new and future flat sister, with questions
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Zills the trick or treat sounded like so much fun!
Bobo! don't be afraid of the psych, you'll do fine!
I hope you found the sewing machine, and didn't have to make a mouse by hand sewing!
Still trying to unpack, and have to go food shopping, will catch up with everyone else after....M x0 -
Bobo. When is your appt? You'll do fine. You've surpassed all other kinds of tests and jumped thru hoops with flying colors!
Meet with radiologist today at 10. Little nervous. Have poison ivy on my chest and wrists from the kittens. Wonder if I'll be postponed before I even get started.0 -
I'm in the bag for you, Z. How did kittens give you poison ivy? Confused. Did they walk in poison ivy and then walk all over you?
Wonder what the radiology meeting is for. Mapping out a schedule? Hope you will give us the update. Psych is Thursday at nine. I really am quite nervous about it. They sent me this gigantic packet meant for insane people, telling me that my "evaluation" could take between "2 and 8 hours." And they're going to have graduate students in to practice. Boy. I just feel like I've been through the wringer lately. Plus have many appointments for our darling.
M, have not gotten out the sewing machine yet. Felt pretty good about making pattern to fit cutting out and pinning. Foolishly resting on my laurels. Are you going to break out the airfryer tonight? XXX0 -
Welcome back Ariom! hope you get some well needed rest, and Colin too.
Zills, was also wondering about poison ivy from kitties.. waiting for the answer, hope things go well for you at appointment.
Bobo, first of all I cant believe you have to have this exam.. still is unreal to me. But put your worries away.. you will rock it! for God's sake.. you are not crazy because you want to rid your body of cancer cells! will be with you on Thursday for appt. was going to bring a snowball with me as we woke up to 2 inches of snow on Sunday but is all gone now, I love the first snow but was glad to see it go this time, it is way too early for it to stay! costume sounds like a winner, you must be talented!
I am having a slow down day today, last night I hosted our local Bunco club.. house full of 12 screaming women shaking dice for prizes... sounds crazy but we have a blast! I am done hosting for the year so that feels good, house is clean and dusted so think I will just take it easy! Had to check in with all my new buddies here first... have a great day all.0 -
I know its been a long journey but you are not crazy. You are being proactive, trying to be here for your children, have quality of life. It's one last hurdle. You can do it.
Nice to have a clean house. Never played bunco.
Kittens hang out under pine trees which are full of poison ivy. Milder reaction than normal due to chemo. Yea! Just an itchy rash covered in calamine per MO.
Go next week for "fitting" and tattoos in machine. No big deal. Will start in Nov and go six weeks. Told not to wear deodorant or vit E oil on scars.
Had a minor crying spell. They discussed life expectancy and what radiation does for it. Not much since it's mets but should save use of my shoulder. Not sure why they had to justify radiation to me. I agreed to the treatment and so did ins. I'm an ostrich and don't want to know my expectancy.
Will send me for PT to ensure shoulder stays good, a foob fitting afterwards and said I could have recon in 6-9 months, if desired.0 -
Bobo, I'm probably just being paranoid here, but I question why they want to do a full psych eval. I was thinking it would just be an hour or two with a shrink. The fact that students are involved raises several questions in my mind. (Full disclosure: My first job was typing up psych evals done by grad students at our city-county hospital.) How are they going to assure confidentiality? Are these students from your school? Why do they think an IQ test is necessary for a college professor? Has your surgeon had a psych eval? Can you read it? OK, the last two are just questions I'd like to ask your surgeon.
And, I think the whole thing was triggered by not wanting recon. Now that you're having recon, why does she still want this test? I know you will come across as completely sane, no problem there. But what a waste of 8 hrs.0 -
Zills, I'm with you on not wanting to know life expectancy -- especially since they don't actually know. An uncle in DH's family lived 12 years beyond his 6 mo prediction and outlived the doctor who made the prediction. The kittens are probably really good at finding things to bring home. They're so cute you can't actually be mad at them for long.0 -
Hello all! Just up and the weather is chilly and wet. Super storm last night with thunder and lightning, so loud it made me jump!
I am going to a BC exercise class in town today, organized by our BC Nurse. I really don't feel like it, but I will go.
Zills, so sorry about the Poison Ivy, itching is so awful. Good luck with the Radiation mapping.
I just hate to think of you crying, I would not want to know someone's opinion either! We all know of people who have defied the odds they were given. Hugs to you, Zills.
Wren, I am with you about this psych report. There are certain procedures here in Australia that require a psych report before the Doctor will do the procedure, but they are a short consult, and really just a formality, unless you're really not up to the surgery.
Bobo, I really am concerned with the reasoning behind this consult now. I was under the impression it was when you didn't want recon, and they couldn't deal with that decision. Now you're doing what they feel is the right thing and it has turned into a major F deal. Not to mention what it is doing to you!
I feel for you Hon, this decision should not be giving you this much grief. I've never heard of so much back and forth nonsense for a decision that is no ones but yours. Do you have any idea what it's about? What a bloody waste of time!
Bobo, I am thinking of buying a Vitamix! I am on a shopping Forum, (surprise, surprise!) one of the members bought a Vitamix, but has decided she isn't going to use it, so she wants to sell it. Should I buy it? The price is great, are they really that good?
I have used the Air fryer nearly every day since I bought it. It really is a great appliance.
Thanks ndgirl! Boy, have we slept! It was such a busy few days that we just collapsed when we got home.
I have never heard of Bunco!
Take care all M x0 -
Ariom, just a quick ? I could go back and look at earlier posts but what kind of air fryer did you buy? I see the phillips needs no oil but it is very spendy. it seems you like yours, but of course I cant remember the brand. Thanks in advance.0 -
ndgirl, It's a Rank Arena. It has the same capacity as the Phillips, but is a bit lower in power, which means a little extra cook time. Since I have never tried the Phillips, but have watched it on our Shopping Channel, I can say, they are pretty much the same, except for the outrageous price difference!0 -
Wren, all good questions! I doubt I could read AF's psych eval! Wren and Ariom, agree about the fact that I thought she wanted the eval because of no recon. But I believe I'm caught in the machine of it now.
The PS believes I'll be there a very short time, that they'll just take a look at me and say 'You don't need to be here.' I worry that they won't -- that they'll just blithely use me to let the grad students practice. Yes, they are from the same school.
I have written my PCP to ask if she will put in a word with the Psych. The more words the better. Like you, the more I think about it, the more I worry that it will be this terrible extended thing. Wren, I don't really believe in confidentiality, do you? V worried.
Ariom, you should DEFINITELY buy a Vitamix. I use mine everyday. Here's what you are going to love: it comes with a giant cookbook, and you can make soup! You whiz it together for six minutes, and it comes out hot soup! You can make your own almond milk! Or almond butter! You can make salad dressings in there! And of course smoothies and juices. Love my Vitamix. It is totally unlike a blender. I would never go back.
Z, I too would hate to think of you crying. Poor baby. Love you. We are all ostriches to some extent or another.0 -
Hi Bobo! I am sure you know best, and will get through this psych nonsense. I just hate that you have all this unnecessary crap going on when you should only be preparing for your surgery and taking care of your family. Can they make it any more stressful for you????
I haven't heard back from the woman about the Vitamix, but now that I have spent some time researching it, I really want one! I hope she hasn't sold it to someone else because I could never justify the brand new price here.
I spent the day in town today. First off I had a BC exercise class and luncheon, followed by some demonstrations of cosmetics and new Mx clothing and bras. It was a good day, but I needed a nana nap when I got home!0 -
Thanks Ariom, will do some checking.
Zills, I too hate to think about you crying.. but ya know what? I dont think there is a expiration date stamped on any of our bodies, case in point.. my dad was given 48 hours at the most at one time and guess what? he lived 11 years more! guess I am glad to be a good ole stubborn Scotsman!! sorry Ariom.. he he.
Bobo, I still just cannot believe all this but if you must you must! you will do fine with all of us there for you.0 -
Bobo, I have big concerns about confidentiality. Are you out at school? My experience was long long ago, but the grad student(s) will see the results, their professor, and perhaps a typist. Although the students may all know how to type these days and do their own. They may even have computer fill in the blanks forms now. I remember typing for months without seeing a normal IQ. Later, as I became a therapist/case manager, I realized they were way to psychotic to be given the tests. Who cares how to subtract by 7's when the voices are threatening to torture you to death?0 -
Its been busy here! I've been spending more time on my eBay store and raking leaves outside, have lots to catch up on!!
I started using Mederma scar gel a few days ago. It seems basically to be aloe with some other things. 3x a day says new scars will take ~8 weeks. Too soon to tell if it will really work. Last night I tried ScarAway silicon strips over the 2 big incisions and the node scar. I really am not concerned about the scars from the drains. My plan is/was to wear the strips for 12 hours at night, remove them and apply the gel 3x during the day. Well, when I took off the strips early this afternoon I saw that they had already left red marks on my skin. Not too happy about that. It may be because I didn't wash my skin before putting them on, but I hadn't applied the gel in over 5 hours..... will wash tonight and see if it makes a difference. If not, the strips may not be for me.
Thanks for the input Ariom! I liked the look of the Lara and Mona too when I looked at them online, but I didn't add them to my list to look at for some reason, and of course wasn't offered them to try on. If the Isabel doesn't work for some reason I will ask to order one of each of those. I so hate this place!!
ndgirl, you said you went to Rochester for yours? Is there a Rochester in ND? or did you mean MN @ the Mayo? That's a bit far for me to go! I am going to have to check out Spokane I guess.
bobo, I don't see any reason why you should have to go through the full psych eval. That is meant for people that have mental illnesses, not for a personal choice re recon or no recon. It seems way over kill and a total waste of your time. I too thought it would just be a 1 maybe 2 hour chat in the dr's office and that would be it. I too would have privacy concerns if you have students working on it. Especially if they were connected with your school!!
Still catching up but will send just to be safe!!0 -
You guys are not meaning to -- of course you are not -- you are just expressing your outrage over my situation, but you guys are scaring me more! Feel like nothing I can do regarding students. This is a hoop that has to be jumped through. And then I have to go to work straight after. It could be very easy, or it could be horrible.
Trying not to work myself up over this.0 -
Zills, ((hugs)) I hate to think they made you cry!! I hate that drs even go there with life expectancies!! I had a dear friend that had several operations for brain cancer and was "given" 6 months to live. She live 15 years before it took her. My DH was "given" 3-6 months with his leukemia after his leg was amputated. They weren't even going to fit him with a prosthesis! I fought for that and he got it. He lived another 18 months and had some quality time where he was up and about on his leg. (After he passed, his leg was donated to a group that took used prosthetics to third world countries for people that couldn't afford them. I like to think his leg is out there somewhere still walking around!)
I wouldn't want to know my life expectancy, I would think the psychological impact of being given a ticking clock would be far worse than just managing it on a one day at a time basis. I like that commercial for Cancer Centers of America where the woman says her dr told her he didn't see any expiration date stamped on her foot!0 -
bobo, so sorry if all this is causing you distress!! Not our intention at all! We are all just scratching our heads over the need for such an in depth exam. (((hugs)))
I'll be in your bag hoping for the shortest eval possible!!0 -
Hey Bobo, let's just get this thing over with and move on. I am in the bag, and I promise to behave!
Make it a big bag because I bet we are all coming!
I am so sorry to have made it more difficult for you. We all just try to identify with each others experience. We hate to see you distressed.
There's no need for you to get worked up over this, you'll coast through it, and then we'll get ready for the surgery. You're nearly there lovely one!
I am off out this morning to the Opp Shop. I missed the big yard sale at the weekend.....25 houses all with great stuff! Colin's attendant came this morning and has been telling me all about it! Maybe next year!....Take care everyone.M x0 -
gB, as I recall, it was an "ease into" scenario for the scar strips, building up the time they are on. I have used them on lots of different scars, but I am sure it was for like a couple of hours the first time. I swear by them, because I have had such great results every time I have used them. It isn't a really fast process, it takes some time, and the skin must be clean when you apply the strips.
I should have mentioned that the Lara bra is a padded, structured bra. The Mona is a soft cup, very comfortable bra, so they are very different. The woman from Amoena told me that the Mona is their most popular style and is the "Go To" style for most women in the beginning.0 -
ndgirl, no apologies! Proud of it!
Colin's Uncle, who lives in Atlanta, and is my fave relative, made comment when Colin told him of my Dx. "I won't worry about Moira she's a tough Scots Woman!" LOL0 -
Grammb, Rochester, MN, yes a long ways for me too, but my son lives about 11/2 away from there, hope you can find some closer that you like, I know I will not always be able to run to Rochester, so I need to find an alternative for somethings as well. Once you get measured and get used to the new things you should be able to order online.. I have been looking at Liberator site and catalog. I need more bras, I love the Mona too and maybe should just order another but would like to try other brands.
Sorry Bobo, I know that wasnt our intent at all, you will do just fine, I know it! and remember.... I am the Witch of the North!! Good luck!
btw.. what happened to the icons? smiley faces etc?0 -
What icons? No worries gB, M, ND, I'm sure you are all on to something. I have no idea why this might be happening and I'm trying not to think about the possible meanings behind it. I don't know... I'm going to pretend it is just MX procedure. Get ready to jump out of the bag and sneak me out of there if they try to make me stay the full 2 - 8 hours!
Ariom, I can't wait to hear about your op shop report. I hope you don't get into any kind of snit fight with someone wearing a beaning. Wait. I kind of hope you do!
ND, I am so sorry about your husband. I like to think about his leg walking around too! Sending you all big kisses. XXX0 -
sorry bobo, not my hubby! think it was GrammB, that's ok, we read so many posts on different forums, I feel bad for him too, we have a local hero here, he is a Green Beret (special forces) and was wounded in Afghanistan last nov. and he lost his leg in a bomb explosion, but he is a tough marine and is getting along pretty well with his "new" leg, such a strong guy, but he feels glad to be alive as so many others didnt make it thru that day.
Blessing to you Bobo on you appt.0 -
I've caught up on this page.. welcome back M, we missed you.. I'll catch up on your trip.
Zils, you'll do fine with radiation, plan a treat for yourself either something small every day or something bigger after every week.. it sounds so long but it goes by very fast. I'm an ostrich too and if you only had a little cry then you are doing a hell of a lot better than I would have in that situation.
You guys are always talking about foobs and being fitted and I still haven't had a fitting.. its pissing me off. I found out today why the BS hasn't called me back... seems she's volunteering in Ruwanda, which is all fine and good.. but the office not calling me back is unacceptable.
M, I have been looking at the air fryers and it appears that brand might be only sold in Aus... I may just cave in and get one.. I'm still trying to resist.
GrammaB, I"ve seen that commercial too. I love the idea of your hubby's leg still walking around!!
Bobogirl, are you friggin kidding me??? 2 to 8 hours??? THEY are the ones insane!! Again, I state.. do women that go and get huge mammoths breasts in their 20's have to undergo psych evaluation? I don't believe they do. I am fuming over this whole situation, but I will be good tomorrow.. or at least.. I will try to be good tomorrow... Maybe I can divert the intention from you.
I had a horrible experience this morning... I went for my mammo and they called me back twice to take more films and then in for ultrasound. I was crying.. and I am do not normally cry over things (not that there is anything wrong with people who do). We all know why they need more films.. it's because they found something. I'm assuming the tech told the Dr. that I was becoming unhinged because when I entered the ultrasound room, I was immediately told not to worry (easy for them to say!) but they just wanted to be ultra careful and rule everything out. Unfortunately they left me in panic mode for quite some time. Luckily they believe it's only a fibroid, but I was there almost 2 hours and honestly thought I was going to pass out. So this makes me late for my echocardiogram. So I go to the dept and up to the counter and tell the girl that I'm late and I'm sorry and can I still get the test done and she gives me the worst attitude and tell me I'll probably have to wait and she'll find out how long. I tell her I have another appt at 11:30 and she says to me "well that's what happens when you're late". Mind you, I am STILL shaking from the earlier experience. I say to that little b!tch. AS I told you, I was held up from a previous appt. here in THIS hospital when there was a concern over my mammogram which I am still shaken up about and I don't appreciate being further stressed out. They took me right away. I really wanted to punch that girl.
I always get sad hearing about servicemen who have lost limbs and what not.
Ndgirl, I love the sound of your Bunco club.. sounded like a lot of fun.
Wren, how are you doing? I'm still sad about Celine.. will you get another foster kitty?
9 AM tomorrow.. it's ON! Wait til the psych team gets a load of our crew eh?
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Poor Idesim. Good for you telling her what and good for them taking you back.
Bobo. I'll be there. Bouncing in and out. Have to meet with the lawyer to get DH passport signed. Irish rules. Then on to mandatory safety training for business. Maybe we can have a Starbucks afterwards? Find the sewing machine yet?0 -
Idesim..oh I can just imagine what you were going thru, I would have been the same. you have a mammo at 6 months, I dont have mine for 1 year after dx.. not that I want another but I was thinking they would tell me the same as you but they said other one was ok and just do yearly... this crap leaves us so suspicious of every little thing. glad they think it is only fibroid, but do they check further or are you still waiting for more results. Those little snips with an attitude have no business working with ladies like us and your breast techs should have called them to explain why you were late too, glad you gave it to them good. Get some good rest tonight. and yes I agree about our young service men being blown up in these senseless wars. going to bed now so I am ready for bobo's appt. with the time difference i need to be ready early!!!0 -
bobo, it was my DH's leg. Yeah every once in a while I wonder where it ended up.
ndgirl, I just realized the woman never did measure me! She talked about how you measure center front to center back, double the number and add some inches, but she never did it. I told her I had measured myself and got 35" but that was me doing it and all the way around. Now I'm really worried about how the bras will fit!!
Ariom, thanks for that input. I've never liked padded structured bras much so the Mona would be a good choice for me. She put me in one bra, I swear the top of the bra was under my chin and it stuck out on the sides so much I couldn't raise my arms in front of myself without hitting it!! Very strange.
Hopefully my things come in while she is still there (her last day the 29th) because I want to get Spokane references from her. I doubt the staff that will take her place would send me to someone else.
The box didn't say anything about easing into the strips, but that is probably a better idea. It said to wear them a minimum of 12 hours a day, or 24 but you have to take them off once a day to wash them.0 -
Bobo, It's an early appointment tomorrow, but I'll be in the bag.
Idesim, I'm doing OK. I'll get another foster cat eventually. I want to take a little break because they all sit on the table in the window that I use for painting and I end up with cat hair in the paint. I'm being picky too. They had 3 cats they wanted in foster. I decided one looked too much like my cat Feliz, who lived to 19 and got meaner by the minute. Another one was described as a talker, which is a deal breaker for me. And the third was long-haired and black -- like most of our recent fosters. I'm sort of hoping to foster a healthy orange boy who is just tired of the shelter.0 -
sorry girls, my laptop has fritzed, and I don't have full command of this tablet. hope to get back on tomorrow. m0
