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  • SheriH
    SheriH Member Posts: 472
    edited October 2006

    I have to admit, that was confusing me also. My dh loves bubble wrap, but not as a sex toy, at least not that I know of.

  • jaybird627
    jaybird627 Member Posts: 1,227
    edited October 2006

    My guess would be that the guys know??? Maybe a good imagination helps???

  • jdash
    jdash Member Posts: 54
    edited October 2006

    ok i am new to this and feel ridiculous asking but what is mojo i get the idea but not sure exactly what it stands for

  • FitChik
    FitChik Member Posts: 392
    edited October 2006
    'Mojo,' as we're using it here, just means having the hots, wanting to get down and do it, etc. It typically refers to magical powers and since sex is pretty magical AND powerful....MOJO!!

    The bubble wrap is for guys to lube up and jerk off with (or YOU can do it for him ....its supposed to provide lotsa friction....
  • laureniris
    laureniris Member Posts: 4
    edited October 2006
    Huhhh????
    Wash it off, lube it up, and roll it bubble side in????
    Has anyone tried this?????
  • jaybird627
    jaybird627 Member Posts: 1,227
    edited October 2006
    Sounds good to me! I mean, if I had a male appendage that is.....
  • christineK
    christineK Member Posts: 735
    edited October 2006
    Not a frquent visitor to this thread, but I hope to be soon... someday...maybe...where has that feeling gone?
    The whole bubble wrap thing, has me LMOA, I have been with some kinksters, but never heard this one. LOL
  • jaybird627
    jaybird627 Member Posts: 1,227
    edited October 2006
    Quote:

    The whole bubble wrap thing, has me LMOA, I have been with some kinksters, but never heard this one. LOL



    DO tell, Christine!
  • christineK
    christineK Member Posts: 735
    edited October 2006

    Oh no telling now, Not a serious relationship, but I guy I was seeing who was into PB (peanut butter) I would not let him into my affection for this food item! I like it on bananas or apples, but that is about it!!!

  • jaybird627
    jaybird627 Member Posts: 1,227
    edited October 2006
    Would that be "eeeewwww" or Oooohhhhh"
  • christineK
    christineK Member Posts: 735
    edited October 2006

    Is it possible to be both. It was so long ago. Funny, I have on the food network and they are talking PB, as much as I love it, I haven't been able to eat it without thinking of that freaky guy, who now lives down the street from me!

  • OG_Lou
    OG_Lou Member Posts: 24
    edited October 2006
    RE laureniris
    Wash it off, lube it up, and roll it bubble side in????
    I heard about bubble wrap on TV, Talksexwithsue.com. A wife wanted to do something for her H that was in Iraq.

    The host, a Canadian sex educator in her 60's said, bake some cookies and pack then in bubble wrap (small bubbles) and pack a bottle of hand lotion but put Astroglide in the hand lotion bottle.

    The Idea was for the H to have something discrete so the other guys wouldn't razz him about something more obvious like a "fleshlite." Same goes for H's that are married to women that don't want sex toys in the house. I know it is rough to go through BC and some guys want sex when his W is in treatment, but doesn't want to impose.

    As to the rest of the question, the bubbles wrap gets rolled up with the bubbles on the inside, lubed on the inside and held loosely when being used.

    I haven't tried it, don't know anyone that has, but it sounded like something that might be used on a few rare occasions.

    I don't want to invade your forum so will keep quiet but would consider answering a few questions.
  • Mary-Lou
    Mary-Lou Member Posts: 630
    edited October 2006

    I have been lurking.....:) Love reading this thread. All is pretty good on the home front. At least we are working it out.

  • barbara913
    barbara913 Member Posts: 9
    edited October 2006
    f.y.i. to all the ladies and gentlemen out there... adam and eve (adamandeve.com) is donating 20% of it profits on certain items for breast cancer... just in case someone is in search of some new "toys". the money may as well go to a good cause
    barbara
  • agent9d9
    agent9d9 Member Posts: 6
    edited October 2006

    Wow, the irony! I remember when I used to care about sex toys.....

  • FitChik
    FitChik Member Posts: 392
    edited October 2006
    Barbara...Thanks for the info - Geez, I guess everybody wants to get into the act (BC month/bc donation)! Sweet!

    Update here: I thought I was such a tuff-ass sexy mama, y'all, until this weekend when I actually joined one of those 'adult' online hook-up sites. Its a reputable one (a friend of mine belongs and has found 'dates' thru it), but I've NEVER done this before. I posted a profile (nothing nasty, just a little sexy) and, when I logged on this morning, I had 7 emails from local guys! Pics are hot and their messages waaaaay hotter (seriously, I got horny just reading them!). But I'm am such a baby....I got so scared at the actuality of the whole thing that I logged off immediately and am afraid to log back on How lame is that? So much for my tuff-ass persona
  • jaybird627
    jaybird627 Member Posts: 1,227
    edited October 2006
    Marin, cool for you! I've meet 3 nice guys through the 'adult' site I joined. Sure, many are weirdo's or just out to get laid (not that there's anything wrong with that!) but the one's I've chosen to meet have all been gentlemen (well, one was a bit of an octopus) and I hope to meet even more! I say go for it!

    Janis L
  • mkurtzman
    mkurtzman Member Posts: 8
    edited October 2006

    I am amazed to read this site. I want my mojo back but i would love to have it without any toys. One can't caress or cuddle a toy. I need is the real thing which has been absent from my life since Jan 2005 when dx with BC

  • jaybird627
    jaybird627 Member Posts: 1,227
    edited October 2006
    Honestly, I had NO sex drive while on Tamoxifen and now that I'm off of it it's returned. Maybe I should be on it but for me it's a QOL thing. I love wanting sex again, just like before BC! Tamoxifen took my sexuality (thoughts, feeling, response) away. I wish I were one of the women who didn't have that SE from it but I am and I just don't want to feel like an 'it' which is how I felt while on that drug. I embrace my sexuality and since Tamoxifen cannot guarantee me 100% that I'll never get BC again then I'll take my chances not taking it. Good luck to all of us no matter what we do or don't take!

    Janis L
  • Mena
    Mena Member Posts: 263
    edited October 2006
    Well, well, well, happy to see this thread thriving!...I should tell you I started it over two years ago! Look at us now! And bubble wrap??? I just threw some out because I didn't think I had a use for it. Damn...

    This for SuzCA: I also use Replens and, yes, I have a discharge for several hours after I use it. I keep a mini-pad on...Days 2 and 3 are discharge-less...This is pretty standard every time I use it...so I use it the day before mojo so he doesn't have to, you know, witness the goo...I wish they felt the same about their goo...Mena...xo
  • agent9d9
    agent9d9 Member Posts: 6
    edited October 2006
    Quote:

    Tamoxifen took my sexuality (thoughts, feeling, response) away. I wish I were one of the women who didn't have that SE from it but I am and I just don't want to feel like an 'it' which is how I felt while on that drug. I embrace my sexuality and since Tamoxifen cannot guarantee me 100% that I'll never get BC again then I'll take my chances not taking it. Janis L



    Janis, I know exactly what you mean. I was hoping when I quit Aromasin that I'd have some of my sense of sexual self back but that hasn't happened at all. It finally occurred to me that perhaps I need to switch antidepressants. I'm waiting til I go off-track in January to do that. I hope it works, I feel like a eunuch.
  • jaybird627
    jaybird627 Member Posts: 1,227
    edited October 2006
    Sher,

    How long have you been off it? Perhaps it's still in your system? As for the anti-depressants, I've been on two (Paxin and Lexapro) and only stayed on then a very short period of time as they, too, zapped my response. Talk about a lot of effort for nothing! Give it some time, I'm sure it will all work out. I so know the 'eunuch' feeling!
  • jt0703
    jt0703 Member Posts: 4
    edited October 2006

    OK ladies - I can't believe I am only 49 and having to deal this this but...vaginal atrophy. I feel so old when I look at my body. Unfortunately, my marriage isn't the best these days so sex is just not there and I am having the atrophy. Can this ever be reversed? I'll welcome any suggestions.

  • harvey
    harvey Member Posts: 14
    edited October 2006
    I’m glad I lost my mojo. Hubby can’t bear to touch me since I got the lump – never mind surgery and chemo. I hate when he tries to do his duty

    harvey
  • FitChik
    FitChik Member Posts: 392
    edited October 2006

    How do you know its actually vaginal atrophy? You may have dryness and thinning of the tissues, but I would think if you stayed well-lubricated (by using Replens or another aid) and also kept things in working order (see earlier discussions/advice about toys and self-pleasure, based on the 'use it or lose it' principle) and see how that works. 49 is waaaaaaaay too young to give up your sexuality unless, like harvey, you'd rather do without. Somehow though, I suspect that anyone reading and/or posting on this thread is still interested and deserves help and advice.

  • mkurtzman
    mkurtzman Member Posts: 8
    edited October 2006
    Mena,
    I read your first entry. "If bc were a man's disease, not only would there be a cure for bc by now, but certainly there'd be a plethora of non-hormonal therapies available for whatever the female version is of "erectile dysfuntion". I don't think I'm exaggerating. I'll make the damn commercials myself (no pride here lol)."
    I am a BC male survivor that is on tamoxifin and i suffer the same mojo problem that you gals have. Viagra does me no good. All I have left now is dreams. Please don't think that only women have the mojo problem. I have read how many of you gals use toys. Well I want the real thing and it is presently impossible for me. In any event, I read so much about BC but never see anything about male BC so i think my complaint is more valid then yours.
  • sam52
    sam52 Member Posts: 431
    edited October 2006
    Hiya mk...I've talked to you in the chat room.How are you doing?
    It is a common complaint with men who get bc.They feel left out.You do have your own thread on this site though...and are always very included in the chat room.
    I feel sympathy for the few men who do get bc...but you have to admit, it is overwhelmingly a woman's disease.

    In my experience, the 'use it or lose it' maxim is true.It could be that you need other forms of stimulation initially before you get back to 'normal'.Be glad that you still have your libido intact; a lot of gals here have completely lost theirs.
  • Lauri_S
    Lauri_S Member Posts: 7
    edited October 2006
    Question on shrinkage.

    I know the whole 'Use it or lose it' theory. Problem is, I've shrunk SO much that even using the small (and I DO mean small) toy I bought is painful. And I'm m 100% NOT into pain. Where there's pain there is NO Mojo.

    So - how do I get back to an unshrunken vagina?? I'm even willing to use some Estrogen for awhile to get back to a point where I can maintain with activity (either real or toy related).
  • jaybird627
    jaybird627 Member Posts: 1,227
    edited October 2006
    Quote:


    In my experience, the 'use it or lose it' maxim is true.It could be that you need other forms of stimulation initially before you get back to 'normal'.Be glad that you still have your libido intact; a lot of gals here have completely lost theirs.



    Sam,

    I totally disagree with you on "use it or lose it" because I lost it on Tamoxifen and got it back when I stopped - and it was NOT all in my head! Toys and such helped but I lost all desire and then lost interest as it took FOREVER to get there, and then once there it was like nothing, not worth the effort. And believe me, I tried as I was very responsive before BC/Tamoxifen and I am now once again. I would never question anyone's lack of libido while on Tamoxifen as I experienced it myself. Anyway, I just had to chime in here.

    Janis L
  • Lauri_S
    Lauri_S Member Posts: 7
    edited October 2006
    Janis,

    I think the 'use it or lose it' has more to do with the physical side of things (if you don't use your vagina you lose the stretchiness, lubrication, etc.) and not the more intangible things (like desire).

    I know I still have the desire (ok, it has come back since I've finished chemo) but the physical side is still in the toilet (figuratively).

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