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Sep 16, 2020 07:22PM
I would appreciate your prayers for my family. As soon as I got to my Mom's facility I was prepared to visit with her through the patio door. When I met the first worker at the front door she said you can inside to see your Mom. Then she said the director wants to talk to you. So I knew this was not a good sign.
When they let in my Mom's patio door my Mom was surprised and glad to see me. I waited for the ladies to come and talk with me. My Mom had no hearing aides in and could hear so we could talk freely in front of my Mom. My Mom fell twice today before I even got there and basically said the her doctor said since she has fallen four times within a 24 hr period she needs to move to a skilled facility which is a nice way of saying a nursing home.
I was stunned but I certainly understand that my Mom has become a real handful for them to deal with. They all suggested this one facility as their number one pick which is a couple of blocks from my sister's house. When I got back to the house I was able to get in touch with someone in admissions but it was almost after hours then. She said they are expecting a vacancy and I am not sure if that was meaning someone is dying but she did say she would talk to my Mom's facility and just see what her issues are.
I am frankly having a hard time with this as I know that as soon as my Mom moves to this facility I may never get to see her again. The laws in Illinois are that no one can visit a nursing home but it looks like if it the resident is dying then maybe.
My Mom looked terrible and even though she said she was fine when she tried to move it was obvious that she is in pain from falling so much. She will be having another MRI of her hand as it was all red and swollen. The poor thing has been run through the mill and I finally had to take a pad of paper and write her notes as she couldn't hear me.
She kept falling asleep as well. It took two people to help her to the bathroom so I could see first hand how this facility was not going to work for her anymore even though they have been great the almost three years my Mom has been there.
Ade, you are a gem for driving your neighbor's friend to get their car. I know from past years how the ugly car bills can crop up at the least opportune times. Praying it all works out.
Chris, thank you for your prayers. I know that each step along this journey God has provided for us in spite of my hand wringing which I will admit I am doing now. He asks us to trust him in this journey and I was getting that message loud and clear before even getting here last night. So I know He is already making a way for us.
I must run for now.
Thank you all for your prayers.
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3/27/2014 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel
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