Stop Smoking Support Thread
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Oh Beckers - congratulations on the 3 years. I know how much you miss your Mom. I think of you often and hope that your life is no longer so hectic. Of course, we wouldn't want boring lives, but still... Are you still in OK? Glad you checked in.
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Hi ladies,
Back at work and trying to catch up. It was a rough one last week but have to move on. Now comes the fun since I am executor and there is a house to sell etc. Never ends with this. I feel like I just finished up with my Mom's stuff and now we are going through this again. Getting old is definitely not high on my list of things I enjoy...but, saying that around here could get me KILLED and rightly so since the alternative is...well...you know what I mean.
Ok, back to it. Thanks for all of the condolences and words of support. xo
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April: You are in my thoughts. Your year has not been gentle. My Dad and I got even closer in the 2 years after my mother died before he passed away, and I've always been so grateful for those years. It was much harder for me to loose him than my Mom. Do you have siblings that will help with the estate? My one brother was more trouble than help since he wanted to save & preserve everything. It's so hard to always be the one who's "strong & brave & responsible:" You didn't mention your DH so I hope he's doing OK?
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LisaMarie - I know you're busy but hope you'll check in soon.
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Minus two, I am still in OK. Looks like this will be home. I'm much more adjusted now.
Did you lose your last parent April? My condolences. Boy do I know how that feels!
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VJ - great offer. Thanks for posting.
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April , I am so sorry to hear about your dad , you are always in my prayers and heart .
Minus I am here now just been crazy busy .. My mom flew me to Denver and my brother picked me up as he drove from Vegas and we started a crazy journey back here to NY ... I will never do that trip again .. then my son was here with his wife and my granddaughter from NC . we had a nice time ..
Beckers 3 years wooo hooo I miss you .. I remember starting this journey with you around the same time but just couldnt get it .. anyway about 8 months now so I am finally on the right track .... xoxoxo Big Hugs and Congrats ..
Judi hope all is well with you .. and hope your trip is going well
Bosom , I feel ya I know the system is a messed up bunch of BS .. Big Hugs to ya Girl xoxooxo
Oh Minus we have not started counseling yet .. just too much stuff going on ,,,lol
well if missed anything I am so sorry ...
to the new lady I am sorry but I dont have any answers for your ???
And if anyone is shy or hanging around ... smoking or not know that this is an amazing group of ladies .... we are all here for you ...
Just for today I will not smoke ,
xoxoxoxox
Lisamarie
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LisaMarie - you drove from Denver to NY? In the middle of these storms? And the heat this time of year? I agree - never again. Did you at least get to see your Mom? Great that your son came to visit.
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Minus OMG yes .. I had no clue about the storms and all . there were many tornando warnings in missouri . it got so cold and black and the hail and rain was crazy as were the sirens for torndo ...I was never so afraid in all my life .. and my phone kept alerting take cover now ... thank God I did not see one .touch down. I did not get to see mu Mom as she is in vegas ..
xoxooxox
Lisamarie
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Happy Safe 4th of July to all !!!!
xoxoxoxox
Lisamarie
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And Happy 4th back to all of you. I had my water aerobics class this morning & am staying close to home the rest of the day. Actually doing small mending right now, buttons, etc. It's the first time I've been able to sew since chemo gave me neuropathy in fingers & feet. Luckily most of the feeling has come back in my fingers. Not so my feet, sigh. Anyway, it feels weird to be holding a needle after 2+ years.
Just for today -- and you know the rest -- I will not smoke.
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Lisa, I am so happy to hear about you making 8 months!!!!! I know how you struggled in the beginning. My son works for a cape company and he hopes to come out with a non nicotine flavor soon in my honor and some of the proceeds will go to BC research. Thank God for the binky!!
Minus, how do you like water aerobics? I would like to try soon as it's getting to hot for me to work at zoo and I will need to exercise.
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Beckers - oh how funny my brain is. I saw "my son works for a cape company" and immediately thought of Superman's cape. Good laugh at myself for the day.
I live in a really small subdivision with a small outdoor pool. Seven years ago I found a teacher & got a group of ladies together & we started summer water aerobics. Class is two nights a week & Saturday mornings - adults only. The class is so popular that we have to limit enrollment to the first 25, which now includes men & women ages 25-75. It's a fantastic way to exercise. The water provides some compression for those with lymphadema, provides resistance for the muscles to work against, doesn't pound aging knees, and helps w/cocooning & balancing for people who are unsteady. The instructor encourages everyone to work at his own pace so some are exercising gently and others are really pushing. Since we both live places with extreme heat, it's a nice way to keep cool while actually doing some good. Now if I could just make myself walk up to the pool & walk home... I mean really, it's only 6 blocks - but it's 98 degrees & 98% humidity.
And one more benefit - you can't smoke in the water.
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Beckers thank you so much , I am so Happy to see you when you stop by, this brings a smile to my face .. I know cape vape funny .. That is great what your Son is doing ...
Minus I wish I had a pool .. lol but I guess having the Ocean is just as well .. Id love water Arobics as well..
Bosom I hope all is well Love y Girl ..
Me still Plugging along and got news from thr youngest daughter in NC that I am going to be a grandmother for the 4th time come Feb.. wow I cannot belive I will have my 4th grandchild ... I am so blessed in so many ways that it outweighs the bad stuff ..I ahve been being treated by an ENT for a sinus infection , she put me oon Augmentin and I had a bad stomach pain and nausea, then they swithced to Ceftin and throwing up and intense inside itching .. OMG .. now im on a steroid to stop the itching .. then she gave me another Biaxin , I am suppsed to start it when these symptoms go awaty .. I feel as though after I stopped smoking I am beginning to fall apart ... I feel like I am trying to get healthy but am getting sick all time ... xoxoxo
Hope everyone is having a great day .... Love and Hugs to you all
xoxoxoxo
Lisamarie
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Still reeling from losing my dad but hanging in there. Thanks for the condolences.
Yes Minus, it is my last parent and I am now officially an orphan. Only one left is my father in law (husband's dad) and he is going to be 88 but he is really healthy! He drove to MA from FL by himself (he comes for the summers as he has a house on a lake) and although he lost his wife a couple of years ago, he met someone new and brought her up with him! Imagine that...LOL. Hey, whatever makes him happy although if he marries her, hope he gets a pre-nup done since my hubby and his sister have a lot to lose if he doesn't! (at least that is what hubby said he better do..HA!) But, am thinking he is done with the marriage thing. He was married to my MIL for almost 30 years (2nd marriage) and he misses her something awful. She was an amazing and fabulous woman and I cannot imagine anyone filling that void.
Ok, at work...Lisamarie, hope you feel better sweetie! I know what you mean about falling apart after stopping smoking...me too! But, I think it is due to the exemestane, not the fact that I am now 60...lol
Hugs to all! xo
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April - thinking of you. Glad to hear that your FIL is still "kicking". I took my Dad on a Hawaii cruise when he was 95. He wanted to sit by the pool & look at the girls in bikinis. But we also went to the band concerts early each night when they played the swing favorites from his generation. He asked for Stardust every night, my parent's song.
I've been cleaning out some boxes that were in the attic. I had a dear friend of 50 years who died last December. We never lived in the same part of the country after college, but for the most part we wrote weekly. I'd promised his daughter I'd look for some stuff to send her since he was a gifted writer. And I'd forgotten I actually kept a diary almost every day from age 12-19. All that teen-age angst. I was so angry at my Mother much of my life. Reading the diaries as an adult give me a new perspective. I also have letters from both of my parents through out my life, and bundles of letters from two other 50 year friendships. But two or three days of these constant reminders are emotionally exhausting so I have to keep taking breaks.
Got an email from my friends daughter today that caused more tears: I love the memories. Please keep sharing, it keeps his memory alive. You and my dad were close and I feel that you are one of the the only ones, besides me, who saw him as a loving person. I've never met her but she got some of my cards to him & called to let me know he'd died.
Bosum - how are you doing? I see a random post now & then. Hope things are getting easier.
LisaMarie - hope you're feeling better. Funny about falling apart once you quit smoking. I swore that I only got diagnosed w/breast cancer after I quit smoking because the poisons in the cigarettes were keeping the tumors from growing. LOL - right?
Judi, Judi, Judi - we miss you. Looking forward to hearing about your fabulous vacation.
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Hi Ladies , I miss you all . I have not started the new antibiotic yet . I just finished the steroids yesterday and am scared to death to start the new antiobiotic.
Minus I have so many journals that I have kept through the years that I think when I pass away my kids are going to think I am nuts ..lol
had a nice weekend went to the beach with my daughter and grandkids on saturday then NYC and empire state building and central park on sunday... had a nice time
April and Bosom xoxoxoxoxo
Miss you too Judi hope all is well
Beckers thinking of you ... xoxox
Lisamarie
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OK Bosum - but we like you anyway, so glad you keep checking in. There will come a time when you are ready. And good news that the tests were OK when they were re-done.
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Bosom ... exactly what Minus said .... we Love you anyway so please do stick around and chat ... and I am so glad your test results went well ... remember I am always here thinking of you xooxoxoxo... oh yeah there is a saying in my AA group stick around and we will Love you until you Love yourself ...SO for here smoke and stick around until you are ready ... but we are always here no matter what .. and it took me a billion tries at least and somedays I still cannot believe im still smoke free .. and I do think about it from time to time ... so that ciggy devil is always creeping on my back ... Honestly I have no clue where my strength comes from .... I guess I am so corny .. haha ... I don't know if I made any sence but just want you to know how very much you mean to me .... xooxoxoxoxoxox
LisaMarie
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LisaMarie - beautiful post. You are such a success story. Yup - that devil is always there. You've made it this long, I'll bet it's forever. I was moving around furniture today & REALLY wanted to sit down w/a smoke when I was done. But I didn't. Just for today, I will not smoke.
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Oh my friends - you'll never believe this. I completely missed remembering to celebrate the 8th anniversary of my quitting smoking. July 11th. So tonight I'm going to raise a glass a few days late & hope you'll join me long distance sometime over the weekend - even if you're drinking GingerAle.
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High five Minus Two!!
And for you too lisamarie!
To all of us...even those of us struggling...we are all worth it!! xoxo
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Congrats Minus , i celebrated with you but without food or drink as i was in the hospital all weekend ... so i had my drink via IV... lol
love u all
lisamarie
xoxo
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LisaMarie - oh no, what happened? Did they solve any of the health mysteries? Hope your post means you're back out again.
Judi, Judi, Judi - we're waiting with bated breath to hear about your trip.
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Bosum - how are you doing? I can probably track you on other threads, but I'll bet you're monitoring this one even if you aren't posting.
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Bosum - good to hear from you. I do check out "singles" now and then. Sounds like you're busy w/your Mother. Hope she's doing OK. Keep lurking.
As for singles, in fact I had lunch w/my ex today. He has been helping me get my old audio equipment moved in with video equipment onto a new TV stand/entertainment center that I ordered. I could build the furniture unit but I'm not good at hooking up all the wires to the electronics. Sounds like I have some hot stuff, but I just have an old CD player, amp and phonograph & broken cassette player along with a TV and a VHS. Most pieces are old analog technology & not digital so mixing the two has been a challenge. Whooop - I don't even have cable & when I watch TV, it's with "rabbit ears". (because I'd rather read anyway) But the reason for lunch - I found some cassette tapes of my Grandpa telling stories and of my Mother singing to my son when he was little & reading him nursery rhymes. Those people are long gone but I'd like to hear to their voices again. Ex is going to transfer those cassettes to his computer and give me a DVD.
LisaMarie - hope you're doing better & just too busy to write.
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Hi Ladies , I guess when it rains it pours .. My luck has not been the best one thing after another ... anyway they say I had a ruptured ovariam cyst .. i got out of Hospital on Sunday and then on Monday July 20th I packed my truck woith some belonging s and finally decided to go on a journey to NC to get away from the relationship and work on me .... Upon my drive I was almost into Delaware at 2 am when all of a sudden my Truck died and I was stranded .. ( you cannot make this shit up ) I called everyone for help .. mind you My crazy asss left with only 100.00 and my poor cat ... my cousin helped me by sending her son .. he finally got to me around 6:30 am .. and he jumped my truck and we went to auto part store and they said it was an alternator and directed us to a mechanic .. who said it would be 900 ti fix and that I would not make it over the delware memorial bridge let along NC .. so we left and kept driving another 1 hour and 45 minutes through Delaware to my Cousin Cindys ... then the call comes from My Daughter Mom are you sitting down ( this is my olderst daughter ) I said yes what iswrong .. my heart sinks she tells e my son has died from a bee sting ... So Icall around and =it is true he died on Monday as my car hut down ..... so my cousins son took me back to NY and I dont know what to feel . I am numb services were last night today and burial tomorrow . I am burying my son 25 years old ... so I just want you all to know I do not know once aghain how I am doing this without a drink or a smoke but by the grace of god I am .. I love you all xoxoxxo
Heartbroken
Lisamarie
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Lisamarie, I agree with Bosum...there are no words. As a mother, I can not even go there in my head as to what you are going through. Just know that we are here for you if you need to scream or cry or vent. This is just beyond the scope of what we should have to bear in this life. Huge hugs and may you find comfort in your family and friends at this sad time. Condolences to your family on your profound loss. xo
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LisaMarie - oh my sweet friend - my heart is hurting for you. I can't even imagine losing my son. What an unbelievable load you have. We'll all keep you close in our thoughts. Touch base when you can.
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