Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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I'm reading the boards and there is so much crappy news. I'm so happy for those who are getting good reports back from scans etc and so pi$$ed off for those who are not. It sucks!
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Lisa - thanks, thanks, thanks, and a big woo hoo to you too!
Rock - Harold Smith, brain without - classic!
Side note, I work for a large investment co, one of the online tools they developed was a retirement planning tool, it's meant for folks that are ready to retire, or have already retired. They named it the Retirement Income Planner tool, and they love their acronyms, so yup, the RIP tool. Seriously, I was the first person to notice the problem with this?
(((((DREAM))))))
Traci - I know, when I need a break from the boards, it's because I'm not mentally in a place where I can even type, you know? Although reading about the sad stuff and the struggles definitely makes me sad (duh!), I've never had that reaction that it was bringing me down. It makes me sad the way you're sad for a friend when they are having a hard time, not for myself I guess.
Anyway, yes, the support I get here is something I can't get anywhere else, and it helps me keep putting one foot in front of the other. We are a spunky group, with a gleam in our eyes, a wicked grin on our faces, and cores of steel. Not pollyanna, but not debbie downer either. Personally, I'm more the Pippi Longstocking type :-)
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Nancy - glad to hear you're hanging in there
Hi, and a big that sucks to everyone...
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The RIP tool...........BWAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA!!!!
THAT SUCKS, Y'all--to all who need it. Here's hoping there are lots more SOIs today than IOSs.
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Tonight, I plan to have a drink to our individual and collective suckiness and wonderfulness. (I am also observing "May 2008 Sisters Day of Celebrating our Wonderfulness Month.")
If you're in NYC, feel free come to Lucky Jack's tonight between 6 and 9 pm and join me and about 50 other people to celebrate a book, the end of chemo + rads, the Fulbright and everything. (Parties are notoriously difficult places to have a converation, but I'd love to see anyone from bco who swings by!)
But whether you are physically present or not, know that you're all always very close to my heart.
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Rock- Enjoy the evening and all the celebrations!!
Love the Pippi Longstocking role model- perfect place between PollyAnna and Debbie Downer!
RIP? really, go figure
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CMB -- may i re-post RIP to the "road to hell" thread? please!
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Rock - oh yes, very appropriate for the road to hell thread! Wish I was still home (I'm a Jersey Girl) cause your party sounds like the place to be! Have fun!
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cmb35- which part of Jersey do you hale from?
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I so need to get this off my chest... I finished chemo/radio last year, been NED since mastectomy june 07, and only one more herceptin to go... and honestly feeling great. Decided to become a foster mum, and do respite care, which is caring for a child one weekend a month, I'm currently going through the assessment and have been for the past 5 months, My social worker has just informed me that they are not happy with my medical report and do not feel that I would be a fit foster parent due to my diagnosis... AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH. Cancer is something I had not have, I am trying to move on but life just seems to slap it right back in my face, so much for trying to stay strong. My oncologist had no problem recommending me as a respite foster parent, yet some lady sitting in an office with zero medical experience has the right to judge my dx! I am very annoyed
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Maeve--THAT SUX!!!.....having worked with sp ed kids I know how much your work means to their families...bless you for your efforts--NOW----get hopping mad & appeal---appeal to who ever you have to--go to the director or the board members or WHATEVER--if ANYONE understands the need for acceptance in special circumstances those ppl IN the trenches sure do! (you shouldn't even have to be labeled a special circumstance!!) If that fails go to the local media......or a parents' support group. It is discrimmination-against you & the families you can help!!!!! There is nothing you have mentioned that would keep you from being able to commit to this!!!!
Big hugs & blessings--let us know how it goes...
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Rock, I think we ALL need a party, to celebrate the good news among us & to distract ourselves from the bad. We'll all be with you in spirit.
Maeve, that's really crappy.
Colleen, love the RIP - is that a Freudian slip or what??
Lisa, we love that good news. Nancy, hope you have more good news for us soon.
Diane, Saint, Wish, Harley, Traci, EWB & Everyone I'm forgetting, let's all hoist a cyber-cocktail at Rock's party with a big THAT SUX for us all.
Small but really annoying IOS from yesterday: had follow-up with med onc. I get there early for my 8:30a.m. appointment & proceed to sit there for the next 30 minutes. No one comes out to say anything, & I happen to know I got the first appointment slot for yesterday. Finally, at 9:05, I go to the reception desk & ask where the doc is. She goes in back, out comes a nurse, who says, "The doctor will be here shortly." No other info. So I said, "Why wasn't she here at 8:30?" And this broad says, "You'll have to ask her that." So I said, "I will." Ten minutes later, I'm in a room, freezing in my gown when the doc finally comes in. She apologized right away & said she got stuck around a construction site (long-term highway project around Providence) & hoped they told me when she called in from her car. I said they did not & repeated the above. Upshot: my visit was short & rushed, she was stressed, I didn't get to ask all my questions & I was stressed because I had my own patients to see later on & I didn't want to be late. But I didn't have any big issues & the med onc did thank me for telling her & I heard her later speaking to the nitwit broad & the receptionist about customer service.
WTF is wrong with people, ya know?? Jeez, my BS's office is wonderful & she gave me her cell phone #. The med onc, I can never get a hold of her, they don't give her any messages & they don't give her patients messages from her. I'm thinking of looking for a new med onc. I've got to deal with this person for the next 5-10 years at least (well, forever, I guess) & we're not getting off to an auspicious start. Plus, this is a breast cancer center we're talking about. So, like, do NOT treat the cancer patients like shit, okay??? Because we're under enough stress already. GRRRR. Let's get the shovels ready.
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Hello to all.
I haven't been posting much, but have been reading.
My bitch today: The dh is drunk, again. Started drinking around 1:30 this afternoon because he had to pay the maintenance man for work being done around the house. Now for the last hour he has been talking the poor man to death. I want to go down and snatch his ass, but then I would be the one that would have to listen to him. I am sitting here trying to think of a way to get him to shut up with out pissing him off. He has a way of getting very sad when he has to spend money. Not that he is broke, just extremely tight, except when it comes to booze. I feel like taking two drinks and showing him how he looks.
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The RIP tool.........too funny, but many must be feeling that way these days....Ripped Off!! Sheesh!! Right now it may be better to use the old method of saving your money called......Sock ing it away.....literally! LOL Hmmm.......I can't remember which sock I used. Oh well, sure to find it, at least I know it hasn't vanished overnight!
Our great Aunt really did stuff it under her mattress!
Maeve........here's a shovel girl.......knock em out, that sucks!
Party on Rock! I'll drink to that!
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Wish we could all be there with you Rock but I love the cyber-cocktail idea. I have heart burn today so I'll have to toast with sparkling cider.
Cheers!!!!!
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Hey, where's Nicki?
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Saint, you are so right!! Glad to know those feelings are normal.....
Traci, this weather is SO not normal for Texas....
Great poem, rock.
Miss all you guys and am so grateful for you!!!
Love,
Sue
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I talked to my nurse and she says they may put a heart monitor on me. And if it isnt a drop in blood pressure, they will do each test to eliminate causes. I think January is going to be one fun MONTH with poking for veins etc. Imagine being a girl guide leader and attending writing class as being too active. She said that most stage 4 patients are in bed by year 2 and passed on by year 3. I am just NOT with the program. LOL. However, I am ready to drop at any time. I dont know what to do..... how am I to get with the program now?
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i've been reading but not posting...too many trips to bathroom for you know what. i am so angry...what the hell is her problem. she shouldn't even call herself a nurse. in bed in 2 years and dead by 3? i don't think so, not if i have anything to do with it. how dare she say that to you. there are many very benign reasons for passing out. yes perhaps blood pressure, arrhythmias, and other cardiac conditions. but that doesn't mean that they are all life threatening...most are not. what about all the ladies here who have been living with mets for years and years. i would definitely say something to the onc. that so pisses me off.
sorry for my language...hope i don't get thrown off. maria
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There is so much suckiness going on here... Hugs to all of you! I don't even know where to start, to do it justice.
maria, you won't get thrown off this thread for those words. Much worse has been said.
Rock, I didn't make it to your party. Got the memo, but missed the plane I guess. I was there with you in spirit, though. Will be tomorrow, too...
Sue, and all the rest of you who live to the west of me: Will you please keep that snow over there, on your side of the Mississippi River? We don't want it here in Alabama. Please.
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Marking my spot. Hugs, blessings and THAT SUCKS as needed. Nancy
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I haven't read the two pages I missed but my life went into the crapper here in two days. My dil showed up at the door with her jack a$$ father and said she was moving out. In the meantime my son was just pain and she totally drained his bank account, statred ripping through my house with a posse of people to move her out in the dark without a moments notice. Had to call 911 when her father wouldn't leave my stuff alone and get out of my house. I chased everyone out until the cops came. Somehow I got chastised by the cops but they made her leave. She called my husbands commander and said he wasn't giving her money which got him in trouble. He gives her $1000 spending money per month, I paid for the kids food, rent whatever and her money was fun money but that wasn't enough. Anyway, he called this morning wanting to know what was going on here and I had to tell them they left and I have no clue where the babies are, she must have went back to trailer park heaven (no offense to anyone that lives in a trailer park). I have been on the phone all day finding out my rights and what I have to allow and I don't have to give her anything she didn't get. Today she wanted the baby clothes and I told her a good mom would have taken her kids stuff first..... Anyway, what concerns me most is the youngest had a double ear infection (remember running aound in cold weather no coats) and then it didn't heal and he still had one, the other boy had an ear infection also. I have tried to get her the kids medicine since they left yesterday because that is not on her priority list and she still hasn't gotten it. I can't believe she is going to let that little 7 month old suffer in pain from an ear infection because she decided she still wants to date people! This whole thing is unbelieveable and I am just ready to kill someone and I want to know where these babies are I have been raising for the last year. My poor son can't even come home for another 6 weeks to start sorting out this mess. You would think she would think about something like this before she has two babies with someone!!!!! UGH!!!!! Anyone got anymore tissues, I think I have run out....
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LuAnn, I'd like to take that girl and smack her silly. How she can let her babies down like that? How can she let your son down like that? I can understand the difficulties of being here when the spouse is off in a war, but once you have children, you move on down the list and children, and their needs and health, come first.
I'm not much of a pray-er, I'm very particular, but I'm saying a special one tonight for you, that this all works out and you get rest and healing, for your son (and his unit) that they keep themselves safe for the next 6 weeks and make it home all in one piece, and those babies, because they're babies. And that someone, anyone comes down and smacks some sense into that girl.
Sorry I missed Rock's party. Everyone deserves a celebration, just because. I'd like to say I was there in spirit, but I got home from work and fell asleep on a chair. Woke up just in time to get dinner ready & #2 daughter to her horn lesson. Best part - her lesson is 45 minutes. I was 15 minutes late getting her. 4 years of 1 hour lessons is my excuse.
My company has been known to come up with some hideous acronyms. Some of which they are forced to change - RIP for a retirement toll beats all.
Maeve- you're an angel for wanting to do respite care. you'd think they'd take the doctor's opinion into account.
Very, very minor IOS - night sweats like nobody's business. Good thing the husband is away.
Get to go to the dentist tomorrow. I love my hygienist...it takes an hour to get my teeth cleaned cause we talk too much!
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I'm from Clifton (north Jersey), close to Giants stadium and NYC!
LuAnn - that is unbelieveable, I will never understand people who don't take care of their children
Dream - that's truly dreadful, what a moron
PInky - Nice to see you, but I'm sorry about the dh drinking, I hope he straightened up
Kathi - I used to have terrible problems with the admin staff at my med onc's office (Dana Farber no less!), after a particularly ridiculous encounter, I told my onc what was going on. She was livid, apologized to me, and admitted that they had a serious problem with the admin staff. She told me that the next time I had a hard time (they kept telling me I couldn't have my chemo on the day I had to have it, because they couldn't make the appts synch up - can you imagine?) I was to go get her, literally physically go get her, and that she would straighten it out on the spot. I think that sometimes the docs don't know what the admin folks are doing. That being said, she should never have rushed your appt, no matter what. ARRGGGHH!
A big that sucks to everyone else I missed, my IOS today is hopefully minor - I talked to 2 other contractors yesterday, and they both got phone calls that their contract had been extended (i.e., that they were not getting laid off.) Typically we just get an e-mail, but my company is in the midst of layoffs, and I guess they don't want to lose the folks that they don't plan on laying off. I didn't get a call, and I also didn't get the e-mail that should have come yesterday extending my contract. I am very nervous!
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Man, the suckiness continues for so many, my head is spinning! {{{{LuAnn, CMB, Pam, Jmarie, Dream, Kathi and all I'm sure I'ven Missed
}}}Life SUX when these things happen for each of you and darn if I can even think of one that compares to any of them in the last year! You ladies are being hoped for SOI's for today and throughout this new year coming up. Heartless In-laws, staff, scans, waiting, layoffs and fear of impending or possible layoffs, and everything I know I missed. JUST PLAIN SUX!
Going out to sharpen my tools for the round up @ssholes in your lives. I think we need a majoy 'Super hero' to help you all through this crap! someone to fly in and pull you out of it and save your heart, souls and minds from the torture others cause, that is in no way your faults, but you are enduring them
Hang tight ladies....Rock and those with good news and partying? Spread the cheer far and wide and hope it takes hold for those in need of it!
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Awww CRAP!
LuAnn----big hugs & prayers for you, your son & those babies! Wish there was SOMETHING we could do to help----it's pure hell to watch innocents bear the brunt of so-called adult stupidity! Hang in there sister!
Dream---that is pure BS!! I would tell your onc what the nurse is saying to his patients--how encouraging@!!@!!!! NOT---so am I to take it that we are all supposed to lay down in bed after 2 years?? how does she explain so many of us being "over active??" Big hugs
mb-praying for that email or call.....these are sucky times we're in!
KAK---I always suggest confrontation with the peons! Yep-I have a rep at my clinic--but, by God, I sure get the care I seek & I never have to be anything but nice anymore!
My IOS's are minor--I went back to bed yesterday til noon & when I got up I had SEVEN panicky messages on the phones cuz "we can't reach you"--PULEEZ! On the temperment meter I tend to run close to the Pollyanna side. But due to my multiple personality disorder I can slide into Cruella D'evil without a blink---feeling rather D'evil-ish after those calls!!!
Add to that the fact that I am putting a Christmas party together for dh's department (since the last dept head retired they have had 1 in 5 years)-----get this: After they agreed to a party & chose a date I didn't give them the menu options for 2-3 days (waiting for the place to send them to ME)--so they all started complaining & some said they needed to know or they'd make other plans!!! Holy Christmas balls Batman! Makes me anxious to put on a nice party & socialize with them....yeah right! Wish dh had kept the grumbling stories to himself!!!! No good deed goes unpunished!
THAT SUX!!! Be well & stay strong
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As was said many times, you are a saint Saint!
People can be so danged stupid sometimes! If they are THAT concerned, is there are reason they didn't offer to help with said party? Oh, that's right, they're busy! WTH? You are doing them a favor and they better hope they appreciative or next year you can serve spam and squeeze cheese on saltines and punch made from Faygo pop!! 
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Dream - that nurse is an idiot. And you have my blessing to tell her so, too. The nerve of her actually opening her mouth to say such crap to you. GRRRR....
Luann - I'm so sorry to hear about all the crap. Your son needs to start sending her money via money order so he has a record of what he's been giving. I can tell you from personal experience with monetary issues (support, et al) and the military that it isn't about truth necessarily but what you can prove. Any way he could send you the $ and you forward a MO to her?
Also, you, as a grandparent, have rights to see the children. If you can contact her, do it and request a visit with them. Get out a little notebook and document EVERYTHING from here on out - including the police visit (get a copy of the report if you can), her response and when she finally gets around to picking up the medicine for the babies. My point is this: it may not resolve itself civilly and you may need to get the law (via family court) involved (BTDT, unfortunately). Sorry you have to go through all this!
Saint - thanks for the pm. And I think the ungrateful party-goers should be forced to eat nothing but fruit cake 'cause they suck so badly...
Hey Traci - it's the Giants and the 'Boys this week! Can't wait...
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Oh yes...document, document, document LuAnn! What Felicia speaks of it the utmost importance. Not sure how the miltary works, but if you can have son put you down as his to distribute his funds till he gets back and taking the DIL OFF all his accounts, would be best. HE might even want to open a new account without her on it at all!
Have to say, I was wondering if this wasn't where this DIL was headed a way back when she started causing you problems LuAnn. Just didn't sound like a wife/mother/DIL that appreciated the roof over her and the kids head and a live in sitter and housekeeper
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Oh, goody....here I come to spread a little more holiday "joy"...
Not only have we NOT yet heard back about our mortgage work-out/foreclosure....dh was told today that he's going to be laid off next week. It's supposedly "temporary", but they aren't saying whether or not they'll be going back to work next year. SuhWEET! Does anybody know if I still have insurance during a "temporary" layoff? I know we can't swing the $75K-$140K per TX. I can't type anymore because it's all x-rated and I don't want to get b-slapped by the mods today too.
That...sucks
((((HUGS))))
Diane0
