Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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DREAM!!!! How are you?
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konakat.... Just HUGS and if you were in NYC, I'd do that for ya in a heartbeat. Sending you karmic chicken soup and love all I can do for now.
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Has anyone heard how Dream did yesterday? I was out of town.....
{{{{ Dream }}}}}}}}} Hope all our prayers came through for you and you are resting painfree from the stent.
Much love!
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Kathi - the link didn't work. Are we talking Springfield, MA? That's only an hour or so from me. 2 of my kids actually went to the Shriner's Hospital there.
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Kak, I will repeat your caution to Bonnie (navy) when I see her. My mom was a PT and there is a major difference in dealing with injuries, surgery areas, etc. She worked with children who had muscular dystrophy and cerebral palsy mainly and what a joy it was to her when they "graduated" from therapy.
((((( dream )))) let us know how you are doing. May it be pain free and having a very restful and long sleep. Speedy healing and recovery for you.
THAT SUCKS, as needed. Of course it is raining, but Bonnie and I are tough and I have a big yellow gulf umbrella. Hugs, nancy
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If you dont care for the anatomy lesson, skip the next paragraph:
The operation took a turn for the better. They got the tube through the kidney (removing the stone) and down the ureter to the bladder... removing the obstruction there too... the end of the tube has holes to let the urine out into the bladder so I can pee normally.
Other than a really bad night, I am ok. I dont know when I have to go back to have it replaced.... dont want to be a regular in the Day OP dept.
I was a real whiner during the operation but nice to the nurses to make up... I had the bed closest to the bathroom so as soon as they let me walk, I was less a nuisance.
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Rats, Jane! Let me try again...it would be awesome if you could come!! It's in the Get-Togethers forum.
http://community.breastcancer.org/forum/34/topic/699780?page=6#idx_174
Dream, I'm so glad you're okay. I hope this is the end of it.
Nancy, we actually have a flood watch up here for southern New England tonight & tomorrow, so I guess we have to start building an ark now! The thing with Bonnie & anyone recovering from flap surgery is that the abdominal flap is a really serious thing when they take part of the muscle. Lots of women do just fine, but lots have complications & don't get proper rehab & end up with lifelong back problems. She should NOT be being worked so hard she's sore right now, especially in the belly. Mildly sore is okay, but not to the degree she described. I always joke that you shouldn't use a trainer who's under age 50 because by then, they've had enough problems themselves that they've learned a few things!! LOL
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Jane, that link didn't work either. I just tested it. I think something technical is wrong. I've never had this problem. Anyway, go to Forum Get-Togethers & you'll find it.
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If you use Control C, Control V it will work. Then use the back arrow to come back. Thats how I vote for BethNY on the "I need a favour" thread.
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Sorry - you have to hightlight the link first. Then use Control C/V
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Dream! So glad you pulled through without too much pain. I thought of you ALL day yesterday! You done good!
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Big hugs to dream. That tube should make things flow more smoothly...
BTW, I have never been able to post direct links to pages on the BCO boards. I can post links to BCO information pages; but my links to discussion board pages always bring up error messages.
I have a silly little IOS/SOI for shoe people (KAK?). I wear Sperry Topsider deck shoes a lot, and I was in need of another pair before our upcoming vacation. Sperry started marketing them in department stores (not just boating stores) a few years ago. So, I spent 3 hours at the mall on Thursday, looking for the ones I wanted. I finally found them at a discount store where they have all the boxes on the shelves but each box only contains the left shoe. You have to ask the clerk to fetch the right shoe if you want to try them both on or buy them.
I asked the clerk to bring me the missing shoes for 2 pairs of Topsiders (total price would have been $75 + $50). The IOS was that, 10 minutes later, he was still hunting in the back room for the 2 "mates" of the shoes I wanted. Another clerk defended the delay: "You have no idea how many shoes we have back there. We have thousands of shoes to search through!". (I am imagining my clerk up to his armpits in a large room filled with a huge pile of loose shoes...)
Finally, after waiting another 5 minutes or so, I gave up. I told the 2nd clerk I thought 15 minutes was long enough to wait for the "mates" for the shoes I wanted. IMHO, both shoes should have been in the box on the shelf in the first place. (I understand the reasoning: shop-lifter deterrence. It's just a nuisance for honest customers to have to deal with the one-shoe thing.) I walked out.
Yesterday I stopped at a high-end sporting goods store that also sells Topsiders. I found exactly the shoe I wanted--in my size, even--on the display rack. I couldn't find its mate.
The SOI: A friendly clerk helped me hunt through all the boxes, and we found the mate in a box in the discount section of the store, marked down from $75 to $44.95!
So, already happy with my "find", I went to the checkout counter. My clerk scanned the box ... and scanned it again ... and scanned it a 3rd time. She called over another clerk, and they whispered for awhile; and clerk #2 said, "Well, if that's what it scans, that's what it sells for."
And I was charged $29.99 for my excellent pair of shoes, for which I would gladly have paid $75 at the "discount" store!
I know, it's a silly story, but I was thinking WAY beyond cancer for a change.
otter
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That's a great story otter
So happy for you to have found your shoes...At such a great price to boot.0 -
Elizabeth- gentle hugs, warm chicken soup and fluffy pillows for you. You really do need a new BF, who will be a DBF (dear boyfirend). Hoping the ears and nose are feeling better...
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I've come to the bitch and moan site. I am absolutely tired of the fact that my breast has not healed properly from a re - excision done on March 23. Since then I have had daily home care packing the wound (for six weeks while waiting for chemo) then my doctors decide to do a secondary close (about five weeks ago). My breasts are no longer the same size after the close surgery - I don't know what they did. It seemed to heal ok, then 2 weeks after the close the incision opened up again!! This time the hole is teeny tiny and left over old blood keeps dripping out of it, so homecare has to change the dressings daily. The breast has hard bumpy bits which I am told are scare tissue - after all this I don't think I'd feel a bump, since the whole thing is a bump. UGHHHHH. Then two days ago (three weeks after the little opening) the opening starts to get bigger again! And my next chemo is on Monday, so the risk of infection is very real, but I can't wait forever. Then I feel supremely guilty for being frustrated when I read about you tough ladies and your mastectomies (SP?). UGHHHHHH Do I have a right to be this frustrated? Isn't three months an unreasonable amount of time to heal? Oh, and BTW, my surgeon has not even seen me since the secondary close - too busy. Luck for me my GP is great and he is following up. But maybe at this point should I see a specialist on wound healing. Do I really want another doctors appt?
Thanks I do feel better.
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Sorry Rina! That does sux!!!
Glad to see you here dream!!! Glad things went well. Bug hugs to all of you!!
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YAY YAY Dream can pee! It's a wonderful thing
Rina- That SUX! And 3 months is surely enough time to deserve some major frikin whining. I say, hell yes, go for that specialist on wound healing. I explained on another thread about "bitching rights". 20 years ago I had embarrassing vaginal issue. I had this famous gyno, and he didnt even see what i was talking about, and i was too shy to point to it (boy are those days over! HA). So I saw a dermotologist as he recommended, then another gyno as the dermatologist recommended, and this went on for a while. My gal pal then recommended I see her gyno and I whined something about how I didn't want to lift my skirt for yet another gyno to mess me around. My friend said "well if you wont go see another doctor you lose the right to bitch about it". I ended up seeing 11 doctors to get it taken care of, but I did. So that's what I call "bitching rights". Your surgeon is a jerk for not seeing you. Go see as many docs as it takes to get some satisfaction, you MUST be your own advocate, you MUST!!!! Then come here and bitch about it
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Rinna, that's awful!! I work in homecare (as a PT) & I'm wondering if you need to be on an antibiotic. Have you been on one? Or, I'm sorry to say this, something is going on inside, like they didn't stitch you up properly or something. But I'm thinking you have a bug that you just won't get rid of without big meds. Keep bitching!! The squeeky wheel gets the oil!
Gret story, otter!! We all LOVE a bargain, especially after so much effort & aggro to get the shoes in the first place!
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I could pee before... but now it hurts differently.
Im hoping the pain in my side is not staying permanently.
I am not a trooper with pain... I whined on the operating table.... what do you mean I cant pee for 10 minutes? Nurse says let it go... they dont care.... thats like permission to pee the bed, you just are not going to do it.
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BTW, ladies, my blog was nominated for a "Most Provocative Blog" award! You can visit the site here at The Accidental Amazon and there's a big purple buttonthat links to the awards page where you can vote under the Provocative category. People can vote once a day till July6th.
Dream, if I use Firefox instead of IE to get on the web, I sometimes have problems, because Firefox doesn't let you do straight out cut/copy/paste unless you "trick" it. Did they give you a decent pain-reliever? Why did this happen in the first place? This just sux. You're too young to be going through all this crap.
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Kak - I've been on antibiotics twice! All they tell me is that my body isn't absorbing the fluids left by the rather large cavity (see, I think I would have had a mastectomy if my breasts were not so large to begin with (size DD). Because they had a lot to work with, they felt they could get rid of the tumor and get clear margins and leave the breast in tact. I healed wonderfully from the original lumpectomy. But when the re-excised to get clean margins he also did a node dissection. This is where I think he over did it. I see many ladies have had only three or four nodes taken when there are not any positive. I had 13 taken. I wonder if that is what is getting in the way of my body absorbing the fluid. Or is this surgeon incompetent and leaving something bleeding in me. The first time the incision openned, there must have been about three cups of old blood! My breast litterally popped and then deflated. I see my OC on Monday, and I'll ask if he can refer me to a specialist.
Thanks for validating my frustration. Whenever I see my GP, who I really do like, he tries to make this seem like it is not such a big deal.
Rinna
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WhaSux?
Back for a fly-by-----Had to have a transfusion today---should be better soon now (I told them I was sick!) LOL
Dream---hugs--will call soon
Otter--LOVE those stories & just forgetting about bitching & cancer for a bit! HUGS
Rinna--we all heal at different rates---sometimes it is NOT their fault-but I would definitely look for another opinion at this point.
I hope to be back up to snuff soon---you all be well & stay strong
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KAK - Im not young.... Im 51. Actually 2 Extra Strength Tylenols were all I needed last night to bring down the fever. Today, I took 2 to do 3 loads of laundry (mostly mine). My helper was away. But one of my neighbors gave me a hand with the bending parts. I paid my grandson to wash my hair cause they have a handheld shower. He had kneeling pads down and a towel for my neck - gave him $5. Told him he gets to do it all week - $5 a pop. Hes 13 and in heaven. I am worried about not being able to swim. I want those plastic coverings they use for the port. That way I can spend an hour in the pool. Those suckers stay on until peeled off.
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Thanks for the kind thoughts -- still want to rip my head off -- even my teeth hurt from my sinuses. Popping pain pills like M&Ms but not helping. Sudafed helps a bit... My BF didn't bother coming by this evening, just as well, since I look and feel like hell. But bringing some food would have been nice -- I'm all out, except for cereal and pasta. Oooh, I bet some ice cream would make me feel better.
Kak -- I have a bbq to go to on that Saturday -- can't make Springfield. :-( Sounds like fun!! I'll be thinking of you.
And Saint -- glad to see you're back in the swing of things!!
Dream and Rinna -- sorry about your respective ordeals. Sucks big ones. Makes mine seem trivial.
Love to you all,
Elizabeth
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Phone your BF - ASK her to bring you ginger ale and popsicles (or freezies) If she doesnt know you are sick - how can she nurse you. And if she does, allow her to put the stuff outside the door and run. She may not want what you have.
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Saint, good to hear from you
Dreamwriter, I consider 51 still young
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I am sorry for all we are going thru. Rinnal sorry about that! I had 26 nodes pulled out. Konakat...I am sorry that you are feeling bad. Dream and Saint..in my prayers!
All you wonderful ladies are an inspiration to me and I wanted to thank you all for welcoming me andletting me complain here.
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Saint!!! Good to hear from you, dahling! If they keep giving you blood transfusions, we're gonna start calling you Saint Vampire!! It is kind of amazing, tho', how a transfusion brings the roses back to the ol' cheeks, isn't it? LOL
Oh, Dream! Someone told me you were in your late thirties or forties!! Still, you're younger than I am! LOL Can you send your grandson to my house after you're done with him?? Having someone else wash your hair is heavenly all the way around!! BTW, see if you can get your pharmacy to get you some Tegederm. It's this saran-wrap-like clear & sticky bandaging material that we use over open wounds & incisions to keep them waterproof so that patients can shower & stuff. It's awesome! That's probably what they've been putting on your port. I don't think you need a prescription or anything. You just need someone to sell it to you!
Rinna, you might benefit from a PT or OT who knows how to do lymphatic & post-op massage. Even if you don't have any lymphedema, when they remove so many nodes, the lymphatic system is greatly challenged and sometimes needs a little assistance to drain all the fluid of the healing process away from the area and to bring the right stuff to the incisions to help close them up.
Elizabeth, we'll raise a glass for you on Saturday. See you at the next one.
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Kak, thanks for the advice. I see my oc tomorrow for chemo 2. I'll ask about a referral for pt or ot, to help with this healing.
Rinna
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Dear otter thank you for YHO, I needed validation. Don't guess no more - find out! That's what your giant doughnut hole humming machines are for, ya noodleheads!!! Don't try to play god with me, I know God, mister, and YOU are no God! (hee hee hee) (oh, wow, there is some humor left in me...)
I am just getting tired of feeling like crap. When I went in for the pneumonia, there was also gas trapped in my stomach that was unbearable on the lower left hand side. In the hospital, that went away (???). Now, whatever I eat makes me nauseous, which is depressing, so that's good for a person like moi to lose a little weight and perish eventually.
My PC went cold this week. All I did was relax and rest a lot. I did sudoku puzzles. I drank my water. I thought about the years ago when I didn't have cancer, I felt for my mother, my cocker spaniel, and others that did. Little kids shouldn't get cancer. That's just mean.
This has been a sessna1 groan. I thank you.
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