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  • bigbhome
    bigbhome Member Posts: 721

    Happy Thanksgiving everyone! We have much to be thankful for this year! I am so thankful for each and every one of you! You have made my life a lot richer, and certainly more meaningful. I enjoy each and every one of you for who you are and for the support you give to me and each other, as needed. As far as I am concerned, there is no greater, more compassionate group of people than you. I hope you all enjoy your day and your families, and friends taking in each special moment! Love to all of you!

    Hugs and prayers,

    Claudia


  • Lynnwood1960
    Lynnwood1960 Member Posts: 1,107

    Happy thanksgiving to all! Very grateful to have you all here to listen and advise. You all "get it". Special thanks to Micmel for making us all feel so welcome and for keeping track of all of us. This is a special place.

  • 50sgirl
    50sgirl Member Posts: 2,071

    Happy Thanksgiving to all you wonderful people. I am grateful to have all of you here. I enjoy reading about everything you are doing, and I appreciate the support and understanding shared here.

    This is my third Thanksgiving with MBC. When I was diagnosed, I thought I would be gone in six months, but surprise! I am still alive and kicking, and I plan to be here for many more years.

    Today we had 10 people here for Thanksgiving dinner. Two of my six sons (yes, 6) were here along with two of my daughters-in-law, two of my granddaughters, and my dil's parents. Oh, and there were three dogs and a cat, too. I ate way too much. Ugh! There were some animated discussions during dinner. My dil's father tried to have a little debate about the Civil War with my other dil ( not his daughter). What made it really amusing to me is the fact that my dil has a PhD in history and is a history professor. Her area of concentration is American history. Needless to say, she had facts and knowledge on her side. The other dil's father doesn't like to lose (he is an MIT-educated engineer). When I thought they had had enough, I changed the conversation. Luckily, it was all in good fun, so everyone was still smiling. They left a few minutes ago, and now I have a refrigerator full of leftovers!!!

    I feel particularly blessed this Thanksgivingbecause my DH had his semi-annual scans on Monday to check for recurrence of kidney cancer. The scans showed no evidence of disease. WOOHOO! Each day is a gift.

    Enjoy every day. Happy Thanksgiving.

    Hugs and prayers from, Lynne


  • Grannax2
    Grannax2 Member Posts: 2,387

    I spent today with my best friend's family. It was a beautiful fall day in Texas. We had the picture perfect setting. My BFF's son lives on seven acres. He has five horses, three goats, two barn cats and two dogs. Add, seven children and eleven adults. It was just what Thanksgiving is supposed to be.💗

    On Saturday I get to go visit my husband's family in Oklahoma. It will be a long day trip but worth it to visit with family. I'll ride with my son and his family, so I get to be with my grandchildren all day. Always my happy place.👦👧💟.

    I'm not having scan till January, so no scanxiaty for December. Yay

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    Gracie~Hi sweetheart! I have been waiting to hear from you. I know you had your scans. I have been keeping you in thought and sending good thoughts and vibes. I hope you enjoyed your holiday and didn't eat as much as I did. I actually ate more spinach dip and pepperoni and crackers. But I had one helping of everything , and my family always makes me laugh. It was a lovely day. Big hugs my friend.

    Much love ~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    Claudia~ Hello lovely~I think what you posted was so sweet and kind. You do have a great way of describing your feelings to everyone. I agree, you have all touched my life and I am So thankful to you all for making this thread a place to know you can just come and let it all out about anything . Family,Friends,DH, co workers anyone! You have been here from the very first day my friend. I consider you all a part of it. Without all of youhere with me. It would be just me rambling on and on. I adore you all. I did have a great day with my family. It was a lot of laughs and smiles. Everyone was here. Everyone!! It was a special memory making day! I hope you all made some great memories. Much love ~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    Divine~Hello darling, so nice to see you here again. I agree with what you said about, the things taught you about having MBC. I don't take any crap from anyone at all anymore and I have cut out all drama. I think it's very special that you were there to support your sister. Even all you're going through, you were there for her and she needed you. I wish I had a sister like you. My sister and I have been estranged for quite a long time now. She's been buzzing around lately a little,but I am in awe that you have a closeness with your sister. I wish I had that, I have a best friend, but she has a family and of course no cancer. (Thank goodness ) and live an hour away. I think you did a special thing for your sister. Nothing like having someone just for you. You're such a kind and loving person. Hope your day was a good memory making thanksgiving! Big hugs ~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    Lynnwood~ thank you so very much for the kind thoughts and saying that about the thread. I care about all you guys and I honestly try to make sure together we all stay as a group, because we all need support and to have us all here together knowing everyday that someone knows when we haven't been around. Or someone is pulling with me for good scans, sending me good thoughts, so I can return the favor and the honest sincerity that is felt here for everyoneand I have a team in my corner. That is what we all have made here. I hope you had a good memory making Thanksgiving and sleep well. Thank you for sharing how you felt about me and his thread. I was very touched. Much love ~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    50's~I just have to start with congrats to your entire family for the wonderful news about your husbands scans, let's us all keep the good results and vibes flowing. It's sounds like you had quite a busy family Thanksgiving Day. I don't think I have ever had that many people at any family gathering in any time of my life! Before all the estrangement began in my family. I am envious that you have such a big family. I had My DH, myself,DD,DS,DSS, my DD's significant other and my SIL and her significant other. It was a really special day. I am close with them. It's nice. Great food , fabulous company! I am all very thankful for you all as well. If it wasn't for you all sharing your lives with me, this thread would just fade away like some of the others can do. It's really like a little family and I hope to keep it growing. Look at how many posts we already have together! Together. You're like an extended family!!

    Mae that includes you. Tanya, Lynne (man), Nan, NO1, missing NKB. Keetmom of course, Granna X! You're all a very important part of this Special place. Thank you. Happy Thanksgiving !

    Hugs to you ~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    Grannax~It sounds like a heavenly peaceful place to be!! I love horses and the country. I was raised on two acres. Loved the feeling of freedom. I am glad you're going to see your grandchildren saturday, I know you had your heart set on seeing them earlier this week I believe. It certainly sounds like it should be your happy place. I was in mine today with everyone laughing together and spending the time, that I am filing away in my mind. Every smile , every laugh and each different laughter , seeing all the kids together!! It truly is a priceless feeling. My son is 20 and is a very tall football player type build. But he still treats me like he is a young boy. He calls me pretty face, and still hugs me in front of his friends and it's like no big deal. I adore the closeness, I can't imagine, having the chance to watch grandchildren from two of the people in my life I love the most. My DD and DS. I am hoping for many many more. Thanksgivings and celebrations. For us all. Much love, ~M~

  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,745

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    Happy Thanksgiving everyone. I'll catch up later, sleepy now. So. Much. Food.

  • keetmom
    keetmom Member Posts: 299

    Hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving, we went out to eat with DH family then Oldest DD and I went shopping now I am ready to crash...

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  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    Keetmom~Hello beautiful family!! Sounds Like a packed filled memory making Thanksgiving! I am glad you didn't have to do the cooking! My DH did most of it, but I helped with some things I could do, sat and visited with my SIL, who is a sweet woman. Not like my cray Cray side of the family! My Husband's sister is not like my sister. I actually enjoy her! Her Significant other came along also, he's also very nice and kind .Hug those beautiful girls for me. It's a little chilly here. I have to go visit my onc today, to get the results (I already know them)and figure out the next time I see him again and etc... much love to you and your family! ~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    Mae~ looks like you did do a lot of cooking after all!! Looks delicious. Isn't It a little crazy for us all to spend the entire day cooking something that is over in like 30mins tops!? Seems lik so much work for one meal. My DH is amazing. He kept checking on me. "Go sit down, go sit down." It was very peaceful. I hope your enjoyed that yummy looking meal! So glad to see you.

    I had to laugh at Lynnwood saying, I keep track of everyone. All I can say is I really care. Much love. ~M~

  • divinemrsm
    divinemrsm Member Posts: 6,621

    Great picture, keetmom.

    Illimae, ha, ha, love the cartoon. Thats about right! I host Thanksgiving dinner for extended family, everyone brings a covered dish and I make the turkey and stuffing. A lovely day, food was great. I cooked less quantities of stuff (we still had plenty of leftovers) and simplified the Thanksgiving decor and it made a nice difference in enjoying the day without getting completely worn out.

    Lynne, so happy to hear the good report for your hubby, thats a nice Thanksgiving blessing!


  • tanya_djamila
    tanya_djamila Member Posts: 1,542

    Divine Mrs M

    Thank you for sharing your meaningful interaction story. I feel like I spent a lot of time attending events that I was vaguely interested in. You supported your sister at a time when I'm sure she was in need. Wonderful sisterhood.

    Tanya

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    Divine~This year hasBeen the first year that I haven't cared one bit to decorate! I used to do it all myself. I can't even imagine wrapping anything. I got excellent News from the oncologist, and I am so thankful for all our scans and significant others good results. I was so thankful for my family and the love we all have..... I am also thankful we all have each other. Have a good days ladies. Yesterday went so fast!! Much love ~M~

  • tanya_djamila
    tanya_djamila Member Posts: 1,542

    I went to a wedding Wednesday night, thanksgiving Eve. It was beautiful on Davis Island, a lovely breeze, sparkling lights, and the lapping sound of water. Bitter sweet for me to watch my friends husband remarry a few years after he lost her to BC. Her son is only 8 and he definitely deserves a mom. I'm praying for the best for this family. Moving on looks like this I kept saying to myself.


  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    Tanya~That strikes a seriously deep chord with me. I am so deeply in love with my DH, the thought of that happening to me breaks me. I had searched my whole life for this man. He's gorgeous and funny and mine and I don't ever want anyone else around him. That's a tough thing to go through. I am saddened thinking of your dear friend. How sad that BC even exists.somedays it just feels like a big gut punch, when reality kicks in.. you're a strong friend Tanya. Sending big hugs to you! ~M~

  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,745

    Micmel, all that cooking is worth it to me on occasion, in fact, I stretch the leftovers out for several days, enjoying it all equally each time. I have my leftovers in between toast (pic below), then Sunday, I'll probably use the last small turkey bits in turkey ala king with biscuits. So yummy!

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  • 50sgirl
    50sgirl Member Posts: 2,071

    Tanya, It was so sweet and courageous of you to attend the wedding and watch your friend's husband remarry. As you said, it was a bittersweet event. In your heart you know that the man who shared his life with your friend deserves to be happy again. The loss of his first wife was not a choice for him nor was it something within his control. It seems that some things in life are affected by fate or luck or destiny or whatever we choose to call it. We each find our way through those times somehow. You friend will not be forgotten. I can tell that she remains in your heart, and she undoubtedly lives on in the hearts of her husband and son.

    Hugs and prayers from, Lynne



  • chelleg
    chelleg Member Posts: 396

    Hello everyone! I am alive and kicking. I have a real reason for my absence. My grandson broke my iPad. It was accidental. Mima finds it very hard to get angry at him!!

    It was time to replace my daughters phone too. I have a brand new iPad, as part of the deal.

    I am soooo happy to hear all of the great scan results! Wow! Our little community on this thread will have the greatest holiday season! It is so nice to put the scans behind us!

    My DH is likely going to be medically retired. He has a hard time just being at the station. He becomes overwhelmed easily. All part of the traumatic brain injury. DPD has been wonderful. But they can’t put him back on the streets in his condition. Trying to not think of what the future might hold for us. But it is hard!!! He would retire with only forty percent of his current pay. In the grand scheme of things,money doesn’t matter. But we will be moving somewhere cheaper than co. I’m thinking rural Texas. But am up for any suggestions. Our house here is $ 500,000.00. Just to give you an idea of what would be less expensive!

    We are both suffering our own major medical problems. I have never been so depressed as I have been,since his accident. Sometimes I feel ready to throw in the towel and just quit!

    But my faith keeps me going. Always drawing strength from all of the well wishes and prayers sent our way.keep them coming! We need them as much as ever!!

    I hope everyone had an awesome thanksgiving! I have been cooking like crazy. We had the big turkey dinner on the 18. They only day all of our kids could be here together. Then on the 23rd, I made cheese enchiladas,rice,beans,chili rellenos ,green chili,and beef flautas, as well as bean flautas for the little ones. I am not cooking a single thing this weekend!! It is time to deck the halls! Pictures will follow, when I am finished.

    I love each and every one of you! I pray for us all!

    Thank you all for giving me the strength to carry on. There are no words to express my gratitude.

    Love Chelle

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    50's~Hope you had a nice Thanksgiving with your family and enjoyed making memories. It was a food filled belly full kinda day!! I know that you had something to be thankful for with your DH, that is the best gift ever. Big hugs for your family ! ~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    Chelle~ Hi darling! So nice to see you back! We were starting to get a little worried. I am sorry about your tablet, but I agree you just can't be mad at the grandchildren!! I am glad you got it all taken care of and your back with us. I think it's safer for your DH, to not be back on the streets after what you've all been through, I am sorry that you would have to move. Colorado is very beautiful. I would move there in a heartbeat, I just don't like a lot of snow. When I visited, there was a lot of snow. It was majestic though! I have never been to Texas, I don't know anything about it, other than I think it's pretty hot. Large state! Mae lives in Texas, she is our Texas correspondent! Sounds like you were cooking up a storm! You need to make sure you get some earned rest and relaxation! I am sending warm hugs and good thoughts about your DH and you all working through what's best for your family! We love you too. You're all very special to me and like I said many many days, you have all helped so much. Sisters....

    I saw my onc yesterday. My tumor markers were 20. He's said i am doing fabulous! It was a nice reassuring thing to hear. I don't see him, or get XGeva or bloodwork for another three months. So in February. I go again for the blood and shot. No mention of scan again. But I'm sure that will be on six months rotation. Torture me every six months, which equates to either having a very shitty holiday or Birthday (May) Or a very good holiday, depending on the results!! Ugh! Hate that timing. Hope everyone is doing good, welcome to the weekend! Much love ~M~

  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,745

    Texas correspondent checking in! It is hot and very flat in parts of Texas, I recommend looking in the Texas hill country part of the state, generally south of Dallas and West of Austin for the rural areas but you can have a very nice home for half of what your current home is worth. We paid 144k for a 2,500 sqft 2 story, 4 bed/3 bath in the Houston suburbs. Your AC bill will be high in the summer but the state and people have a lot to offer.

    I'm still working on leftovers, clean up and binge watching HBO's Big Little Lies.

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    Mae~ Big Little Lies was one of my favorite HBO mini specials I have ever seen. The characters are awesome and the casting was phenomenal! I highly recommend that show!!! It's the best of the best. Right up there with Game Of Thrones! Enjoy enjoy!, and that is our Texas correspondent checking in for the evening report! Hugs everyone. (Mae,you crack me up)

    Much love ~M~

  • 50sgirl
    50sgirl Member Posts: 2,071

    Micmel, It sounds like you had a wonderful visit with your MO following great scan results. TM of 20 is wonderful. WOOHOO! I am doing the happy dance for you.. I dream of having a number like that some day. Scans every six months isn't so bad, especially since you only have blood tests and shots every three months. Think of it this way, every six months you will hear that great news again and again and again. You blood tests must be excellent, too since you don't have to have them monthly. Ibrance isn't kind to my blood counts, but as long as it continues to work, I am okay with it. You and Chelle are my NED heroines.

    Mae, How long ago did you buy your house? Do you have any ice or snow in the Houston area during the winter? Btw, your leftovers between toast looks simply delicious. Do you put a little bit of everything in there? I am planning to make turkey quesadillas tonight, but your idea of turkey ala king with biscuits sounds tempting.

    Devine, You always have good ideas for making our lives better by simplifying things. It makes so much sense. I must say that I found this year's Thanksgiving Day one of the most relaxing and enjoyable that I have had.

    I feel like I have eaten too much for three days straight. Time to get back to good habits tomorrow.

    Have a good night, everyone.

    Hugs and prayers from, Lynne


  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,745

    Micmel, I agree about big little lies, I watched it when it aired but couldn't help catching the marathon today too. And Alexander Skarsgard....(excuse me while I swoon)

    50's, we bought it 12 years ago and that was the price in a pretty good neighborhood, they're selling for 180-200 now. Snow and ice are rare, only a few hours of it every 5 years or so, the city basically shuts down, lol.

    The turkey ala king was great, I'm going in for round two! It doesn't look pretty but tasted awesome!

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  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    Mae~to me that looks yummy! My DH chose this year to make turkey soup, it's delicious and perfect for those chilly autumn days.

    Unfortunately, my DSS and DH had to leave earlier than usual to get my DSS to work. He works on an orchard, and the Christmas 🎄 are flying out of the place already. I can not even believe that a real Christmas tree could cost upwards of $70 makes no sense to me!! I have a fake one, and I love it, the dogs happen to be veryFond of it too. They think oh cool they brought this tree here inside for us, how convenient ! We just got new carpets and i am not taking any chances. As usual this holiday weekend flew by. Here comes crappie Monday without my DH here I hate it. I also hate cancer.

    50's, have I ever told you how sweet and kind your posts are? You're always so kind and thoughtful. You made me feel so happy when you mentioned my good scans. Thank you for that. It means so much coming from you guys, my family doesn't understand numbers and things like that. Nothing like you all do. I care for you all very much!

    Much love ~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,060

    imagehere is my baby! Grand ma bought the toy! He's such a joyful puppy. Whenever I am feeling down. Seeing him is like therapy. I love dogs. But this dog is special. Had a nice walk today with him, even though it was really cold. Once around jog

    Hope everyone is doing good. Slow day today! Much love ~M~

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