Topic: MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

Forum: "Middle Age" 40-60(ish) Years Old With Breast Cancer — Meet others in this age-range who share similar life issues.

Posted on: Aug 21, 2009 11:25PM - edited Jan 13, 2020 12:17PM by elimar

Posted on: Aug 21, 2009 11:25PM - edited Jan 13, 2020 12:17PM by elimar

elimar wrote:

This thread was created for "middle-aged" women. At the time, we didn't have our own category on the pull-down Forum menu. The ages 40-60 in the header are unofficial--we don't "card" anyone, (wink, wink) --- so if you are close in age it's meant for you as well. We aren't young with small children. Many of us have just gotten to the stage where we were all set to enjoy the freedom of our kids being grown when, Bam!, we got breast cancer instead. We aren't retired yet, so we get to juggle cancer and a job. We might have to care for an elderly parent on days when we feel like we could use a caregiver ourselves!

(BTW, those are general statements, NOT a checklist for belonging to this group. It's fine if you have some variation!!!)

Our disease unites us with ALL the strong sisters on this site, but here we can bring up some topics to share with others in the "middle."

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Dx 6/24/2009, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Apr 26, 2021 04:39AM nativemainer wrote:

AnnC2019--the age range of 40-60 is and "ish" range, not a hard and fast rule. I'm 62 and still consider myself a Middle!


"I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival." Audre Lorde Dx 3/9/2007, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/14/2007 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Right) Surgery 3/28/2007 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left) Radiation Therapy 4/9/2007 Breast Hormonal Therapy 10/4/2007 Hormonal Therapy 4/24/2008 Arimidex (anastrozole) Surgery 8/14/2008 Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Left) Surgery 6/20/2010 Prophylactic mastectomy; Prophylactic mastectomy (Right); Reconstruction (Left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (Right): DIEP flap
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Apr 26, 2021 10:00PM minustwo wrote:

Well I'm definitely not even close to a "middle", but my heart is in the right place. I always enjoyed this thread.

2/15/11 BMX-DCIS 2SNB clear-TEs; 9/15/11-410gummies; 3/20/13 recurrance-5.5cm,mets to lymphs, Stage IIIB IDC ER/PRneg,HER2+; TCH/Perjeta/Neulasta x6; ALND 9/24/13 1/18 nodes 4.5cm; AC chemo 10/30/13 x3; herceptin again; Rads Feb2014
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Apr 27, 2021 04:15AM nativemainer wrote:

Perhaps we should be "Middle-Age and Onward"


"I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival." Audre Lorde Dx 3/9/2007, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/14/2007 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Right) Surgery 3/28/2007 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left) Radiation Therapy 4/9/2007 Breast Hormonal Therapy 10/4/2007 Hormonal Therapy 4/24/2008 Arimidex (anastrozole) Surgery 8/14/2008 Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Left) Surgery 6/20/2010 Prophylactic mastectomy; Prophylactic mastectomy (Right); Reconstruction (Left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (Right): DIEP flap
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May 29, 2021 06:44AM kkuziel wrote:

Good to see familiar names - I too am well past the "middle" and that's a good thing. Means I'm still here. Age though does come with new scares. Have had every test in the book for what was thought to originally be a uterine bleed. Not so. Three ultrasounds later - nothing alarming in the female organ area - good. So sent to urology - three ultrasounds, a bladder scan, and a CT scan all good in kidneys, bladder, lower spine and lower lungs (the last two came along for the ride due to location of the kidneys and got covered in the scan) I go in next week to have a final look (narrow ureter - likely that way since birth and a small kidney stone they want to take out before it causes issues). He, after nearly six months of testing, believes I had a small kidney stone pass (had the accompanying back pain two weeks before and stabbing pain in the groin just the day before the bleed) and hopefully this is the last thing to do. Somewhat reminiscent of all the trials of a cancer diagnosis. Nothing seems to move swiftly in the medical field. Test after test seems to be the order of the day. But the amazing thing, to me, is that in all these tests not one involves cutting me open - It truly is remarkable to see just how much they can do with small cameras and imaging. Kind of miraculous. Hope all are well and enjoying getting out lives back to a somewhat normal situation after 2020.

Dx 12/20/2012, IDC, Right, <1cm, Stage IB, Grade 2, 0/5 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/17/2013 Lumpectomy: Right Radiation Therapy 3/13/2013 3DCRT Hormonal Therapy 5/31/2013 Femara (letrozole)
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May 30, 2021 04:18AM nativemainer wrote:

The testing and imaging that can be done is marvelous, isn't it? One would think they'd have come up with an answer after all that, though.

"I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival." Audre Lorde Dx 3/9/2007, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/14/2007 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Right) Surgery 3/28/2007 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left) Radiation Therapy 4/9/2007 Breast Hormonal Therapy 10/4/2007 Hormonal Therapy 4/24/2008 Arimidex (anastrozole) Surgery 8/14/2008 Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Left) Surgery 6/20/2010 Prophylactic mastectomy; Prophylactic mastectomy (Right); Reconstruction (Left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (Right): DIEP flap
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Aug 30, 2022 04:02PM - edited Aug 31, 2022 08:07AM by elimar

You probably can't believe that I have come back to this thread to post something. I know that I can't believe it. I just have a quick story to share...

So, my friend got BC in 2020. It was caught in an early stage and her treatment required Lx and Rads. She was done by 2021, but as the RO was reviewing her post-rads imaging, the breast looked all clear but there was the appearance of something suspicious on her lung.

Biopsy, yep, it was LC. Her first cancer treatment segued right into a second cancer treatment even more grueling. Long story short: She surgically lost one lobe of her lung but kept going and a few months later welcomed a new grandson. He's now a year old and she's now NED. Happy ending.

You know how LC is a silent killer, rarely making itself known with symptoms until it is very advanced, usually Stage IV? My friend was lucky to have gotten BC because it ended up saving her life.

Every now and then you come across an amazing true story like this.

Dx 6/24/2009, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Aug 30, 2022 04:10PM - edited Aug 31, 2022 08:08AM by elimar

P.S. to my Mid-Age Thread OGs: I'm doing just fine, thanks; just more "ish" now than when this thread was created.

Dx 6/24/2009, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Aug 30, 2022 08:50PM - edited Aug 30, 2022 08:51PM by minustwo

Eli - great to see you and hear that you are doing fine. You were always so gracious to let me occasionally join this thread - even though I was 'more' senior even back then. But what GREAT ladies we had... Almost 3200 pages of great ladies.

PS - I'm doing fine too. Discount the CIPN and the LE - and life's not at all bad.

2/15/11 BMX-DCIS 2SNB clear-TEs; 9/15/11-410gummies; 3/20/13 recurrance-5.5cm,mets to lymphs, Stage IIIB IDC ER/PRneg,HER2+; TCH/Perjeta/Neulasta x6; ALND 9/24/13 1/18 nodes 4.5cm; AC chemo 10/30/13 x3; herceptin again; Rads Feb2014

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