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Topic: MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

Forum: "Middle Age" 40-60(ish) Years Old With Breast Cancer —

Meet others in this age-range who share similar life issues.

Posted on: Aug 22, 2009 01:25AM - edited Feb 13, 2019 06:38PM by elimar

elimar wrote:

This thread was created for "middle-aged" women. At the time, we didn't have our own category on the pull-down Forum menu. The ages 40-60 in the header are unofficial--we don't "card" anyone, (wink, wink) --- so if you are close in age it's meant for you as well. We aren't young with small children. Many of us have just gotten to the stage where we were all set to enjoy the freedom of our kids being grown when, Bam!, we got breast cancer instead. We aren't retired yet, so we get to juggle cancer and a job. We might have to care for an elderly parent on days when we feel like we could use a caregiver ourselves!

(BTW, those are general statements, NOT a checklist for belonging to this group. It's fine if you have some variation!!!)

Our disease unites us with ALL the strong sisters on this site, but here we can bring up some topics to share with others in the "middle."

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"Home of the Hot Flash"



Dx 6/24/2009, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 4, 2014 06:12PM bluewillowskys wrote:

Eph: thats is true my dishwasher lasted only three years and i had to buy new...i was pissed when repairman told me the same thing.

Yippy Skippy ! Dx 4/7/2011, DCIS, Right, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/0 nodes, ER+/PR+ Radiation Therapy 6/1/2011 Breast Hormonal Therapy 8/1/2011
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Feb 5, 2014 03:31PM elimar wrote:

marthah,  Good to hear from you, as you get close to your 3-year milestone.  Keep moving forward.  As far as threads go, I know there is the huge (and hugely informative) "Bottle O' Tamoxifen" but there are many smaller threads that might have more immediate answers for you.  I think the "I Want My Mojo Back" thread is still up and running and it seemed to address a lot of the sex issues.  Some of your mojo issues probably stem from your Tamox. issues.  However, if you are one of the many who take something to mediate the SEs of Tamox. (like an SSRI or SNRI,) those drugs can be mojo killers too.  Good Luck finding a balance to protecting against cancer and keeping it hot between the sheets, and not just all hot flashes.

Dx 6/24/2009, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 6, 2014 11:20AM Eph3_12 wrote:

"Hot between the sheets" . What's that mean?  An electric blanket? Loopy

God Bless Your Day-Joni2 Dx 4/2/2009, IDC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 6, 2014 02:51PM Momine wrote:

Eph, a hot water bottle works too ;)

Dx 6/1/2011, ILC, 5cm, Stage IIIB, Grade 2, 7/23 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 6/20/2011 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Ellence (epirubicin), Fluorouracil (5-fluorouracil, 5-FU, Adrucil), Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 9/13/2011 Mastectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/9/2012 Surgery 3/8/2012 Prophylactic ovary removal Hormonal Therapy 4/1/2012 Femara (letrozole)
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Feb 6, 2014 10:00PM macatacmv wrote:

ha ha ha "hot between the sheets"

I saw my PCP today, she was trying to figure out if I have a cold or the flu I guess. She asked if I had any chills, or did I get hot and sweaty. I promptly had a hot flash and said you betcha! So I am back on my inhaler and have to stay out of the shop for a few days. I hate when she says I "have" to take care of myself. Oh well. 

macatacmv Dx 12/8/2011, IDC, <1cm, Stage I, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 7, 2014 10:33AM barbe1958 wrote:

mac, by her saying you "have" to, it takes the responsibility OFF you instead of you having to decide whether to make it. Don't think of it as a lack of control, think of it as a "mommy command".

Dx 12/10/2008, IDC: Papillary, Left, 1cm, Stage IB, 2/5 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 12/15/2008 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right Dx 2/4/2016, IDC: Papillary, Left, Stage IV, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 2/10/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole) Radiation Therapy 2/16/2016 Whole-breast: Lymph nodes, Chest wall
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Feb 7, 2014 01:06PM macatacmv wrote:

uh oh, I feel a rebellion coming on!

macatacmv Dx 12/8/2011, IDC, <1cm, Stage I, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 7, 2014 01:45PM elimar wrote:

Did someone say rebellion?  

I'm in a mood today.  It is the cabin fever doing me in.  

Maybe I should just sit back and be happy that I'm not doing the 6 1/2 week gauntlet of rads right now.

That's how I "Look A Little On The Sunny Side."  (The link is a Kink's song.)

I'm ALL British Invasion/Beatles 50th Anniv. right now.

Feeling righteously middle-aged.

Dx 6/24/2009, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 8, 2014 02:52AM Eph3_12 wrote:

GO CAT GO!  Love the topper.  I am very excited to watch the Beatles special on Sunday!

God Bless Your Day-Joni2 Dx 4/2/2009, IDC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 9, 2014 09:34PM marlegal wrote:

Great page topper El! (Beatles marquee)

Hot between the sheets? Only if I take the freshly dried sheets and put them right back on the bed!!

Have a good week ladies. Can we do a Spring countdown please??? Maybe a party next Fri night? Haven't had a good Middies party for a while. Tropical drinks and breezes theme sounds divine...whay say ye?

"We are all just walking each other home." Dx 8/24/2005, IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIB, 1/13 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH)
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Feb 9, 2014 11:03PM elimar wrote:

The Beatles:  How well do you know the Fab Four? Take the quiz

If you are not engaged at the moment with getting to know your cancer, then you will want to assess your middle-aged cred and see how you fare with this quiz on The Beatles.  I am thoroughly ashamed not to have scored higher than a 72%.  I'm probably kicked out of the fan club now.

Dx 6/24/2009, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 10, 2014 06:43AM NativeMainer wrote:

I love the idea of a spring countdown party!  

and I quit the Fab 4 quiz, was getting a "0"! 

"I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival." Audre Lorde Dx 3/9/2007, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/15/2007 Lumpectomy: Right Surgery 3/29/2007 Lumpectomy: Left Radiation Therapy 4/10/2007 Breast Hormonal Therapy 10/5/2007 Hormonal Therapy 4/25/2008 Arimidex (anastrozole) Surgery 8/15/2008 Mastectomy: Left Surgery 6/21/2010 Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap
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Feb 10, 2014 11:14AM luvmygoats wrote:

Love a spring countdown too. I could go for something tropical.

I failed The Beatles quiz - 36%. My mom - and I may be repeating myself here - called us in from playing to sit us down in front of Ed Sullivan. Said this was history making. I don't know how she knew but I do assume they watched Ed Sullivan every Sunday night. I was 11. I was never much into pop culture having no older sisters or relatives near. I remember having to pick in 8th grade some pop song to do a jump rope routine to and thank goodness the other members of group picked one.

SNB & Lumpectomy 2/21/12. Opted for no Oncotype due to very favorable pathology. 90% ER+. Rads finished 5/23/12. 28 + 5 boosts Dx 2/2012, IDC, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 2/20/2012 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 4/8/2012 Breast Hormonal Therapy 6/7/2012 Femara (letrozole)
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Feb 10, 2014 06:45PM heartnsoul76 wrote:

Yikes!  I got 40%!  I didn't know all the history about hits and albums in England.  Oh, well.  I've always been a Stones fan myself.

Has anyone heard of this site:  esperity

Supposedly, you can connect with someone with your exact same diagnosis and compare treatments.  I haven't joined, just wondering if any of you guys have or know about it.

I was looking something up about breast cancer screening risks.  Look what the National Cancer Institute wrote about the risks of a mammogram:

During a mammogram, the breast is placed between 2 plates that are pressed together. Pressing the breast helps to get a better x-ray of the breast. Some women have pain or discomfort during a mammogram.

No, ya think?  Was this written by a man who needs to have a mammogram on his testicles?  Or on that machine I'm going to invent to check for testicular cancer?  Do you think the media would tell men to have a test-o-gram or risk dying?  Ugh!  Don't mind me, I've got to get mine in 3 days and just preparing for battle.  You know, "we need another shot" or "you have some architectural changes here".  But that's from my last biopsy!  "Well, you need another biopsy to verify it's from the last biopsy."  Nooooo!

If you focus on the worst case scenario and it happens, you've lived it twice. ~Michael J. Fox Dx 5/15/2010, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 6/10/2010 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Chemotherapy 7/6/2010 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel) Radiation Therapy 10/21/2010 Hormonal Therapy 1/1/2011
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Feb 11, 2014 01:31AM Eph3_12 wrote:

I got 44%-but I'm tired ;)

God Bless Your Day-Joni2 Dx 4/2/2009, IDC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 11, 2014 02:28AM Momine wrote:

Heartn, I checked it out. The medical info is quite limited. It does not ask about chemo, for example, nor about stage or ER/Herceptin status. For me, it pulled a bunch of people up with LCIS, DCIS etc. (as well as a couple with ILC)  But it may be useful. I will futz with it again later.

Dx 6/1/2011, ILC, 5cm, Stage IIIB, Grade 2, 7/23 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 6/20/2011 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Ellence (epirubicin), Fluorouracil (5-fluorouracil, 5-FU, Adrucil), Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 9/13/2011 Mastectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 1/9/2012 Surgery 3/8/2012 Prophylactic ovary removal Hormonal Therapy 4/1/2012 Femara (letrozole)
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Feb 11, 2014 10:39AM - edited Feb 11, 2014 10:47AM by elimar

R.I.P. Shirley

           

From Wiki:   In 1972, Temple was diagnosed with breast cancer. The tumor was removed and a modified radical mastectomy performed. Following the operation, she announced it to the world via radio, television, and a February 1973 article for the magazine McCall's. In doing so, she became one of the first prominent women to speak openly about breast cancer.

Dx 6/24/2009, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 11, 2014 12:16PM heymoose wrote:

sad to hear about Shirley's passing.  What a great actress and I loved her movies.  Bless her for speaking about her own BC. May she R.I.P.

Spring party sounds great!!!!!!

Dx 4/2008, DCIS, Stage I, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 11, 2014 09:41PM marlegal wrote:

I sucked at the quiz too! I'm fine with that though, I still love loving them!

Shirley Temple...been remembering her movies all day. Spent many happy hours watching her on Sat afternoons. Sad there's been no one at all like her since.

See you Fri night for our party!

"We are all just walking each other home." Dx 8/24/2005, IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIB, 1/13 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH)
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Feb 11, 2014 10:15PM mstrouble16 wrote:

Eph3_12- I scored a 44 too.   I didn't know some of the England stuff oh well I still love them!!

Dx 8/11/2011, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 11, 2014 10:56PM Tomboy wrote:

dont feel bad gals, when i was a kid, i did see the debut on my grandma's television, cause we didnt have one at our house, and i loved them, and eventually knew every word to everyone of their songs- prolly still know a lot of them. on trivia? though? i only got 57%, and usually missed when i second guessed myself. oh well! and i keep meaning to find a copy of shirley temple blacks autobiography, it must have been hugely hard to be a grown up especially after being such an adored child star. hollywood is usually not kind to them. Peace out!

"I will sit right down, waiting for the gift of sound & vision" David Bowie, Rest in pax, my beloved changeling... Dx 6/8/2012, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IIIC, Grade 3, 25/30 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+
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Feb 12, 2014 01:11AM Eph3_12 wrote:

I love that we are on 888!

God Bless Your Day-Joni2 Dx 4/2/2009, IDC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 12, 2014 04:40PM MimiL55 wrote:

Hi ladies! I have been lurking here for a while...you seem like a great bunch of gals. You all seem to have a warped sense of humor like me! I am 58, married for a long, long time  :), have one daughter 22 who still lives at home while she works part time and pursues a Masters in Library Science...hopefully that will still be a lucrative career by the time she is finished. I have finished all the nasty treatments, chemo and rads and have just started on hormone therapy-Femara, not sure how I feel about that yet-still really fatigued from all the treatments and have a bunch of arthritis so the Femara probably won't be my friend, but a necessary evil. I work full time in an office and worked through most of my treatments-hence the mind numbing fatigue, but believe me I use the chemo brain card whenever needed ha ha. I love reading about your adventures, I have learned a lot here and hope you join this lively thread and make contributions every so often. Cheetos-okay, personally chocolate is my all time favorite snack!

Mimi Dx 6/26/2013, Right, Stage IIIC, Grade 3, 11/12 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/17/2013 Lymph node removal: Right, Underarm/Axillary Chemotherapy 8/15/2013 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel) Radiation Therapy 11/14/2013 Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 1/16/2015 Femara (letrozole) Dx 2/2015, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 11/12 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 12, 2014 05:22PM elimar wrote:

MimiL55, a warm welcome to you for coming out of lurkerdom to make your first post on this thread!  The fatigue is something that can linger, but you should notice a gradual return of your energy.  You may not notice the difference from day to day, but as each week passes you should feel a bit better.  That can be helped along if you are getting good protein intake as your body tries to repair all the cellular damage.  Did you have the 6 & 1/2 wks. of rads?  How did your skin do?  Yes, Cheetos are tops, but at this time of year, with Val. Day right around the corner, most of us fall into the chocolate camp.  Timing is everything.

Dx 6/24/2009, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 12, 2014 06:25PM barbe1958 wrote:

Dx 12/10/2008, IDC: Papillary, Left, 1cm, Stage IB, 2/5 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 12/15/2008 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right Dx 2/4/2016, IDC: Papillary, Left, Stage IV, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 2/10/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole) Radiation Therapy 2/16/2016 Whole-breast: Lymph nodes, Chest wall
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Feb 12, 2014 06:54PM Eph3_12 wrote:

I'd say I've braved the fire (more than once) & have been built through the refining process! Cool picture!

God Bless Your Day-Joni2 Dx 4/2/2009, IDC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 12, 2014 07:55PM MimiL55 wrote:

el, I did 28 treatments no boosts since no tumor to hit. had some blackness & peeling near the end but healed pretty quickly. I know it will get better.  some days with working full time it just gets too much. first post treatment with surgeon tomorrow. wish me luck. thanks for starting this thread!

Mimi Dx 6/26/2013, Right, Stage IIIC, Grade 3, 11/12 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/17/2013 Lymph node removal: Right, Underarm/Axillary Chemotherapy 8/15/2013 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel) Radiation Therapy 11/14/2013 Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 1/16/2015 Femara (letrozole) Dx 2/2015, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 11/12 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Feb 12, 2014 08:54PM Dianarose wrote:

Just poking in to say a quick Hi to everyone. Wedding is Sunday and tons of stuff to still do. Miss everyone and talk to you soon..... Diana Rose, soon to be Diana Rose Brandis

6/10/13 mets to ovary now. Now mets. To peritoneal stage IV Dx 3/22/2012, ILC, Both breasts, 1cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, Grade 2, 17/17 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 5/30/2012 CMF Radiation Therapy 12/2/2012 3DCRT: Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 8/9/2013 Aromasin (exemestane) Targeted Therapy
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Feb 12, 2014 09:02PM barbe1958 wrote:

OOOoooh, Diana Rose!! So very, very exciting!!! We will all be there in spirit I'm sure!! All the best to you both, sweetie! 

Dx 12/10/2008, IDC: Papillary, Left, 1cm, Stage IB, 2/5 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 12/15/2008 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right Dx 2/4/2016, IDC: Papillary, Left, Stage IV, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 2/10/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole) Radiation Therapy 2/16/2016 Whole-breast: Lymph nodes, Chest wall
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Feb 12, 2014 09:42PM - edited Feb 12, 2014 09:48PM by elimar

Dianarose,  I know you will hear from the others here but I have to say thank you for thinking of us now and, of course, our thoughts will be right there with you on Sunday.  I mean RIGHT THERE for the vows, the kiss, the toast, and the dance, all of it; then our thoughts will give you a little privacy on the wedding night.  You never mentioned the honeymoon plans, but we do hope to hear all about that and the wedding when you return.  Joyous love hugs to you Mrs. DRB!  Oh, and you better include a picture of the cake.  Don't know if you have a hand in its creation or not, but I just know it will have to be fabulous.

Barbe,  Was that you giving a warm welcome to MimiL?  Good one!

MimiL,  I am sorry that your work has you near collapse.  I do know that lots have worked thru' their treatment, but even those superwomen took off a few sporadic days.  Were you able to have any days off during this? 

Dx 6/24/2009, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-

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