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  • shokk
    shokk Member Posts: 790
    edited February 2008

    Good morning everyone..........I am coming to the circle today because I hope it is neutral ground at least for a moment.........things have happen here in the circle and at bc.org that I think we all wish we could take back.......none of us are perfect.........I am not accusing anyone of anything well except for one person but I just want everyone to understand this has nothing to do with active members of the circle.........Jas and Charlene I know you have had issues with Vickie.......Jas I don't know why you weren't ask to participate in Gina's book that was sent to her and Charlene I am not sure what went down with the afghans but I do think it was misunderstandings...........I am not sure what happen about Cheri but I know she was angry with Vickie as well........what I am trying to say is the person that I believe is dangerous and metally ill I just pray Jas, Charlene, and Cheri that you are not letting her influence you.......just be very careful.........I personally think that the beach thread was a great idea..........I know that some don't understand what it is about but I don't think that Vickie should be continued to be harass and saying something about it and then comments about how great the beach is and implying that problems still are happening at the dreamers thread..........yes there are issues and for girls to be threaten that they can't speak to Vickie or Vickie's friends is a little much...........for me I have other issues in my life.........I learned last week that I am losing my eyesight...........if I somehow survive cancer then probably in the next five years I could be totally blind........Cheri lost her beloved brother.........Charlene is reliving a very sad day in her life today.......Denise and Pam have to live with  the lost of a child.............and we are all mourning the lost of CY..............you know what circle girls we all have problems............forgiveness can go a long way............just be real careful about what is said and what you believe because there is a very dangerous person lurking among us........I know must of you will not respond to me because you are not allowed to but just so everyone here knows I care about each and everyone of you...........Shokk

  • Unknown
    Unknown
    edited February 2008

    You know, I've tried to move on and ignore alot of what is currently going on.  I don't know why my name keeps being pulled in other than the fact that I like Charlene and choose to stay friends with her. 

    Let me assure you, Shokk, that I have no interest in harassing Vickie or anyone else.  I have much better things to do with my time that send hate mail, pms, create and post under fake identities, or anything else of that nature.

    And, quite frankly, I don't know or remember anything about a book for Gina.  But I probably would have declined to participate even if I had. 

    Please stop posting my name in relation to the drama going on because I am not involved in it. 

  • shokk
    shokk Member Posts: 790
    edited February 2008

    Jas I am so sorry......I really didn't think you did have anything to do with it............it really is not your style nor do I think Charlene or Cheri are actively involved.........so sorry again.......I won't mention you name........Shokk

  • bluedahlia
    bluedahlia Member Posts: 302
    edited February 2008

    First of all shokk, I'm sorry about your eyesight.  Hope it doesn't come to that.

    Secondly, are you kidding me.  Some are not allowed to post to others because of threats.  OMG!  How old are these women.  Don't they have any character or backbone.  I noticed I was being shunned by some and now know why.  All I can say is hahahahahahahahahahahhahaha - GROW UP FOR CRYING OUT LOUD.  Not you shokk, but the ones with this modus operandi.

    Infriggincredible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

  • shokk
    shokk Member Posts: 790
    edited February 2008

    Blue just so you know it is not ones it is one..........she not only set out to destroy Vickie but the circle as well..........the woman has some major issues.........many women are afraid of her as well as they should be.......Puppy, Mena, and Vickie know what I am talking about..........Shokk

  • bluedahlia
    bluedahlia Member Posts: 302
    edited February 2008

    Ok thanks.  I know who you're talking about.  She's only as dangerous as we allow her to be.  What's she gonna do - take away your birthday?  Just moon her.

    But I know I have been shunned be some others and it all makes sense now.

    I'm your friend so you can't be her friend situation.  What a hoot. 

  • bluedahlia
    bluedahlia Member Posts: 302
    edited February 2008

    Charlene, very sad about your neice.  We can never forget those birthdays. 

  • shokk
    shokk Member Posts: 790
    edited February 2008

    Blue I understand what you're saying but when someone is out to destroy another person..........something that go's beyond cyper bullying...........people really can be dangerous whether you give them that power or not.......shokk

  • shokk
    shokk Member Posts: 790
    edited February 2008
    and Blue I consider you to be a good friend even though I too said something asinine to you when you first starting posting.....and you forgave me.............some of us use humor to cover up our own insecurities and self doubt..........Undecided.......love Shokk
  • susanmcm
    susanmcm Member Posts: 699
    edited February 2008

    I don't understand why you two are having this conversation.  I think we have all agreed to disagree and get over it.  I would be very surprised if Charlene, AlwaysHope or Cheri are going out of their way to antagonize anybody.   Some of us keep our unkind thoughts to ourselves and the more we can all do that, the better off we will be.

    if someone is ignoring you, let it go.

    I really like it here when it is peaceful.

    i went back and edited this because I realized some might see my words as unkind and I really don't want to do that. 

  • bluedahlia
    bluedahlia Member Posts: 302
    edited February 2008

    Don't you think it's time for all this crap to be resolved.  I mean, c'mon, this is beyong childish.  People don't have to suck up to anyone else, but being civil on a forum with everyone is not hard to do.  Let's get real for a minute.  This is the internet and it's just a forum.

    If we have to walk on egg shells and keep score of who can talk to who - that's crazy.

    I'm not trying to make trouble, but intend to speak my mind.  I'm a straight shooter and don't like subterfuge.   

  • Madison
    Madison Member Posts: 859
    edited February 2008

    I am very protective of the Afghan Project........

    so therefore, I will (again)  address the issue of Gina's Book (and afghan).................Jasmine was sent a PM regarding Gina's book

    Below is a copy of the message sent to Jasmine.......telling her about the project:

    Sent: 18 Aug 2007 07:35 PM
    From: Madison
    To: jasmine
    Subject: One Year Circle Girl Anniversary I am putting an album together to send to Gina for the one year anniversary of the Circle (which is on the 22nd of August).

    If you would like to PM something to put in the album, please do.....I am going to print everyone's comments on a separate piece of paper.

    If you want to include a picture, let me know....I will send you my e-mail addy.

    Also, we are sending her the afghan that was constructed at Pinkstock.......

    Thank you, Madison

    (This will be a surprise for Gina)

  • bluedahlia
    bluedahlia Member Posts: 302
    edited February 2008

    shokk, life is too short to hold grudges.  I'm not like that.  I tell it like it is, even to

  • bluedahlia
    bluedahlia Member Posts: 302
    edited February 2008

    shokk, life is too short to hold grudges.  I'm not like that.  I tell it like it is, even to my bestest of friends.

    ETA - the double post was deleted.

  • shokk
    shokk Member Posts: 790
    edited February 2008

    Listen guys I really didn't mean to start anything......honest because us disagreeing among ourselves is fruitless..........Vickie will probably be displeased with me as well........I was just trying to warn people that there is someone that has taken pleasure in destroying the circle and it is NOT anyone that is or was a circle girl....................shokk

  • Unknown
    Unknown
    edited February 2008

    Madison, thanks for the reminder.  Obviously this was much more important to you than it was to me since you have held on to this since August. 

  • bluedahlia
    bluedahlia Member Posts: 302
    edited February 2008

    Just to make one thing clear.  Even though I may not agree with everyone, doesn't mean I don't like everyone.  I do.  I like each and every one of you.  We all have positive attributes. 

    My dyskinesia is setting in so the party's over for me and typing for a while.  Had a good morning though.Smile

  • Bren-2007
    Bren-2007 Member Posts: 842
    edited February 2008

    Two things:

    First - Jas, please don't be so nasty .. Madison stated, and quite clearly, that her first and primary concern is and has been the integrity of the afghan project.  That's why she posted.  End of story. 

    Secondly,

    Liz - I hope you have lots of fun this weekend.  Girlfriend ... you need/deserve a little fun and R&R more than anyone I know.  Cool

    love ya,

    Bren

  • Unknown
    Unknown
    edited February 2008

    Bren -- there was no nastiness intended.  Its unfortunate that you chose to read it that way.

  • Madison
    Madison Member Posts: 859
    edited February 2008

    Jasmine,

    "Obviously this was much more important to you than it was to me since you have held on to this since August"

    I do have my sent items stored.  This is one of those instances where I was able to clear up a misunderstanding by proof of transmittal of a message.

  • Unknown
    Unknown
    edited February 2008

    I refuse to be drawn into a fight over something that happened so long ago.  I'm sorry you can't let it go and move on. 

  • cmb35
    cmb35 Member Posts: 554
    edited February 2008

    Hi Girls,

    This is one of those elephant in the room things that us Irish are usually really good at ignorning, but for today I will acknowledge it. I'm going through a though time right now. Many of us have gone through tough times in the past, and sadly, many of us will go through tough times in the future. I sincerely hope that by "going through" I tough time, what will happen is that I will in fact make it out to the other side. As we all know too well, there is a possibility that I won't. I really think that it's this knowledge that enables us to both give and get such support from each other.

    Right now, I feel like there are 3 threads on this board (one I didn't even know existed until very recently!) that I would need to post on in order to "talk" to everyone I've met along the way here. I'm not really sure how to handle that. I'm not looking for an answer or explanation, and I guess the solution is to just post on all 3 threads.

    Madison - I didn't know about the book for Gina, I'm sure because I was probably MIA from the boards in August, or not paying attention. It sounds like a lovely gesture, and I'm sure it was beautiful. I meant to try my hand at crocheting while waiting around at the doctor's last week, but got the news about my skin cancer pretty early in the visit, and have basically just been numb since then. I am still hoping to figure it out and at least make one square to contribute.

    Peace

  • cmb35
    cmb35 Member Posts: 554
    edited February 2008

    Yikes! I don't know how to edit a post, so just to be clear, it took me a while to type this post. Quite frankly, I got a letter from my ins saying I had to pay the $3120 for the genetic testing, despite the fact that I had been assured it would be covered, so I had to make a phone call. In any event, my post would have come immediately after blue's "life is too short" post.

    I say this only because I know nothing about Gina's book, with any problem anyone would or would not have had with the book. That is not what my post refers to.

  • Madison
    Madison Member Posts: 859
    edited February 2008

    I mean no ill will towards anyone.

    I posted the message to clear up the misunderstanding.

    It is time to move forward..

  • Emelee26
    Emelee26 Member Posts: 98
    edited February 2008

    ((cmb))

    I also post 3 places and still miss some girls I haven't talked to - but I wish well to all of you

    Is that your house Madison? Beautiful!

  • newvickie
    newvickie Member Posts: 2,941
    edited February 2008

    Please please please...lets let it drop.  I have no idea who is making the phone calls or sending the emails.  I don't care...no...I do not and will not accuse anyone...not Jasmine, Charlene, Cheri or MisSissy because I have yet to get an solid proof of where its coming from or why. 

    I simply asked that if anyone recieves "hate Vickie" pm's, emails or phone calls...please notify the moderators. 

    I am simply tired of constantly being told that I am being called a liar and a fake and to "beware"of posting anywhere near me. 

    I am letting it drop...I will not be the cause of the circle falling apart again. 

    wishing all of you the very best

    Vickie

  • nosurrender
    nosurrender Member Posts: 737
    edited February 2008

    Hey All,

    The scrapbook that was put together for me is something I will treasure for all enduring time.

    Madison, you did such a beautiful job... it was from the heart and it is  like a time capsule from happier times here in the wagon circle.

    I have spent most of the weekend fighting over the afghan that came with it with the Fluffman. I WON this time. He cannot come near something so precious that was sewn by all of the pinkstock girls-  one of whom was Cy. I felt closer to her since she passed by having that afghan to wrap around me.

    I don't want anything to ever sully or discredit the afghan project because I know the amount of work and HEART that goes into it. You have been a such a good friend to me, I truly feel blessed.

    Please, everyone, don't let the afghan project become toxic too. PLEASE leave Madison, Liz and Vickie in peace to continue to spread the love they have to people who are hurting and in need of the comfort that they can give them.

    I know this is futile but could we please stop?

    Could we please be kinder to one another?

    Shokk, I don't know who you are referring to- but if you know who is bothering our Vickie, please let the mods know.

    This really has to stop.

    If I ever rec'd a pm telling me not to talk to someone I would think there was something wrong with the person who sent it to me. I think everyone else can figure that out too. So let's gather around our Vickie who has had enough meanness thrown at  her.

    As far as the afghan and scrapbook project as it pertains to my gift, this is what is posted on the afghan thread.

      jasmine
    User since: 11 Jun 2004
    3272 Comments

    31 Aug 2007 07:51 PM
    What is the scrapbook that Gina was talking about receiving with her afghan? I've already asked several but nobody seems to want to answer so I guess I will post the question here.
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    b445
    User since: 30 Nov 2005
    2395 Comments

    31 Aug 2007 08:34 PM
    Jazz, Madison put together some notes from many of us about how we felt about the circle and how grateful we were to Gina for starting it and bringing us all together. That's the scrap book

    We've missed you in the circle.

    jasmine
    User since: 11 Jun 2004
    3272 Comments

    31 Aug 2007 08:41 PM
    What a shame I wasn't asked to contribute. I surely would have loved to be part of the scrapbook for Gina since I also had squares in her afghan.
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    Madison
    User since: 15 Jul 2006
    1751 Comments

    31 Aug 2007 09:09 PM
    I have "Toned" down my response....from earlier..sometimes after working hard on a project...it is difficult to be accused of not trying to reach all that I possibly could. I was not screaming....just trying to defend myself from a false accusation.

    So this is edited, with no caps.

    However since you answered me with caps....I will repeat part of my deleted post again...

    You were asked to contribute in a PM that I copied in the earlier post. You apologized..acknowledged that you received the PM...then got mad at my response and, deleted it and then answered me in caps.
    In response to your later post that your post was directed to no one in particular......you sent me a PM, so I knew it was directed to me. I put the project together.

    I could not answer your PM because your box was full...so you took the issue up on the open forum.

    Anyway....over and done with.....this project will not become embattled. It means too much to me to have any accusations (whether directed at me or in general) flying around on the boards. I will always defend myself.

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    jasmine
    User since: 11 Jun 2004
    3272 Comments

    31 Aug 2007 09:20 PM

    MADISON
    NO PARTICULAR NAME WAS USED IN MY POST. IT WAS A GENERAL POST.
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    nnn
    User since: 30 Jul 2005
    6342 Comments

    1 Sep 2007 04:10 AM
    Jasmine: You have been missed around here. Sounds like your feelings are hurt. You must know that no one purposely didnt include you. Im sure it was difficult to coordinate cause no one wanted NS to read about the plan.

    I tried to send you a PM, but it says you are not accepting any pm's. Just know that we miss you.
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    nnn
    User since: 30 Jul 2005
    6342 Comments

    1 Sep 2007 04:13 AM
    NS: What a wonderful gift to receive and what perfect timing. I didnt have a chance to participate in this project. I wasnt at Pinkstock and it seems like I have been sick forever. This is one special gift - you are loved by so many people.

    Madison and Vickie: Your hard work only continues to amaze me. Having the pleasure of putting one afghan together, made me realize how hard this project really is.

    Nicki
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  • Emelee26
    Emelee26 Member Posts: 98
    edited February 2008

    Gina..my cat ran like the wind yesterday when I took out this special fluffy blanket I have - reminds me of your fluffman ;)

    Did my LI reference make your book?  I sent something in but I can't remember what it said..oh wait..maybe it had a girl with a tattoo that said Strong Island?  Hope you liked the book

    I like your new avatar Jas & Vickie

    Love Marisa

  • Unknown
    Unknown
    edited May 2008

    Thanks Emelee.  I love your baby bump pics.  :)

  • scott0
    scott0 Member Posts: 1
    edited February 2008

    Hey everyone, this is Scott, Cheryl Thomasons husband. I Want to thank all those who gave support to Cheryl thru her 2 year battle. Cheyl was the strongest person I know, and a big part of that streangth came from knowing that she had all of you in her corner! Thank you

    p.s. Madison can you give me a call please

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