new and future flat sister, with questions
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Stacey you've got alot of sisters sending love your way, me included. Positive energy surrounding you. Wonder if your viral chest cold is what has been going on here with everyone, takes about 2 1/2 weeks to kick, its a heck of a virus.
crap on cancer, I like my mint chapstick.
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lol, never heard that one either!
Hugs for everyone and a special long gentle one for Stacey!
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Crap on a chapstick, Stacey! (that saying is definitely going to catch on). Thinking of you and sending you hugs -- and to sailman too. They got it early -- your onc says it wasn't there two months ago -- and we are all with you. {{{{{hugging you }}}}
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Woke up this morning to a dirt bike in my kitchen. DH traded the moped. I'll miss the moped. Even the baby finally liked riding it. Dirt bike still too big for boy.
Laundry, cleaning left. Have to pick up scripts then stuff the luggage.
Yes have stickers and those wonder markers that only color on special paper. Plus how to tie your shoes book and a baby doll. We have a night flight so hoping they sleep. We will be the obnoxious ones with the stroller before we board.
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Oh Zills, a dirt bike in the kitchen, lovely.....Not! I would prefer the moped too!
Don't you stress about that plane ride. The flight attendants will have stuff for the kids and too bad if you're the one with the stroller, they will board you first! Make sure when you are at check in, that you ask how full the plane is, and if it isn't full, try to get a center section of 4 seats to yourself, preferably the bulkhead if it's available, so the kids can move and sleep, don't feel bad about asking for help. I know we always looked after Mothers flying alone with kids.
When I used to fly with Bec when she was small, I would make a big deal about how "special" this was going to be and how well behaved she must be, even a bribe of something very "special" at the other end can work for some kids! LOL
You'll do fine! Just ask, if you need something. M x
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Hi everyone,
Been reading posts, but haven't been able to post as my hands haven't been working too well. I was put on Tamoxifen and it blew my arthritis all to hell! Couldn't move anything. Knees and hands are still stiff and sore, but so much better since I came off of that stuff. I don't know what we will do now as I was put on that instead of the AL's to avoid the very reaction I had. I guess I will find out next week when I see my MO.
Crap on a Chapstick has become my new saying! How I love it!
M-love the pelicans and landscape. Seems so peaceful and calm. Wish I could send some southern heat in exchange for your cool mornings!
Zills-have a marvelous trip! Praying the kids will sleep through most of the flight. Everyone must be getting excited! Why did DH get a dirt bike?
JS-fuk,fuk, fukity,fuk,fuk cancer! Sending gentle hugs. You are still in my thoughts and prayers!
Sending love to everyone and will try and type more when my fingers allow! Always, S
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I am new here and have enjoyed all of these posts. You all are so wise. I had left mastectomy 4 weeks ago and am doing ok. I too have the weird sensations when drinking and puckered nipples. Really weird huh? Thank you all for sharing your hearts here and know how much this thread has helped me. Nice to meet you all.oh yea, how do you get your details of BC below the postings?
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Hi OvercomingOne! Great to meet you, just sorry it is because of these shitty circumstances!
Firstly, go to My Profile and click on My Diagnosis and fill in the areas that suit, then you can go to Treatments and Signature, I think it is at the bottom and you can put in other details that you may want like a saying or a further Dx that isn't in the Dx area.
Glad to hear you're doing OK, it's very new for you! I am a right side Umx, there are a few of us here as well as BMX too. We all understand the weird sensations that come from this surgery. Many of us have tried to find out about that cold drink cascading in the chest one, but we haven't found any good reason for it. I first discovered it, when I got a frozen Coke on a 43c day here in Australia. I seriously thought I was having a heart attack or something worse. It has either faded, or I have just become so used to it that unless I focus on it, I don't feel it any more.
My Surgeon gave me a lovely description of how the nerves that had been cut during the Surgery were regenerating and trying to find the other half again, i was stunned when he said that they sometimes do reattach!
The other one that we talk about often is the I think, aptly named "The Claw!" we all got it after a day of overdoing it. I describe it as a sharp claw like thing holding my chest and under arm. it i always gone by morning! LOL It seems to be the leveler when w do too much it pulls us back into line.
I am wondering which Hemisphere you are in, it doesn't matter if you prefer not to say.
I hope you'll join in, we'd love to hear how you're getting on and just ask anything, nothing is out of bounds here, we've talked about all kinds of stuff. When you add up the experiences of all of us, there is usually at least one who can speak from a similar experience. It's like coffee with your girlfriends here!
Take it easy and I will look forward to hearing from you! M x
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Sgc, so great to see you here, but I am so terribly sorry your flaring up from the Tamox. As if the damn Arthritis isn't bad enough on its own, this happens too. I feel for you, I know how painful it can be. I hope you can find another drug that will go easy on the Arthritis.
Glad you enjoyed the pictures, I would gladly accept some Southern warmth right now, and hand over the morning frosts, but I shouldn't whinge (Aus speak for whine) we don't get it as bad as some. It is the freezing wind, that comes straight off Bass Straight, that gets to me!
Still thinking of js today and wondering how she and Sailman are doing. Big hugs across the ocean!
Hey Bobo, what's happening in your world? Children Ok? How did the Princess do, slapping that bass? What is the boy up to, is school working out? I neeeeeed an update! LOL
I hope everyone had a great 4th July. We used to celebrate it in the office, when I worked for United, between that and Christmas in July, it is a good month here!
Take it easy everyone, have a lovely weekend...M x
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Greetings Overcoming! Sorry we have to meet like this.. as I have said so many times in the last 1year and 3 months, this is the only good thing about bc... every woman here is wonderful. I too had my left breast removed, no chemo or rads but arimidex for 5 years. It is doable.. Ariom answered your ? about dx. you can come here and say anything... positive or not, we all have different feelings at different times so if you vent someday we all understand. keep up the good work, you are early out and lots of things feel weird, we now have a new normal. I just met an old friend today that I have not seen in years and she said she was over 12 years out and doing fine.. that is so encouraging!
Ariom,, YES, we need a Bobo update, I know she said she is so super busy but boy do we miss her, and Gramwe with a baby update.
JS, how are you doing today?
SGc, darn, sorry about the tamoxafin, I have some se from arimidex but not too bad, had to have a trigger finger fixed with a shot but so far not too bad. Hoping they can figure out something for you... hang in there.
Zills, Monday.. have a great time and hoping kids are ok, hoping you can get some rest after your arrival.
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Zills, Have a wonderful time. I love to travel. I think our kids were 3 and 6 when we took them to Barbados. Have something for them to suck on when taking off and landing. It helps the ear pressure.
Welcome Overcoming One. This is a fun group of caring women. It's my favorite thread.
Wishing everyone a pain-free rest of the weekend.
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Hello OvercomingOne, welcome to the group!
Am feeling guilty about the auto correction of crap on a crap stick, Chapstick May sue me! Lol
Xxx
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Well crap on a chapstick... yep.. definitely made me laugh and think it is the new phrase for us group of sisters. Overcoming One (can we shorten to O2?) welcome to our twistedly, funny group of sisters we are. Zills... I am sending much love for your flight and I know you and the babies do great. Maybe a little bit of Benadryl to help them with the sleeping? I came home today for a little over a week. I see my GO on Friday and am to then stop by and see my Gyno that did my hyst. He has been my doctor for 20 years and I don't think it was easy for him to give me the news this week. He is a quiet, gentle man from Mexico who is soft spoken and always been a bit intimidating. First time ever, he gave me a hug the other day when he and I were just talking about things after the GO had came to see me. Sailman is definitely struggling right now and I wish there was something I could do to help him. He is so scared and worried, and not sleeping and bless his heart, having to deal with my mother. She can be overbearing and abrasive and then gets her panties in a snit when she gets called on her inappropriate behaviors. Just like a small child really LOL. I want to thank each of you for the love I have felt this week. You truly are my sisters and I am glad you are here with me every step of the way.. Much love and hugz to all!
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sgc, I am so sorry about the Tamoxifen flared up Arthritis! To use our newest cuss words..."crap on a chapstick" for sure!!! I hope you can find some treatment that won't cause you so much pain.
OvercomingOne, glad you found us! There are so many strange sensations after this surgery, feel free to tell us what you are feeling and someone will validate it and maybe give some explanation for it.
Sigh, it is a bit after midnight here and the locals are still shooting off fireworks, my poor cat has been in hiding all evening. I feel so bad for him as his virus has flared up again and he has ulcers on the corner of his mouth (I found it last night). It will be a long week end before I can get him to the vet for his shots. He has impeccable timing that his flare ups happen on Friday or a Holiday weekend. I can't figure out how he knows, but it breaks my heart he will have to suffer over the weekend.
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Hi gB, how are you doing? I have missed playing tag in my mornings, with your posts. I figured there hasn't been any good news from your daughter. I hope you're OK, I can imagine how I would be feeling if it were me. I think of you often.
I'm sorry to hear about your cat, isn't it always the way, with animals and kids, heck, anyone really, will always get sick at the start of the weekend or late at night. M x
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js, lots of love and hugs from me! I am pleased to hear that you're at home, with a little time to breathe and to gather up the strength you'll need, to go back and get this done! It sounds like you have a great team, that you know well, that's so important.
I feel for Sailman, it must be so awful for him, our men are used to being able to fix things and as bad as the fear is for us, I think the fear of the unknown is terrifying for them.
I understand what you are saying about your Mother too, I am sure she means well, but that doesn't make it any easier to deal with does it? I hope she can hold her tongue.
I wish I had a magic wand, js! M x
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bahahahahaha.... I love it dawny!!! Thanks for making me laugh this morning. Woke up crying at 5:30 am and Sailman suggested we go for breakfast. We woke JB up since he needed to be at work at 8am and asked if he wanted to go with us; We went to one of our favorite breakfast diners in town and the little shit picked up the tab. That's ok, I can transfer the money from his second job that goes into our account with the tab amount and he will never know (hehehe sneaky mom). I am past exhaustion again so it must be time to lay back down.
Hugs to you all!
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jsjherman Bless your heart. I don't know you but know your fear well! I will lift you up in prayer! Stay strong!
OvercomingOne
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Crap on a chapstick!
Welcome Overcoming One. JSJ, thinking of you. Sounds like you had a lovely breakfast.
I am going to provide a quick update, since it seems one is in much demand. First off, I have had two periods after being in menopause (in a row). My PCP up in arms. My GYN (remember her? from the dreaded endometrial biopsy?) has left town! Last biopsy was normal -- it wasn't too long ago -- but I'm probably going to have to have another one just to be sure. Difficult to juggle all this since I have been doing most of the childcare.
Slapping the bass update: our princess did slap the heck out of that bass. I will say her band -- the 'Superfreaks' -- was a bit free-form and advanced. Really they left the audience in a bit of a stunned silence for a minute before the applause came. It was a bit of a jam session. I wish I could attach a picture of her, post-concert, at a farm-to-table diner having dinner, but I do not know how! She looked so grown-up. She had three friends come to watch her, which I thought was really touching. She makes such good friends.
I must say I am going to miss our Z so much when she goes to Ireland! But I am very happy she's going. Our M gave you such good flying advice, Z. Whoops! DLLP and the kids are coming! X
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Zills, If you're considering benedryl for the flight, try it tonight. I'm definitely the minority, but it revs me up and sleep is impossible. Best to discover this at home.
jsj, Ask about a counselor or social worker who works with cancer patients and their families. It would give Sailman a place to dump some of his anxiety and fear. DH belongs to a men's group and got tons of support there.
Animal update: Goldie didn't like the noise but felt safe glued to us last night. It's day 10 for the robin sitting on her nest on our deck. The eggs hatch in 10-14 days, so we're keeping a close eye and our fingers crossed for the family.
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Hey everyone,
Ariom, no, no good news on DD's situation. They go to court in Aug, DD is interviewing attorneys, she is just about ready to decide on one. Ex's attorney has a reputation of being very dirty, underhanded and mean. They say people pick attorneys that mirror their personalities....hmmm
jsj, glad you are home. You posted right before my last post, I didn't refresh the page so missed it until now. I think some counseling could really help Sailman, being around people going through the same thing really does help, as you know from here. Sorry to hear you have a MD to deal with, you don't need the extra stress. Take it easy girl try to get as much rest as you can.
dawny, lol!! I don't think you have to worry, I doubt Chapstick is reading forums to see how their product is mentioned. Auto correct can be a real pain sometimes!!
Oh dear bobo, sorry to hear about the possible biopsy, definitely crap on a chapstick!! Glad the princess had a great time slapping the bass!! She sounds like she really loves music. Nice that she was able to share the concert with her friends.
Wren, how fun to be able to watch the robin that closely. Hoping the hawk stays far away. The people that owned my home before me built all sorts of bird houses on the property. The one I watch the most in mounted under the arch of the garage roof. It is a 15 perch/hole "apartment" for chickadees. The first batch of babies launched about 10 days ago and just prior, there was a sparrow hawk trying to get at them. Every time I saw it, I scared it off and many times all the birds in the yard would take off after it. The babies survived. Next round will be coming up in not too long as those lusty little guys have been going at in all over the yard!!
posting before it goes away....
Hugs for everyone!
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Good one Dawny!
jsj, it breaks my heart to think of you waking up crying, but I know I'd be the same. Sailman is doing it tough too, does he have anyone to talk to?
Your son is a lovely boy and you're a great Mom! Take it easy...M x
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Bobo, bugger, bugger, bitch, bum, not another one of those biopsies, noooooo! You must demand anesthesia this time!
I am so pleased to hear the Princess did well with the Bass, but not surprised and that she is making good friends, that's a great achievement! Give her a hug from me!
The countdown is really on now for Zills, I hope she really loves it and the flight is a great one.
gB, I feel for you, with this crap looming in August, lets hope some sense prevails and it isn't as bad as we think.
Lovely to hear about the birds at your house, I never got to see many in the city, but I have a What Bird is That book on my coffee table all the time these days. I have never experienced so many different species before. I love it.
Wren, good point about the Benadryl, I am one of those reverse people. If I even take Rescue Remedy, it revs me up. I can't take the no doze allergy meds because they knock me out. I have heard of Phenergan and Benadryl revving kids up too, that's the last thing Zills needs on a plane!
I see a nest in my Maple tree, but don't know what it could be. I hope your Robins do ok! M x
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I read all your greetings and thank you for your kind words. I live in Alabama USA . Have lived here about 10 years after moving here from Chicago Illinois. I worked all day on my new mastectomy underclothing. Found soft bras for my puffs and bought a padded bra that I have cut to sew into a swimsuit. Should get fitted for new boob July 14. Also found some decent tank tops to wear with a shirt over them. This left breast area is numb and feels really weird and my skin is so sensitive too. But I am alive. I can think of worse things in life than cancer, believe it or not. I return to work (nursing in hospital) in 2weeks. Yay but nervous about that. Renal patients don't get cancer ( worked renal dialysis 35 years) so I am cancer stupid!!! Well that's all for now.
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Procrastination is catching up to me. I want a clean house to come home to. Hard to clean with kids. Feel like I'm walking in circles putting stuff where it belongs.
Had to drag out a second suitcase. First one was too heavy. All the kids clothes fit into it.
Yes tried Benedryl earlier. Works on baby. Yea! Not the boy but he will sleep eventually. She has a real pacifier on a strap. Not going to lose it! Have a spare. She's still not 100%. Eating cheese and applesauce.
I bought him the candy pacifiers. He loves them and they last. Two lasted thru How to train your dragon 2. That's what he wanted. Not ice cream or fried pickles or funnel cake or chili cheese fries or nachos. I got off cheap!
Going to bed so I can walk in circles again tomorrow. Right now my feet hurt and my scar is tight.
I wish I had some advice for sailman. DH did read a book called breast cancer husband (amazon). It's helpful to know about all the treatments. A support group would be wonderful if he would go.
Hang in there! Crying early and late is normal. Especially when meds are wearing off or you're exhausted. Don't be afraid to ask for something to take the edge off. I still take Xanax occasionally and I had Ativan at chemo. Made a big difference.
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Hey O2. Sounds like you've got it covered. There's a thread about swim pouffy. Use those mesh body pouffies to make a foob for your swim suit. I never could grasp the directions. Bought rash guards so I don't get burned. But I'm a flat all the way except for the Buddha belly.:)
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I like the "O2" nickname!! :-). Should have thought of a shorter user name. Didn't quite know what I was doing when I found this site. Thanks Ariom I got my info down beneath now.
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one more post. I don't have treatments written down because I don't know them. Waiting for Oncotype DX test results from my oncologist!! She is wonderful by the way. Ok nite now
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it's 2 am. I'm wide awake and wondering if Wendy's is still open. Want chili. Settled for cake and chips.
Would like to do something but feel I have to try to sleep. Will definitely take something to sleep tomorrow night.
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