see" my hair. LOL. Good luck when you decide it is time.
Camille what great memories your friend is giving your GS! How kind of her and how fun for him. I am glad you are having such a great time!
Teka me too
.Skittle hope you day was good and all of your kids were doing alright.
bgirl saying no doesn't make you bitchy. You have every right to decline if that is what you want to do. Do what is least stressful for you and will make you happiest.
Jazzy good luck on getting the work hours down to a manageable number. It is an emotional roller coaster! Enjoy your nice Friends and your time with them.
*wave* markat
I started my new job today. It went well. Not my dream job by any stretch, but I am trying to be thankful to have a job! I need to go put my head on the pillow, so I can get up and go do it again tomorrow.
Happy Holidays Hermits!
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I am woefully behind in posting here. I had two honest to God days off, and it was awesome. I couldn't bring myself to do anything, which felt great. Today I go to my head shrinker (standing med appt. every 3 mos.), and I get to drop the dx on her. Ugh. Not really looking forward to that. It seems like these last almost 2 months now have been about people's reactions, and comforting them, etc. I'm tired. I don't want to talk about "IT" with the world at large anymore. People say the most asinine things to me anyway. I'm about losing my patience with it. And I am especially going crazy with some of my friends who believe that a vitamin of this or that type is "better than chemo". I know they're trying to be helpful, but seriously, I just want them to stop it.
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Busy days for all, sounds like. Ten deer are munching just outside the front window... Peaceful scene, reflecting the sunset on the pond... The quiet is healing after the nonstop woohoo at school.
Best wishes for more sensitivity in encounters, fast-growing hair, doable treatments, energy for new job, enjoyment of family and friends. Hugs to each.
Adventure for Thursday--finding just the right rescue kitten at a local shelter. DD2 wants me to go with her to help her not walk out with 3 or 4!
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Oh skittle---kittens and puppies are the cutest little thins--oh how sweet--U 2 will have a hard time.
LL u'r right people say the craziest things but for the most part they mean well, but after a while u don't want to hear any more advice from people who hve no clue but because they read an article know much more than u what u'r going thru.
I didn't go for my tests today, so I'll go tomorrow-I wish I had a ride for early in the morning, but I won't til middle of the afternoon--Oh well- see I complain about everything, why no???
I'm kind of tired tonite, in fact the bags under my eyes are reaching below my nose. Now I have to get my head wrapped around Christmas and desserts--for me to direct my DD. I give her so much Joy. LOL
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Hi all! Hope all are well. Yay for new jobs and holiday break approaching...and boo to jerks. I've been busy, and lazy. Busy being lazy.
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I used to enjoy people, go out and do stuff. I used to enjoy friendships. I went through treatment in 2009 and I still don't want to leave my house. Got invited to three holiday events and I have little desire to go. I thought I would get over this... but I haven't. The only person I communicate with is my 12 year old daughter. My husband hides in his room downstairs.
I feel let down by family and friends at their lack of support but I do take ownership in my closing myself off from the world. So i realize much of this is my own doing, I just don't seem to have the motivation to change it.
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Hi Pink--Welcome to our mostly quiet world--sorry u'r here tho. Don't feel guilty at all everyone is at a different level with this dreaded disease, but alot of us feel like we like it better alone for who knows how long. But I don't know what meds u'r on but sometimes an antidepressant helps alot. This is a disease tht has no rules on anyone mentally or physically but i would be nice to be close to ur family. Remember no one really understands how we feel on any of this and expkaining sometimes doesn't even make sense.. So we all hope u can share with us, vent, rant of sometimes just smile--We get it. The ladies are here are wonderful-truly kind.
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Hi Pink,
Breast cancer changes us in ways we could've never imagined when first diagnosed. Don't feel bad that you're not "over it". There are aspects of this that I will never, ever be able to get over, and that no one else other than someone who's been through it could ever be able to understand.
This thread is a really nice place, with warm accepting people who just let you be you. I'm a relative newbie here, and have experienced such unconditional acceptance and support. It's been really great. I'm glad you reached out to us. We care, and we understand.
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LL
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What he heck is this---EVERYONE IS OUT---Well I did go out today but not tonite. Not to cold yet, but snow's acomin'--which is said but when everyone warns us we get little--when they say 1-2 inches then we know we're in for at least 12 inches. LOL Well if we do get a lot I think I'll just stay in--hahaha like I go all over the place.
I got my blood panel results my counts are low as usual--but the good part it gives me another excuse to be lazy-therefore I'm tired is a nicer way to say it. Bit I am baking cookies this weekend maybe--See I got that far maybe.
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I can honestly say I've never baked Xmas cookies in my whole life. I think I was the girl that failed home-ec!
Anyhoo - I'm lucky in that I'm in the South, and the weather here is quite temperate (even for down here) for winter. My MIL and SIL are coming to visit us, arriving on Sunday. I'm trying to enjoy the relative peace and quiet before they arrive.
In the meantime, I'm enjoying the sound of the dogs snoring, the wind whistling outside and dryer going softly in the background. Oh yeah - and work...that thing. Still doing that - but will be off after today for the rest of the year!! I'll still have to work while I'm off, but at least I won't have to answer to anyone during that time, and may actually get caught up on a few things.
Teka - I got a similar call from God knows what Breast Cancer charity. I didn't have the guts to tell them I had it, but I did bark out, "Not interested!" LOL. I've found that my patience level, which was not so great before, has plummeted to record lows.
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Hi everyone! The weather here stinks. It is pouring and tomorrow we might get snow. Tomorrow is the girls' last day before break so I've been busy wrapping and cleaning. My mother and mother and father in law will come here on Christmas Eve and judge me for my messy house
I still need to finish some shopping and buy food. I can't believe Christmas is Tuesday!! Time flies when you lay on the couch all the time.
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LOL Markat--u'r having everyone over. OMG I could never do that anymore.
LL it's good to be home for a while or for as long as possible and don't worry about the cookies, that's why we have stores.
I've got another infection so more meds and I'm tired so nap time LOL
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Oh Cami - so sorry you have another infection. Good idea to rest...
Markat - I loved, "Time flies when you're laying on the couch..." I can totally relate to that.
My Xeloda has made me a gaseous windbag, so that's pleasant (not). I'm sure if someone stuck a pin in me, I'd go flying around the room like a balloon.
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LizL--know that when your little balloon self lands, we'll all be right here to catch you!
Pink--welcome to the little nest of hermits, where we're all in this together, at various stages of hermitude, coping, dancing, and hanging on. Amazing ladies here who are always supportive and ready to provide advice, encouragement, laughs, safety.
Camille--feel better soon! Hope that infection goes away fast so you can enjoy gs at Christmas.
Markat--you are so far ahead of me! I haven't wrapped a single present. (I just felt successful making the buckeyes! much less tackling gift wrapping... which I love, but haven't had the time, energy or patience...)
Teka--once upon a different lifetime, I baked like a crazy woman. Everything from mincemeat tiny pies and macaroons, to orange bars and divinity. Now, I settle for a couple of pies and am done. (done in) Odd phone call. I always just reply, "This number is on the national do-not-call list. Please respect that." and hang up. I feel mildly guilty and rude, but do not want solicitation. I give where I think best, and don't need a phone to give me a good cause. (oops. Sorry for the soap box.)
Ooo! On a happy note, DD2 is now delighting her afternoon with a tiny smudge of a rescue kitten. He is so thrilled to be out of his shelter cage, he has played nonstop with his abundance of kitty toys, for over two hours. He's an easy purr and is softtttt.
FLwarrior--hoping you are well and coping with the demands of your new job!
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Yay Teka! I still have my impossible father in law to buy for and stocking stuffers.
Wow Skittle you used to make Divinity?!? That's some serious candy skills!!! Did you get any good Christmas gifts from the kids?
I haven't been sleeping very well (probably due to the couch laying). Took a huge nap today, oops!
LL, Camille, Whatevah, Jane, Fl, Stormy...and everyone else, hope you all are feeling well!0 -
Oh we had a dprinkle of snow--ice cold wind even the dog is hopping around outside.
Didn't get anything done today, but I don't have much to do anyway. But at least I didn't have diarrhea today oh just my infection hahaha, stayed pretty much to myself today felt a little icky but it'll go away.
BTW I don't know what Divinity is--a cookie--candy a what.?
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