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January 2017 Surgery Group

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  • vargadoll
    vargadoll Member Posts: 1,942

    Pyrrh, I was about to say the samething as Annoyingboob! I hope it goes well for you tomorrow. It sounds like you are healing (physically ) quite well. Your puppy sounds like a hot mess! I have two lazy cats. No excitementat this house other than kids and grandkids

    Have a relaxing Friday night!

  • vargadoll
    vargadoll Member Posts: 1,942

    Pyrrh, I was about to say the samething as Annoyingboob! I hope it goes well for you tomorrow. It sounds like you are healing (physically ) quite well. Your puppy sounds like a hot mess! I have two lazy cats. No excitementat this house other than kids and grandkids

    Have a relaxing Friday night!

  • 3bears
    3bears Member Posts: 161

    PugsMama-- yes that sounds pretty close to what has happened to me. It did have to do with circulation and blood flow. They felt that waiting for me to heal would produce a better end picture I think. They didn't want to lose any more skin.

    Annoyingboob-- yes I got the SNB done. They thought at the time that it had cancer-- it was hot. So they took more as a precaution - which I am glad they were aggressive. I did end up with axillary too. All ended up being clear on final pathology---THAT is the miracle that I have to stay focused on.

    Fightingirl, Vargadoll--- thank you too for your support. I do feel better now just talking to you girls. I will measure my arm like you said PugsMama. I had my lymphedema meeting yesterday. They measured me there too to get a baseline. Now I'm scared I'll get lymphedema! But first I'm worried about seroma!! My chest feels weird. I'm glad I kept my appt with BS on the 24th. I have been doing so well with this, I can't believe I'm starting to worry now. I still have about a week to hear oncotype dx score. I'll see what the weekend brings. Thank you, all of you. 😘

  • jinmo
    jinmo Member Posts: 55

    Pyrrh, take care of yourself. Breast cancer is not anybody's fault, it is a "mutant uprising" (I stole that from someone's sig line, can't remember whose). So just focus on smacking the mutants. Good luck with your conversation with parents. It is a difficult one but just do the best you can. They will want to do something for you, so maybe you can think of some small practical thing that will make them feel helpful. I'll be thinking of you.

    Fightingirl, laughed at your getting ready for bed story, it's all about how can I get myself into a cozy nest as efficiently as possible here too. We all deserve a little time in the cozy nest, I think.

    3bears, sorry about your tissue expanders not going in. But better to wait for the right time for your body.

    laastra, congrats on your surgery going well!

    I did not get pathology today, wah. So it will be Monday, when I have my followup appt with the surgeon anyway.

    Oh, I wanted to mention that my wedge pillow is wonderful. I have been able to stay in bed all night each night since surgery. So those still waiting for surgery might want to consider buying one. I didn't buy very many things on the "items needed for post-surgery" list, but I am really glad I bought that one.

    One other practical thing, I do find that I can open and close my recliner's handle with no problem. The handle is on my right side, where I did not have any nodes pulled. I think I could do it even on the left if I had to. I know earlier in the thread there were some people worried about getting in and out of a recliner, so wanted to share my experience.

    jinmo

  • Fightingirl
    Fightingirl Member Posts: 328

    pyrrh, I'm sure it is weighing heavily on you now but I hope you feel so much better after it's out. It sounds like you'll be busy tomorrow so try not to think about it too much. I know, easier said than done! Enjoy your time with your parents!

    Yes ladies, I think this is a perfect night. This has been a tough week back at work since surgery and then the oncologist appt and scheduling my radiation. I hit a wall on Wednesday and it was then that I started to dream of me in my bed tonight. It really is what got me through the remainder of the week. I squeezed all my errands, house cleaning and grocery shopping into the week so that once I got home tonight I could be DONE! If I want to stay here the rest of the weekend, I can. My brain is tired of running non-stop. I felt like I was getting edgy with people as the week went on. I don't want to be a bitter person and I felt like other people complaining about things in their life was annoying me. That is not the kind of person I have ever been or want to be and it just made me sad. I'm just overwhelmed and figured a little decompression would do me wonders. My mother-in-law who I adore asked about the oncogist appt via text and I told her about the mammaprint and tomoxifen. Bless her but she said at least it was just a pill and chemo isn't as bad as it used to be! I still haven't responded to that one. I hope this night will help me form a better response than the one in my head when I read that! I know she means well and everybody else is just going through their normal days right now and I feel like my world got turned upside down. It's funny in way, I was so much calme in the beginning but as time goes on I feel like I'm fighting against the current to be my positive chipper self. I really had to dig deep this week anyways.

    We love you 3bears!!

    Jinmo, I like that "cozy nest"! Pugsmama had a good one too with "flat lining"!

    Once again, don't know what I'd do without you ladies! You know when I pictured tonight, it was always me, my bed, pizza, and my iPad so I can chat with you all. ❤️️

  • annoyingboob
    annoyingboob Member Posts: 459

    im so sorry fightingirl!!! you know, on top of the surgery and xrt and more waiting for these tests, your routine has been altered. you haven't been able to do the yoga that you so love, and thats huge bc thats such good decompression. so hang in there and stay in bed all weekend if you need to. its hard to not have some kind of exercise to help us when we need it most. hopefully not much longer and we can all sweat a bit, and those endorphins can brighten our mood. pyrrh - you should give us all a virtual taekwando ass-whooping!!!!

    don't get down on yourself - you have always been sooo supportive of everyone here - we all appreciate you, whether you feel like putting on a happy face or a sad face! stay in bed, crank some music, and give your dh a big smooch - he's been a total gem!! xoxoxooxox

  • Fightingirl
    Fightingirl Member Posts: 328

    thank you annoyingboob!! I can say the same for you...you are so supportive an always make me smile. That was one of my errands today...put my gym membership on a medical hold. I do look forward to getting back to it. Motivation!

    I did remember something very critical after I finished my last post...I did start my period this week!! I'm guessing that is a big part of my mood and fatigue! These lady parts are the pits sometimes!

    Hope you and all are doing well tonight. Much love!! ❤️️❤️️❤️️

  • Pyrrh
    Pyrrh Member Posts: 89

    Physically I am doing quite well, although I irritated my SLNB area last night changing clothes. Hilarious that I can teach TKD all evening, then come home and hurt myself removing pants of all things. Thought the drawstring was untied and it wasn't, so when I pushed down to remove the pants they didn't go and I accidentally pushed hard by reflex. LOL. Keep vigilant, ladies, don't get in a hurry and let your guard down! :) (Not a huge deal, I think the seroma in the SLN area just got a little mad. Ice is handling it just fine.)

    And yes, my dog is a hot mess! But once we figure out how to communicate to her that I don't like playing with teeth she'll be amazing! :) Keeps my mind off of stuff, truly, although I am sure i use my arm WAY WAY WAY more than I should when I wrestle her down! Ahhh, teenage puppies.

    However, the house is now clean and I can hang out in my forums and relax until bed! Yay!


  • Fightingirl
    Fightingirl Member Posts: 328

    pyrrh, I understand the slnb thing...I've had my heating pad folded up and stuck in my armpit for two days! Felt like I had a golf ball in there from the seroma but it's finally starting to go down. It's more like a marble now. I've got quite a bit of tightness and get that twinning pain when I do things like pull a shirt over my head! Hopefully this will go away for both of us soon.

    I have a little Boston terrier and he loves to play too! He would play ball all day and night and can be quite annoying about it. He is very "talkative" and doesn't give up easily but he's so darn cute! He knows it too and that is much of the problem!

    Enjoy your relax time tonight

  • Shellybeans
    Shellybeans Member Posts: 147

    Vargadoll - Siesta Key is my FAVORITE beach! We vacationed there growing up. Love it! Cotton sand and the most beautiful beach ever1 I'll be thinking of the sand and sun when I go under!

  • annoyingboob
    annoyingboob Member Posts: 459

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    i knew i liked you girls for a reason - we all have smooshy faced dogs!!

    this is my french bulldog, the 9yo who rules my life.

  • win-chimed
    win-chimed Member Posts: 23

    Hello all, I myself have been driving myself nuts on research of types of chemo after surgery. The web sure don't share much. Imma keep pushing though.

    ~giving shuga~

  • Fightingirl
    Fightingirl Member Posts: 328

    annoyingboob, I love frenchies!!!! I'd love to get one for my next puppy!! I show pictures of them to my husband all the time. He is a huge dog lover but says it's finally nice to just have one dog. We've had 3 at a time and now down to one. My other dogs were boxers. Your baby is precious!! They do have a way of ruling our lives for sure. Here is the king of my home..

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  • win-chimed
    win-chimed Member Posts: 23

    Fightingirl,

    Good to hear from you. After my surgery my armpit was numb and so was my chest. On January 17, 2017 I had to go back to surgery due to extra tissue had to be taken for a margin that was not clear on my report and surgeon had to drain other breast because the drain pod wasnt working. I kept hearing a swooshing noise and the nurse told me it was seroma(spelling). Today I been keeping a temp of 99.4 but been taking fever reducers. All you ladies on here rock!

  • Shellybeans
    Shellybeans Member Posts: 147

    Hi ladies - I've been catching up this evening. Went out with a good friend of mine to see a comedian and you know what - I laughed! It felt so good to not think about BC BS. I did sneak and check my phone a little to see how everyone was doing but I resisted posting. I really didn't want to go but I'm glad I did - I felt "normal" non-cancer for a little while and it was nice. None of those sympathetic smiles. Unfortunately I've had to be somewhat open about my situation as I lead a very large organization and my absence and missing meetings has been noticed. So rather than hide my diagnosis I used it as a way to advocate mammos and being an advocate for screening. Not for everyone but if it could mean someone doesn't miss their mammo then I'm okay with it. I don't care who knows, to be honest. I just want to be well and get back to being me.

    I was finally able to get an appt for rx with my pmd. I called and after being on hold for 16 minutes was told they could not se me until the day of my surgery so no rx! I decided to call a friend/coworker who is a dr. and she called my dr - suddenly they had two opening next Monday. I've decided that now is the time to call in favors and be the squeaky wheel - and noses bent out of shaped be damned! I have cancer in my body and I need something to help me sleep - so I'm pulling out all the stops!

    Thanks to all who posted their SNB experience. I'm going to take a valium the day of surgery and hopefully I won't care.

    Oh, and as for pets - I have a blonde long-haired dauchshund who runs my house, but only second do my buff kitten. They are my boys and keep me company when I'm down. I know they can tell something isn't right with me and are constantly by my side.

    Have a good evening everyone - quiet dream sans shit fairy to all!

  • Shellybeans
    Shellybeans Member Posts: 147

    My boy laying in the sun

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  • PugsMama
    PugsMama Member Posts: 337

    my two babies taking an afternoon snooze...

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  • DCISinAZ
    DCISinAZ Member Posts: 135

    These are my two fur babies. The yellow lab is the one that just died last weekend 😢

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  • annoyingboob
    annoyingboob Member Posts: 459

    THANK YOU, THANK YOU LADIES!!! nothing like a bunch of adorable pups to drag me out of a funk. now i can go to sleep and dream of all the fun our fur babies would have chasing each other down the jetty of the bungalows and jumping in the water to get their balls or just cool off. i needed that - love you girls...xx

  • vargadoll
    vargadoll Member Posts: 1,942

    We have cats. This guy found my fuzzy lounge pants and soft button up shirts I just bought for after surgery. I knew he would love them. 22 pounds of pure catattitude

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  • vargadoll
    vargadoll Member Posts: 1,942

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    The there's this guy who is just cute and always in the way.

  • Pyrrh
    Pyrrh Member Posts: 89

    Here's my adorable rescue - Claire. We've had her about 3 weeks. A good girl/bad girl view for you!

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  • docmama
    docmama Member Posts: 126

    Aww, how nice to wake up to all your fur babies! I couldn't resist showing off my little guy - a Havanese Mix we rescued a few years ago:

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  • Pyrrh
    Pyrrh Member Posts: 89

    Happy way to start Saturday morning! Furry friends! Have a wonderful day. I hope many of you are sleeping waaayyyyy in today! :)

  • vargadoll
    vargadoll Member Posts: 1,942

    I am loving all the furbaby pictures!

  • PugsMama
    PugsMama Member Posts: 337

    I had to post one where you can see their adorable faces! What would we do without our fur-babies...such & blessing & comfort...if there was ever a time when we needed unconditional love, right ladies?

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  • vargadoll
    vargadoll Member Posts: 1,942

    Oh my PugsMama they are adorable! Names? Is the black one a puppy or just smaller?

  • Elem
    Elem Member Posts: 246

    this is my Rusty .. he is 13 . image

  • Bevmomduck
    Bevmomduck Member Posts: 91

    Dafne- looks like you and I might be the first of the Feb ladies! Although i haven't received "the call", my online chart shows a appt Feb 16 for sentinel node "light-up juice" and another confirmed appt with PS same day so that obviously will be my day for BMX and expenders. I'd really hoped for sooner - both surgeons were really trying, guess hosp was booked up. PS seems confident that I can keep nipples - even the one that was radiated last year!! I'm hopeful for that but will deal with what ever happens. Here we go with The Waiting again ⏳🕰⏲

    On a very happy note, my 3 lovely grown daughters took me out last night for my birthday and solidarity girl bonding to get ready for the upcoming bad boob to good foobs experience! There is no happiness better than that (maybe except for being with their kids -and the new babe coming long enough after my surgery that I should be able to hold him/her with my problems!!)

  • Fightingirl
    Fightingirl Member Posts: 328

    awe!!! Love, love, love! They are all so cute! Pugsmama, your little black pug just breaks the cuteness chart!! What a great thing to see first thing this morning.

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