new and future flat sister, with questions
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Wrenn I love this!
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Wren, that is so gorgeous, I love the colors of the house too! M x
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Wrenn that is so beautiful! It looks like something out of a gorgeous picture book. Lovely! D. Xx
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Wren, I can't stop looking, how beautiful ! I am such a lover of flowers, you have an amazing dh! But bet you have something to do with it too as you are so artistic!
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Hi all, I have had the best day!
It has been warm and sunny, very unseasonal and I had a call from my Gf who is also my massage therapist. She had introduced me to another fantastic lady who has just moved to our area a month ago, who is half way through chemo for BC. I had caught up with her at our last Pink Ladies meeting, but didn't get much time to chat. So we decided to do an afternoon tea at my house, they both arrived at 2pm and we had the best time. We sat outside in the garden, in the sun and chatted about all kinds of things.They have just left and it is 5.30pm. We have so much in common, it is incredible.
I hope everyone is having a lovely weekend...M x
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Ariom, isnt it fun to share certain things with people that we have not known forever? Glad you enjoyed your day!
Zills, you kinda threw me for a loop too, but fully understand. The only thing I think of (and I think you have this covered) is pictures of myself. Around this area it is common to have bulleting boards full of pictures from cradel to last days and sometimes even power point videos shown along with music set to it. Being as I have only taken a handful of pictures that I actually look like I did not have one too many drinks, you know.. wandering eyes, goofy smile, etc. So I have started to pick out the pictures that I want shown of myself and even writing my own obit! I know I am a control freak and like to always be in charge!! So glad you are writing letters and videos to your kids, so wish my dil would have done that, she did write a short letter to the oldest boy, but this day and age of modern technology she could have made videos and shared memories with them, but she was in denial right up to the time, and then it was too late. I am writing letters to the boys as ds traveled so much during their young years and we had them so much I am sharing memories of the funny little things they did or said when they were little. They like to hear it too, sometimes the older ones pretend they are just "too cool" for things like that but I know they enjoy it too. You really have a grasp on things, but my mom was always prepared for everything and she would always pack a bag to stay in hospital when we would take her to dr and she said if she had that bag along she would always be sent home!! so I think you are well prepared but wont be needing these things for many many years.
Pretty nice day here, got some weeds pulled from gardens and all the gladiolas weeded! Ready to chill out with a cup of Numi Jasmine tea... I am out of wine
Take care everyone!
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Morning all! Not the lovely day we had yesterday, in fact a wild weather warning for the area. I am keeping my fingers crossed that I won't have all of next doors leaves in here. It has been so calm I haven't had the huge job of raking a hundred plus, big bags of them so far.
I have woken with a frozen, bloody arthritis shoulder. I felt a bit of a warning this week, but hoped it would go away, it didn't! It came on in the middle of the night, so I a tired and grumpy this morning. I hate having to do everything with my elbow tucked into my waist.
ndgirl. I got an email from the lady I bought all the new clothes from yesterday and she is putting a bag of clothes in the mail for me today. She has just done her stock-take and found items that have pockets which she thinks I might like, so I will let you know if there is anything fabulous. She is amazing, didn't charge me for the 2 sizes in everything she sent last time, just told me to return whatever I didn't want, and hasn't charged me for any of this lot, unless I find something I want. Great lady, very trusting! M x
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Just an update that my recovery one week post surgery is going great, went off pain meds Friday, drains continuously slowing down, incision looks good. Yesterday DH wanted to get me out of the house so we took a drive and grabbed some lunch. Felt good to get out even though it is so hot and muggy here. The bad news is this bronchitis has still got its hold on me, only two hours sleep last night so am waiting on doc to call me, worried it could go into pneumonia or something worse? Whatever it is has been spreading among DH co-workers for a few weeks, another one came down with it last week so its a bad one, they are in contact with folks traveling all over the world so who knows where it came from. The mx recovery is a breeze compared to fighting this cough every few minutes. So hoping they can help me with it today.
Ariom I can't wait to start shopping!
ndgirl jasmine tea sounds divine!
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Both my grands had it in early June. GS#1 had pneumonia in both lungs, plus an ear infection. He was a sick little boy. The rest of us didn't get it. It's nasty, hope you get rid of it soon!
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Helenna, I am so sorry to hear you're still fighting that chest infection, like you need that! So pleased the chest healing is doing so well and you're off the pain meds. I hope you get something to knock that infection out today.
I guess the infection you're talking about is the one that is around here too. One of my GF's still works at the airport and she has been laid low with a terrible one for weeks. That was the only thing I really disliked about working out at the airport, was that I knew when we opened that aircraft door each morning, there was stuff that had been brewing from every corner of the world coming right at us. I was sick a lot.
Spookiesmom, I remember you talking about your GS, I hope he is doing well now.
I had a day inside yesterday, we were given a RRed alert forbad weather and gale force winds that never came. I did see that there was quite a lot of damage in Melbourne which is 300km away. Today is just freezing, maybe 4c or so. Hundreds of ducks have arrived and most of the 60 Pelicans that arrive about this time each year. I love to watch them. We had dolphins yesterday that jumped up and out of the water, it was a great show till a boat came and scared them away.
Gosh, it is so quiet here, I hope it is just your great Summer weather keeping everyone busy! M x
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Hello All,
Well my break from reality is over ................. Spent today doing more "dehoarding" and shredding tax documents and old papers form the past 20 years . This getting rid of crap is worse than cleaning ............. I am looking for sharp sticks to poke my eyes out ............ Hope you all are well.
Wren your house is just stunning !!!!!!! Bobo hope you had a good time at the BC get together
Today's Random Thought...................................
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How right you are! mmmmmm chocolate!
You crack me up... I say, "I'd rather stick pins in my eyes!" when I have to do stuff I hate!
We did the huge move the same year I was Dx. It was a crazy time, I ended up getting rid of tons of stuff, but still brought too much with me and still had to cull recently. Now I can breathe, it has a semblance of order now, but it took a while.
I wish you the strength to continue, without going troppo and breaking things! LOL
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Miss you guys, and miss you M! Crazy here. Working in bed right now, Wimbledon on. Have just had a full day with the children. It's the babysitter's break week. Having to work at night. Exhausted.
Sure could use a goldie story right now. And Idesim, I loved your story about the baby bird! How is he?
XXX
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Hey Bobo, sorry you're so busy again, will it ever end?
How did the get together go? I've been hanging to hear how it went and how many went. When you're ready, no pressure! M x
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Hey Bobo, me too, how did it go? Xx
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No new Goldie stories. She continues to get between us in the mornings, under the covers if it's cold. She likes to sit on my lap when I'm on the computer. If I'm trying to crochet, she'll sit right next to me, but ignore the yarn. My SIL was here for 5 days and she decided it was safe to sit in her lap a bit.
My great nephew has a new baby boy. They had pizza with us on SIL's last evening in town. He looks so tiny. Of course he was only 12 days old which may have had something to do with it.
I'm still in my boot for tendonitis. It's not a big hassle, but doesn't seem to be improving quickly. None of my other bouts with tendonitis did either, so it will probably just take more time.
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Sorry you're still in the boot Wren, I hope it isn't causing too much discomfort.
We have been getting pictures of our new baby girl, Colin's great Niece. There was one on FB at the weekend done like a Geddes picture with Willow naked, fast asleep with her hands up under her chin in a sweet pose. I have almost filled another big box with baby clothes to send to her.
Goldie was meant to be with you! M x
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Hello all !
Wren sorry about the boot . M I can only imagine the cute baby things you will be sending. GrammaB any updates ? Hope you all are well. Back to de hoarding again today for me . Today's Random Thought sums up life pretty good !!
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Fiaranch... Yep, that sums it up, finding out as I get older that to hell with it works more often than not! Good luck with de-hoarding! I should be doing the same, even tho not moving.. or at least I hope not!!
Wren, sorry about the tendons and boot still on, but on the up side Goldie is there to help you through! Love that she gets under the covers! Not sure if I have shared this story on here or not.. but we took in our ds cat when he moved to place that would not accept pets, she was used to living with males I guess but she loved my hubby and when it was bedtime she would come around him just meowing, and then later when I would come into bedroom (they went to bed way too early for me) she would just walk the edges of the bed and meow at me as to say "get out of here"! When I would crawl in she would leave! I told him at least one female likes him!! She would like me when he wasnt around and lay with me tho.. love how animals develop their little ways!
Buying baby clothes is fun right Ariom?? such cute things now, have fun.
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Good morning all. Wren I hate to hear of the tendonitis, hoping it gets better soon. Helenna glad you are recovering so well.. Bobo, don't exhaust yourself too much! Try to take it easy if you can. M... sorry you are having such a time with your shoulder. The cold doesn't help at all does it? ND hope you are doing well. Fia.. I agree dipped in chocolate makes it all better! Zills... I don't know why, but I am so sad for you right now. Thinking of you trying to prepare all of this for your boy and baby. It just breaks my heart. Dawny.. hope all is well with you. Everyone else I missed, I am sorry but you all are a piece of my heart and are with me always in my prayers.
The bloody seroma came back and had to be drained last week again. Now, all of a sudden, it swelled up again last night, but the surgeon won't see me, he wants me to see the PS since it was "her side". He is puzzled why I am having the trouble. It isn't the side that they "oops took the lymph nodes that were in the breast tissue so they don't think it is LE. So effin frustrating! I go to the OB/GYN tomorrow for my pre-op for the hysterectomy and if I can't get a resolution by then, I am going to have him look at it. At this point, I would be willing to put up with another drain if it meant that it would stop. It swells upwards into my chest and under my arm and gets to the point that it hurts to breath. I have over doubled in size over night. I literally have gone from an "A" cup on that side to a "B" cup oh... the PS can see me... TTFN
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Just got back from the PS and am trussed up like a french whore in a corset with ace bandages until Monday. She doesn't want to drain it because of the risk of infection. Well shit, damn and effin hell! they have already drained the son of a bitch twice. If it isn't gone by Monday, she is going to go into the OR with my OB/GYN and insert a drain on Tuesday. Yippee and effin :YAY!!! the possibility of another drain. If I baby my arm and don't do anything... it isn't too bad, but I am extremely right dominant and use my right hand for everything.. It is how I learned my new normal after my back fusion.. Guess I am still trying to figure out this latest normal, but so damn frustrated. I am thankful that it wasn't cancer and really try not to whine especially when I don't have any cheese to go with it... but I am about at the end of my fuse and my patience. It is at this point that I curse like a sailor and am way worse than any bitch thought about being. Heaven help Sailman.... JB will be off to the university for orientation the next two days, so he won't be around for much of it. Bless his heart, when he is home anyways, he is sleeping. Working two jobs is kicking his butt. He is working from 7:30am-5pm and then 6pm-11pm most weekdays and then an 8 hour shift on either Sat or Sun. The fast food place where he has worked the last year, begged him not to quit when he gave his notice and promised to give him either Sat or Sun off each week so he would have one solid day off. He is the first one they send home if they are slow, but so far he hasn't minded too much. He says it is a way to cover the semester without student loans and to go in debt free with even a bit left in savings. So proud of him... Fia you were right on facebook... we raised a good boy and have been so lucky with how he turned out. And they said we would ruin him with him being an "only" WTFE...ok, enough of a rant for now. I am sure M is clapping her hands in delight at the gutter gums I have been. Love and positive energy to you all!
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JS, oh how I loved your rant.. especially the SOB part! Ariom will love your gutter gums,, I have stolen that phrase from her and use it alot!! But so sorry about your seroma, damn it all, havent you been thru enough? hoping the best for you. Wow, how proud you should be of your only son!! what a trooper to want to pay for his college and work his butt off for it. Too many do not even give that notion a quick thought. our boy always worked while attending college, I always tell people that the boys may have not learned much Shakespeare etc from their dad but he taught them the value of a good days work! Sending you hugs
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I realized I had never posted this for you sisters to see. Here we are with our JB on his proud day. Love my guys...
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Hey guys! Birdie, how is your boot? JS, how is seroma? Hmm. Agree that kids should work through college. I worked maybe too much through college -- three jobs. Wish I could have had more time to just study and relax (by studying, I mean). For me, studying would be like relaxing.
The lunch. Well, it was super-nice and thoughtful. The women were very nice. They weren't very naughty except for Monday's Child -- she is a pip. She was talking about how she never takes an A before sx, and she forbids the use of Versed at anytime during or after sx, because it is an amnesiac and she wants to remember things and/or order people around in the OR before she goes under! She's pretty awesome. I can't measure up to that. She's trying to keep interns out of her OR. I am too. But she is COMPLETELY SOBER in the OR for thirty minutes! She is a bad ass. I would like to have Ativan sooner than they will give it to me, usually. But she gives me pause. Things have gone so badly for me. If I had been sober longer and ordering people around, would things be different?
ND, loved that story about the two-timing kitty! One of my kitties, Jane Golden, has been ordering people around a lot lately because she is getting older and bossy. Checks out fine at the vet. But she wants canned food for breakfast, not crunchies, and sometimes she just meows and meows! It's so obviously that she's telling us. Oh, and she 'washes my hair' while I am sleeping -- she licks my whole head, and I wake up with mad hair. DLLP's also. She used to do that to our princess after she was born.
How are you, Helenna? And Idesim, how is the baby bird? X
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Hi Bobogirl, a meet up…how fun! Wish I was close to you so I could have joined in. Maybe I can find some gals here in Central Indiana--that is a call out any Hoosier girls-to get together with. I know the nurse navigator holds monthly support meetings that are alot of social connecting. And there is an oncologist at the hospital who is a "yogi" and he does free yoga lessons one night per week so I think when I am allowed I will check that out, never done yoga but think I'd like it. Its at the new cancer center in the lunchroom.
Got my pathology results yesterday….happy day….all 9 lymph nodes were negative and they had clean margins on the tumor. So next week I see the BS and she will give me an oncologist to work with. Will have questions for you guys about all that after I do some reading this weekend.
Got one drain out today! The other one I call "Big Bertha" hasn't slowed down enough but maybe Friday. I STILL have the congestion but think it is getting a bit better.
Tornadoes hit about 20 minutes from here yesterday, no one hurt but houses torn up. A couple of years ago a friend and I organized a donation drive to help pets from the Henryville, Indiana tornadoes, made 4 trips down there with donated supplies, was one of the most fulfilling things I have done in life. People love animals and wanted to help, we had so much food, leashes, crates, it really showed that there are good, compassionate people in the world. Tornadoes are scary but boy I think those California wildfires are the worst, hurricanes for you guys in Florida must be scary too. Always stay safe. xoxo
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How wonderful! What a great read this was. Oh you all know me so well, there's nothing better than a rant with guttergums, cursing to start the day!
Helenna, geat news about your path report, that must make you feel great! I had one I called Big Bertha Too! I hope that is gone soon and the congestion too. You've done so well, while being ill!
Hey Bobo, thank you for the update! I am glad there was a naughty one there for you to talk with! I have to agree with Mondays child about being SOBER in the OR, I won't take anything that makes me less than 100% lucid and I talk to the team, right up till the lights go out. In fact, if I can get them to operate without anesthetic I will go that route, every time. I don't do drugs well, at all.
I need a slapping bass update!
jsj, great picture and what a lovely man you've raised. I agree about only children not having to be spoiled, I am one and Bec was one till her teens, when we adopted Vi.
I was clapping my hands with glee at your rant! but I feel for you, it's so not fair that you've got that bloody shitful seroma. I am picturing you in the French Whores Corset and hope it works and you don't need to be tethered to another drain. My commiserations to sailman, I bet he's tippy toeing around right now.
Morning nd, I think we have all been blessed with great kids, Bec worked in a supermarket through University, but she didn't finish the last year. She helped me look after my Mother who had dementia and it all got a bit too much. Fortunately, she has a good job and hasn't really suffered for it. She's never given me any trouble.
The baby clothes! OMG I can't stop myself...now that we have the little girl I can stop the generic boy/girl stuff and get down to the cute stuff. I have another big box full, ready to go today!
Hey Fia, I am firmly in the "To Hell With It" phase, love that thought for the day!
I am off to see my friend at the Opp Shop this morning, I can't believe how fast Thursdays come around! Big hugs to everyone...M x
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Yes there are lovely girls stuff out there. She has so much stuff that it barely gets worn. Hate for her to wear some stuff to daycare since they play in mulch and do art.
Been a shitty day and the baby is picking up my gutter gums. The boy now says freaking and has an attitude.
Can't stand the heat. RO says drink more water. Dizzy spells not brain cancer. I didn't think so but he did an exam anyway. Told to switch Effexor to night.
I finally sat down and wrote those stinking letters. I have boohooed all day. The kids were easier than DH. What do I say? Sorry I was infertile, anxious, cancerous. Better luck next time.
SJ. I can't imagine in this heat and humidity a corset. Of course you can complain. I would. I can't imagine the discomfort or worry.
H. Yea for good news! Why a MO with clean margins and no nodes? Did I miss something? Just know that chemo is doable and we'll be here for you. And yes you'll love yoga.
Wren. Love your yard and Goldie stories. So sorry about the boot. Would drive me nuts.
ND. Summer yet in your neck of the woods? I'm going to miss the first of the corn and tomatoes. Will make up for it when I get back.
Bobo. Snuffy has started licking me. What's up with that? And the boy has started leaving his drawers on the floor and not washing his hands immediately after using the bathroom. Drives me insane.
I too worked thru college. Expect my kids to work also. But I wish I had played more.
Hopefully a good nights sleep will do me wonders. Feel like I've been run over by a truck. Baby must be exhausted too. Didn't nap yesterday nor sleep all night. Out early tonight with a full belly and socks on.
Yes Fia I'm rapidly reaching the hell with it stage. Decluttering on hold for now. Have partial projects scattered all over the house.
Boy has a play date here tomorrow afternoon. Maybe that will be gumption enough to get everything picked up and put away. Or hidden in baby's closet. One of these days she'll have a room to herself.
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Zills I assume an MO because I am ER+/PR+ it will be to talk about the hormone therapy?
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Duh. Sorry I didn't think about that. I think most of us are on something. It's kinda a no brainer for me no matter the side effects. Of course there are pills to counteract the SEs but come with their own. Just have to pick what you can live with.
Don't mean to scare you. Just because I have an SE doesn't mean you will. It's a personal choice and we'll support you no matter what.
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Oh Zills, Those letters would be so hard to write, big hugs from me, but it sounds like you did it.
I hope you get a good sleep and it isn't too hot. The countdown for the holiday must be getting to you too.
I hope the play date goes well and everyone is tuckered out, so they sleep too.
I just got back from visiting my friend, she had her 78th chemo, yep, you read it right, yesterday for ovarian ca.
I woke up to the Pelicans this morning, it's a sight I look forward to, every year. I took off in my dressing gown with the camera, so if Colin gets time I will show you. Two houses along our stretch are being renovated, so I ran into a few tradesmen while I was chasing the Pelicans. Not a good look, bad hair and one boob! LOL
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