Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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Thank you Harley. I was dx a year ago, May 2, and now this suspicious area shows on the mammogram a year later. Then reading that the most recurrences occur in the first year or 2... Is this a recurr or not? This too will pass, but the waiting game -- you all know how that goes.
Hugs and Blessings, Nancy
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I hope everyone had a great mother's day! I hope everyone is doing well today! Big Hugs to all of you who have just had treatment or going in for treatment today! All will be good!
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Saint,
The pics are great! Your dd is beautiful!!
Dream,
You are a wonderful sister, to be there when your sister needs you... (((HUGS)))
Nancy,
I know these yearly tests are so scary!! I was just telling a friend from bc.org that I just wish that my life could go back to 'normal', to what it was like BEFORE bc, when I don't have to worry about recurrence, or my LE risk... it sux!! Sending positive, B-9 thoughts to you for B-9 results!!! Your bx is on Friday, am I right??
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Hi All,
I didn't comprehend all the posts cuz I am livid about a thread I read. I don't normally do the "active" posts, but ocassionally I do looking for a newbie to maybe share some F*d up reconstruction wisdom with...
Anyway, I just saw a post called "Cancer, It's Just A Word" WTF????????????? What a bunch of BS! You'd have to pay me serious money to read that book!! There is NO WAY.... I would EVER buy that book.
Cancer isn't just a word.........it killed my Dad, it's killed ENDLESS friends on this site, it's killed MILLIONS of people!!!!!!!! Gawd that title PISSES ME OFF!
That person has a lot of what I don't have to name a title a book that.
Sorry.
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Robert Buckman - Cancer is a Word not a Sentence. Is that the book. I actually have met the man, he went through some serious illnesses and he still comes out speaking positively - very much like you Triple Neg. He also wrote: "I dont know what to say..," which addresses caregivers. Maybe we are not discussing the same thing? I cannot find the post.
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Morning all.
Saint - wonderful pictures
Can't post much - had gallbladder out yesterday and just a little sore.
God's Blessings to all for a suck free day.
Trish
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Prayrv: I hope you are feeling better soon. Surgery sucks.
Saint: Beautiful children who will someday give you beautiful grandchildren.
I never married and never had children so my best guess is I won't be having any grandchildren. I think I have said before on one of these threads that my uncle and I are the same age so I feel like his children are my nephews not my cousins and that their children are my grandchildren by osmosis. Nothing give me more joy than to see them and be part of their lives.
The oldest has been the love of my life for the entire 8-1/2 years he has been on this earth. The second child is an old soul that I have known before, the third child is so full of herself and life she is a joy to watch and the youngest boy is like a little Sherman tank or the energizer bunny - he keeps going, and going, and going.
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Dream, it is wonderful that you are able to support your sister. Is it possible that since she seems to be downplaying what is going on, her husband doesn't understand how sick his wife is and that's why he's not staying with her for appointments etc? You've said that her mother was there for her the last time she went through this process, so she didn't need him to step up then. Maybe he really doesn't know and understand. A loving heart to heart with him might have him stepping up so you won't have to be the go to person for every visit.
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this is just a drive by to send hugs and THAT SUX out as needed...
Traci - not sure what post you are referring to because I didn't surf...but I'm sure sorry to see you with your dander in an uproar...I hope you find something just as stupid that makes you laugh!
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Laughing is really one of the best ways to get through this. I know there are many many emotions that come with treatments (believe me I know!) but laughter that comes from any place (a funny joke, comedy movie, comedians, stupid things people say....etc....) helps make things just that much easier. Any little bit counts, right? So when someone says to you something totally insane and you just want to stick your finger in your eye and swirl around your brain to try and grasp why this person is saying the most incredibly dumb things to you.....laugh! Laugh it off! I promise it will bring a smile to your face one way or another.
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Hi girls,
Been away forever and a day, but think of you always.
Going to catch up for a bit, big fat hugs all around...
Colleen
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Traci- I read that post also "cancer is just a word"- I totally agree with you, IT killed my mom, brother, aunt, and niece- it is NOT just a word! The way they made it sound so trivial is what made me the angriest! That is another bitch of mine- PINK is such a wimpy color- makes breast cancer seem so trivial- I HATE PINK RIBBONS- maybe I am off base here, but I think the official color for breast cancer should be BLACK- not for mourning - but for anger and pain, and when you see something or someone in black you know they mean business. (think Hells ANgels!!???) ha ha, anyway maybe that is the problem with finding a cure- they are being to wimpy!!!!??? We need a WARRIOR color! (Purple?). I don't know. Just me thinking out loud.... Tami
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Idaho - I didn't think about it before but you are on target. Pink is a wimpy color that hardly represents the seriousness of this disease. I vote for purple.
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Geez... the man wrote that book years ago. He also hosts a monitored chat through Princess Margaret Hospital called :"Cancer is a Word, Not a Sentence." It is meant to help people live with cancer and live beyond cancer. I can see getting angry - every has an opinion but perhaps the facts should be viewed too. As for pink, if you look at the history of the the ribbon, it was started in the US by a one-woman wonder and the colour was - ready for it - PEACH. When she wouldn't sell the rights to her idea to Estee Lauder in time for a magazine devoted to breast cancer, Estee Lauder ran with the colour pink. Pink for female, pink for "in the pink" meaning healthy. Black has always be designated for death and the original ribbon was upside down and edged in black. That was to hold the tear shape and the black was to honor those that passed from breast cancer. It was years later that the black disappeared and the ribbon was pinned loop up. Thank you for giving me the honor of posting this history lesson, cause I happen to think it is very interesting. Now forwarding to now.... perhaps stage 4s should look at edging the pink ribbon. Suggestions could include dotted black line since we havent died yet. Purple is usually reserved for royalty. However the purple ribbon is already taken - it symbolizes those that are injured, disabled, made unwell or killed by their work.
As for Dr. Robert Buckman, the man has been through various illnesses, on of which left the muscles of his hand crab into a claw. Yet he still continues the online chat, apologizing each time for the amount of time it takes him to type. I once argued with him over the title, that I did not feel that it included stage 4 breast cancer. He admitted it didnt because they didnt call the patients stage 4 then. Because when he wrote the book a far larger portion of women died of breast cancer and the treatments for breast cancer. The cancer was usually discovered after it had spread.
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Oh and I appreciate that I have a different opinion and no one jumped all over me. In our family our motto is "We deserve the right to be heard, right, wrong or indifferent."
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We welcome your opinion- but I still think pink is wimpy! ha ha ha. Ok purple is taken- how about green or blue, or - oh yeah- aquamarine?!!! Love ya, Tami
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Barbe, where are you? I have missed your wisdom today.... Tami
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How about orange?
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Teal/aquamarine is for ovarian cancer
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why not get a crayola 64 box and google each color until you find one that hasnt been claimed.
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Barbe... I met Mason today. Look forward to getting together with you and her soon.
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this is going to be my new favorite group!
everyone keeps telling me that i have to keep my chin up that everything will work out.. seriously i'm sick of it
ive had nothing but bad news this whole year.. i messed up with a boy that i fell in love with he moved on of course then i was diagnosed - stage 4 with mets everywhere - started chemo that is draining me.. boy still around and trying to be supportive but also at the same time making plans to get married to some other chick..
chemo was rough and i hated it.. i'm exhausted all the time.. i feel sick, i'm worried about hair.. i hateeeeeeee my life!!!! i'm 28 years old and just want one week of no bad news... hasn't happened in at least three months
ok feels good.. i love this group
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Princess,
28? You get the bitch of the day award.
Hugs, Traci
Edited to add: (((((((hugs))))))) everybody! Trish, I'm only 20 minutes away.
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Who says pink isn't strong and powerful? Maybe we should change the face of Pink. If you ask me we already have. Look at what we've done. We've gone from barbaric mastectomies and stone cold silence to demanding appropriate care. My oldest daughter went to a Catholic high school and It always moved me when they chanted at sporting events......"WE ARE ONE, WE ARE ONE." That's how I feel about everyone that has had breast cancer. WE ARE ONE.
I often hear breast cancer survivors complain about companies making money using pink and contributing a nominal fee for the sake of profit. Hmmmmmm. I'd like to wake all the dead grandmothers and ask for their opinion of what we've accomplished. I think they would be proud to have been part of it during their life time.
I used to feel the same way Idaho until several older women told me what they went through. Now I think Pink is pretty powerful. And I'll take every penny we can get.
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Idaho...I didn't mean any disrespect by making the last statement. I'm sorry if it sounds bad or bitchy.0
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You know I re-read my comment about crayola crayons and even to me it sounds bitchy - sorry.
How about pink with black polka dots... make a statement. Pink and black plaid?
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Love it Dream. How about hotpink for all of us hotties?
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Dream, thank you so much for sharing the history of the pink bc ribbon. I consider myself pretty well read on the subject of bc, but I had never researched that information. It brings a whole new prospective on the matter and I am glad to carry on the fight and to LIVE to give hope to others.
What a horrendous fight against a ruthless enemy. I will proudly wear pink into the battlefield and fight with all my might. I am woman, hear me roar. Cancer is not for sissies.
Princess, I am so very sorry for all you're going through. I do wish you a week with no bad news at all and full of sunshine and blue skies. You are so young and all this crap is just not fair! Hang in there sweetie.... good days are coming.
Love to you all,
Miss S
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Hey! I thought the crayola box thing was HILARIOUS Dream...do I have a warped sense of humour?
Do y'all realize that all cancers are assigned colours? Did you know Electrolux makes their washer/dryer combo in certain colours for a year and makes donations to that cancer? Too bad when I was at their head office and learned this I didn't know I had breast cancer....can you imagine a PINK pair? Did you know Dyson made a PINK vacuum? See, I'm full of it too!
Dream, I heard on another thread that the pink ribbon is patented to Canada! I would have preferred peach....sigh. Really love purple but that would make me hate my favourite colour!
THAT SUX! To all who needed it...
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I've always liked the pink. My memory growing up was of not admitting to it being a color I liked because that was "too girly" and girls weren't as strong or smart. (Not the attitude in my family, but in school and out in the world in general). Girls didn't have sports unti Title IX. Girls didn't expect to want to take higher level math and science classes in high school. They were expected to quit school or work when they got married or pregnant. As mentioned above, girls went to sleep for a biopsy and accepted the fact that they may wake up with a radical mastectomy. I love how much that has changed and that being female now means you can be strong, athletic, have muscles, and not hide how smart you are. Pink has a whole new meaning and everytime I wear it I think of how far we've come. Long before I had breast cancer the pin I wore on my blazers and jackets was a blonde girl with pink shorts and boxing gloves proudly proclaiming "fight like a girl". I'm still wearing it. My mother hasn't taken it off since I was diagnosed.
Dream, thanks for the history lesson.
I like the pink.
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