STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER
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Mara,
I have had to "unfriend" people and ban a couple of my brothers from having anything to do with my life.
They just 'don't get it.' There's nothing I can do to change their opinions, so they are no longer in my life frustrating and disappointing me. It's been a hard thing to do, but I'm much happier for it.
L
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What a bozo, does he look through your pocketbook too?
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. Hard to believe siblings raised in the same house some times.
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mara (((HUGS)))
I'm glad you now feel comfortable talking and working with older brother on finances. I hope he's able to help you.
No words for your younger brother and wife. Except, maybe not wear wigs in their presence. Would that help them see you as a person with cancer?? Sheeesh!
Madelyn
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Meow, I would not put it past him. I've added passwords for my devices.
Lita, I will ask him to leave next time. I can't get too stressed out since I am taking care of my mother.
Mominator, I think it would take a steep decline for him to believe my terminal DX. His wife and my brother believe I will go for years. I tell them while I hope for years, realistically, if the brain screws up, being NED from the neck down won't matter. The extra time I have had in relatively good health has been a gift. A lot of people are not so lucky. When I am gone, they will have to deal with it.
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Sorry to change the topic....My stepson called yesterday to talk to DH and me. He's a recovering codeine addict so it's all about him. I heard DH say she's doing ok just gets tired a lot easier lately. So he puts dear stepson on the phone...He asked me how I'm doing which was nice but when I said the weeks of treatment are getting better side effect wise but that I am increasingly more tired and I don't have the energy I used to have. He replies yeah I get tired a lot too. Work is just so hard sometimes. OMG I'd love to be 27 again and to have eternity ahead of me!! My stepchildren are so clueless. My stepdaughter called DH last week and inquired why I haven't called her to ask for help. DH told if she'd come by and offer to help would be better (I'm not the asking type ...) she had no comment. Again it's all about them. Sigh my 3 kids are different...Mom what do you need? Want me to come down and help? Sorry just needed to dump
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Vent all you need. Those without cancer don't know what we go through. Try to think of something your stepdaughter can do. People sometimes need something specific to do or need direction.
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I have one kid who thinks I need basically to be an invalid and the other kid who thinks both of us are just fine when he wants us to babysit the 4 grandkids. Otherwise he thinks we are to invalid to live in our 2 story house and need to move closer to them which we cannot afford to do at all and he is clueless.
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So my privacy was invaded in an even worse way. I posted earlier about my younger brother snooping into my tablet Changed my username and password because he logged into this site as me and read my posts. That is such a violation of my privacy. I never knew he hated me so much but he does. I will no longer engage or talk to him. This site is supposed to be safe to vent without hurting other peoples feelings. I will not close my account but at least he can't pretend to be me. And younger brother, if you read this, know that I will not see you again.
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Something is wrong with your brother upstairs. I think you are doing the best thing for yourself.
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"myboobs" if your bozo younger brother logged into this site and read your posts, he may also have read our posts to you. So maybe he learned something like he's being a JERK!!!
I'm glad you didn't close your account, because we love you.
Vent away.
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OMG!!!! What an AWFUL thing to do to you!! May the fleas of a thousand camels reside in his nether regions!!!
Your right in every way and I hope he learns to respect other people in the very near future. Sending (((hugs))) to you
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Thanks nanette. I know he can just make an account and keep invading my privacy BUT he will no longer be part of my life. I CANNOT lose this site or you guys. With all the crap going on at the same time, I cannot deal with his anger, hatred or whatever reasoning he has. I may delete my facebook too. For now, all passwords are being changed on all my sites.
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We have Colonial Penn life insurance. Their commercials are so misleading. $9.95 a month for little to nothing for life insurance. My husband also has long term care and life insurance at work plus we have a separate accidental death policy through our credit union. Obviously once he retires those coverages at work are history.
Once you reach a certain age the monthly payment skyrockets and your coverage drops drastically unless you want to pay those astronomical monthly amounts. We have enough to bury us and a bit more for other expenses. We do have a 401k account that we could use.
Diane
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Edwards, a HUGE misrepresentation in commercials for those "no questions" life insurance policies is they imply your family will be left to pay your bills after you die. That is not the case. Nobody else is responsible for your bills. If there are not sufficient assets in your estate to pay everything, they just don't get paid.
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glad to hear my fam wouldn't get wiped out with my medical bills that my "estate" can't pay. That's criminal to lie to people like that. Those seeking life insurance over 50 are probably dealing with chronic or terminal conditions. Shame on alex trebek of jeopardy for making such a commercial. Too many people will lose money in the end thinking it's a good deal.
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The commercials I'm thinking of imply that a couple's grown children would be responsible for paying their outstanding bills.
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One thing that aggravates me are the commercials for burial insurance. All you need to do is go to a funeral home and pre-plan your funeral. You can pay it off up front if you can or you can use a payment plan. Cuts out the middle man. Makes it much easier on family. Only extra expense would be if you died away from where you would be buried, there is a transport cost and if family wants extra items you didn’t attange for.
Wow Myboobs, your brother’s behavior is reprehensible. So glad you are changing your passwords. One can only wonder what else of yours he has hacked into.
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Apparently he felt is was his right to hack this account AND my bank accounts. All passwords have been changed and I am no longer speaking to him. Once my mother and I are dead, he will be happy. If you are reading this younger brother, shame on you. You hate me, that's OK. You don't have to deal with me anymore.
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thanks Runor, all. It's all kind a crazy but yes I'll keep the next 10 yr term renewal. Both kids should be finished school by then and our mortgages should be paid. IMHO it's a small price to pay to be sure the kids are set for their future. I worry about my hubs because he has RRS but no pension. If I go before the next term ends he should be ok but after that, we'll see. Funny that. Me worrying about 10 years plus life insurance to get the family through. I hope that's the case anyway. Love to all.
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Myboobs~Kharma is a real bitch when it comes to town a callin. Disgusting little things people seem to think they are justified in doing. Well we are justified in calling him an anal pore!! Hope he reads that one and realizes those are pretty disgusting. Soooo case closed. Leave our sister alone. That's right I said it sister. At least we have her back...for real!
I say this because I have an older brother I am estranged from and everyday I don't regret one bit. He took my computer to a computer shop to see if he could help my soon to be x husband gather dirt on me, during the divorce. Even though I am the one who was Home with the children for nine years. So I can understand the unbelievable disgust and disdain One can have for someone who just unfortunately holds the word brother because of blood only.
Leave her alone dooche!
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Thanks Micmel. According to my older brother, he felt perfectly fine hacking into my accounts. His wife did too. It is ugly but they are not welcome to visit my home as they have also shown some bullying behaviour to my mother who has lung cancer. Unacceptable. If they want to see her, older brother needs to be there. I will not be around.
If bullying cancer patients is acceptable, they are not worthy. Thankfully my older brother and SIL have our backs. Anal pores are definitely disgusting. Thanks for having my back.
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Well I found my missing life insurance policy and it was a HUGE relief!! Yes I think the funeral commercials are lies and I don't trust that reverse mortgage thing either.
About pre-paid burial plans. They are good as long as you keep up with the funeral home to make sure there isn't any increases. When my Grandmother died we ended up having to take out a $2500 loan to offset her burial costs. Her pre-paid plan was really old as she survived Grandpa by 15 years.
Now when my MIL died this past July her pre-paid plan was pretty much up to date and DH and his 2 sisters only had to come up with $600 to cover the costs. Mom survived Dad by 20 years.
Point being if you do the pre-paid plans it's a good idea to make sure your policy doesn't need updating. I'm a VET so they will take care of the burial costs but once my SSD finally gets approved I'm going to talk to our Funeral Director and see what else I will have to plan for....like transportation to another VET ADMIN approved cemetary if for some reason the local one gets full for Vets. Local cemetaries have limited VET plots unless there is a National Cemetary and they have lots of VET plots.
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Good advice Nanette.
Diane
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Had no idea they could raise rates once you pre-pay your funeral! I had better make sure my mom confirms with hers since she has already done it. Good knowledge to have.
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Check into it, I don't think its like that everywhere. When my grandmother died and my aunt died years later, both of the pre-paid funerals were still standing, no extra money was charged to them. It was only if we added anything more to the original arrangements that we had to pay for.
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check what was signed.
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My Mom & Dad had prepaid plans and we did not have to pay for anything except the obituary
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Every year during open enrollment I've applied for LTD with my company and this year denied because of my BC diagnosis. So unfair that a pre-existing medical condition affects LTD and Life. My husband and I are both affected now since he was diagnosed with cancer two years ago. Luckily we both obtained life insurance years ago.
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