new and future flat sister, with questions
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Good morning. More calves. Maybe one bottle baby. Foaling should start next week. At least it will be warmer.
Had my assessment yesterday. Remind me of the pain! next time I want to get in shape. I'm proud of myself. I did 16 laps in 6 min, benched 125 lbs, pressed 45 lbs (that was the killer), balanced for a minute on each leg and did flexibility test. Of course my right arm won't go up my back. Came home, took mega dose ibuprofen and fell asleep before 7:30. Missed the best night for rabbit ears tv.
Boy woke up with a bad dream so we switched beds. I slept in the land of stuffed animals. Thank goodness no little cars or dragons. It felt good to prop up my right arm. My bicep hurt and I worried about LE. Feel ok now. Mainly between my shoulders and my right under arm.
Therapist asked how I felt about getting cancer. Didn't really have an answer. I've just pushed forward with treatment. I feel robbed and cheated. I don't really want to dwell on the negative. I want to use this as an opportunity/challenge to be a better mother and wife. To not be afraid. To leave with no regrets.
Yes Chick you should recover in 3-4 weeks. Surgery isn't bad. It's the other stuff that has SEs but we've all lived to tell the tale. The worst is the unknown.
SGC. Good luck today. In the bag. Be sure and eat during the infusion. Take meds as directed. Drink, drink, drink to flush your system. I used baking soda for toothpaste and drank lemon water. No mouth sores. Try to eat some yogurt or take a probiotic to prevent yeast.
Togetherness. I've heard of Flatwoods, home of Achy Breaky Heart by Billy Ray Cyrus. Isn't there another singer from Nicholasville?
Going to see the MO today. Flush port, renew meds is all I'm expecting.
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Hello Zills!
Oh my goodness me, I am exhausted just reading what you did today! I hope you can have a nice hot bath, if you still feel a bit sore tomorrow.
All these baby animals are having a hard start to life. I hope the weather evens out a bit for the horses to foal.
That's a deep question from the therapist.
I have always been amazed by your matter of fact attitude and your ability to keep moving forward with all your treatments, while holding everything together for your family. You're one of the most tenacious people I have ever known. I've never known you dwell on the negative at all and you've done a great job with the children and your Husband, even when you've been feeling shitful, and you will continue to do so. You're one really, "ballsy" chick Zills!
Good luck at the MO! Take it easy....catch you later! M x
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Hi All
Sills, I am with M, I don't know how you managed all that today!
M, I too, am over the heat! Enough already, my lettuce has gone too, cherry tomatoes doing well tho.
You know what else I am over? Getting jabbed, stuck, prodded and poked, I still have infection, onto another course of antibiotics. Still having seromas aspirated, four times now, and the amount is still the same. Going to have to stop doing it at some point, the thought of leaving pooling blood there. Eewww. Apparently the body should re-absorb it, but my body doesn't seem to have received that notification! Had my Herceptin appt yesterday where onc pushed on all of the sore bits, and then two nurses took three goes at getting the cannula in my vein. Enough of people touching me! Back away! Lol
Beer and margharitas, thats a new one!
Students who don't leave when asked bobo, that is appalling.
Catch ya later alligata! D. Xxx
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Boy did I speak too soon. I woke up in pain from those "easy little exercises" the PT gave me. Sitting up straight all the time hurts. Guess those muscles are not used to being used. I'm in awe of what Zills was able to do.
Goldie update: She's revealing her true self as a lap sitter and kneader. This morning she came upstairs and got on the bed while we had coffee and read the paper. We got up for shower, etc. but she's still there.
DEXA scan tomorrow. PT asked if I'd had one and was pleased that it was already scheduled. My favorite test: no undressing if you remember to wear clothes without metal and takes about 15 min. I'm a little nervous about the results, had osteopenia going in to AI treatment.
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Ariom thanks for telling me about the wonderful things that the vitamix machine can do. Great that you have energy from drinking these drinks. I have a friend who is a big juicer and during chemo she would bring me these mixtures of vegetable juices that I thought I would never drink and I did. That's what saved me from loosing more weight than I did. Of course I could have lost a few. Now if I want to do the DEIP reconstruction dr said I would have to gain twenty pounds. Don't think that is happening.
Zills I am so surprised you have heard of Flatwoods. People who live in Ky never heard of it. Yes Billy Ray and I went to high school together. He was a flash in the pants, but his daughter Miley is sure making a name for herself!!
Spookiesmom we checked out all of the colleges you listed for my daughter except for Miami since it is a private college. She chose FSU. Her dad is FSU alumni and we have had season football tickets for about 15 years, so she grew up around FSU football. Yes football is big in our household.
Well I have almost made it through a week of working pt. I am just exhausted everyday that I come home. I am trying to decide whether I should do another week of pt to build my strength up. I am still on antibiotics due to an infection. So I am sure that is not helping with the tiredness. Plus lack of not eating. I have to get myself back on track.
Everyone have a great day!!
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Twenty pounds! Yikes. That would not even be good for you, togetherness. I am near the "other" school...
Z, your exercise class sounds amazeballs! Is the instructor a PT? Wren, so sorry about your sore muscles. In the bag for your scan. Loved our Goldie update! She is obviously so happy to be at your house.
Dawny, I certainly know how you feel. I am sick of being touched as well! It seems a lot of us have or have had infections. Please let us know how you are doing with that. Are they growing your culture to see which one it is? That's what they did for me (after the first three broad-spectrum antibiotics didn't work).
Vitamix carrot ginger soup for lunch. M, everyone is jealous of your hair!
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OOOH. Carrot ginger soup sounds so good. DH gets the veggie soups in cartons and then doctors them to make them even better.
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Hello everyone, I'm backkkkkk...I did a nice long post days ago and it didn't post, I got pissed and haven't touched the computer since.
It is freezing @ss cold here, and we had snow a couple of days ago, nice powdery snow, so no lost power. It melts for a couple of hours during the day, the water freezes again and the kids miss another day of school, I'm sure they are thrilled, the parents not so much. We had grandson1 for, as he called it, a 5 day sleepover. His parents escaped to California for a friends wedding, where they basked in the warmth, while enjoying the coast. Back at the homestead we were freezing.
Still no baby. Mommy to be visited the OB this morning, nothing is going on in the contraction department, but he still says it will be any day. Bless her little heart she peers down at her ever growing belly and yells "Get out, I want you out, today." it is rather humorous. She is still working 1 of her jobs, they ask her to please go on leave at the other one for fear she would injure herself or the baby. So she is bored, eating everything except the wood work, worrying about money, and waiting, and waiting.
The OG is as bored as his daughter. He has now been home for 50 days, not that I'm counting
and has at least 20 more days here. It's beginning to get ugly. Way toooooo much togetherness. Even the dogs are growling at each other. Therapy is our only time apart, so I've come to adore my therapist, and asked if 5 days per week would be helpful. He spends his time on the sofa with a blanket over his lap, like he's a 90 year old man, watching movie after movie on his new found tablet. Which is why I must use the computer that hates me. Going to post this and then go back to read the last 5 pages I've missed. I shall return...I hope...Hugs
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Good to hear from you Granwe! DD needs to speak nicer to the baby. Maybe pleading and showing the nursery and extolling it's comforts. Know what you mean about togetherness. There's a reason cabin fever is a murder plea in Alaska. Perhaps you can drug him with sugar to get the tablet away.
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Hi all!
Some light snow here yesterday and today. Finally!! Only a couple of inches and it is still lightly snowing but don't expect a heavy fall. We have really needed it!! Unlike you peeps back East that are getting way more than necessary. Stiffness and sore back gradually getting better. Into shades of green/yellow for the bruises.
Togetherness, I don't think it is a rule not to share your city, more a preference. Some even post it in their profile under their avatar. All this talk of the VitaMix is making me want to take another look at it! Quick soups sound so good right now!
clickchick, glad you have gotten your date and that step is completed. It is scary, but the consequence of keeping said breast, are not an acceptable option unfortunately. Will be with you if needed. No experience dealing with a uni as I opted for the BMX and haven't regretted it one bit. You will be surprised how quickly you are up and about. Ariom is right there are quite a few unis here that will be able to help you with questions you may have.
Hugs for everyone!
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Ariom- Your natural color is beautiful & shiny. I'm gonna let my natural color grow for a while, so I can see what it looks like. It's been a couple of decades, so I'm not quite sure
Thanks so much for your support, I really appreciate it. It is scary business, this breast cancer and not everyone in our lives understands how isolating it can be. I had a local friend who didn't respond to me for 2 months and just recently she told me she felt so bad about my situation, she just didn't know what to say to me. People here on the boards are a great support system. Thank you!0 -
Hi clickychick! This may not pertain to your situation, and excuse me for saying so, but people who disappear like that can bite me.
Granwe, so happy for our update! We are all standing by. Excellent advice from Birdie regarding sugar lure. XXX
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Bobogirl- that's hysterical, I say Bite Me all the time. This particular person was a business friend and within a 30 day period I was diagnosed with cancer, lost my mother unexpectedly and decided to close down my business due to the cancer treatments. So, yeah, it really sucks when people disappear when you need them most, but a part of me does understand that people can only take so much bad news before they shut down. I'm lucky my cyber friends understand
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G'Day girls!
Dawny, I have more cherry tomatoes than I can use. I cleared the raised bed, and bought more lettuce seedlings. Keeping fingers crossed we wont have too much more of the excessive heat.
I have the gardeners coming today for the big final push to get everything back to order and mow, what's left, and tidy up the stuff that got really burned. Watering is working well, got up to everything wet and green this morning.
Wren, I usually don't get sore right away from new exercises either, it sneaks up on day 2 or 3!
All the best for your Dexa, easy peasy test! I have full blown Osteoporosis from nearly 18years on cortisone. Damn nuisance.
Hey Togetherness, you're really amazing, I'd be asleep on the floor somewhere if I had tried to do everything you are doing.
Those infections and Seromas are shitful. I only had mine drained the once,, but it took ages for my body to reabsorb what looked like a waterbed under my skin.
Sorry if we sound like we're on commission to sell the Vitamix, but it is such an amazing thing, but only if you are going to use it regularly. I understand why most people see it as too expensive an outlay. I would have never bought one if i had to pay the full price. I couldn't eat enough soup in my lifetime to justify that!
Twenty pounds to do that recon? Oh my, that's a commitment!
Bobo, I never thought about, not mentioning where I am. I just filled the profile in.
I am glad you are sounding a bit more like yourself again. How are you feeling mow? Are you hitting the wall and needing to nap, or is that just not possible?
Gramwe!!!!! so good to see you and to have a baby report. I think of you all the time. I feel for the OG and all that down time. I spent 5 months in a contraption for my hand surgery, that's a lot of movies, and snacks!
The awful cold wouldn't be helping in the togetherness department. At least if you had nice weather you could retreat outside.
Thanks for the baby report, I can understand her being so anxious to have the baby, it's a long haul! Give her my very best!
gB so pleased you aren't suffering from the fall, very lucky! Take care M x
I am off to buy morning tea for the gardeners. They had to take off right after arriving because their dog went to chase Dex, as they always do, and he slipped. It looks like he has a dislocated shoulder, so they had to take off into town to the Vet. Poor Dex just looked bewildered.
I must be off...chat later..hugs to everyone...M x
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Poor doggie! I hope he comes right home from the vet.
I am trying to feel like myself. Could use a nap everyday, but don't get one. Today I canceled PT (I hate you, PT) and worked from home all day, and it was glorious! I really don't want to be around people right now. My new favorite thing: taking a shower when no one else is in the tiny house. So I got to shower before I went to pick up the children.
I love it when we post at the same time! Up to my neck here. I am not as efficient as I once was. I am getting deeper and deeper in the weeds at work. I've doubled my class load (I know I will be yelled at by A and Idesim) to pay tuition. Oh. We are moving w boy to the (rather ethnic, not exactly top drawer, but really it looks very fine to me, and he is not exactly a genius anyway so the curriculum will not hold him back) public school near us. In the next week or so. It's causing a flap at the school of our princess. But he's acting like a total a$shole there. Running in circles during reading! Shaking his a$s in the teacher's face when she asks him to do something! We never see that behaviour here. He's run amok because of the permissiveness, the magical quality of the school. He hasn't learned a thing they've had to teach him. We're going to yank him out, then finish paying whatever we owe for what he's done so far this year.
How's that for an update! XX
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Clickchick! just saw your posts as I was leaving. I am so sorry that your friend couldn't take your Dx. I know we are all different, but I just don't get that. I have been surprised with 1 friend of mine who hasn't even stayed in touch by phone, and I did let her know, that my final path report was a good one.
Wouldn't you think a simple, "I just don't know what to say, but I'm here for you!" would be all that's required? Somehow, they misconstrue it into being "All about them!" funny, that! Bite me! is the perfect response!
Letting your hair grow out will be interesting. I cut mine into pixie short with wash out color till it was all natural. I hadn't seen mine for a very long time either. I hope it is what you want as a permanent color. Chat later....M x
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Granwe!! I didn't refresh the page before I posted so I didn't see your post earlier. Nice to hear from you and get updates on DD and OG. Hope the baby comes soon!
Wren, yeah cabin fever in Alaska is a real problem. So many people are literally cabin bound for months, add to that there are only about 3 hours of daylight a year, it is not a pretty situation for some.
It appears I had missed a bunch of posts above where I started earlier too so will try to catch up.
Zills, you never cease to amaze me!! You have the best mental attitude I could imagine. Hope all goes well at the MO.
Dawny, I hear you on wanting to be done with all the poking and proding!! Hope you get the infection under control soon and the fluid issue taken care of too.
Wren, sorry you are in pain from the PT. Thanks for the Goldie update! Glad she is feeling more social, must mean she is feeling better! In the bag for the appointment.
Togetherness, if pt is still exhausting you, I wouldn't try to do any more for now. Rest is what you need to heal the best. Take your time. Don't think I would want to gain 20# either! I just spent a year + losing weight and don't think I would want to gain it back.
(((clickchick))), I am so sorry to hear about your mom. You really did have a lot thrown at you at one time!! I say good riddance to friends that deserted you in your time of need. I understand how they feel, but it is still not right. We here all totally understand what you are going through and certainly are here to support you in any way we can!
Ariom, I admire your hair color too it is gorgeous. I am still salt and pepper, oddly salt in front and dark still in the back. Once I am all white, I may brighten it a bit. I hate the look of dark roots growing out from light hair, though it does seem to be more accepted these days. Sorry to hear about the gardener's dog, hope he is OK. Poor thing!
Hugs!
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bobo, you posted while I was still writing. It will be a while before you get your strength back. You have been through he11 and back! Probably good to skip PT considering how it was the last time. May just be too soon. Sorry w boy is not adjusting to the school, and if at this point in the year he hasn't, then it probably won't get better. Some kids just need more structure than others. It is a Waldorf school right? That just may be a little too magical, as you say, for him to settle into. Hope the public school works out for him.
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My nieces went to Montisorri school. The teacher told my SIL that the younger one was the only child they'd ever had who just played. She might have done better with more structure, also.
One year my kids went to a public school in a very rich neighborhood. We were on the very edge of the district, and not in a rich neighborhood. The first rule for the lunchroom was "be kind to the maids". They absolutely hated it. The following year we moved to a racially mixed neighborhood and they loved the public school. My son's teacher was wonderful! We went to an open house. The kids had copied something and mounted it on colored paper and hung it on the wall. The teacher saw us looking at DS chicken scratch and told us he had worked very hard and that was the best he could write. I just wanted to hug her. They really liked that school and did well.
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Both of my kids went to a Montessori School for their first 3 years. They were astounded that my DD at 2.5 years would sit for a long time at a table and complete projects like stringing macaroni or finishing puzzles. My DS was a little more active but he did really well there too. We moved and they both entered public school and started a grade higher than their ages. The Montessori school was very good for both of them. Had there been a Waldorf school nearby, it would have been a very difficult decision as to which one we picked. They are both excellent schools.
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I'm so wiped out. Came home and took a nap. Still out of it. Not sure if it was too much yesterday or my ear and the coming weather change or my meds.
MO was good. See BS in May. MO and BS switch off. RO in late April. Will call and get him to schedule scan. Said it takes a year out to recover from chemo. So that means this fall. JS and Livestrong best things I can do.
Chick. I'm sorry for all your bad luck. I too lost a "friend" after dx. She's my kids godmother and kept the baby for her first year. I was really counting on her. Have seen her once at grocery. Actually the others were great for surgery and some hung in there for chemo but none for rads. Including my sisters. Life goes on and I have you guys.
I think the cops would have been at my house more than once if DH was cooped up for 50 days. We'll really look on America's Most Wanted if Granwe goes missing again. Good luck with the baby. Waiting is so hard!
Wonder how OTC did today. I think I said SGC earlier. Sorry for the mix up.
Bobo. Sorry about WB.
No the instructor is Livestrong and YMCA certified. Been teaching 20 years.
Sorry have hit the wall. Glad there's nothing on the books for tomorrow. Nighty night.
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So sorry I missed your post earlier Bobo.
I think moving W is an excellent idea. We all know our children, and also know what is best for them.
My friends were slack mouthed and mortified when they discovered I was sending Bec to a high school that had a language center on campus, refugee students from every troubled area of the globe, and well, just not a Private School. Bec had spent her primary school years, in a tiny school of under 90 students. It was a wonderful school with wonderful teachers, and of course everyone knew everyone.
I knew she would never do well in the Private School System and I wanted her to have a well rounded education that would also incorporate "street smarts!" Fortunately, I wasn't the only one who thought that way and I soon discovered the children of like minded parents, were enrolled there too. If I had the time over again, I wouldn't change a thing. I wouldn't say it was all super easy, and there were moments that I could have lived without, but the reality of that atmosphere, was just what Bec needed.
It turned out to be a very say day today, the gardener's dog was going to have the surgery to fix his broken leg, but the Vet discovered that he actually had bone cancer and that was why the bone broke so easily. Some more tests and he was found to have extensive tumors, so the Vet had to intervene. He was a lovely 10year old Red cattle dog.
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Zills, with all you have been doing lately, I'm not surprised you hit the wall!! Glad you are open tomorrow, rest as much as you can!
Oh Ariom, so sorry about the dog! How sad!
I forgot to tell you, a channel on Dish, NUVOTV, is showing Dexter from the beginning. It just started a couple of weeks ago. They show 2 episodes a week so I will eventually get to see the ending!!
It is an English language network for Latinos. Half of the commercials are in Spanish which makes it easy to tune them out!0 -
Hey gB! I hope you get into Dexter. I loved it from the very beginning, but it isn't for everyone.
It was very sad, losing Nelson, he went everywhere with that coupIe. I keep thinking about how they are feeling tonight.
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I feel sorry for your gardener's family also. It does sound like Nelson was feeling good up until that moment. A shock, but better than watching him suffer for a long time.
My kids did much better in the public system which had a lot of diversity. There were basically 3 main groups in the school: blacks (name of their choice at that time), hippies, and kickers. The latter were red neck types named for a country western radio station, KIKK which had boots for the last 2 K's. The hippies and blacks banded together against the kickers and peace reigned. There had been fights between groups in the past, but they were at the point where fights were about something, not just about race.
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Hi! I'm back from my first chemo treatment and it went well. I did not have to wait much and was in and out within 3 hrs (no bloodwork today). I had a great nurse (big funny guy) and we had a young couple sitting across from us, so we spent most of the treatment chatting away. I had no bad reactions or whatever, and am feeling fine now. I was instructed by the nurse to take it easy today so that I don't feel too exhausted the next days. I'm doing everything I'm told, drinking lots, etc., so hopefully the SEs will be manageable.
Hi Clickchick, welcome! Sorry people have not been very supportive, I don't think they realize the impact their behaviour has on us.
Hi Zills! Thanks for your thoughts! Sorry about your kids godmother passing and that some people did not stick with you through to the end. Makes us appreciate our virtual friends. What's JS? I hope you feel better today, rest well!
M, sorry about your gardener's dog. It would be great to see pics of your garden if you ever feel like it!
Sorry, most of us are deprived of greenery these days!Hey bobo, glad you're switching schools for your son. You know what's best for him. Are you feeling a little better today? Allow yourself to be a hermit when you feel like it!
Hi gB, Wren and everyone! Idesim, how are you?
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Ariom, I am already into Dexter!! I was 2 seasons behind when it ended, so I have lots of reruns to watch before I get to shows I haven't seen. But as long as I get to finish it I will be happy!!
I can only imagine how heartbroken Nelson's "mom" and "dad" are!! But at least their memories of him are as happy and playing, not suffering in pain.
Another 2" of snow overnight. It is ever so lightly snowing now. At last some white outside!!
Hugs!
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Otc, I was typing while you posted. Glad to hear your chemo went well. Will cross everything that it continues to go as well and you have no ses.
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OTC so glad your chemo went well. I wish you minimal SE.
Zills I know what you mean about hitting a wall. Just try to rest when you can. Your MO said it takes a year to recover from chemo. OMG I can believe it. I have chemo brain terrible. My job feels like it is my first day on the job. I can't remember or concentrate on nothing.
Grammab took your advice and asked if I could work pt next week. They said yes. My energy is zapped after four hours. I will rest up this weekend. I think it is the Femara.
Bobo sorry to hear about your son not adjusting. I had my daughter if private school up until 8th grade then decided to move her into public school starting 9th grade to prepare her for the diversity before she goes off to college. Hind sight I wish I would have done it earlier. Public schools offer so much more than just education.
Ariom sorry about the gardeners dog. We get so attached to our animals.
Chickchick people don't realize how there actions hurt us. Stay surrounded by those who support you.
I really don't want to gain any weight to have to have a procedure done. I would like to get rid of my belly so I guess sit ups are the answer not the DIEP procedure. What I have in the belly know would make a AA breast..... Lol I did loose alot of weight during chemo so that is why he said I needed to gain weight.
Have a great weekend!!
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OT, so glad you feel good getting through your first chemo! Congrats! You are rocking it.
Togetherness, I am with you in core strengthening. Am flat(tish) now -- must not have big stomach and giant flabby as$.
Birdie, many thanks for your words about the schools of your children. In fact, thank you all for your words of support. They're putting the screws to us at Waldorf: They want him to stay. Mine are the only blacks (African-American, but I think Black is Beautiful). I really can't handle the stress of having screws put to me right now. I am trying to explain that to DLLP.
Z, so sorry you hit a wall. HOw are you today? And, M, oh no. So sorry about Nelson. Little darling. Agree with Birdie. He went out playing. I am so glad he did not suffer further. Still, the parents must be heartbroken.
Waiting for Granwe's (our) baby!
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