Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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Viv - Don't they DARE do this to you again! I'm not bald, but Michigan's not that far away from Ontario, and I can be mean.
Breast exam? My rad onc told me last Thursday that I still have an active staph infection in formerly-brown-now-red boob - the surgeon never mentioned it. I thought I was just healing slowly.
Otter - when you say Upper midwest, do you mean like Minnesota? Or the southern states like Michigan, Wisconsin, or Illinois?
Cause you're welcome at our house if we have to march on Ontario.
Sue
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OH.MY.GOSH--so much suckiness!
This is an addendum to my last post about the clueless patient navigator and her not getting the fact that stage IV means I'll be in tx until I die. My dh brings the mail in Saturday and what does he have? Oh, sweet--a bright PINK (omg--don't get me started on the freakin' PINK!) envelope from Dolly (oh yes, we asked. "Dolly" is her given name), the patient navigator. It's a card. A bc-specific card.(meaning bc-specific-except-for-stage-4-that-doesn't-exist-in-the-minds-of-the-pink-pushing-cheerleaders)
It reads, "Everyone in life has a few falls....the important thing is that you get up!" Not bad...sort of nice, really. It's the NEXT line that sticks in my craw:
"Only _________ chemo treatments to go!" The blank is there on the card, to be filled out by the sender. Now, I understand WHY this card was made and can certainly appreciate the fact that it would be AWESOME to get this sort of card if I was an earlier stage and there was an end in site. But, why THIS card, Dolly? Oh, and she FILLS IN the blank with "WHO KNOWS" Somebody tell me I'm not being too sensitive when I think that this is completely innapropriate and borderline insulting--especially coming from a PROFESSIONAL who works with cancer patients for a living????? Oh, and she enclosed yet ANOTHER PINK RIBBON HAT PIN. How f@#(*%^ SWEET............NOT!!!!!!
Ack...It just hit me SOOOOOOOO wrong. I'm usually very touched and appreciative when someone takes the time to send me a note/card and she really *thinks* she's being supportive. UGH.
THAT SUCKS, ladies--and I hope there are precious few I.O.S. (Incidents Of Suction) today!
(((HUGS)))
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Diane- I SWEAR you need to get that ^%&*$ fired! I am sitting here sputtering curses....I can't even come up with words for how wrong that card was! Where the hell is my shovel??
I'll be back later to comment on everyone suckage.....I loved the IOS for the day...LOL
Deb C
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Diane - WTH is wrong with her??? You need to bring this to someone's attention and get something done about her. I can't believe she honestly thinks "Who Knows" is being supportive. . .she better watch out or Sue will release the bald, asymmetrical women on her! We're ready and we've got shovels!!
BTW, loved the new term. . .IOS. . .if I wasn't so mad over the rest of your post, I'd still be laughing over that one.
Viv - Waiting sucks and you've had more than your fair share of it. Maybe they'll call you back today and there'll be one less IOS.
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Hey Diane,
i usually don't post here, but I saw your post and JUST had to respond !!! OMG !!! No you are not being too sensitive, she's an a&&.....I'm not usually too sensitve either, but I would have driven THAT card back over to her with "a WTF."...I can't believe she would fill in "who knows".. I also get the first time around, counting down each chemo, I think we have all done that, BUT for some one who works in the field, knowing that you are stage iv...I could scream......
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Diane, I'm speechless. I second everything DebC said.
You're not being overly sensitive. Far from it! I think you're bending over backward to give Dolly the benefit of the doubt! Imagine how enraged you'd be if you heard about this happening to someone ELSE!
OM-freakin-G: "...only WHO KNOWS how many more chemo treatments to go????????"
WTF????????
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Diane - please post Dolly's address so we can return the favor and send her stuped Bi*&% cards!! I think we could petition all the boards to send one and get the point across real quick!!!
Diane's gripe is my gripe for the day!!!
Deb - can I borrow a shovel ?
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LOL you guys! Shovels, indeed. I love you all!
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ok - I know it's STUPID ...stuped...its my typing skills, not the same with nerve damage...especially when I am mad!
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Hey Diane,
i usually don't post here, but I saw your post and JUST had to respond !!! OMG !!! No you are not being too sensitive, she's an a&&.....I'm not usually too sensitve either, but I would have driven THAT card back over to her with "a WTF."...I can't believe she would fill in "who knows".. I also get the first time around, counting down each chemo, I think we have all done that, BUT for some one who works in the field, knowing that you are stage iv...I could scream......I think I would have to go to the card store and find the MOST inapprotriate card I could find to send her. I think its the only way to bring some light to this idiot...Maybe you could find one that says "I'm so sorry your husband has been cheating on you !!! But don't worry there's others out there..." Or maybe just a card that says "You may be Ugly and stupid , but theres always a way to get smarter.." Okay sorry about that , just had to vent on how really stupid and thoughtless she was...I hope you can get a laugh at her stupidity in a few days after the initial shock...I find it amazing the stupid things people say to me now that I'm stage iv...Even close family members, I don't know if they just don't get it , or if they are in denial...I'M NEVER GOING TO NOT BE STAGE IV !!!!! Is what I feel like screaming half the time......They think it comes and goes like a summer cold.......Okay ....Ranting..... Deep breath.... Hugs to you, I'd start the barbeque with that card tonight!!!!!! LOL Klynn sorry about the top post, hit send too soon in anger LOL ....
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Readers of this thread: Please indicate the level of support you are willing to extend to badboobs. Thank you.
I am willing to (check all that apply):
___ provide a shovel
___ provide character witness
___ provide an alibi
___ attest to your temporary insanity/chemo brain
___ post bail
___ wield a shovel on your behalf
___ hide the body
___ chip in for an attorney
___ visit badboobs in the clink
___ arrange to join badboobs in the clink
___ other duties as assigned
___ Who knows?
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BAD BOOBS
I am willing to (check all that apply):
__x_ provide a shovel
_x__ provide character witness
__x_ provide an alibi
_x__ attest to your temporary insanity/chemo brain
_x__ post bail
__x_ wield a shovel on your behalf
_x__ hide the body
__x_ chip in for an attorney
_x__ visit badboobs in the clink
_x__ arrange to join badboobs in the clink
_x__ other duties as assigned
__x_ Who knows?
___ other, please specify:I will do what it takes to get these STUUPID people out of positions that they don't need to be in.
Sheila S
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I am willing to (check all that apply):
__XXprovide character witness
_XXattest to your temporary insanity/chemo brain
_X__ post bail
_X__ wield a shovel on your behalf
_X__ hide the body
_X__ chip in for an attorney
_X__ visit badboobs in the clink
__X_ arrange to join badboobs in the clink
__X_ other duties as assigned
__X_ Who knows?
_XX__ ALL OF THE ABOVE!!!0 -
I am willing to do all that stuff and more, except I am not smart enough to figure out how to copy it all...I knew I should have become more computer literate!!!!!!!
This is from another thread but I am also willing to send Diane smokes and young, handsome Latinos in prison!!!
Love,
Sue
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In light of the offense, and also in keeping with the Fifth Amendment, I will just say "Who Knows?" what I am willing to do in support of Diane!!!!!!
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Wow... I haven't been around for a while, but Diane, that one takes the prize. I have never heard of such insensitivity in all my life.
Ever. It is absolutely ridiculous! You are not overly sensitive, she seems to be overly ignorant!! IT SUCKS!!!!
Pam
P.S. I am willing to do all of the above as well... and then some
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For Badboob:
I am willing to (check all that apply):
_y__ provide a shovel
__y_ provide character witness
__y_ provide an alibi
_y__ attest to your temporary insanity/chemo brain
__y_ post bail
__y_ wield a shovel on your behalf
_y__ hide the body
_y__ chip in for an attorney
_y__ visit badboob in the clink
_um__ arrange to join badboob in the clink
_y__ other duties as assigned
_y__ Who knows?
_y__ other, please specify:I volunteer to come over and bake for you so we can eat chocolate cake and drink milk and laugh about all the @h@les.
Miss S
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That Dolly-woman is in desperate need of a full day's in-service training review on Cancer - STAGE IV. I really think she is without a clue. The 'Breast Care Coordinator' at my hospital is nearly clueless. I have often wondered how she got/keeps her job. But this, this is beyond comprehension. It shows a lack of knowledge of what it means to be having chemo for Stage IV, it shows no clue about prognosis for Stage IV, no inkling about the needs of a Stage IV patient, complete lack of compassion due to this ignorance, no resources or desire to ameliorate this sorry condition of ineptitude, etc.
I don't think I would speak to this woman again. She must have a supervisor. Let us pray the supervisor has something on the ball. She really needs to be informed that Dolly is an ignoramus and a loose cannon out there hanging herself with her pink ribbons. She should get transferred to Hospice for a year for sensitivity training.
Lisa
p.s. - will do shovel, alibi, bail, all of the above. The woman needs to be taken out!
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----> Insert Mission Impossible Music here.
A pack of asymmetrical, hormone deprived, hot-flashing, women packing shovels is out to teach Dolly a lesson. They are armed with pink ribbon nooses and they're pissed....
Film at 11:00
Deb C
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Deb,
I think pink ribbon nooses are too good for the bit*h!!!
Can't wait to see the film, tho.
Love,
Sue
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OK...flame throwers??? LOL
Deb C
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Count me in. Whatever you need, I can do.
otter
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Hey everybody.....
I just spent 3 hours reading all the posts I've missed. I've missed you girls. Reading the crap some of y'all are going through has, as always, put things into perspective for me. No matter how shitty you might be feeling, there is almost certainly someone out there feeling shittier.
I haven't read other threads yet....I hope nobody is really, really, really bad...I don't think I could take it.
My bitch: I've been non-stop since getting to Texas...new house, a/c broken, family reunion, new job, new job digs needs a rehab...lovely...just what I need to be up on a ladder sanding old paint....and, today I found out...don't know why my F*ING CHEMO BRAIN didn't think of this......my F*ING INSURANCE WON'T TRANSFER!!!!!!!!!
Why did I not think that my insurance policy wouldn't allow me to move??? For some reason, this thought never entered my F*ING CHEMO BRAIN!!!!!! It's like one thing after another! It never ends! I'm so upset!!! So now what? Pack all my shit and move back?
AETNA said "we will have do re-underwrite you" and, the jerk was kind enough to add that there is no way they will approve me Stage III Trip Neg...Stage IV waiting to happen...(sorry..don't bitch about that statement. It's my bad attitude, let me have it!!!)
So, I'm crying my eyes out today after I found out....and then I thought of my friends! You guys! Your shit will definetely make me feel better and once again, it has.
I know I've been absent and I'm sorry. It's just been constant, constant stuff happening. I'm so tired.
I finally got the chance to sign on while I am house sitting for my sister and her husband. Nobody's here except for me, 2 dogs and 3 cats.
I'm sorry I didn't reply to everybody. I've missed alot and want to catch up.
Sounds like somebody needs the bitchslap movie but....I'm on my BIL's computer and don't remember my photobucket password (imagine that) I'll try to remember to post it tomorrow when I'm on my own computer in my new (old) broken a/c house sweating my ass off.
I do miss you girls.
Hugs, Traci
ps Can any of you Dallas gals tell me where I CAN BUY A FREAKING BOTTLE OF LIQOUR??? This dry county stuff sucks!! I can't tell you how bad I have wanted a vokda lemonade!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Traci - I was hoping to see a post from you, but not this kind of post....Damn, that ALL sucks!! Actually it sucks times 10...it sucks to the 20th power. I never would have thought of the insurance thing either....isn't there some kind of continuity of care law? Insurance companies are low-life scum.
Deb C
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Traci,
That sucks. That all sucks. I know you can buy liquor up 360 just north of 30 to East Avenue H or Lamar, the liquor store is called Hansom Hank's. Or, you can go west on 30 to Fort Worth. Come to my house, north of Fort Worth, as I have air conditioning and will cheerfully serve you vodka lemonade....
Glad you're back. Really sorry you are having to go through the insurance bs.
Love,
Sue
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Damnit, Traci! THAT SUCKS ROYALLY!!!! I was also under the impression that as long as you don't have a lapse in coverage, you are supposed to be treated as though there is no pre-existing condition. I think we shall all head on over to Aetna after we're done skewering Dolly.
BTW girls, thank you for your support! The more I think about it, the more I am sure I have to say something to my onc. A patient navigator is something that they fought to have and I'm sure he and my rads onc would be horrified to know how ignorant she is. I am going to suggest that she be instructed specifically about stage IV. Of course, this is assuming that she's not just as clueless about earlier stages or other cancers. I shudder to think of the anguish she could be causing to others too.
No more suckiness for me to report today (WHEW!)
Traci, be on the lookout with a bunch of bald and/or lopsided broads with shovels riding up on Vespa scooters. We'll have a blast!!!!!!
(((HUGS)))
Diane0 -
I am willing to (check all that apply):
__XXprovide character witness
_XXattest to your temporary insanity/chemo brain
_X__ post bail
_X__ wield a shovel on your behalf
_X__ hide the body
_X__ chip in for an attorney
_X__ visit badboobs in the clink
__X_ arrange to join badboobs in the clink
__X_ other duties as assigned
__X_ Who knows?
_XX__ ALL OF THE ABOVE!!!Sheesh.....were do they hire these lame brains from???
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lol...you are all so funny. (((((Diane))))) lol!
Sue, thanks for the tip!! Handsome Hank...is he really handsome? I just took my bro to the airport in Ft Worth...I like your offer!!! I wouldn't know what to do with a handsome guy anyway! When is happy hour??
Deb....How you doin' girl?
I took a pill cuz the insurance thing wiped me out. I have to pass out. I'll check in more often. Promise I need my old new normal back!!! Screw this too busy stuff. LIFE IS TOO SHORT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hugs, Traci
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Traci - SOOOO-oooo happy to see you.
Sooooo bummed about the insurance SNAFU. Isn't there any chance of group coverage with your new job? Even if you pay? You do at least have the COBRA option, right? That's Federal law, and moving between states can't affect that. I know it costs like crazy, I did it myself, on only a part-time salary. Ow.
Don't accept this without a fight, hon. Texas probably has an insurance commission ombudsman or something that can tell you if Aetna is feeding you a load of crap about being able to redo underwriting on you. They'll sure screw you if they think they can possibly get away with it!
Get some good dog hugs. Hope things look up tomorrow, somehow.
Lisa
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Hey Traci -
I'm hanging in there....more good days than bad, and my tests and tumor markers look good, so I shouldn't bitvh....but I will....
Tomorrow I have to drive to Anchorage and see my Onc. I only see her every 3 months unless we have problems.
My PCP here in town takes care of all my day -to-day stuff, and I just love him. He is VERY positive and encouraging.
My Onc, though she is one of the top rated Oncs in the state, is more of a pragmatist. She doesn't pull any punches. If I ask her a question, she is not going to sugar-coat the answer. She is well connected and up-to-date on current treatments. I respect her, I like her and I trust her....but she is not a cheerleader.
SO my bitch is that I know I will leave her office with a lump in my throat. I might need a LOT of retail therapy to feel good tomorrow...or lots of ice cream....or both!
How everyone has a minimum suckage day tomorrow....
Deb C
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