Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
Comments
-
Can't wait!!
0 -
You are going to make one bodacious grandma! 0 -
Bodacious without the tatas.....sigh. (remember that movie?)
0 -
Got nothing to offer other than a hearty "That sucks!" to anyone who needs it, esp people who are feeling misunderstood or struggling to resist the strong desire to smack someone.
0 -
Okay, y'all may or may not remember that I have one of three fur-babies bleeding around the house. We found out it is the baby, Bebop at 15 years old has something wrong in her mouth. We are trying to ride it out as she is still quite active. There is a growth of sorts on her lower lip area that bleeds when she tries to eat so we got her soft cat food. I mixed in a small dose of Cipro to help her along. She's been pretty good for a couple weeks now, though still bleeding. I think she's almost ready to give up though as she is under my bed and won't come out. I don't want to stress her. I just tell her how much I love her.
So yesterday when I got home from work I asked DH where Booe was. The oldest cat at 17. He said he'd seen her....today I'm off work and I didn't see her all day. I opened a can of real salmon to give the sick one and to share with the healthy ones, but Booe didn't come when she heard the canopener. I looked around a bit but waited until my DH was around. We found poor Booe in the bottom of his closet. She was stretched straight out, not curled up, which would have made me feel better. Her tail had rigor mortis and was standing up crookedly. Would have been comical if it wasn't so sad.
So we're now down to 1 1/2 cats. I hate when my babies die......
DH was going to dig a grave for Booe tonight, but I asked him to wait 24 hours in case we lose Bebop too and they can be together.
0 -
Barbe - I'm so sorry for you. Some people just don't understand how much we love our animals.
0 -
Oh Barbe, it is hard enough to lose one furbaby, but to be worried that another is not far behind is heartbreaking. I am so sorry to hear about your loss.
0 -
Barbe, we lost our two dogs within months of each other last fall. It is tough. But then a stay cat came into our lives ( we never thought we would be cat people), and she is lovely. My hugs to you. 0
-
Oh Barbe.... I am so sorry. We lost a cat to breast cancer almost a year after I was diagnosed. Then 6 mos later we lost another to liver disease and it was real sudden. Then we adopted my daughters boyfriends cat and he is finally warming up to us.
0 -
Belated Happy Thanksgiving and early Merry Christmas to the boards.
Juli50 - Thank you for the information on Jane. There is always someone and something to pray for, always.
Renee S - Yes, I was referring to DH's BRCA. I am behind in keeping up with the posts. I've been looking after my Dad post-surgery. I am tired, dizzy, and a bit achy. I concur; fire that government panel for medical heresy! You can start having your mammos when you want ‘em.
kmccraw423 - I had one great night nurse who had the personality of Lisa Kudrow as "Phoebe" on the Friends sit com. (She was also more attractive than Lisa Kudrow, bless her heart.) She was bubbly, energetic, and kept her word. I always thought she would evaporate in a puff of smoke as a hallucination of mine. Her name is Krystal (Crystal?), and she works in a Torrance, CA, hospital.
Maybe nurses are just like people... all different kinds. Thank you for commiserating with me, kmccraw423. I was out just too miserable at the point when I dressed myself and walked back down to the ER. I think Level 10 of pain is when you would consider a fatal injection? I was at 9 - and I didn't want to get to 10. To those level headed people who say that a moving, increasing, large body rash couldn't have been that bad, I assuredly hope that you never get one. You will never forget it. Maybe it's like Level 2 of the madness in torture of burying a person up to their chin near a hill of fire ants. It only gets worse.
barbe1958 - Sigh. They ignored my lighted buzz button and my hall walking for 15 minutes plus, minimum. How do you think I had the time to get dressed and get halfway down the hall before they asked where was I going? (That wasn't sarcasm, my friends barbe1958 and Y'all it was an observation of my circumstance at the time.) My IV wasn't hooked up to a drip. I considered that the miracle that allowed me to escape.
Is there a different pain scale for "I'm in constant pain, embarrassed, humiliated, upset, at tears, ready to scream and get irrational" pain? If there is, then they didn't let me see that one... I almost surprised myself. I was going to get my injection for unbearable, increasing, cyclical itching or I was going to pass out trying to get to it. Maybe I was at Level 10 when you add my physical to my mental state of mind. (Please smile for me, ladies.)
Wow, KAK, I had not considered that most stuff happens during the day. I'm feeling un-smart here because I would think an emergency could happen at any time, then, I think, well, emergencies are handled downstairs. Once you get to a higher floor, you should be stabilized, right? I don't like to feel un-smart. Rats. (Like Charlie Brown says.) They did not give you a morphine drip for spine surgery? That is criminal. That SUX.
Remember Y'all - save your condiments while in the hospital bed. Put them in one of the drawers of your patient tray and cover them with paperwork or a napkin or two. At 2:00 a.m., one packet of lemon that you didn't use for your tea, and two packets of sugar that you didn't use for your tea or oatmeal can combine with tepid ice water to make a small cup of lemonade. Stir, don't shake. If the vegetable is too awful tomorrow, you're gonna need that extra salt and pepper that you are storing up. Yes, you will.
Connie07, That SUX, big time. I wanna see some of those laboratory varmints and those test subjects that they have tried these drugs out on. Let's see some footage! A friend suggested I change from my Zoloft, and I realized that I may be a Zoloft addict. I attribute a few blocks of my stable life's foundation to Zoloft. After all these years, maybe it doesn't do what it used to, but my mind believes that it does. Wow, like those Thanksgiving cartoons that were posted above this, please picture me saying to the phone, "Unless I get my Zoloft, I will not be responsible for the continued wellbeing of anyone, including myself," while I munch on a big Prozac-turkey drumstick.
Jane_M - Bless your heart. I nominate Jane_M for a Control, Class, and Courage Badge (COLCO for short?) Military personnel must exhibit courage under fire, and there are a good number of cancer fighters muster up courage under the broiler. For not flaming up at insensitive hot heads and maintaining a record clear of homicide convictions (self-defense is an excluded category), the COLCO award is for those who remind us of the compassion that the world's people should have learned to practice upon one another a long, long time ago.
And now, one of Jane_M's buddies will raise a toast. sessna1 -Ahem. A- hem! To Jane_M, to Our Jane_M for not asking DH, "Are you sure you don't want to talk to my therapist about this first? I'm somewhat preoccupied here before my surgery."
barbe1958 - My thoughts, condolences, and prayers to a fellow "furry friend turned into furry angel" lover. I would have waited for a friend to help me look, too. As my wise friend, Jane_M, I am grateful for what I have (in my heart) and what I had on earth. Those fur babies are certified personal pet therapists, and best friends.
Hugs to all, even the ones who'll only accept them for warmth, not encouragement.
sessna1
0 -
Hugs, barbe. Do you know about Rainbow Bridge for pets that have passed? I have no pets, none for many years, but I know how much they become a part of our family life. Warm smiles, hugs and blessings for all, Nancy
0 -
Barbe -- I am so sorry about your kitties. If you don't know about the Rainbow Bridge that Nancy mentioned I'm post it next week. It is beautiful -- how we are reunited with our pets, healthy and happy, but waiting for us for when we cross the bridge.
0 -
So sorry to hear about your kitties too Barbe. Hugs.
0 -
Thanks guys, I sobbed in the shower and cried all the way in to work. But I suppose it's better than getting hit by a car. I just hate the thought that she was alone. And that she was stretched out. I wanted to see her eyes, but my DH had covered her and said I really shouldn't. I wanted to know she was at peace.
I'm going to have an awful lot of fur babies waiting for me when I cross that bridge!
0 -
My Dearest Barbe, I'm so so sorry (((Barbe))) love Angel xoxoxo
0 -
Hey, all! And a large That Sux to all.
Hi, Sessna!! I did have an IV drip with back surgery. Don't know what was in it exactly, but I didn't have any pain, even when they stopped the morphine the next morning. It was awesome! The surgery itself fixed the pain I'd been having for weeks, so I was lucky. What I really needed in that drip was compazine, because I was sooooo nauseous from the anesthesia, I felt like crap from that, but I had no pain. Also, you CANNOT be"addicted" to zoloft. It's not that kind of drug. The next time someone makes a stupid remark like that to you, ask them what medical degree they hold. I took zoloft for years, safely & effectively, up until I had to switch to effexor because of being put on the effing tamoxifen, which competes with zoloft in the liver.
Jane, I don't even know what to say. Except that once again, I'm glad I'm not married. I think you should report your therapistto the the Board of Health in NY state for her unprofessional behavior. And I think your husband is manipulative and controlling the way he threatens to "report" you & that scares me. You need to find some medical person who is on your side to be willing to go to bat for you if push comes to shove. He's being emotionally abusive. No one deserves that crap. Sorry to ask, but why are you even with this guy? Because he didn't just start being as *ss recently. He's clearly had years of practice.
Barbe, I'm so sorry about the kitties. How awful.
I'm very thankful this holiday season -- for Wellbutrin!! Good lord, wish I knew months ago that quitting tamoxifen & effexor & taking something as tame as Wellbutrin would made me feel sorta normal! And it helps pump up different neurotransmitters than zoloft which was why that wasn't quite enough to get me out of the fatigue ditch. Nothing like a little norepinephrine to pep you up. I even started thinking about going back to the gym! Only thinking about it at this stage, because I need a bulldozer to shovel out this house & get caught up with my life. And now it's the home stretch to Christmas!!! But, hey, there's some progress going on here...
Connie, Elizabeth, Rock, pk, Nancy, dream, Pat,navygirl, kathleen and all I'm forgetting, 'tis the season to End All Suckage! Hugs.
0 -
I've been married to this guy for 26 years. He's used to me being superwoman and he can't cope with the fact that I'm not. We've been together since I was 16 and he doesn't know what it's like to fend for himself or take care of someone else (other than when he has to for work). Would you believe that he actually takes care of developmentally disabled men and was on the employee of the year honor council last year?
0 -
KAK, my Zoloft would have gone up against Tamoxifen? I'm stunned. My onco gave me Fulvestrant because I had just recently been prescribed with Coumadin. I remember that day because I thought, "I'm taking too many medications, and this isn't good." And then I got the high cholesterol medicine...
Jane_M, I do certainly believe your dynamic. Most of us would be stunned how differently we interpret the world from those closest to us. I think your therapist did DH a disservice by not having a few talks with him one on one. She could remind him that Superman (in the comic strips) never stays married to Lois Lane for long, and it's only in dream sequences and the like. Then again, it is Wonder Woman in the comics, not Superwoman. We are to be treasured and loved for the best of who we are, not held up to the standard of what another soul thinks we should be for their benefit.
sessna1
0 -
Amen, Sessna. And yes, Jane, I would believe it. Men want to be married to Mommy, most of them, no matter how high and mighty they are elsewhere. My last semi-serious guy backed off when I had to go have my back surgery. Couldn't stand maybe not being the center of the universe for a few months. I told him to take a hike & maybe let me know if he finished navel-gazing. I have NO patience for that crap anymore....could you tell?? LOL.
0 -
Barbe - I am so sorry. I have had to pull cats out of hiding to take them to be put down. They just go off by themselves to die. I, too, will have a ton of cats waiting for me. Your baby had a great life with you as her mom. It is a shame that don't live for longer periods of time. I pray for you little boy. There are cats that died over 20 years ago that I still want back. I still miss them so much.
Jane - same thing happened to my grandmother. She and my grandfather were in an auto accident. My grandfather died several days later. I happened to be in my grandmother's hospital room when her son came in sobbing and threw himself on her chest telling her "Dad" had died. When I mentioned that his mother wasn't able to comprehend what he said and that he should be comforting her he remarked she had always been so strong. I asked him if her lying on her back in a hospital bed and so far out of it she could not comprehend she had just lost her husband might be a clue that she wasn't so strong at that moment! You are a saint for all you do and continue to do for your husband. Just keep coming here to get a reality check - your not crazy - your husband and therapist are.
Sessna - just being in a hospital sucks. I had raging diarrhea while there what with all the antibiotics I was on. I'm really going to wait for them to come help me to the bathroom! You don't suffer enough indignities that you have to wear adult diapers - no thank you. If I have to crawl to the bathroom, I will.
A big SUX to all.
0 -
I was in the hospital about 30 years ago for a burst ovary that had to be removed. I had to go to the bathroom and no one came when I buzzed. It was so soon after surgery that the side was still up on my bed. I crawled OVER the side (with abdominal surgery!) and got myself to the bathroom. As I was sitting there a beautiful nurse came in. She looked like Wonder Woman with long dark hair and was just gorgeous! She KNELT in front of me and held my hands. I told her I thought I was going to be sick and she said that's okay. I threw up all over her! She helped me back to bed and left the room.
Later I asked one of the other nurses about my "angel" and she said she had no idea who that was and there was no one that looked like that on the floor! To this day, I truly believe it WAS an angel!
0 -
Barbe, I do believe there are angels among us. My son had a bad wreck, totalled his new truck, doesn't remember getting out of the truck, only standing outside looking at it. A nice man brought him home (5 more miles) and told him his name and what road he lived on. People around here had never heard his name and said there was no such road.
0 -
Wow, Barbe! That's a great story!! I've had things like that happen, too. I bet a lot of us have.
One of my fave movies is "It's A Wonderful Life." I wrote about it as a springboard theme in my Thanksgiving blog post. I know my mom had her own fleet of G.A.'s who were running 24/7, I'm sure. Mine's been a little busy, too, this past year...
0 -
I think my GA is a cat - I swear I will be lying on my side in bed and think the cat jumped up on the bed but when I look - he's not there. I find it oddly comforting that they still visit me.
Your stories give me goosebumps. I believe in GAs but I think mine is pretty quiet.
0 -
Kathleen -- Oh how I needed your post -- "I asked him if her lying on her back in a hospital bed and so far out of it she could not comprehend she had just lost her husband might be a clue that she wasn't so strong at that moment" -- it cracked me up.
I am having love troubles over here. I believe I will cope with the hurt by spending 10 of my remaining 28 days driving to Namibia and Botswana. My absence will leave him plenty of time to watch his precious football (soccer) games....
0 -
Wow, so much suckiness, and so much wisdom here.
Sessna, may I quote your "We are to be treasured and loved for the best of who we are, not held up to the standard of what another soul thinks we should be for their benefit."? It is perfect for my ex-ahole to hear!
0 -
Rock - sorry to hear about your love problems - Men - can't live with them, not allowed to shoot them!
It amazes me how some people can't see the obvious! That's why I like comedians who state the obvious.
Sessna - you are sooooo right. When I compare myself to others I always come up short but when I am doing something for others I feel just right.
Can anyone believe it is already December 1st! Of course with the problems I've had this year it can't be gone soon enough. I will, however, enjoy the holiday season because I HATE to wish away any time!
0 -
I got my pathology report yesterday and it confirms (in my mind) that I did the right thing with the mastectomy. It says "grossly suggestive of DCIS" and later on says section "A13-15 - central ? DCIS" The funny thing is that the final diagnosis section makes no mention of the DCIS. Huh? I live in a little rural community, so my surgeon is going to have them send it out to the Mayo clinic for further evaluation. I don't have a lot of faith in the pathologists here. Nothing with me is ever black and white...nothing...ever.
0 -
Oh Jane {{{{{{{{{{{{ hugs }}}}}}}}}}}}}} me neither! I'm a medical anomoly too!
0 -
Oh, by the way...I let my little cleaning girl go...that ought to shut hubby up for a day or so.
0
