Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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((((((((((((((((((((Hugs__))))))))))))))))))))))) - Nothing like a little cancer to get your priorities straight!
Dear Lord - seriously, you didn't need a 2x4 to get my attention.
I am feeling better - I thought I was one of those people who like the holidays - guess not! I really think I was on sensory overload from the "family gathering." Nothing like family to make you feel like crap. They know all the buttons to push - they installed them!
Love. Kathleen
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I get sensory overload from my Fibromyalgia. Bright lights, loud music, crowds etc. I'm used to it now though, and so are the kids. Weird though, I get overwhelmed and even cry!
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Elizabeth (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))). Go ahead and feel grumpy. Change is hard in the best of circumstances, and you've got a lot on your plate. Give yourself time to settle in and then maybe some of this suckiness will leave.
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Ooooh, thanks for the hugs -- I needed them!
Kathleen -- yeah. my Mom. I deluded myself into thinking after my initial tx I would be fine and done with BC. Hahaha. Since I've been living so far away from Mom I thought why worry her? Soooo, I've never told her, only visited when I had hair, etc. I really, really don't want to say anything but I might have to. Should be a fun time when I do, like playing with a barrel or rabid, angry monkeys... Maybe I'll tell her after the holidays. She will be so sad and worried. :-(
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A big THAT SUX to anyone who needs it. ***sigh*** is it Thanksgiving already? Where did the year go?
I'm currently battling and eye infection of some sort. Not Fun. Not amused. Gilda Radner had it right when she said if it ain't one thing it's another.
I'm going to go make a Kahlua and Cream
Here's hoping when I check Saint's thread there is good news!
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Happy dance for Renee S.! Dance like you do when only your house pets are watching!!!
Needed hugs. Thank you, konakat.
Dad's hands and feet have been getting really chapped. I found out that his water heater was kicking out boiling water - and he likes extra hot water to shave with ... and he uses an unfriendly soap to wash his hands with. My Dad is boiling himself and then complaining that hand lotions don't work.
I turned down the water heater one notch. He refuses to change his hand soap. I got my hands all but burned in the kitchen washing dishes. Something had to change - I have carpal tunnel syndrome, arthritis, and my fingers spasm out with great use (like cleaning Dad's microwave oven). I just said to myself, "Self, if I can't use my hands because I've boiled them, he and I are going to be in a lot of hurt, so whether he grumbles or not, the water heater has to go down a notch."
See why single men have the shortest life spans? They don't go to the doctor enough, look out for their health, or listen and reason enough about their situation. True, single women can do that too, but we're wired better for taking care of ourselves. They pay men more (grrrr) but really smart men would go marry extremely good women of character and intelligence - and listen to them.
Uh oh, am I moaning? I am sorry.
kmccraw423, are you telling me that there are working "day nurses" and adult sitting (like baby sitting) "night nurses?" I found that if my day nurses weren't good then my night nurses were worse 90% of the time. I got used to waiting at least 20 minutes for my nurse to show up. Okay. I'm not her only patient. Once, I was so miserable with pain that I re-checked myself into the ER. I don't know how they explained it to my insurance company. They (the nurses) took longer and longer to respond, and I was level 8 miserable, ready to scream. Then, then they talked to me like I was a baby. That only set me in stone more. P.S. Your Maxine cartoon made me laugh.
Praise for Connie07's procedure!
Jane M, If you move his chair a couple of more times around the house will he believe you then? Your DH probably was born screaming his head off, blinked, took one look back at his mother and said, "What are you upset about? I was just born!" Where's the reality show for men who don't understand other people - not just women. I'm laying down two pieces of chocolate here. I'm bettin' chocolate. IF your guy doesn't have at least two close guy friends and three men who admire him, it's not just women that he doesn't get - it's people that he doesn't get. He's not paying attention on purpose. Somewhere he fumbled that pass and lost the ball. Please accept my "I'm sorry, Sister," hug.
'I don't have a thread, I was roped into this...'
Your sessna1 (care giver)
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Sessna - Just wanted to let you know that Jane had a right mast today, so I'm not sure when she will be back online. Surgery went well I hear.
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Thank you Sessna but what for? Unless you're referring to my conversation on the other thread. And that would be about sex for the second time this year. Sad I know but this cancer crap really messes with your life. I sometimes think it's harder on the caregiver than it is on us.
Edited to read: You must be referring to DH's BRCA -. This indeed is reason to shake the booty. Thank goodness it doesn't skip generations. My two girls will be at a normal risk for BC and hopefully be able to have routine mamos age 40. I say we fight for 30.
Big THAT SUX TO ALL.
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Sessna - that's interesting. Years ago when I was in the hospital I found the night nurses more "flexible" than the day nurses! I asked about taking a shower and the day nurse said "certainly not" because I was hooked up to an IV. I thought - let me check with the night nurses - the night nurse said "sure - just don't get your IV wet!" Now I was not in pain per se but I certainly agree with you about having to wait so long for someone to show up. I am so sorry you had to endure pain because a nurse couldn't answer your call button.
Juli - thanks for the update on Jane - so glad to hear she is doing okay.
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When I was in hospital for a week this summer, I found the night nurses calmer. I would drag myself down to the nurses station to ask for meds when I could rather than buzz. They must hate the buzz....
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Juli, thanks for the update on Jane. Hi, Sessna!! Hi, everyone! Hope all suckage gives us a break for our American Thanksgiving this Thursday. I hearby announce that suckage is banished from our lives for the rest of the week.
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Juli, thanks for the update on Jane. Hi, Sessna!! Hi, everyone! Hope all suckage gives us a break for our American Thanksgiving this Thursday. I hearby announce that suckage is banished from our lives for the rest of the week.
When I had back surgery, the night nurses & CNAs were very chilled out compared to the day shift. Nature of the beast, of course, because most of the crap happens during the day. At three AM, after throwing up & being nauseous all day after the surgery, I finally felt better. A sweet CNA helped me take a long walk around the floor, hauling my IV pole with me, and then she made a fresh pot of coffee so I could have some. It was great.
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Hi Kathi!!!!!!!
A big thatsux and a Happy Thanksgiving to all....
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Oh Boy, The family feuds begin for the holidays. Not looking forward to seeing my brother this year. Haven't seen him in a year. And that's just fine with me. My therapist changed me from Lexapro with Nortrip, and put me on the generic for Cymbalta, it's prozac and something else. Earlier, when I was really down, they added 2 mg of Abilify. Shit costs $60 a bottle with insurance!! That made me more depressed. Studies show that Wellbutrin can help with other things too, for instance, they give it to help smokers stop smoking! and if you need an antidepressant and have Restless Leg Syndrome (OMG< I HATE THAT) it's supposed to help that too.
I don't want any more chemicals. Unless they are brewed with hops and herbs.
Happy Thanksgiving. Let's have a beer.
Connie
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Connie, I'm taking Wellbutrin for the fatigue & it's worked wonders!! I'm not taking anything else now except an allergy pill now & then.
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Kathi - loved the pumpkin and the sentiment!
For one reason or another, the only people left in town for Thanksgiving are my uncle and his wife, my aunt and me! My one sister is also in town but must work. Hopefully, she will get off in time to join us for dinner at a nearby restaurant. No muss, no fuss!
May all the sucky stuff take a reprieve tomorrow.
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THAT SUCKS, as needed. Hugs and Blessings and Happy Thanksgiving. My cranberry salad and artichoke hummus are made for the feast tomorrow. All are couples except me- no kiddie table, just one baby and one on the way this year. What happened to the smilies that used to be at the bottom of them message box? :-) Nancy
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I just wanted to pop on really quick and wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving!! You will all be in my thoughts....be safe, be happy, be full!
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I just had a mastectomy!!!Yes, I'm in pain...Yes, I'm tired....No, I cannot reach the cups or plates in the cupboard....I wish I could say how I feel, but if I do, he'll call my therapist again!!!! Can you believe he told me (while I was in the room waiting for surgery) that I he doesn't like the way I've been treating him?
But, still....I am VERY THANKFUL for all that I do have.
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Jane, give him to me for three days! He'll either come back a changed man or I'll bury him beside my own husband.....
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Oh, Jane..... Men can be sooooo clueless.
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Oh Jane -- what an ass. Yeah, let Barbe at him!!! Growl...
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Barbe pllleeeeeeeeazzzzzzzzzze take mine!!!!
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ANGEL!!! So happy to see you!!!! Hugs, hugs, hugs!!!
Barbe -- I think I see a side business starting for you! Women around the world bringing their husbands for you to rattle some sense into them! Or else...
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I think it should be called Barb's Boot Camp - - - Shape up or we ship you out to a remote island to fend for yourself.
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Where can I get a job like that???
Jane, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I can't even imagine having someone say that to me while I am waiting for surgery. I think I would have told him to f*ck off and asked for another valium!
I hope everyone enjoyed the holiday! We had a great time with Kelly's family ~ the only fight that broke out was the one between me and the 2 girls (age 9 and 6) when they decided it was better for them to gang up on me at the same time instead of trying to down me one at a time. Mental note, ALWAYS check for available weapons before you rile two girls hopped up on sugar!
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Angel, the problem is I might be able to retrain your husband, but then he'll forget all the lessons!
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Jane - hugs. You can always come here and gripe to us - and definitely send him to Barbe for lessons in sensitivity and thinking about someone other than himself. I definitely don't think you need a therapist - him, on the other hand, could use one.
Navygirl - I'm so glad you had a good Thanksgiving. BTW, that advice holds true for any kid hopped up on sugar. Stay away!
Angel - so glad to have you back. I missed you!
Happy Day After Thanksgiving - if anyone goes shopping today, please let us know how you handled the insanity.
My sister and I went to Walmart's after our restaurant meal - at about 8:30 last night. No lines, no crazy people and definitely not a lot of people. My sister was buying for two kids whose names she picked off the Salvation Army Angel Tree plus we needed cat food for his highness. The one boy, age 12, was homeless so she bought him 4 pairs of jeans, two or three shirts, underwear, socks, gloves. The other was a 5 year old girl that she bought jeans, tops, dresses, underwear, socks, gloves, etc. She also bought the fixings for Christmas dinner to send to the church for struggling families. That's really the spirit of Christmas - she can't help herself - whatever they suggest she buys all of it and as much as she can!
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Wow, that's a lot more than my kids are getting!
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Wait until you have grandchildren - then the sky's the limit!
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