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  • octogirl
    octogirl Member Posts: 2,434
    edited December 2016

    I also will keep Beppy in my heart and will try to be a better, kinder person in her memory as she was one of the kindest people I ever met. So grateful that I had a chance to meet her. Rest in Peace dearest Mayor. We all love you and will miss you everyday.

    Octogirl

  • m0mmyof3
    m0mmyof3 Member Posts: 9,772
    edited December 2016

    In total shock over the news of Beppy's passing. May she be at peace!!!!


  • Molly50
    Molly50 Member Posts: 3,008
    edited December 2016

    I have been quietly checking here because I had a feeling we were losing her. I lost Tomboy's number so I wasn't able to find out if she did indeed go see her a couple weeks ago. I sooooooo wanted to go but was sick with a cold. I am just sitting her shaking my head. I only met Beppy in person twice but what a presence she had. You felt safe with her and loved by her. I texted her last week the picture of Wyatt with Mickey. I do hope she was able to see it. The last words I have from her was to hug Wyatt for her. That was November 11.

    Rest in peace my dear friend and sister, Beppy. You have had a deep impact on many people, many that never even had the pleasure of meeting you in person. My prayers are with all who are impacted by her loss...especially her family.

    I need to go home and hug my boy. She loved him.

  • chisandy
    chisandy Member Posts: 11,408
    edited December 2016

    Beppy was more than our Mayor—she was our Comforter-in-Chief and there isn’t anyone on these boards whose lives she hadn’t touched. May she know true peace now. Her memory—as was her life—will be a blessing.

  • gmafoley
    gmafoley Member Posts: 5,978
    edited December 2016

    The last and first time I ever talked with Beppy was before her radiation. It was on September 2nd. We had been texting since July. We talked about her dog Jack-A-Bee. Was hoping to see her in Port Orford, but couldn't make the trip. She loved the ocean and was hoping to go back again. She was always worried about us and what we were up to. We had a few funny txt moments too. She taught me unconditional love and truly cared about what each of us were going through. Anytime I go to the ocean now, I will remember our Beppy...

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited December 2016

    So Sad ..I check on here regularly hoping to hear good news about Beppy ..and feel so upset to hear she has passed ...What a beautiful , beautiful person ..We use to email regularly ..she was always there for all of us ..

  • pennsygal
    pennsygal Member Posts: 264
    edited December 2016

    Oh dear. What a sad day for CT. Rest in Peace, Beppy.

  • Tomboy
    Tomboy Member Posts: 2,700
    edited December 2016

    I haven't texted Beppy since November 11th,(because no response, altho we did talk again one more time) and I had a doctor's appointment and had to get up at 5:30 this morning, and woke up feeling a strong pull of her. So I texted her:

    "I love you,& I always will. You were the sweetest and most understanding person I ever met, with a wicked sense of humor, and I miss you so dreadfully much. Please know I think about you every day, and I am so so sorry for your family, who must be incredibly grief stricken at what has happened with you. All they cray town ladies send their awesome big and gentle love to you my dear. We are and will always be blessed by the place you made for us in your heart, and on breast cancer.org. You beautiful,gifted, giving soul..."

    ....and then after my appointment, Octo called and told me. True.

  • rainnyc
    rainnyc Member Posts: 801
    edited December 2016

    Like Molly, I had the feeling she was slipping away. Her memory is indeed a blessing, and we're all richer for having known her.

    I have been listening to Leonard Cohen this past month and found this lovely story about an email he sent to a former lover who was dying, not long before his own death. He touched on the notion of connection, which was very much Beppy's gift: Think of how many of us she held in her heart--or her capacious pocket. Here's Cohen's email:

    "Well Marianne it's come to this time when we are really so old and our bodies are falling apart and I think I will follow you very soon. Know that I am so close behind you that if you stretch out your hand, I think you can reach mine.

    "And you know that I've always loved you for your beauty and your wisdom, but I don't need to say anything more about that because you know all about that. But now, I just want to wish you a very good journey. Goodbye old friend. Endless love, see you down the road."

    Rest in peace, sweet one. And see you down the road.

    Love and hugs to all.

  • queenmomcat
    queenmomcat Member Posts: 2,020
    edited December 2016

    Is there a way those of us who wish to do so may contact the family? What contact would they like? Remembering deaths in my family, it was cards at first, then a personal phone call once all the activity subsided and the remaining family were left in that desolate house alone.

    Maybe have ONE person call for permission to hand out the address in PMs here on BCO?

  • proudtospin
    proudtospin Member Posts: 4,671
    edited December 2016

    so sad, I am so sorry for her family, I remember when she contacted me and asked if I wanted to join the group here. I really knew her only a bit but she always had the ability to comment on what seemed like each and every person on the boards. To say we will all miss her and love her for bringing us to get her. This was her baby.

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited December 2016

    My little girl is gone........my heart is broke...........I loved her dearly........image

  • Molly50
    Molly50 Member Posts: 3,008
    edited December 2016

    QMC , that is a great idea . Who is able to contact her DH ? I would love to send a card or a meal . (((Ducky ) ) )

  • Molly50
    Molly50 Member Posts: 3,008
    edited December 2016

    Oh rainny , how beautiful ! Iris , you are so right . She had a way of making everyone feel included and special .

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited December 2016
    I have her address.
    Betty Price...(Bud, Husbnd)
    38154 Hazelwood St.
    Marietta, Ca. 92562
  • queenmomcat
    queenmomcat Member Posts: 2,020
    edited December 2016

    Thank you, duckyb. I'll most definitely be sending the family a card tomorrow!

  • Italychick
    Italychick Member Posts: 527
    edited December 2016

    ducky, 😥. I can't imagine how you feel right now. What a beautiful soul Beppy is. I so hoped she would get more time.


  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited December 2016

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  • Tomboy
    Tomboy Member Posts: 2,700
    edited December 2016

    ducky, please, It is not a good idea to post her adress! Beppy would be alarmed as she highly valued security! When I spent a couple of nights at her house, she let me get on line with her passcode, it was seriously 30 letters,numbers and symbols long, and she changed it all the time. But that was because of business and private taxes, and all financial info. And I know any regular member of c town can contact any of the ladies I will mention. Gma too has it I think, she sent the quilt. Can you pretty please change that?? Okay, Ducky has her address, I do, QMC does, Jackbirdie does, Poppy, So if anyone wants to send cards...

    I am so sorry everybody. She just really had a way of making you feel so special. If I did that, believability would be constrained, but with her, I know we all felt she loved us specially, and it was true

  • celia088
    celia088 Member Posts: 975
    edited December 2016

    Sadly, Beppy's name has been added to the BCO In Memoriam List. She will be missed.

    celia

  • gmafoley
    gmafoley Member Posts: 5,978
    edited December 2016

    Ducky and others that actually got to meet Beppy. I am glad you all had that experience. Just through the phone, I could feel her love for us!

    I hope we keep CT going I need you all right now. I have my dreaded "closure" visit with my oncologist to discuss why I don't want a mammogram and discuss labs. Good news is I went back for another draw and she got it, 1st time, but did use a tourniquet on one of the LE arms to get it. Just don't have the energy to fight right now.

    I wrote this in my journal earlier this morning and wanted to share: "Wow it's been a week of negatives already. And it is only Weds! Beloved friend passes, family scammed out of $1000, and son-in-law with kidney stones. Thank goodness we have the Lord to guide us through all the issues. I am so grateful He is by my side. It is time to enjoy the Lord's awesome views and take a breath... realize what is important in life - each other - family and friends.'


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  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited December 2016

    For anyone who copied the address I gave for Beppy I had the first 2 numbers wrong......I had no glasses on, and the light was dim..........it is 38 .....not 58............will not give the rest as requested.......if you want her entire address please send me a PM.........

  • m0mmyof3
    m0mmyof3 Member Posts: 9,772
    edited December 2016

    Gma, I agree we should keep this place going. So many of us need it with everything we face from time to time.

  • tessu
    tessu Member Posts: 1,294
    edited December 2016

    I have only been in this group for a short while, and never reallygot to know Beppy. I'm so glad she started this wonderfully supportive group. Sending everybody here who's missing Beppy ((((gentle (hugs)))))

  • PoppyK
    PoppyK Member Posts: 1,275
    edited December 2016

    Gma, I'm sure Beppy will be with you as you go to your appointment, as will I.

    Beppy and I met for lunch (we Italian girls love our food) several times. If she wanted, I went with her to the appointments that her DH couldn't make. (I know Tomboy went with Beppy and her DH to an appointment, too.) She always grabbed the check and refused to let anyone else pay. Beppy commented that we had kids at home or medical bills, but I knew she was simply being generous and showing us her love. The last time we met for lunch, I had my credit card ready and gave it to the waiter before he could present the bill. Beppy and I agreed that she could pay the next time. While we didn't meet for another lunch, we did end our visit with good wishes, a long hug and saying "I love you". As I'm writing this, I am aware of another thing I learned from Beppy: I now tell friends, especially women, that I love them.

    I'm so emotional right now.

    If anyone would like Beppy's address, feel free to PM me.

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited December 2016
    My first time getting to know Beppy was when she came on one of our other threads.....it was an immediate caring and love between us............during our conversations about many things I at one point referred to her as "GIRLIE"......she said "Oh ducky my mother use to call me that all the time"......as we talked about so many different things (remember I at the time was in my very late 70's, and she was you 50.....so she was like a Pup to me........she told me I reminded her so much of her mother with calling her Girlie, and telling stories of my younger days to her............so one day she said to me "Ducky will you adopt me"......and the rest is history.....we found a love that only a mother and daughter could have...............
    We talked all the time both online, one the phone, PM's, emails, never FB...she was not a FB person.........our friendship grew and grew and my life was so much better for it.......we laughed, cried, teased, and we're just so good for each other...........
    I at one point planned on taking a trip to Ca. to see her....being alone and on the East Coast seemed like a world away.....that fell through because I couldn't travel alone......I can get lost in the Mall................so my dear Beppy made a trip to Pa. to see me, which I can't think of anyone who would go that far to see someone, other then her Mother..........the visit was beautiful, and now I am so glad I got to spend time with her........she came right to my front door to get me, and here Shorfi and I went to lunch in center city Phila.........At that time things were going well for her......the bad news of her condition came later beginning with her lungs........she was a very brave person who had more physical problems then any one person should endure, yet all that never changed her.....she never said "why me"..........She didn't want me to know about the mets that was overtaking her body, but finally she shared it with me......
    I am glad I got to talk to her even though it broke my heart to hear her on the phone.....my funny, loving, caring, beautiful little girl was going to be leaving me....I knew it, and there was nothing I could do but to tell her how much I loved her.......that was the last thing I said to her..........I just wanted everyone to know my story of my Beppy and how we came to be......she was my rock...........I am not sure how much more I will be on.........my heart is broke............hugs to all of you...........
  • gmafoley
    gmafoley Member Posts: 5,978
    edited December 2016

    Thank you Ducky for sharing the story - Hugs back at you.

  • cubbie2015
    cubbie2015 Member Posts: 773
    edited December 2016

    Gma, I will be in your pocket for the MO visit! I also have to go to the gastroenterologist tomorrow for an endoscopy to check on my reflux problem. Called on Monday, they got me in on Thursday.

    I'm so grateful that Beppy created this place. It still hasn't sunk in for me that she is really gone. I can't imagine how her family feels, it must be an indescriable loss for them.

  • Tomboy
    Tomboy Member Posts: 2,700
    edited December 2016

    Ducky, but you ARE one of the 'grand old dames" of BCO, whose lives and families you so freely shared. i remember that thread you were talking about, it was a good one. I was the one who invited her there. because whenever I saw a post from her, her personal warmth was always so evident, that I wanted to bring her to where i"spent" time, with you and firecracker, and Jo and some other ladies who are here now. i am still so happy that she created c- town for us. because, we needed a gentle place, where there was no in fighting, just a place form warm and gentle souls to gather.

    I saw her here and there, and it wasn't long before I was staying up late reading her blog, where, I discovered a very unique soul, who had a mountain of physical difficulties and i do believe it was those very difficulties that burnished her love and warmth to such a high degree. I fell in love with that, and was so happy that when I left letters there for her, thanking her for her shares and her wonderful writing, she always responded... the truth is, my 'tomboy' signifier was also meant to reveal that i myself have some rough edges, and Beppy knew that. and she would laugh when i would tell her of some of my worst "rough" offenses, how i was struggling with this. and i swear, that girl, like water, was beginning to smooth those edges, like balm to me. Evidence: i had just a little tang of jealousy, when her and Poppy and I drove to San Diego. I wanted Beppy all to myself! But~ this very mission was one of sharing. And i am so glad we did that, there was such a palpable sense of we are all in this together at that gathering, and i am so glad that I was included.

    So it is here, a home of the heart, where i have been blessed to get to be invited into the lives and loves and habits of some very interesting and good women, whom I am also grateful and happy to say that I love. See what she did? I am a little less abrasive, because knowing her, has brought me to you.

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited December 2016

    Tomboy.......2 people could have neve been more opposite......I was way rough around the edges, outspoken, say it like it is, and pull no punches type of person.........and she was the complete opposite of me.......how she was drawn to me I will never know, but somehow the good Lord put us together in a way no other could have.......I kind of got the feeling her Mom was a tad like that because who would want to be adopted by a tyrant that I can sometimes come across as.........only a gentle soul who knew she could "smooth my fur when necessary"......and she did.........when we talked an we would share stories she would laugh and laugh out loud and we would be on the phone for over an hour just laughing, I will miss that......I wish now that I was not at home at least once when she called so I could have her voice on my answering machine to listen to again when I need my fur smoothed..........

    I came to this BCO years ago back in Feb 2011 after googling to find out about this horrific disease that I was about to face after a routine mammogram.............I just was looking.....and by the grace of God, I found a place I could call home...........I was and probably still am the oldest woman on this Website of that I am sure.........I will be 82 in April, God willing..........most of you are like my kids....actually some of my kids are older then you all......

    So yes, Beppy was what I needed in my life......like Tomboy.....we did need our fur smoothed often......and Tomboy and I are so much alike it blows my mind...I hve know her for many years and she has come to my defense more then one time...and I love her for that...............

    So to anyone who knew Beppy well.......my heart goes out to you.......and to those who barely knew her, you were lucky to have the chance to know her......she was one in a million......my little girl.......

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