Topic: thread for middle age to older Christian women.

Nov 6, 2020 03:32PM bandwoman1234 wrote:

Hi dear sisters.

It has been a rough week for me and now I am in that shock stage as we have all gone through. I had my abdomenal and pelvic CT scan last night. My oncologist called me today which is never a good sign. The areas of concern which were the adrenal gland and the liver are stable. However I have a small ovarian cyst on one side and my uterus looks suspicious. I am having a pelvic and abdomenal ultrasound on Monday and will see my gynecologist on Friday to do an exam. With a Dexa scan on Wed it looks like a fun week for me. I am just plain weary and exhausted and sad and frankly scared as well. This ultrasound looks like another cumbersome test. This will be hoping I can retain 32oz of water in the bladder before the pelvic part of the US. That might prove to be the most difficult of these tests so far. I really need your prayers.

Teka, I can't believe all the snow even though I know it is probably pretty typical for you way up north. It is beautiful. I am not ready for the white stuff yet. We are experiencing almost spring like temps which has been wonderful.

Joanne, that is a beautiful fall scene. Unfortunately I have no fall pics this year. My pretty red maples in my front and back yard have all lost their leaves now.

Carol, I hope your apple pies are delicious for your husbands birthday. Sounds yummy. How are you doing?

Ade, I had a feeling that you both were down for the count with Covid. I sure hope you are both feeling better now and won't have any long lasting effects. I have been praying for you.

Faith, I was sorry to hear your anxiety med is causing bad side effects. I was so happy to hear you were doing better in many areas. I will continue to pray for answers for you. This is an anxious time for many, many people so I know you aren't alone in this but that doesn't take away the difficulty that you are going through.

Chris, I can't see your post so I am trusting my memory. I know you are in AZ and I am praying that you are having a wonderful time with your family and I know you were going to see your new sister. I pray this is just what the doctor ordered for you. Sometimes just being with family can be like a healing balm. Stay safe and I am happy you got to take this trip.

Have a good weekend dear sisters.

Love,

Nancy

Nov 7, 2020 09:02PM bandwoman1234 wrote:

Thank you Faith. I really do appreciate your prayers. I did a trial run of drinking 32 ounces of water and tried holding it as long as I could. It was really, really difficult. If my scan is on time at 2 on Monday and I drink the water a little later than I am supposed to I might be able to do it but it is going to be a miracle.

I may very well have to have a hysterectomy after reading the lab results carefully. Of course my prayer is that this is not endometrial cancer. My sister and I really need to get serious about cleaning out my Mom's house so we can sell it. This would not be a good time for a surgery. Living alone is always a concern when these things crop up. I know God will make a way for me somehow.

Enjoy your weekend dear sisters.

Love,

Nancy

Nov 8, 2020 08:24PM bandwoman1234 wrote:

Thank you Chris. I have been praying for you and I am glad you made it home safely. I hope you had a good time with your family. I can't wait to get this test over with. I did another test today to see how long I could hold a full bladder. In all of this I felt like I was getting a bladder infection. I will have to wait until I see my gynecologist on Friday to probably know what is going on. My oncologist told me to set up this apt with the gyny.

I went out with my camera yesterday as I felt like my stress level was off the charts. I got some walking in. Here is a shot from yesterday. The sun looked like a spaceship landing or taking off. There is a good series on Netflix called Away. It is all about the first astronauts going to Mars. It is quite a touching series once you get into it.

Have a good week dear sisters.

Love,

Nancy

Nov 9, 2020 07:43PM Sunshine99 wrote:

Oh, Nancy, I'm so sorry you didn't get a "clear pass" with this test. I pray that you will sense God's presence and peace with your "next steps", whatever they may be.

(((hugs)))

Carol

Nov 9, 2020 09:13PM Faith-840 wrote:

Nancy, I am also so sorry your test wasn’t easy and complete. Adding my prayers to all the others that this turns out to be something that is easy to take care of. As Chris said, “know you are loved” and may God hold you in His loving arms and comfort you and bring you peace and healing.

Love,

Faith

Nov 10, 2020 01:51PM bandwoman1234 wrote:

Thank you everyone for your kind words and your prayers. It seems like an eternity to wait until I see my gynecologist on Friday.

To make matters more stressful I made a call to see what was the hold up in legal matters regarding my Mom's estate. I am so frustrated. They sent all of the legal documents last Monday for review and I called to see if there was any news. I found out that more documentation is needed. I just went into my bedroom and let out a scream I was so frustrated and stressed. I am sure my cat was thinking I had totally lost it and I feel like I am about to.

I am about to have my devotions to help me lean in on Jesus who is my source and strength.

Love,

Nancy

Nov 11, 2020 10:56PM zjrosenthal wrote:

Praying Nancy for God's peace, mercy and protection.

Nov 12, 2020 09:22PM Faith-840 wrote:

Nancy, you are in my prayers that this appointment tomorrow won't be too awful for you and the results will ease your mind with nothing to worry about. I know how worried you must be, I've been there but God always seems to help us find a way through the storms of life. May HIS peace be with you and comfort you.

Ade, I'm glad to see you back here again but I'm sorry you and James haven't been well and now your work is so backed up. You are both in my prayers. I pray you recover completely from that virus.

This virus is becoming very scary and much more widespread than it was in the spring. My daughter just called to say we probably won't be getting together for Thanksgiving. Her two daughters are both nurses and they say things are really bad. My granddaughter's future in-laws are both doctors and they are both infected and very sick. The mom is so dizzy she can hardly stand. This is going to be a very sad holiday season.

Love and prayers for everyone here and many prayers for an end to this virus.

Faith (in the future)

Nov 14, 2020 03:20PM bandwoman1234 wrote:

HI dear sisters,

I saw my gyny and was completely relieved that it was ONLY a talk session. I had a pelvic ultrasound many years ago and he wanted me to see if I could somehow find record of that as he couldn't find it in electronic records. I tried and got nowhere therefore am having a pelvic MRI on Dec. 2. He is not worried but things were stated in the radiology report that make this not just an easy wait and see kind of thing. He did say we do not take out fibroids as this one is dying or dead and not large. He thinks it has broken up but I know that these things can turn into other things but he didn't say that. Obviously to go ahead with the MRI he wants to play it safe. I am relieved but would have preferred having the MRI next week but that didn't happen.

My sister is trying to talk me into going down for Thanksgiving. I had texted her saying things are so bad here and they are recommending staying home as much as possible. My niece is coming from Iowa. My sister is going to have us eat socially distanced and in the living room. I actually didn't realize how close this MRI was to Thanksgiving so I won't be staying too long. I had wanted to get a good start on seriously throwing things out at the house but that may have to wait until Christmas.

Ade I have prayed for these families. The suicide is especially heart breaking with the younger sister finding him. I know that the whole country is not in good shape with the virus spreading like wildfire. How are you and James feeling now? I am still praying for both of you.

Faith, thank you for your prayers. How are you doing with your meds? Adjusting or changing them. I am sorry you will not be seeing your family for Thanksgiving. Yes, this holiday season will not be the same for many. With this vaccine on the horizon I pray that we will get some relief from this pandemic eventually.

I am tired and weary but the VA account is now closed out after waiting on the bank to make a determination. To think that occupied so much of my mental energy and time for 17 months it is really hard to wrap my head around the fact that my Mom didn't get to benefit all that much and now my sister and I have some of that money now.

Thank you all so much for your support. This is a very lonely time for me without being able to see my friends. I don't think many of my neighbors know about my Mom yet either.

What do we do in times like these? We put one foot in front of the other and move forward with God's grace, strength and mercy. These times will not last forever and our eternal hope has never changed. We know where we are going.

Love,

Nancy

Nov 15, 2020 08:22PM IntoLight wrote:

Faith, thank you for your prayers. I am recovered from my trip to AZ. My allergies always kick in when I visit and this time they hit hard, but I am over them now. My DGD has come down with a "common cold" (have no idea where she got it) so I am avoiding her as much as possible which is going to make online kindergarten rough. We have gone to the purple tier for Covid here in San Diego so places are closing down except for outside. It is going to make Thanksgiving and Christmas difficult. Of course people at the beach tend to disregard the rules which is why we are closing down!

Nancy, I am sending continued prayers for your tests and that there is a simple solution for your struggles. I hope your Thanksgiving trip will end up being a lovely time with your sister and family. It is just going to be the 4 of us this year. Our son is going to try to come out for Christmas but is having minor surgery before and we are hoping he is recovered well enough to fly.

I am praying for all our friends and families struggling during this trying time. I only know for sure that God is always present and has promised to stand by us through the toughest times. Chris

Nov 17, 2020 01:48PM bandwoman1234 wrote:

I am grateful today that my car battery did not fail while going downstate with Cammie. I was able to start the car and get it to the dealer yesterday and it was just the battery which now has a new one. I am so thankful knowing it could have been a really bad situation if I had broken down on the road.

Love,

Nancy

Nov 19, 2020 01:45PM bandwoman1234 wrote:

My car story has another chapter to it. I had the car to the dealer on Monday and they said the battery was bad and replaced it. On Wednesday I was heading out to have my car detailed and the same battery light lit up on the dashboard. I remember reading the paperwork after they replaced the battery and it said the battery light was not on. I thought that was strange. So I called the dealer as I waited for the detail shop to open up. They said bring it in as soon as you can. So after getting back my nice clean and shiny car from the detailer I go out to the dealer. I get a guy who I have dealt with before. This is a huge place with many people working the repair dept. He says that light is for the battery for your remote!!!!!!!!!!!! I said so is it possible they put in a new battery for no reason. He said the guy you dealt with was a new guy when I said why couldn't they see that this other battery light was on. So long story short I will never know if my old battery still had life in it but I do now have a new battery in my remote!!!!!! I still will choose to be thankful that nothing happened as far as a break down on the road going downstate. You have to smile at these obstacles are you could lose your mind. (Which I probably lost a long time ago so had I nothing to lose.)

I believe this scripture with all of my heart even though the terrain has been pretty rough lately.

Love,

Nancy

13 I remain confident of this:
I will see the goodness of the Lord
in the land of the living.
14 Wait for the Lord;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the Lord.

Nov 19, 2020 06:50PM zjrosenthal wrote:

My granddaughter is coming up for Thanksgiving with the baby. We plan to go over and just meet the baby outside with no contact, my son and just partner will not be coming up because he has been teaching live in school and doesn't want to take a chance on giving covet to the baby or the family. We will be eating at home just hubby and I, nice quiet Thanksgiving.

Nov 19, 2020 08:00PM zjrosenthal wrote:

Yes this lockdown is very inconvenient. However it is not tragedy except for those who have lost loved ones. One of my sons students lost both her parents in the spring. Next to that, not holding baby Jackie or hugging my other granddaughter is quite bearable and this will like all things come to an end.

Nov 20, 2020 06:29PM bandwoman1234 wrote:

Chris, I am sure that was a scare for both of you. Did your blood pressure fall or do you have any idea what caused this. I had been praying that you would not catch this cold from your granddaughter but it looks like you did anyway. I hope you can get alot of rest and feel better. Could this be a reaction to your chemo? I have only passed out a couple of times in my whole life and as an adult I remember feeling really off for the rest of the day so I am not surprised that you are weak and tired. Sitting in the ER for a long time is tiring even if you are feeling well.

Jean, I am glad you will get to see the new baby even if you can't hold the little one.

My sister decided with covid surging that we will not have Thanksgiving this year after all. I had suggested about a week ago to not get together as we are all considered vulnerable. We were getting so many signals to stay home and that is what we will be doing so I will be having Thanksgiving with no one but Cammie.