new and future flat sister, with questions
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Gramwe, I love you too as if you are my own sister, and some days I actually feel badly because you do not live in my town. I feel you are close enough geographically that you should live here, and so some days I feel badly that you are not here. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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Awww. How sweet and thoughtful. Thank you. I raise my glass to toast Granwe and say FairPlay. Irish compliment.
And I second the motion you should write.0 -
Okay no mushy stuff today. I just had to get that out in case I got zapped by the garbage truck, or strangled by the octopus grandson which is a distinct possibility!
Bobo, you are having an MRI on a Sunday? How did you manage that? I didn't know that they would do them on the weekend. Guess you taught me a lesson too.
M, how's the reluctant hostess. Oh guess you are sleeping at the moment.
Speaking of sleeping I think I may just slip in a nap. DD is here napping in my bed between jobs, so I'm trying to be still and quiet. Talked myself into it, nap nap.0 -
Well, I can't take credit for the Sunday MRI. That was the only available appt. I jumped at it, since I wouldn't have to worry about job or childcare. Wait. I do have to worry about childcare, if DLLP goes with me. Crap.
It's next Sunday, 1045 a.m. I swear: I am going to go into this MRI completely loaded. I am going to pretend that everything is going to work out perfectly, I'll get a green light from America's Favorite, and this will be the last breast MRI I ever have. Even if that isn't true. Even if they're going to chase my flat a$$ into the MRI machine at some point later. I'm going to pretend it's the last one.
What's on the coffee table? When I get home today, after teaching until 6, my mother will be there.
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gramwe, you are my heart! Such a lovely tribute to our great friends here. You did bring tears to my eyes! I feel like such a pretender because all I had to do was have the BMX. Yeah, sweat all the waiting, but didn't have to do anything else. (OK, yeah, BMX was a pretty big thing, but I never blinked.) I so admire all my friends here that go thorough so much more, surgery and debilitating treatment add family care and work too. My heart goes out to all of you everyday!
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Dammit Granwe, you are always getting me at work... such sweet words for everybody.. back at you babe.. tenfold.. you are a very special lady.
I agree.. I really am in awe of those that have too look after little ones, or perhaps that's a blessing in a way and takes the mind off of this nightmare.
I'm still annoyed over Bobogirl's treatment.. I mean... do you have to go to psych counseling if you want to have your breasts enlarged to watermelons? Or to get your tongue pierced.. ?
So anyways.. I'm so glad its Friday.. we are not ridiculously busy anymore.. now it's kind of dull.. I don't know why we can't get a happy medium.
Not many plans this weekend.. I'm not feeling so hot, I think I may be coming down with something.. or at least I HOPE I'm coming down with something... I feel a bit lethargic and I have swollen glands on one side of my neck which gives me cause of concern when I think of it.. but I'll be damned if every little thing is going to have me running to the Dr. in fear.. hopefully it's just a cold or something coming on. Imagine hoping that you are getting sick and that it's not something else.. hello new reality
Coffee table dinner I think is going to consist of like soup and sandwiches.. not very hungry.
Whats everybody else up to this weekend?
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Good morning!
The reluctant hostess is up and glad to have the house back to just us!
The night bus took our last guest away last night and I can't tell you how relieved I am. It was seriously awful. The accident was a terrible thing but for some reason we just do not click. I always feel so used after a visit. I know that sounds crazy, but there is not one iota of help and I spend my time picking up after and trying to please her. This is not something I would normally put up with,, and were it anyone else I'd be showing them the door!
I am convinced that this will be the last visit here. Colin's Mother's funeral will be in the city, so I doubt there will be any reason to visit here again.
I too, feel like I am coming down with something. I have the swolen glands and would you believe The Claw, in full force. I haven't had that for ages. What crap! I am so annoyed that someone can get to me like this. M x
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I am so glad you are going to put on that attitude for the MRI. I was told the reason you can get a weekend appointment, they do it here too, is because they are such an expensive machine, it needs to be working all the time to pay for itself.
I will be there with everyone else, in the bag, we will keep you company.
How are you doing with your company today?
I am glad there has been no more about the spat with DLLP, I am sorry, but I did have to snort about your description of her. Now, don't hold back Bobo, tell us what you really think!
Hahaldesim, I am sorry you have either a feast or a famine ant work. It's crazy isn't it!
I feel for you so much, and the others having the lousy treatments. I agree with gB. Although I had the same extreme emotions at the beginning, the abject fear during the testing process, the agonising waiting and ultimately the surgery. When that final path came in, my path took a different direction. I have dodged the bullet that I believe, just more time would have directed my way.
I am in awe of you and the others who have to deal with this disease and it's treatment, and then the girls with the children have another whole layer to contend with as well.
There are times that I feel like a fraud, being here, but then I tell myself, I am forever changed by this, and I too have that awful prickling feeling every time I have a pain or a gland comes up.
That all being said, I am off to get ready and go to some yard sales today. We have had a wind warning that we should tie down the outsoor firniture today because the gale force winds are coming. I heard the wind last night.
Take care everyone...back later...M x
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Ariom, darn it! you dont feel well, too much stress, glad you have the house back to just you and dh! I know the feeling all too well, but like the saying goes: we can chose our friends but not the relatives. I have a sil that drives me crazy.. doesnt do a thing to help in any way.. fortunatly dont have to host much anymore. I know how hard it is to watch a parent deteriate, we hope it isnt long for anyone involved.
Idesim, hope you feel better too, have a restfull weekend.
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Thanks ndgirl!
It's early evening and after being out for an hour this morning I made lunch for Colin and me. After that, not much going on. I have slept on and off all day with Dex curled up with me.
I think I might be better now! Still clearing my throat, and Zills, I have the damn reflux happening again, but better than I was yesterday.
Today is the Grand Final of AFL (football). Colin and I are so anti football we have actually removed the sports channel from our satellite, which is considered sacreligious here:) There hasn't been a soul around. Everyone is inside watching the game.
I hope you are all sleeping well...chat later M x
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Sorry you're not feeling well Ariom. Sounds like that visit took alot out of you. What did you do to invoke the claw?
Idesim. Could your not feeling well be allergies? They are bad down here right now. Boy had a flare up after playing in a hay fort at the pumpkin patch. Maybe you just need a pajama day this weekend.
Hope bobo is surviving her visit and found a babysitter for tomorrow. I usually have a spat with my DH on results days. We both are tense and scared and take it out on each other.
Today the boy's grandma is getting married. It's supposed to be a short ceremony and it's 5 min from our house. Then he will spend the night with his brother.
Am looking forward to some peace and quiet but the baby is crabby. Picked the wrong weekend to get her to use her words instead of grunting at me.0 -
Hello Zills!
I think it has been because I have been tense for days, and making and unmaking beds, all the washing, shopping, driving around and waiting on everyone. Endless cups of tea, snacks and meals. I am just not used to it. LOL Don't want to get used to it!
I wouldn't be surprised if what I have is allergy related. The blossoms are all out, my apple tree is covered in bees all day long. There are high winds that just blow the pollens and dust around.
It's not too often a boy gets to attend Grandmas Weddding, so that should be fun, and a sleepover too.
I hope the baby has settled down so you can have a quieter day.
I am wishing for good results for you Zills, you deserve it! I can imagine it gets tense for you and your husband, it's shitful how you have to wait. Thinking about you...M x
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I agree. It's sh1tful for you to wait, Z. How is the baby? What set of words is she using on you? Can't wait to hear.
M, I must say I thought about the claw for you. I thought about your changing the beds. What is wrong with that woman. Can not she get a cup of tea for herself? That reminds me of someone I know over here.
My mom said she would leave once we did the shopping, and while I was gone she parked them in front of a video. Our princess is not really supposed to watch tv. She has photo-sensitive epilepsy. Here's how many hours of tv she has watched this week prior to my mother coming: zero.
Idesim, are you feeling better? Gargling with salt water? Or the old-fashioned flavor of Listerine? If you don't mind chemicals, that old-fashioned Listerine always takes away a sore throat.
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Happy weekend everyone! Cloudy and very windy here with a chance of meatballs, oops I mean rain!!
)I'll be in the bag with you tomorrow bobo. Sounds like you might need a few of us to brace you up after you dose yourself. But that is fine, do what you need to be comfortable. I can't believe your mom! Does she know about the Princess and watching TV? Hope you will have a long time before her next visit!
Ariom, sorry you are not feeling well. Glad you have reclaimed your home. Rest as much as you need. Sure don't want that claw revisiting you!!
ldesim hope you are feeling better and having a peaceful weekend.
Zills, hope you can get some peace and quiet too. How fun for the boy to go to his grandma's wedding and have a sleep over too!
The PT is really helping loosen up my chest area! I can feel a big difference already. The guy kind of creeps me out, but he is the only PT on the home health staff, so I'll deal with it another couple of weeks. Maybe the spinning is helping too. That is still as far as I have gotten with the Rites.
I'm having a very quiet weekend. I have been doing too much lately so am really kicking back today and tomorrow. I will do some photo editing on the computer for my store, but nothing physical.... except taking up the garbage tomorrow!
Hugs to all!
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Hi there everyone!
Woke up feeling more like me, but with a wheezy chest. Claw is gone. I did the Rites, and then took Dex for a shorter than usual walk. I felt much better when I got back, but seem to be getting a bit wheezy again. There has been a really bad virus going around, two of Colin's girls have been off with it, so it is either I got a slight dose of that, or it is something in the air and I am allergic.
Whatever...I have my home back in order!!!!! Happy Dancing!!!
Bobo, I have no answer to your question. Colin is really well mannered and gracious, he thanks you for everything you do for him.
I think about you when I know your Mother is there, and what she'll get up to. It's just weird how people who should know better, do the unexpected. I hope you finished the shopping and it is just the 4 of you in the tiny house.
I keep meaning to ask how the 1 bathroom is going? Has the drama passed? Did the poster work?
ldesim, I am wondering if you're taking it easy this weekend, feeling any better?
gB, so glad you are taking it easy this weekend. The PT is definitely worth it, for stretching and adhesions. I am sorry that the guy creeps you out, but glad you can deal with it for the positive results.
The exercise I still do every day in the shower is the hands behind my head, elbows straight out, stand up super straight and push elbows back while letting the hot water help with the stretch. It feels really good and opens the chest. Don't worry about how long it takes to get into the Rites. Spinning is really good, till you are up for the rest, don't push yourself. There is plenty of time.
For everyone else, stay cozy..chat later
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A house in order and a lazy weekend both sound wonderful, unfortunately I have neither, luckily I also don't have unwanted house guest or cranky children. Yes it is 5am and I'm up on a Sunday morning, in fact I've been awake since 2, the claw is working overtime. Bedroom furniture is stacked in the dining room, and painting is underway. Only the ceiling, door window trim, crown moulding, and baseboards are being painted. 2 coats of primer, 1 coat of paint have been finished, today will bring another coat of paint, maybe just 1 more. The water damaged part has been horrible! We paint, it bleeds through, we paint it bleeds through, hopefully when I go back in there this time it will be gone. I couldn't paint the walls. When I did them last it was a lobor of love. I painted the walls a dove grey, after it dried I drew lines from ceiling to floor every 18 inches, taped them off and painted every other area a forest green. Then I removed the tape, mixed more of the grey paint with a glaze and did a sponge technique over the entire room. When we remove all of the painting stuff today, I'm going to wash the walls, the window, and maybe wax the wood floor before we put the room back together. The OG and the cat are snuggled on an air mattress in the sunroom, it was very comfy, a little cool, just wish I could have remained asleep.
The sooner I get back on a ladder the sooner it will be finished. Be back later Hugs0 -
Oh gramwe, what a huge amount of work this has been for you. I can imagine how disappointing it must be to go back only to find the mark has shown through again. I dont blame you for not wanting to paint over your labor of love, it sounds just lovely.
Please take it easy washing the walls. That motion will surely invoke that damn Claw, like nothing else and you have to get some skating lessons from our Zills for the floors:)
Be careful up that ladder gramwe, you haven't had much sleep. I hope you can snuggle up and have a nana nap today! M x
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Oh gramwe, what a huge amount of work this has been for you. I can imagine how disappointing it must be to go back only to find the mark has shown through again. I dont blame you for not wanting to paint over your labor of love, it sounds just lovely.
Please take it easy washing the walls. That motion will surely invoke that damn Claw, like nothing else and you have to get some skating lessons from our Zills for the floors:)
Be careful up that ladder gramwe, you haven't had much sleep. I hope you can snuggle up and have a nana nap today! M x
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Bobo, I'm ready when you are, I had my nana nap today so I could stay up for the trip in the bag.
I've got timTams!
Did we get a sitter?
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Oh my goodness Granwe. Please send me some of your drive. I couldn't do that before bc. I already walk like an old woman after wearing heels to the wedding. I can't imagine the claw on top of it. Hope you get it finished soon.
Have to do the big shopping today. Will take the baby as the boy won't be home until after lunch. He spent the night with his brother. Will be exhausted when he gets home. Will finish up his book fair pumpkins in a pig shape and have an early night.
My DH has turned into the king of procrastination. Has a stack of receipts he needs to mark so I can process them and be current with the accountant tomorrow. Also needs to pose for his passport pix that's due tomorrow.
More sad news. My great aunt passed away yesterday. The funeral is Friday in town. It's my granny's sister and she was 101. Won't know if I can go until I see the MO on Tuesday. But no more heels. My back and legs are sore and I didn't think I stood very long.
GrammaB. Don't know if I'd like a creepy PT. but at least you can tell a difference. Wasn't impressed with mine but she did give me exercises to fix my shoulder. I'm hoping the massage therapist will be better.
Hope Idesim and Ariom are feeling better today.
Wonder if Bobo is up early. Hope she got to sleep in. She will be impossible since FL beat KY last night in football. I'll be in the bag. Do you think we can sing loud enough to be heard over the MRI? Know any good drinking songs? I just know nursery rhymes.
Baby stirring. Have to go change a diaper. She has a bad rash.0 -
Hi Zills! I am so sorry to hear of another loss for you. That will be hard for your Grandma.
101, that's amazing, when you think of all the changes during a lifetime that spans that much time.
I didn't realise you had gone to the wedding too, and in heels! I spent most of my working life in heels, mostly on marble, or tile floors, but a couple of hours in heels now and I am ready to go home.
I meant to ask if you'd been to the massage therapist yet?
I'm ready to go in the bag with you, don't know about drinking songs, but we can make noise! M x
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We've been working on our bathroom for a while now. Our deadline is Friday. DH is putting in new lights over the sink and a new shower curtain rod. I'll do a 2nd coat of paint either today or tomorrow. Yesterday he put in a low flush toilet. I think we'll really save on the water bill.
Yesterday I drove to Olympia, WA (about 60-65 miles each way) to have lunch with other BCO members. We had 11 people, two from as far away as southern & central Oregon. It poured all the way there and most of the way back. Today my shoulder & lat muscle are really sore. Guess I was gripping the wheel harder than I thought. The worst rain was after I left the freeway and was driving about a mile to our house. There were sheets of water over a road that doesn't normally flood and storm sewers were fountains. Now it's back to normal rain.
Ariom, have you ever seen an old movie called "The Last Wave"? It starred Richard Widmark and was filmed in Australia (or a movie set that looked like Aus.) and featured the most ominous rain I've ever seen. It had native mythology in the plot. I really enjoyed it.
Bobo, When you come round after all that Ativan, we'll tell you how you behaved. Well, we might make up some stuff to make it sound more interesting.
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You guys! The MRI is NEXT Sunday. You have a whole week to look forward to it! I am glad everyone thinks I am going to dose myself and be so out of it. That has never happened in my life, except for surgeries, obviously. I always take like one Ativan, and then I don't feel any different. For the notorious endometrial biopsy I took one Valium, and then I didn't feel any different. And then that was so... well, you know... that I had an adrenaline rush and I really didn't even feel like I'd had a beer.
So glad everyone is cozy. Everyone except Granwe! G, you cannot wash the walls with the claw! I hope you at least apply cool compresses tonight. Your poor beautiful walls! They sound so nice. Have you told us the new color?
Z, I am not going to brag about FL vs Kentucky. It was so fun to have someone who lived in Kentucky! I am supposed to be working right now. Made an eggplant parmesan -- it's vegan, it's in the oven -- and DLLP is making a chicken. Garlic bread, broccoli, pasta. I will have rice pasta. I'm going to try to get work done while it's baking. Oh, with homemade sauce with fresh tomatoes (made in the Vitamix). Idesim, what's on the coffee table?
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Please note: Z's appointment schedule:
Tomorrow 1:20 p.m.
Tuesday 11:40 a.m.
Who's in the bag? Not yet beaten down, myself, from what's coming up. I am ready to make a lot of trouble. I know some of them are excellent and can be our friends... and I know our Ariom has excellent ones... and I have had a few good ones... but that hasn't been the case with me all the time. What am I talking about? I feel like I could punch a nurse while I'm in the bag at Z's appts. I know I can be honest with you about it. There have been some nurses in my life who are overdue for a punch in the nose. Plus I imagine I feel like punching America's Fave in the nose a little bit, so there is probably some misplaced animosity. So what? I will channel it to the good.
Just let a nurse look at our Z the wrong way. Just let one of them cause her any discomfort. I had a black eye at my last surgery because one of the nurses put some kind of duct tape in an 'X' shape over my eyes. Just let any little thing happen. I will be out of that bag like a shot. I have all this fight in me right now. It has not yet been beaten out of me.
So Z, if there was ever a time that we were going to be walked out of the hospital, this is it. Gird your loins. As we are being 'goose-stepped' out, I will raise my fist in salute, shout, 'Tip your waitress!' And then we will go to a pub and have pints and french fries. I know you are avoiding raw fruits and veg at the moment. Big kisses to you. Go Gators!
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Oh geez Bobo, I also thought it was today.. I was all loaded up with fresh garden tomatoes, oilive oil, fresh basil, sea salt and fresh ground pepper.. maybe doesnt smell much but sure is tasty.. i have been living on these for weeks.. so sad when garden will freeze! no killer frost yet here. maybe I should bring some dill pickles just to stink up the bag.
As for drinking songs.. how about "Roll Out the Barrell", 99 Bottles of Beer on the Wall" sounds rousing to me!
Gramwe, wow wish i had your energy! it is so nice after painting is done and so clean.. I need to do a room too but not sure if it will happen this fall.
Wren, I would have been a wreck driving in that rain, have done it a few times and hate it, just wears on us doesnt it. Glad you are home safe and sound.
Ariom, hope you get feeling up to par soon!
Take care all
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Birdie, I think you should have pulled over. You know, our ND is a dark horse. I imagine she is going to be extremely rowdy at the pub. 99 bottles of beer in the wall! That's one of my favorites. I'm going to sing it right now in my head. Did you know yesterday was national drink beer day? That's what it said on the Yahoo crawl, anyway.
M, yes, got a sitter. My brother. I'll drop the kids at his house (nearly an hour away), then drive to hospital. Hopefully he will drop them back to me. I am hoping DLLP and I can order takeout and I can eat it in bed. Working Saturday, hospital Sunday. No rest for the wicked.
My brother is a leak; I have told him not to tell my mother, but they are married now. She was extra strangely nice, for her, this weekend. Don't congratulate me -- it was still awful -- but she did some laundry.. she usually doesn't do anything like that. It caught me off-guard. I think he told her about the last surgery. And she brought me a carrier bag full of scarves! She just said she was cleaning things out and would I like them. Hmmm. Don't compliment her, I mean it.
Z, I am going to send them to your sweet friend. She said she liked the ones I sent her last time.
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No hard freeze here yet either, though we dipped below freezing on Friday morning I think it was. Just lots of clouds and wind and rain. The d@#n wind blew out the pilot light on my gas fireplace and it is a real pain to get it lit again!
Ariom, I do that elbow exercise all the time throughout the day. Sitting at the computer I take a break and do it every couple of hours. Then I gently massage the skin. I also so the reaching straight up and stretching the arms backward as much as possible a lot too. And the one where you squeeze the shoulder blades together. I have tightness under the shoulder blades so that one helps some.
gramwe, I am once again amazed at the drive you have and the stamina to get things done. I totally get about the water stains! When I bought this house, my office space ceiling trim looked fine but after a while I noticed several water stains bleeding through. Then the next year, I had major leaks in the roof over the office and had to put a whole new roof on the house! Your walls sound amazing! Truly a labor of love!
Zills, so sorry to hear of yet another loss for you. 101 years, wow the changes she saw! Sounds like you have some good longevity genes in you!
I can't quite put my finger on what it is about the PT guy, just something somehow off. I didn't even really realize it at first. What put my "creepy" radar up was on Friday, after he finished the exercises he said "Anything else I can do for you?" Not in a creepy way at all, it just felt odd. At least this won't be a long term thing and he is getting results so I'll just go with the flow until he is done.
Wren, sorry your trip had such lousy weather, but it sounds like you had a fun time any way.
ndgirl, I am so envious of your array of veggies and herbs!! I thought bobo's appointment was today too! I'll be in the bag whenever it is.
Looks like a little break in the wind/rain, I'm going to make a dash to get the garbage taken up! Be back soon.
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Well, how did I manage that? I was sitting here all ready and nothing nada, next week? Oki-Doki!
Wren I do believe I have seen that movie, it rings a bell for me.
I don't do driving in the rain well. When I used to work at the airport, I was driving there at 5am a lot in the winter, the rain would be coming down in sheets and the big interstate 2 or 3 trailer trucks would fly alongside me. Then when I was driving home in the middle of the day it would become a total whiteout on the freeway and I'd be terrified all the way home. I feel for you having to do that.
Lots of reno work going on too!
How was the get together? M x
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I am there for Zills appointments too, and I am with you Bobo, just one sideways glance at our girl and we can take them on! I have plenty of unused energy that should have been directed at a certain someone, but I kept myself nice.
So relieved you have your Brother to take the children, and maybe even a quiet dinner with DLLP afterwards. I wonder what he has said to your Mother? Maybe a good thing hon!
gB, if you're doing all those exercises, and massage you are doing well. Glad you've got your "creepdar" on! Maybe an innocent question, but if you felt creeped out that's what it was.
ndgirl, I envy your garden too. I am going to go into town and buy my seedlings today! I have Sweet Basil growing on my window ledge, and the smell is intoxicating. I throw it into everything I eat at the moment. I need my lettuce garden to be set up NOW! My Spring Onions are getting there, and the Chives and Thyme, and Mint are all doing well. I need Coriander and Vietnamese Mint too. You have inspired me, so I have to do it today. I just hope they didn't sell out over the weekend again.
I am feeling good again thankyou!
Time for the Rites and get ready to go into town.....take care everyone M x
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Well, lost the post I started after taking up the garbage...
( I hate that!!bobo, thnaks for the appointment list for next week. I'll be in the bag for Zills for both appts. Man I got the date wrong too re your MRI. I thought it was today too! I'll be there next week for sure!!
As Ariom said, it may turn out to be a good thing that your brother talked to your mom. I know you said not to give her any credit for her little changes, but maybe just a bit, a teeny tiny bit?? It is great that you have him sort of nearby to take care of the child care for next Sunday. I too hope you and DLLP get to have a quiet meal to yourselves after.
On the coffee table tonight is leftover pork ribs cooked with oriental mushrooms, garlic, onion, baby bok choy, sesame oil served over Miracle Rice (made of a natural fiber glucomannan) topped with sambal oelek cause mama likes it hot and spicy!!
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