Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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Alyad, thanks, but we leave this Wednesday, the 13th. We are staying until Sunday. Plan on having a really good time.
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Alyad, I'm so sorry about your meltdown. I really don't like to take things out on the DH, but sometimes they just get in the way. Like an elephant in the room. Other times it's very nice to have them around. they do tend to want to 'fix' things, be it the icemaker or your feelings. I've had mine (DH) now coming on 36 years this August. U? I just wish he would spend six weeks fixing up our house. He will, someday. In the meantime a great big limb came down on our shed/workshop out back, busted through the ceiling/roof. It's always somethiing. Hope you can relax tonight.
Connie
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I got over it- it really wasn't DH's fault- just not really great timing- he had showed me part of it before and I was just like yeah whatever and then I later told him I hadn't really understood him, so this morning I'm in the middle of something and he's like want to see this? well um not really but ok- and then cause his ride showed up i had to finish it up. I had most of the meltdown after he left. I managed to get my taxes done and don't owe so that's good, but the rest of the day I have been pretty useless.
I know what you mean about fixing up the house. We bought a fixer upper over 3 years ago- i really thought more would be done by now. Granted the whole bc dx 2 years ago threw things off, and DH took awesome care of me through everything. he's an artist- a bit of a perfectionist and I feel like it takes him forever to finish tasks.
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Connie, Darvocette WAS withdrawn in Fla.. def. no alcholol with it, and try to get dr. to order something else!!
alyad: we are having a get together at Marybes' uncle bills house on Shell Knob Lake last wk in sept. hope you can clear your shed. and make it. there's a least 4-5 of us at this count.. would love to meet you IRL.. we plan a trip to branson one day, so see whatcha can do.. let me, or marybe, or amyjo know... Chrissy B is coming all the way from Aust.. its gonna be a great time with great gsals!!!! all are welcome.. feel like another trip leiaparis? 3jays
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keep me posted on the trip end of september....sounds like fun:)
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we leave tomorrow, but let me know when you all are thinking @ going to Branson & I'll see what I can do.
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ok, so Annette, and Leisaparis, pm marybe.. it will be the last wk in Sept. and we can stay a few days, or a week, or so. i need time to recoup from travel, so, her family is letting us stay over for awhile.
we have been planning some side trips, one to Branson, for sure, and an animal sanctuary thatas near the cabin.. its' right on the lake, so we're thinking a pontoon boat, as well.. any, or all the time, is open. and a great group of gals are committed already.
Uncle Bill usedto own it, and now its' the families, and his son has given the ok on the time... its' gonna be a blast.. imagine us all sitting around blabbing!!!IRL!!!
what an oppurunity to make lfe long in the flesh friends!can you tell i'm excited? AND marybe, if ya don't know her, is one of the sweetest ladies i've ever known, and a real hoot! AND an incredible cook. we're buying groceries, and she'
ll cook for us, too. she tells me there's plenty of beds to go round.. it was built for the whole fasmily to get together.
no tv, or internet, though. the only drawback.. but im adding the $ in to my budget to get one of those cards from xfinity so my laptop willwork there!!!
hope ya'll willmaketime and come....
an added bonus for me, is , my oldest (time not age wise) friend in the world lives not 10 min away, in Ark.. right over the line. Eureka spring s is nearby.. lots to do.
marybe gave me www.seethe ozarks as a link to see whats' around, and theres' plenty... i even bought a new camera (which id better learn to use by then) so i'll get good portraits of everyone..so you ladies SERIOUSLT think about coming for a day, or longer, for sure!!!! I want to meet you face/face!!! 3jays
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Wow, I know that will be a good time! I would love to meet you all too, f2f that is. I feel like we are all cousins anyway. Gonna be subtle and suggest to DH that he drive me to a vacation spot. We generally go in Sept or Oct anyway cause he likes the off-season non crowd type of vacation. After the last two horrible years we've had, we deserve it. Also, he is driving with DS to colorado next week, so he will be far more willing to drive a farther distance for a time-out. I know, he won't stay in the house with all the girls, unless it's ok with ya'll. I can't possibly drive that far alone. He's a good sport and likes to do his own thing and is good about understanding 'girl time'. I haven't pushed to go anywhere in a long time, so, I'm going to push for this.
It's a 950 mile trip, one way, from Savannah. I know what you mean by resting after traveling. All that packing and anticipation and road time is tuff. But it's SOOO worth it!!
3J- that post about darvocet... I haven't taken that stuff in over a year. I posted something about it way back then. that person included a link to a legal website, I think it was a troll looking to find law suit clients for a class action against mfg of darvocet. Plus, I know better than to drink and take pain pills.
It's SO QUIET here without DD and baby. I am almost at a loss of what to do with myself. I've got lots of cleaning and de-cluttering to do but we had a thunderstorm this morning and I did some chores but might have overdone it. I'll see the Ortho doc on Thurs to review the neck MRI. Short of another cervical surgery, there's probably not a lot that will help, I don't want prednisone again. Ohh, can't sit at desk for long. But I can pull up a map from here to Shell Knob and leave it up for DH to wonder about, heehee.
~Connie
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Headed to Branson in the a.m. See ya all on Sunday.
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3jays put me on the list for the Shell Knob gathering! Are the dates decided yet? I should be able to come if I have advance notice. My bday is at the end of Sept as well. I am somewhat familar with the area, one of my friend's family used to have a place on Table Rock Lake near Shell Knob. Eureka Springs isn't far at all and is a great place to take a day trip. There is also a big cat sanctuary near there, but I've never been there.
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Didn't get a chance to read the new posts... just want to report my IOS... issue of suckiness:
I have a cold, cough, sore throat and I feel like SH*T!!
Harley
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Awwwwww, ((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) I know that sucks. I've had an allergic reaction to something, tonight, and my left eye is all swollen. Hate it when this happens.
And im laying in bed with my stomach growling!!! As IF. its way too late to eat (1:20am).
~C
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Oh, Connie07, that REALLY SUCKS!! Hope you are feeling better!! I haven't been on for a few days... My fever broke late last night, so I can finaly say that there IS a light at the end of the tunnel, and it AIN'T a TRAIN!!
Have a great weekend, everyone!
Harley
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Glad you're finally feelig better Harley!
Connie, I keep yoghurt or YOPS (yoghurt drinks) in the fridge if I get my stomach growling. I'll just be too hungry when I wake up and eat too much.
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Hey Gals,
My DH and DS have driven 1700 miles to attend court for DS. Remember last summer when his house was broken into by masked, armed men and gunfire erupted.. well they charged the men who lived there, well, two of them with possession with intent and the whole thing just has gone to hell in a hand basket. One of the roommates had a break down and copped a plea. Lawyer said DS should take the same deal or they will peg him as the ringleader. I think that was a horrible decision and a lousy piece of advice from the lawyer, but DS did it. He had traveled out there 4 times for hearings at his own expense, missed flights, cancelled flights, broken down busses, missed bus connections, driving that far, back and forth and now he will be sentenced tomorrow.
Please, if you pray, say a prayer for Scott tonight that he be given probation and that he be allowed to return home with his father after court tomorrow.
And -NO- they never caught the home invaders. Even with descriptions, physical evidence, DNA, bullets and shells and gun and car. Do you think they were on the force?? somebody's force. you know in Colorado they made medical marijuana legal? The state issues permits to applicants with Doctors prescriptions. Permitted residents are allowed to grow 6 plants. My boys were each growing 6 plants. Total of 18. THATS ALL. They bust houses with HUNDREDS of plants and the people walk with probation. And, just fyi, there were NO other drugs in the house, not even alcohol. But, there was a hunting rifle and a BB gun, registered.
Further, one man, a cancer patient and Navy retiree with special ops and licensed to kill was there and they fired at him first. He somehow got his gun and returned fire. They riddled the house with bullets, dove out of 2nd story windows, ran through neighbors back yards waking up the neighborhood and the police chased them for TWO hours and LOST them. W T ?@#%$ ! OK.. that was all last July. And my son is being convicted for growing a product the state licensed him to grow and defending himself in his own home.
And today is his birthday. 29.
HOWS THAT FOR JUSTICE??? I'm burning mad, scared, crying, alone and waiting for the verdict.
And now I've gotta go pick up DD#1 from AA for her punishment, she can't drive.
~C
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Connie, if the state licenced him to grow it, there won't be a problem!!
Hugs going your way, praying for the best!
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Could he say he was growing it for YOU?
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Hey Barbe, Thanks for the higher thoughts today.
The complication is the guns. After the attack and the attackers were gone, the guys were totally freaked out and cut down 1/2 the crop, that became evidence immediately, had they left it growing in the pots there wouldn't have been an issue. Son talked to the police regarding the break in and police turned it all around on son and roommates. The narc officer took over, took the house and throughly raped it, accusing son of having too much by like, an ounce, by virtue of the 9 cut plants AND his personal supply upstairs. So, even if you have a license, you can only possess a set quantity.
The guys were moving. Most everything was packed and in the garage ready to move in 3 or 4 days. except the plants. Their home was robbed three week prior, stole computers, tv, stuff, could easily have determined when 1/2 the crop would be ready to cut, (3 weeks). appears they came back to get it and met with major resistance - returned fire. The areas home invasion statistics are horrid. NO ONE in over ONE HUNDRED homes has fought back. Until they tried to rob Georgia boys. The restaurant and bar the guys frequented have framed the newspaper articles with pictures of my guys. HAILED AS HEROES - For fighting back. For defending their lives and home. at 5 am.
When this happened, roughly first of July, the guys had harvested one crop - 6 plants, supposedly legal crop - and worked to sell it to the area dispensaries as planned. Unexpectedly, Dispensaries were not cooperative!! so they packaged it, hoping to sell, and used most of it themselves. This gave the dispensary workers their names, address and quality of their product. Interestingly, the description of the 3 intruders matched the 3 guys who worked at one of the dispensaries where they left samples. hmmmm... wonder what else matched up?
This narcotics agent is a young loose cannon who does not have a quality reputation for judgements, but does have one for prosecuting. DSon, shaken, was taken in for questioning and told the truth. The investigators assumed that they sold it on the street rather than used it themselves, and they swear they used it. The 3rd roommate freaked out after the first breakin and fled back east. The cops believed that he went to sell, but he went home cause he was scared to death, entered rehab at home with his parents support. He intended to go back, he left clothes, shoes, furniture all kinds of stuff and DS had to pack his stuff and store it with his own. That boy is being sheltered by his attorney father. We tried to get a sworn statement that my DS did not take or sell anything out of state. That's the kicker - out of state is totally illegal. But DS didn't do that. When he was being questioned, under duress from the incident the cops badgered him for hours basically wearing him down saying you did this, you did that, for HOURS until he said he got some money from the kid in west Virginia for rent and utilities. So they charged him with intent to distribute. Tried to get federal charges but failed.
So, the military man is excluded from the charges just because. The WV kid is excluded because he wasn't there. The other two have been verbally abused, treated like CRAP, accused, harrassed and have had to travel to colorado 4 other times. the last time the other man, Jay, broke down, crying, exhausted of energy, money and faith, gave up and accepted the plea deal which was HARSH to say the least. And my DSs attorney advised DS to accept it too. he was alone and had to make the decision with only the lawyer's advice, didn't want to take all the heat and get punished for all four men, so he took the plea which basically is a confession of guilt. He could get up to 3 years in jail, or 2 or 3 on probation with lots of supervision or maybe 90 days in jail and a couple years on probation with drug programs like AA or NA. cause in the great ole us of a marijuana is a NARCOTIC ... classified that way in idk, the 30's and never changed.
He's a good man who stepped into a father role for the DgD who's daddy abandoned her and her mother Jan. 2010. Remember that drama? The daddy was using coke, abusing DD and cheating for drugs. We moved DD out and in with us. DS came home and made an instant connection with the baby, watching her for me when I needed a break or had an appt and DD was in school. The baby loves him so. He can't say it was for me because it is illegal to transport out of state AND it's not legal as medicinal or any other way in GA. simple possession of less than an ounce will get you a mug shot.
We were allowed to write letters to the judge which will be presented. we helped DS write his statement too all in hopes of a light sentence and transferance to Georgia, so he can come home and serve his probation here. Not nice, but the best I'm hoping for.
The other man was sentenced last week. He got 3 years probation and moved it to GA. He is home now. They were in hearings together, but got separated in the past couple of months and each case is being heard separately, but by the same judge.
My heart and soul are in Ft. Collins, CO, with the two most important men in my life, today. Court is at 2, so it's at 4 my time. About another hour.
I'm a wreck, crying at my own thoughts. Most of the family is worried and praying for him too. I say most because we didn't tell my mother. I can't believe this is happening. It's holy week. It's my boy's birthday week. We have sunk so much money into this to protect and defend our son that it's more than we paid for both our cars. We are broke and exhausted too but we carry on. I am praying constantly for his freedom to return home with his Dad. TODAY. Just let him come home.
PLEASE, GOD, LET SCOTT COME HOME.
Thanks for reading, I needed to vent something awful. thinking of having a beer but it's too soon. Maybe after court and I know the sentence and the outcome.
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Praying for your son to get probation and return to you and his dad. Karen
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Connie, I just checked in to see if there was any word? Y'all are still in my prayers and thoughts until there is a resolution....HUGS!
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This is so, idk, weird. The judge gave DS 20 days in the county jail, fined for court fees and given 3 years probation in georgia. With a probation officer, drug counseling in a program called Recovery, AA meetings because we don't have NA and random drug testing via color assignment and lottery and a bunch of community service hours. I say it's weird because its such a short sentence and fines. That's a good thing, the other boy got like $4,000 in fines and same probation but no jail.
So there was mercy in that courtroom for DS but he won't be home for about 3 weeks.DH was allowed to see DS during the 'processing", about an hour after they took him away in court. He had to remove his coat & tie and belt, give it to his Dad and go thru the "Jail >this way" door. When DH saw him he said he was fine and was in a pretty good mood, laughing about the orange jumpsuit and the fact that they were given orange juice for supper. He's just something else, had it in his head that he was going to be gone a loooong time and now he's not. I'm GLAD. DH will have to drive DSs truck home alone, 1,700 miles. And I guess in 20 days we will have figured out a way to get him back home again for the last time in a long time -about 3 years anyway!
Glad it's over. Glad it's not that bad. Boy, what a nerve racking day. I picked up DD1 from her AA mtg. and we went to DD2s new house where she had cooked supper for us. That was AWESOME and I was very hungry. DgD has her own room now which is great and with the move she made the immediate transition to a toddler bed and loves it. Would NOT nap in the old crib over here AT ALL. funny.
Thanks for checking up on me. I knew you would that's why I came in to write todays outcome. Whew, I'm heading for bed. I should probably delete some of that earlier post... tomorrow..
Thanks for caring.
g'night, Connie
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thank you, God, for connies Scott.... great it all worked out so well, Connie. he'll be home soon! 3jays
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I'm glad he got a lenient sentance, he will be back with you soon.
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Thank God it worked out for the better. A pretty heavy slap on the wrist, the memory of jail and probation and enforced rehab. It might give him the chance to change. Sometimes it takes something life-altering to make someone change. Please God may this be it!
I bet you had a good night's sleep Connie!
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Yes I did. slept and slept. Only the phone woke me after 10:30 this am. I got a call from the ortho with approval for an epidural injection in my neck. It's booked for tomorrow at 2. My C5-6 has a plate and fusion. Now the C 4-5 is bulging, pressure on the spinal cord and nerve roots. FINALLY a Doc who listened and is actively addressing my Back issues.
Did I ever tell you that I danced Ballet for 15 years?? Well I did. I sarted at age 5 and the last year for recital, I had a solo. I was so cool in my ballet gown. Not the tu-tu's or costumes from years past, this time I was in the big girls ballet gown where the tulle netting skirt was really like a many-multi-layered skirt, long down to just below the knee, it was white and the bodice was sparkling with sequins. I danced on toe and I ROCKED. Now I've got arthritis and bursitis in my dancer hips. I would have liked to teach it, but when I hit 20 my teacher passed and I tried other studios with other teachers and never got the same kind of classes. Guess my original teacher spoiled me. She was into the classic russian ballet- NO tap or jazz, almost orthodox ballet. But every year at the end of the recital she performed a solo Spanish hot number with her costume all red satin and black lace and those marachas, one in each hand, clacking so loud I almost didnt believe they were real but she had let me play with them and they certainly were real. Like a pair of hollowed out dense coconut clam shell clacker.
W0W that was a trip down memory lane.I was good. Won awards,joined the founding cast of the first ballet company in Savannah. That was the early seventies.
oops gotta go.Im chats ars fun.
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Ah Connie, aren't memories great??? I used to get an area around me cleared on the dancefloor as people used to watch me dance. I really got into the music, too. This was the mid-seventies and I danced till I couldn't dance anymore! Now I can barely walk. Maybe I'm used up?
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OMG...Connie what an awesome story! Barbe... "used up" LOL...maybe that's what our problem is...we used up all our gumption when we were young! I was never much for dancing, don't have an ounce of rythm in my bones, but may I could play sports. Softball, Vollyball, Field Hockey, Soccer...I was a dangerous opponent back in the day. Hahaha...there's a phrase I never thought I'd use...
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Navy = I never would have guessed it, and Thanks! I had a short piece I wrote about those dance days published several years ago, wow that felt good to see my. and Barbe = girl, you are in the right place for this lifetime and with two new grandbabies there's no way you are used up. although I do know what you mean and how that feels.
Oh, and Navy, I could throw a softball the length of a football field AND hit my target. Once, in the 7th grade gym class, we were outside for the session and the boys were too. One of the boys was a really good friend who had done something that pissed me off, anyway the classes were filing back into the gym to change and I was carrying a basketball. When I saw that boy come in, stop for water at the fountain, I took aim, threw the ball all the way across the gym, banged the back of his head which hit the faucet he was drinking water from and split his lip open. It was really just luck (bad) that it hit him like that. I was as surprised as anyone who saw it, including the football coach. I never got into any trouble, instead I was recruited for women's basketball. But I was a dancer and didn't like the competition. I've never tried golf but I'm a damn good shot with a gun.
Has anyone had a cervical epidural? It HURT in a nasty serious way and it still does. hope it doesn't stay hurting like this all night.
The Colorado nightmare update. We have established a prepaid collect call system with the center, and talked to a staffer who was working on DSs transference to GA. There's a shuttle to Denver where busses and airplanes are to bring him home. We need to figure a way to send him his cell phone and whatever else he needs for the trip home. I'll bet he is just bored to the edge of insanity. DH is in GA now, heading south and east, expected home in another 3 hours maybe. It's going to take all weekend for him to recover.
Another interesting tid-bit. About DH, when I was dx with bc, he started the path to health. Seriously overweight, he began dieting and working out. in the almost 4 years he has lost 80+- pounds and gained serious muscle. Theres a minister who works out at the Y with him and wants him to compete in the Power Lifting competions because he's 59 and there aren't too many that can bench over 305 pounds. DH has always been strong and its true that muscle has memory, he was really fit when we met then life got in the way. The closest competition is in June and I think DH is not ready to do that this fast, but I told him that if he wants to go to watch and see what it's all about that I'd go too. for moral support. He's super strong. DS picked up the muscle gene too and has been working on the P90X program, He's super strong as well.
that's all for now, going for an ice pack and some painkillers.
~Connie
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Connie, someone has to be last. Let him try it this year and then when he wins it from behind next year it would be more amazing!!!
I was an amazing shot too. I was a police auxillary and we had to qualify on firearms. I could kill a man clean at 30 yards.
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Duh, meant to ask, why did you get a cervical epidural?????
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