Stop Smoking Support Thread
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So Bosum, glad you're enjoying the game. Nice to have a guy around who thinks you're great just the way you are.
Lisa Marie - hope you're not working on the holiday. I picture you maybe grilling w/all the kids?
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Hi Ladies ..
April I am so glad that DH is doing better .. still sending you my prayers .. and Hugs .. your Granddaughter is a beauty .. I just love the photos..
Minus I am doing good .. I grilled today some chicken and asparagus and made potato salad ...but no visitors ,, just me and BF .. and oh yes the 4 legged children .. lol 3 dogs and 1 cat ..
Bosom . sounds like sparks are flying I hope you have lots of fun .. xoxoxo but do be careful...
Hello to everyone else hope the weekend was enjoyable ... Judi, beckers .... xoxooxox
I did some more planting in the garden this weekend as well ...
xoxoxox cannot wait for my goodies to grow ... had a cucumber mojito smoothie at tropical smoothie and I am looking up the recipe as it was refreshing and healthy ...
chow for now Love and hugs to you all ...
Just for today I did not smoke ,,,
Lisamarie
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MinusTwo I have been reading this topic since Feb 2013. I don't recall if I had a formal welcome but thank you again if I did.
I am not through. I am currently waiting for insurance approval to do another revision, not symetrical nor the same size yet. We are hoping one more fix can get a reasonable result. I had several complications along the way. My next surgery date is set for next Monday June 1.
This past weekend drove to Fort Worth for my grandson's graduation and returned yesterday. Poured rain the entire trip home. Luckily we got home about 9 pm before all the flooding. I hope you didn't have any flooding issues. I just saw on the news they estimate Harris county got 162 billions gallons of rain yesterday. Never heard it presented that way before.
I hope no one else is having bad weather but if you are, we are praying for you.
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JB - you got home just in time. I'm OK and thank for asking. I'm in the NW part of town and we had 8-10 inches of rain in 2-1/2 hours. Might as well have been a fire hose. No water in the house but the yard was ankle deep and I lost a one of the main trunk limbs from my pecan tree. Fortunately it fell on the front lawn & the driveway instead of the house. So today I went absolutely NO where. Hope you're doing OK with all the flooding along the Trinity River.
Oh wow - surgery coming up next week. Hope the insurance comes through right away you're right that it will be the last & best time. We'll surely keep you in our thoughts. Are you going into the Medical Center or staying more local? I had some tx at Med Center Methodist & Baylor and some at MD Anderson-Katy.
So since we're on the smoking thread, did your docs make you quit before surgery? No need to answer if it makes you uncomfortable.
Hey LisaMarie - good to hear from you. I love to hear about your garden. I like the BBQ idea but I don't think I can do green smoothies (??)
Hi everyone else. Memorial Day being this early has really thrown off my brain - but now we're on a count down to June. Water aerobics starts tomorrow - assuming some of the class has the guts to jump in the water - which I believe will be COLD from all the rain.
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Happy Memorial Day to all of you who celebrate it. I can't believe the rain you are having. We have had rain but nothing like you are experiencing. JB good luck on your surgery. LisaMarie, love the bbq. I'm having my friends over for a bbq but I have been cleaning my heart out. I always need it to be clean but then I have to clean it afterwards. At one time I thought I need to have a smoke but as quickly as I thought of it, it went out of my mind.
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I was a smoker for over 40 years. I did quit but not right away. I do better with deadlines. I was told I needed to be smoke free for 2 days to get my port and I did it. Of course 3 days later I smoked again. Then I did chemo and yes I smoked throughout treatment. I was told I had to be smoke free at least 3 weeks before my mastectomy and I did it. Of course 1 month later I smoked again when I started rads. I quit again 2 days after rads and remained smoke free because I needed to be smoke free for at least 8 weeks before reconstruction. I quit for 12 weeks before reconstruction and have never had another smoke since. So now I have been smoke free for 18 months. I feel great and I amso proud of my accomplishment. I do have thoughts of smoking but the thought passes quickly now.
I actually have followed several of your journeys, Lisa Marie I really prayed for you, such a long battle for you. Bosum I pray that you will get here also.
To everyone else I enjoy your stories and how everyone is moving on.
To those needing to quit I understand. Never give up, you will eventually make it. I have faith in everyone.
I live on a hill on the Trinity river bed. The river is out if it's banks but we will never flood. Roads to get into town might though. Thanks for asking. Glad the tree did not hit your house Minus.
I did my surgeries down in the museum district and Westside Surgical Hospital. My next one is scheduled at Victory Surgical Hospital by the golf course at Hermann Park. These are both the new boutique type hospitals. Very quaint but clean and efficient.
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So day 15 of hospitalization for hubby and I am growing very weary of the drive and the parking situation is even worse. So far, two parking tickets at 20.00 each as the meter ran out and I was a few moments late. New Haven makes their money off of parking tickets it seems...ugh!
Plus they seem not to know when he will be released yet! He has moved rooms 5 (yes FIVE times and he is calling himself the gypsy patient) since admitting and he is finally back where he started in the "Verde" wing (every elevator is color coded for morons like me who get lost in the huge building..LOL) and that is the least convenient wing for parking/walking and with my screaming joints from the AI, I am toast and using a cane more often than not...ugh! I don't care about vanity anymore. I care more about falling down! LOL
So, hopefully they will release him soon.
Those of you in the wake of all of these storms, hope you are all safe!!!0 -
April, I know it is hard but keep your spirits up. Life only gets better from here on in. Try a few stretches for the screaming joints. I think it will help. Hope hubby comes home soon so that both of you can rest!
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April - oh my goodness you are a trouper. Sometimes (often?) I think it's harder for the care giver than the patient. Would he be OK if you didn't go in every day? What was the final answer? Did they find a med that will cure the problem?
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Minus and jdayton, I am so glad that you are both okay wit the storms. My BF's son lives in Texas as well ad he called us one night and said they were having bad storms and now the BF been calling him for days to see if all is well and he has not been able to contact him and he has been worried .. he lives in San Antonio . I am thinking he is is okay , he is 10 and probably just playing video games and forgetting ...I am praying for all of you as the news just mentioned the death toll at 21 and climbing as well as tornadoes ... please stay safe ..
jbdayton thanks so much for following me , it feels good to be without the smokes ...it took me a few tries .. well more than a few ..
Minus .. the cuccumber mojito is soooo good and refreshing and really isnt all that green.. xoxoxox
Bosom, I miss you ...
April , I hope the hubby gets out soon . I know what a pain in the butt it can be in large hospitals and parking .. here if you want to visit someone it costs to park ... its like 10 dollars a day .. its insane but thats NY ... keeping you and hubby in my prayers ..
Judi , its so crazy I do same thing with cleaning but im always cleaning my house .. then for like a split second especially in summer I would be like boy a smoke and a beer would be nice .. but i say NO .. and it passes ...
Hope everyone is having a great week ....
SMILE
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Lisamarie
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No answers on meds but he is getting better every day. The doctor said that today they may take one of his drains out. They are making sure that if they pull one of the tubes his lung does not collapse so they are keeping it in until they feel it is fully inflated and will stay that way. He is in some pain but they are medicating him every 3-4 hours with oxycodone so he is at least somewhat comfortable for a couple of hours anyway. He had a bad night last night in terms of pain and he has a roommate that talks on his cell phone (loudly) until the wee hours. The roomie is there drying out from alcohol and he throws up quite a bit so he is not the ideal person to be rooming with. Ugh!
As for stretching, I am well beyond that Judi. My pain is down to the bone at this point. It is surreal how bad it has gotten over the last 6 months. I see my MO on June 16th and am getting a bone density so hopefully it will not show significant bone loss as my grandmother (Mom's mother) had severe osteoporosis and so did my Aunt on my Dad's side. Am hoping I can escape that fate like my Mom but I already had severe arthritis in my right knee before BC so am behind the 8-ball with all of this pain already. My pain killers don't even come close to touching what is going on recently.
Minus, have taken only one day off from seeing hubby cause I just need to go every day so he knows I am there for him. I know he looks so forward to it every day and I can't let him down. I am just really tired between working full time, and running all over and doing everything myself. I did not realize just how much my husband did for me until I had to do it all by myself!
OK, enough complaining! I have a lot of work to do and I had better get going! Elevator was not working this morning so did two flights of stairs to get here at work so need to make it count! LOL
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April, you are not complaining. Life is what it is and this is what you are going through right now. It's tough but as I said earlier "it can only go up from here". Keep checking in and let us know you are o.k. and your dh is o.k. LisaMarie, I hear you about the smoke and beer. Even when I read your comment, I could taste both. But we both know that we can't do it. Only in our dreams. MT, you o.k. today. Anyone else weathering storms I hope you are o.k.
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LisaMarie & Judi - good I don't like beer or the word picture you two are discussing might make me want a smoke.
April - We're with you girl. Hang in there.0 -
Quiet tonight. Hope all are well! Weather here today was perfect but calling for 30% rain tomorrow. Figures, I'm having a BBQ tomorrow and was hoping to sit outside. Oh well, food, drinks and friends will be great! Thankfully, no one smokes so no temptation!
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Judi - we're expecting rain after 1pm tomorrow too. Luckily the final registration I need to handle for our community pool is at 9:30am so I'll have that finished before the storms.
Dinner was the final left overs from Laurie's Salsa Chicken, a recipe I got from the dinner thread. So good & so easy. 2-4 chicken breasts in the bottom of a pyrex dish. Dump jar of your favorite salsa over them (I love green chili salsa, but maybe peach?). Drain a can of black beans & dump those on top. Cover and bake 350 degrees for 1-1/2 hours. Five minutes before serving, add shredded cheese on top. Serve over rice or pasta or pull apart the chicken & roll up in tortillas. You can also do pork chops w/something like pineapple Habanero salsa. It looks & tastes like you've been slaving away all day on a special meal.
April - maybe your DH is going to come home for the weekend? Hope you're both doing OK.
Bosum - what's up girl? We miss you.
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Bosum, hope you cheer up and get the mojo moving again! You have us to tell you everything is going to be o.k. Sometimes men just don't cut it but women have been there and understand it. I also hope your MRI goes well on Wednesday. Will be thinking of you while I relax as I have dental surgery on Tuesday. Are you smoking?
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BTW MT, love the recipe. I'm going to try it!
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Bosum - I've been divorced a long time now. I dated a lot and had three long term relationships (more than a year). One was even a younger guy who had never married & liked to spend money. In the end I decided it just wasn't worth the hassle. Not dissing men generally (although it might be fun), but for my generation there aren't very many men who were trained to be useful or even self-sufficient (either by their mothers or 1st wives). I didn't want to be a maid or a mother again. I didn't want to put myself in 2nd place. I can savor smoked oysters in bed at midnight if I want to. I can sleep until 10am or read until 4am. I can cook or not & eat when & where I choose. I don't have to get up in the middle of a movie to get 'him' an ice tea or a beer. I don't have to clean the floor around the commode. OK - sometimes it's still hard with no hugs or someone just to listen if my day was horrible. but Judi's right - we'll listen to you every single day. I have taken the time to make some good women friends - something I never had before since I was always too busy out dancing & drinking & flirting (oops - and smoking). Yes, occasionally I still wish I had a man friend to drive to the play downtown or take me dancing, but usually the price is more than I want to pay. Even if it's "friends w/o benefits" they still expect to be waited on.
Sorry for the rant. Just for today I will not smoke.
Good luck with the MRI & let us know.
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MT, wise words that you have spoken. I think all men are great in "the beginning" but show their true colours after a while. If the man is not trained by his mother to respect women and pull his share, it ain't going to happen. I love my dh so much but a lot of the times he is a "pain in the ass". Doesn't like this or that but when I mention what I don't like, I'm sometimes perceived as a bitch. I was single for so long that to go somewhere with "a man" was nice. Now, it doesn't bother me. Bosum, I know you have been hurt so tremendously and just want love ... I hear you girl. But you'll know when you know. As far as the smoking, it sounds to me like you are getting there when you know it or not. Subconsciously or not, I think you buy the smokes but panic a little and fall to the demon. But you are almost there. You go girl!
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Hi Ladies,
Bosom , I feel you . I also agree with minus .. sometimes it is worth it to be single and do things when you want and not take no crap .. sometimes I wish I could go to bed when i want... not answer to anyone about shit ,,,not cook if I dont wanna .. there is a list a mile long... so long story short sometimes alone and just dating is better ... I don't know .. I am in a relationship for 2 years and had my fair share of shit .. still am ... and a lot of days I regret it... I miss my little studio apartment ,, and my freedom and happiness and sanity .. and these ladies have been here before the bf and they are still here with me through bad times and good... im rambling ... I also do know feeling alone sucks and hugs are nice .. xoxoxoxxo I miss you ,,
Minus that sounds so amazing .. i gotta try that recipe .. I did chicken sauted and put mango salsa on top ... it was delicious ... im def gonna try yours ..
I got my first harvest from my garden ... some radishes .. :0 makes me smile when i get something from nature and my care ..
Judi ...how are ya doing ?
april , I am still praying for you and your dh ... hope al is well...
to everyone else ... I hope you are all well ...
xoxoxoxxo
Lisamarie
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LisaMarie, you also speak from experience and speak words of wisdom. Glad to hear about your garden - nice to see it grow and get something out of it. I'm doing fabulous .... only one more doctor visit and then I'm finished except my wrist is acting up again so getting physic. That's from doing toooooooo much gardening and house cleaning. Nice to look at but my wrist is so sore. April, how are things today? Hope you get the news that you want - coming home baby!
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Bosum, yes you can manage on your own. It may be so new to you. I don't know how long you were married and how long you are separated/divorced (?) but it does take a while to get in the groove. Trust me, it does get better. I know it is nice to have a man around but more often then not, I want one occasionally. It does get lonely no doubt about it but then you only have a "friend" for those moments. Please don't despair. I guess what I'm trying to say is that we all need our own space and a man doesn't make it for us. Only we can make it for us and you will too one day!
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am growing the basil and mint .. id love to give it to you .. but all my hard work is now going down the tubes .. I am ready to have a nervous breakdown ..... i want a smoke more now than ever ..im about to explode .. im an emotional wreck and totally hate my life . I am sooo depressed .. I kept trying tp keep it together for these past 2 years with this asshole bf .. I can noooo longer take the abuse I must get the hell out of here if I am ever going to achieve happiness ... ever ...... I know I am strong enough ... I am stuck here right now as he got my car blocked in and took my phone ... I am crying and I am hungry .... I dont know what is left for me ... i feel like dying but I know that is not the answer and neither is smoking or a drink... for now I will lay here hungry and try to sleep .... if nothing else ... xoxoxxoxoxo
Lisamarie
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LisaMarie - hugs girl. So sorry you're having to go through this again. Damn it's so hard to have your trust betrayed one more time. Can you go stay w/your daughter for a day or two to let things calm down? Hang tough & make your plans to get away. Check in when you can. We'll be worrying about you.
Bosum - And you hang tough too. Of course you can make it on your own. It's harder, but you can do it. One day at at a time!!!
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Oh LisaMarie, get the hell out of there. Listen to all of us and lie low until you can figure things out. I don't know what went wrong but it seems like you try, try, try and get beaten down. No one deserves that. See Bosum, you are stronger then you'll ever think .... look at what you said to LisaMarie. Both of you must be strong and LisaMarie, please don't smoke or drink. It won't solve anything. Be tough girl!
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Good Morning! Just a quick post to let you all know that hubby came home this past Saturday and is doing well. Will write more later but just wanted to let you know and thank you for all of your thoughts and prayers through this very difficult time. Huge hugs!!
Now back to work as my 9:00AM appt. just rolled in (at 9:22!!!)
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Fabulous, fabulous, fabulous April. So glad this part of the process is over and now on to better and more beautiful things to come your way!
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Welcome to the club Bosum! I really wanted George Clooney and he went and got flipping married to THAT girl! I hope it doesn't last long. But your comment made me laugh and think of this!
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George Clooney sure broke a lot of hearts when he married that youngster.
April - great news. If you're already back it work it looks like he is able to stay on his own. Just keep remembering - you have to take time for you too. Care giving can be an exhausting thing if you can never break away.
LisaMarie - assuming you made it through the night since you are SO strong. Please check in when you can.
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Bosum - sorry I don't know about the Letrozole, but I do know that my lungs bounced back after I quit smoking. I was able to speed walk for 3-4 miles & never even breathing hard. Did you have any lung capacity tests? My MO sent me to a pulmonologist I had to sit in the glass cage and suck & blow on their machine. Unfortunately I had mild COPD - something I really didn't want to hear. I do expect it was from the 40 years of smoking and not the BC & those drugs. I don't need any meds or inhalers now that the SEs from the cancer are going away and lung capacity is increasing.
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