Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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Hi ladies. Alas, i see from the posts that the suckiness continues. :-( I don't even want to talk about my IOS today...but I will say the big SOI for the weekend was talking and giggling on the phone with Luann! Hearing her trying to clean up that room also made me feel MUCH better at what a mess my own bedroom is! LOLOLOL
Big (((HUGS))) and hopes for more SOIs than IOS today...
Diane
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It's snowing here in Eugene Oregon. I now have a shovel!!!!!! I'm fully armed and ready to assist. Any suckage out there I can take a virtual swing at?0
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Yep, there are not so dDil's, docs, maniac drivers and just about anyone else's IOS you can have at if you'd like!
We had about 12-15 inches on the ground and got rain last night and melted most of that. So we were under a flood watch. Now it's high wind advisorys and temps at 15 with -3 windchills
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What is it with the shingles already?
LuAnn - I have no idea what the ball is for? Am I a nerd?
I'm on a conf call right now, a big that sux to all!
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CMB the ball is placed in the lady's mouth for kidnapping/rape scenerios in sex play.the ball is supposed to be large enough to allow breathing around it. However there is a movie where they used a Jawbreaker and it all went wrong... in fact the movie was called Jawbreaker.
Shingles I heard are related to chicken pox. If you did not have enough immunity to chicken pox when the virus comes around again, it can cause you symptoms. Nancy's mother had it this year as well. Whoever has it, good luck. Hope it clears quickly.
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Hello to all and a big that sucks!
Well here I go:
DH went to the mail box and came back with the electric bill. It seems that the company has been sending bills to some unknown email and now we receive a cut-off notice and a bill for over $900!
Of course it is all my fault. I am the one sick and at home with no job and of course I caused to company to bill incorrectly from the beginning. Isn't is a trip that when something goes wrong to sick person is the one that is blamed. If I were working, it wouldn't be a problem, but I will have to endure the fact that he must pay this bill.
I need a new tire for my car and I know that this is going to keep him from buying one. Just another thing to keep me stuck in this house. Lord I will be glad to have my next surgery and be released by the doctor so I can go back to work or find a new job. anything to get my life back.
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I saw the onc today and he gave me Famvir (pills) and Silvadene (cream) for the Shingles. He said that, once you have the chicken pox, the herpes virus remains dormant in your nervous system. When your immune system is weakened and/or there is stress in your life, the dormant virus wakes up. I know that this cannot possibly apply to me because I don't have any stress, right? Anyway, I am hoping that the meds will help the pain soon. Maybe it will even help my cold sores, who knows?
Sorry for everybody else's suckiness.
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Jane,
a big "that sucks" Having had the shingles this summer, I highly recommend everyone who ever had chicken pox and has had bc ask their doc for the shingles vaccine. It is currently approved for over 65 and special cases- cancer is one of them. Make sure to take the famvir, it does shorten up the time and extent of the damage.
Luann,
ROTFL. Hope to see you in Kalispell in July.
things are up in the air for me. MIL's pancreatic is back with mets. they say 3-6 months. I'm dancing with NED but still dealing with Lyme. DD (12) still has lyme and now other DD (15) has an unkown arthritis/circulatory thing. We're still dealing. Mr. Flash is toast. Sorry for suckiness in everyone's lives.
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Flash - my daughter had JRA (juvenile rheumatoid arthritis) when she was younger and was diagnosed with Lupus when she was around 16. It might be something they want to check for.
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Yuck..shingles, sky-high power bills, pancreatic ca.....THAT SUCKS!
Just wanted to share a little bit of an SOI: even though dh's job status is up in the air (layoff starts Friday), we found out today that his employer WILL be paying the insurance premiums until he is officially terminated.....so, that buys us a couple of weeks. It doesn't really sound that great now that I typed it out, but I'm grasping at anything these days! In fact, I hooted with joy when I hopped in the car today and the clock/display on the radio was working....it's been just a blank, dim, box and I'd have to guess which station I was tuned to. It's the little things, ladies...
Received a message from the mortgage company today...dh and they are playing phone tag. Please keep your fingers crossed that they have *good* news for us tomorrow!
(((HUGS)))
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Oh, Sue, I LMAO at the mental picture of "a horde of nearly bald, asymmetrical women"!!! If that doesn't scare some sense in your dumb dil, LuAnn, I don't know what will.
Jane, shingles???? Groan!!!!! Flash, hi, how are ya? I didn't know there was shingles vaccine! Cool.
Pam, I did end up doing the Zoloft to Effexor switch & I'm feeling better on the Effexor than I felt even on the Zoloft, which worked great for me. The Effexor does a lot more for the SE's of tamoxifen than Zoloft, at least for me. I have had menopausal sx for 3-4 years now, & of course I can't take my soy supplement anymore. But the Effexor has pretty much stopped the night sweats & all but eliminated hot flashes. So, I'm happy. I think that's probably a good enough reason to make the switch. But, Sue, I'm glad to hear that your doc is of the opinion that it doesn't really interfere much with tamoxifen, because that's what I got out of reading the research. And a lot of people do well on Zoloft & shouldn't have to switch if they don't want to.
I had one of those mixed IOS/SOI deals this evening. Because my new car has a wider turning circle than my old car, I have to be careful about getting too close to curbs when I go around corners. So, tonight as I was parking my car at CVS, I hit the curb hard & gave myself a flat tire. The good news was that it's been ridiculously warm here today, so it was still in the 50's, which we consider a heat wave here in New England. And everything on my car is still under warrantly, including the tires. And I have free OnStar for a year, which I hadn't tested yet. So, I pressed the OnStar button, & the local road service tow-truck came by in about 15 minutes, changed my tire, & found out I had torn the tire at the fill valve, which I can get fixed or replaced for free! So, it was a pain in the butt, but it didn't cost me anything! And having OnStar is quite cool, actually, especially for a woman alone in a car stuck in the middle of nowhere. They know who you are & where you are immediately. Kind of Big Brother-ish, but handy.
I also want you all to know that I was going to change my own tire (I've done it before) but it was just too fun to sit in my car, talk to the OnStar guy & be the damsel in distress.
A large SUCKY-WUCKY to all.
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KAK - Yeah for you... I always wanted to push that button (but I dont even have a car!
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OMG--LOL dream!
A big THAT SUX for all who need it --marking my spot!
HUGS!!!!! to everyone
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ok ladies, lets just cut out this shingles crap and auto immune disease stuff. Must be in the air because I have been off meds for my RA for 10 months and all of a sudden it started acting up about a month or so now. I just did some steriods (YUK) to see if that rebounds me back without going back on meds but the jury is out on that now.
I just wanted to jump in and say hi, I'm still alive and thanks for the comments and laughs! LOL I really need to sleep but needed to come online because you all mean way too much to me!
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Ok, tell me if I over reacted: Grocery store, I had 2 paper bags, doubled up, to "save the environment". Handed the bags to the cashier, and very politely told her I cannot lift more than 5 pounds and please make the bags light. She said to tell the bagger (also female). The bagger than put 8 cans of soup, a 4 pound bag of sugar, and several frozen food dinners in one bag. I then said, I cannot lift that much - if you want, I can bag myself. The cashier then went off the deep end - do NOT yell at me (I did not yell). Who do you think you are, I am 49 yrs old and have to work for a living. You gave me 2 bags and the bagger needs more than that if you want light bags.
I then said, it is ok to use more bags, I only had these 2. She looks me and says why did you buy so many groceries? I add that I can buy the entire store if I want, but I only had 2 bags. Is there a problem using "your" bags? I wont go into more details, but by the time I paid for the groceries, I was in tears. Do I HAVE to tell everyone that I have cancer, had surgery, live alone, etc -- as the reason I CANNOT lift more than 5 pounds at a time? Did I over react?
Then the lady behind me in line comes over to my car as I am loading it and says that the cashier had to leave because I upset her so much and I should watch my mouth... Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
THAT SUCKS for all the IOS out there. HUGS, Nancy
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Sounds like the cashier had a bad day and took it out on you. GRRRRRRR at her and GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR at the lady that came to your car to "share" and stick her nose in where it didn't belong. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR at them! You should not have to splay out all your reasons and issues and misfortunes in order for people to extend kindness. I am sooooooo with you there.
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Aww hugs aka--so sorry that happened to you--it SUX------Gentle hugs for a better day!
Be well & stay strong!
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Yep Nancy, that sucks. I thought you were going to say the lady came over to your car to ask if she could help you lift your groceries. I remember getting something heavy at a store when I was bald for goodness sake and asking before I made a purchase if someone could help me and I was told yes. So I made my purchase and then someone was paged to help me.......I waited and waited just wishing I could melt in to the floor. Finally I said please give me a refund. I went somewhere else where I was happily assisted. It takes so little to make someone's day. Too bad that cashier couldn't have made yours.
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KAK:
YAY for you, that you didn't have to worry about paying for a new tire, and changing it yourself... it would have been a pain in the *SS! But, I just have ONE question about the ONSTAR:
Is it any better than it was about 5 or 6 years ago? I went on a cross country trip with some friends, and she didn't have Nationwide coverage on her cell phone. So, she was trying to use ONSTAR to make a phone call... The call went something like this:
.... ok.... I'm Emily R. and I'm stuck here in Wall, SD...
ONSTAR: Yes, I see that you are in WALL... go ahead...She proceeded to tell the ONSTAR rep WHO she wanted to call, and their phone #...
I forget the name, but ONSTAR made her SPELL it... no problem, right? It was a hoot, just sitting there, while she recited every letter of the alphabet, and the ONSTAR rep would say:
TON, FUN, SUN..... ONE, TWO, SHOE....
Anyway, I'm glad that it worked out for you.
My IOS today is that I went to the local hospital to inquire about employment, at their HR dept. I pushed the door open, and someone was on the other side, pushing the door open.... and BAM! The door banged into my head and my nose, and MAN! Did that ever hurt!! I ended up looking really stupid, and the HR rep. was very nice, but she said 'we don't do PAPER RESUMES' anymore.... so she told me that I have to go online and apply INDIVIDUALLY for EACH position that I might be even the least bit qualified for. UGH!! I really think it was a kind way of telling me that they just weren't interested.
Harley
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Harley, Owie on the door!! But I don't think the HR guy was blowing you off. Most big places have you apply online first! Go for it... healthcare seems to be a good place to find recession proof jobs. *hugs*
Nancy, sounds like a wonderful trip to the grocery store. Where is the compassion, people??? Sheesh! *big hugs from Virginia*
Love to all,
Miss S
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Holy crap with the RUDE frickin' grocery clerk!!! What is WRONG with people?!?! I think you struck a cord here. For some reason, no matter how frickin' many groceries I have, how frickin' BALD I might be or how ricketty I look wobbling around on a cane, NO-frickin-BODY at our grocery stores thinks it might be appropriate to offer to help me out to the car........that is, they don't offer UNLESS I already have help (my boys) with me. I remember trudging through the store after rads one day (for pain in my pelvis). I was so afraid I was going to pass out; I kept feeling sweat beads pop up on my forehead and the room would start to dim. The frickin' MANAGER bagged my groceries (at least I didn't have to argue about the bagging!!) and ran off. He didn't even put them in a cart so I could push them out! When I finally got out to the car, I called dh in tears....It just never ceases to amaze me how rude, insensitive, and just plain self-centered people can be. I think you need to write the store and its corporate headquarters, letting them know they treated you this way. I just want to b-slap that raggy beotch for you, sweetie! I can't believe another customer came out and ragged on you too. Oh, cry me a frickin' river if the clerk was "so upset"... (LOL...freqeuncy of the word "frickin" in my post is a dead give away that I'm hollering the OTHER f-word as I write this!)
OMG, Harley! OUCHHHHHHHHHHHH "We don't 'do' paper resumes?" WTF? I hope your head doesn't hurt too much today. I carry the "unlucky klutz" gene, so I truly do feel your pain here. That sucks! I hope the job search goes better today.
More "THAT SUCKS" to everybody who needs to hear it!
((((HUGS))))
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...rude grocery clerks, that just SUX! I would file a formal complaint!
Miss S.,
I had already applied online for about 4 positions, so she had my application and resume, online. But, she said that I MUST apply for EACH INDIVIDUAL position, because I guess that THEY can't be bothered to match up my qualifications from my resume with any future openings that may appear.... CRAP! Who has time to keep searching their website, and even when I went home and searched NOTHING came up, even though SHE got a bunch of openings to appear on HER computer when I saw her yesterday!
Thanks Diane! I have that unlucky klutz gene, too!! I think that since my bc dx and tx, I have tripped, fallen, and ran into doors numerous times, just in the past year or so. My head hurts, and it is bruising! I worried that maybe I broke my nose, too!
Harley
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thanks (((((( gal friends )))))), I just knew it was NOT me... You all deserve a hug and some chocolate goodies. Have as good a day as possible. HUGS, Nancy
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Klutz gene - I have it too!! Is it just me or does everyone with bc have that gene? LOL
Sorry to read of all the suckage that is going on. I personally didn't care if I ticked off a cashier if they bagged my stuff too heavy - I either rebagged it myself in front of them or pulled off a few bags and re-did it at the car. Of course my dh wouldn't let me go to the store by myself - he always either came with me or had my dd's come with me (16 & 11). Actually - he still makes them come with me and I'm 10 months past my exchange surgery. I guess that makes my dh my SOI today!
Gentle Hugs!
Trish
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Nancy, I can't believe how high my heart rate got after reading your story about the grocery store. There are so many problems with that situation, I don't know where to start. Where do you live, that store employees treat their customers so shabbily?
First of all, where do these baggers get off putting 10 or 15 pounds of stuff in one grocery bag? I've had them do that even with those flimsy bad-for-the-environment plastic bags. Five pounds of sugar, five pounds of flour, ... oh, and let's toss in 3 or 4 large cans of veggies, too. I finally have started telling them I am not supposed to carry that much weight. I don't tell them why, because it's none of their business. So, I just say, "Will you please put some of that in another bag, so this bag isn't so heavy? I'm not supposed to lift more than 5 pounds at a time." They look at me strangely but generally comply.
Second ... the clerk actually asked you why you bought so many groceries, if they wouldn't all fit in the two bags you supplied??? Oh, that one has an easy fix. I would have said, "Okay, so if this is what will fit comfortably in the bags I'm providing, and you're not willing to use any of your bags, let's just forget the rest of these groceries (sweeping dramatically with your hand). I don't want them. You can have someone put them back on the shelf." I have walked away in situations like that, leaving a fully loaded grocery cart at the check-out stand. It feels soooo good. Just be sure they don't have your money yet.
And, once the cashier flipped out, I would have insisted on calling the manager over to intervene. No, you do not have to tell everyone you have cancer, and you do not have to say that the reason you can't lift more than 5 pounds is because of concern about LE. But, I might have held that information in reserve and dumped it on the manager when he/she arrived.
Generally, especially these days with rising unemployment (lots of people looking for jobs) and decreasing consumer spending (lots of stores trying to attract customers), a manager will side with the customer without hesitating. That is, especially if you mention (through your tears) that you have had surgery for breast cancer and your surgeon has said you cannot lift more than 5 pounds in one arm; and that's why you asked if some of the groceries could please be transferred to another sack; and all you were hoping for was a little assistance from the store's employees. Isn't this supposed to be a "service" industry? (Don't add that last part.)
And, I was totally wrong about the woman standing behind you in line. As I read along, I was assuming you were going to say she came over to you and consoled you, or maybe said she'd had breast cancer, too, or that she had LE and understood about the weight thing. But, NOOOOOO, she butts her ugly head into something that really isn't her business, and scolds you instead.
I might have said to her that it really wasn't any of her business, but, if she ever gets breast cancer, perhaps she would think differently and be a bit more understanding of your situation.
And, after everything has calmed down, if I were you I would consider writing a letter to the store manager, or perhaps if it's a chain, to the higher-ups in the corporate system. I would tell them everything that went on, and how badly the store employees treated you. I would explain about the breast cancer and the surgery, and the self-consciousness about having to disclose that to the store employees in front of everyone. I might even mention that there are alternatives to this particular store, but that you'd rather shop there (if it's true). I would say that I think the cashier would benefit from employee counseling on how customers should be treated.
Believe it or not, in the small town where I buy groceries, they not only bag them and put them in the cart, but they push the cart out to the parking lot and unload them into the trunk of the car. I think they want to make sure they get their carts back, but it's a nice gesture.
Big hugs to you....
otter
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What is wrong with the world today? I don't usually post here (read a lot) but this string of post has really struck me- I am floored by the rudeness and incompetance. So sad that people out there think this is ok behavor, what happened to common curtousy, a smile and have a nice day?
No IOS today, just SOI---my dh has taken over food shopping and now my dm is arguing with him so she can do the shopping as a way of helping
---all this and I really do enjoy food shopping, always have. I hope all are having a better day!
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I had to write my story about the clerk at my acme. I had to stop and get a few things one day on the way back from chemo. I was feeling horrible so I only picked up a few things. While this woman was bagging for me she took one look at my bald,scarved covered head and says,"that reminds me,I need a haircut. I was floored,even the cashier's mouth dropped! I said to the cashier,do you believe how insensitive some people are! The bagger kept on talking about her hairdressor,not a clue. This was a middle aged woman too,not a kid. To this day,she still works there,I just glare at her when I see her.
Joyce
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First - a shout out to Joyce in Philly! Hating the Eagles these days (Giants fan - Go Big Blue!) but I am a Temple University grad. Go Owls!
Nancy, I am so upset at how you were treated in the grocery store. I agree with everything Otter said - other than the fact that I probably would have gone the hell off on the nosey witch who not only followed you to your car but opened her fool trap to let stupidity spill out. WTH is up with THAT?!?
A few years ago, I did an article on handling rude service professionals. One of the consumer advocates I interviewed said something that always stuck with me: everyone has a boss. When you're feeling up to it, perhaps speaking with the store manager with specifics (like the goofball cashier's name) can be your first step. Let him/her know in no uncertain terms that how you were treated will probably make you think twice before spending your ducats in that particular store again. Bet you a buck he/she will fall over backwards to accommodate you/let you know it won't happen again.
If that isn't the case, just walk up to the customer service desk and ask for the name and contact information of the district manager and tell them why: that you wish to file a complaint about the store's shabby customer service and rude as hell cashiers. They will probably attempt to get YOUR contact information so said district manager can call YOU, but don't fall for it: INSIST on contacting the person yourself. If the person at the counter mysteriously doesn't know how to find it, ask for their web address (so you can find it yourself) AND their regional or national customer complaint 800 number. Every store has one if they are part of a chain. If you don't get a responsse, just keep going up the chain of command until you do. Trust me, no CEO wants to get an email from a disgruntled customer over a rude cashier. Heads will roll as a result...
Another thing the consumer advocate I interviewed said: every grocery store in the country loses about 1/3 of their customers each year due to poor customer service. Sadly, they pick up about 1/3 of their customers from other stores for the same reason...
Yep, good customer service has seemingly gone the way of the dinosaur these days...
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Nancy - I would be on the horn to the store manager as soon as I walked in my door.
on July 2, 2006, I left a full, and I mean FULL, cart of groceries at the checkout. A store/location where I'd been shopping since toddlerhood (Fred Meyer). I had my purse and checkbook and a daughter with ID, but no wallet or ID for myself. The cashier wouldn't take my check. She wouldn't get the manager, wouldn't run it through without ID, and pissed me off so bad that I haven't spent a penny there since. I called as soon as I got home, spoke to the manager, and never crossed the threshold. (If no one knows Fred Meyer, it's a NW chain - owned by Kroeger - with all-in-one shopping. The cashiers there are from the Neanderthal school of checking & are the slowest in the land. Usually 2 checkstands open with 40 people in each line.)
In this day and age no business should condone behavior like that from employees. And that other customer - I spit <spit!> on her and hope a llama or two does as well.
Only minor IOS. Kids are driving me nuts. Looking for more snow tomorrow. Ate carrot cake instead of going to the gym. bah.
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