CALLING ALL STAGE I SISTERS

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  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 9,611
    edited March 2010

    I just voted for Crystal. I can sit and listen to her all night.

    Don't think I'm a nut case but I got up and applauded her.

    Casey is so handsome, he can be my son. I'm staying with Crystal all the way. She looks sad lately. Did you notice it?

  • cakeisgreat
    cakeisgreat Member Posts: 188
    edited March 2010

    Meece, is it hard to grow asparagus?  We are planting a garden this year, and I love asparagus and would love to try to grow it.

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 10,618
    edited March 2010

    From what I've read, and experience, the roots take at least two years to be able to produce the edible stalks. (No they are not inedible otherwise, they jsut won't thrive or produce well otherwise.)  So, last year I purchased two year old root sets and planted them like recommended.  We watched the stalks grow look yummy, but let them go to bush.  we didn't eat one!  Then this year we have been selecting which ones we want to eat.  They grow pretty fast, and if you leave them in the ground an extra day or two, you might just miss your eating window.

  • mimi1964
    mimi1964 Member Posts: 851
    edited March 2010

    seyla888 - I agree with you that Crystal does look a little sad... I'm wondering if she really wants this as badly as she thought she originally did?  I do like her a lot.  I think Casey will make it into the Country jonre'.  He is really good with that guitar.  He kinda reminds me of a Keith Urban type.  LOL!

    Those are the 2 I've been voting for!!! 

    Meece I don't do any gardening, I don't have a green thumb.  

    Renee

  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 9,611
    edited March 2010

    Nicole......Where are you?

  • AStorm
    AStorm Member Posts: 1,393
    edited March 2010

    Hi S1S,

    I'm assuming asparagus is good for us, no? Has anyone seen the new edition of Anticancer? I perused it at the bookstore but since I don't have time to read it right now, didn't pick it up. It has a lot of recommendations for us. My attitude about such things is a tad laissez-faire since my diagnosis as I DID ALL THE RIGHT THINGS and still got cancer, but I liked what he had to say about wine (he points out that studies with respect to breast cancer and alcohol are inconclusive and controversial and counters that red wine has beneficial properties that should be considered, and then he recommends a glass of red wine with dinner).  My mom grew asparagus when I was a kid and I still eat a lot of it... but

    MIMI, I agree -- Crystal and Casey are the best! Maybe Crystal misses her child :(  or maybe it's just her personality... it kind of bugged me last night when the judges chastised her for hiding behind her guitar and using a rug as her 'only prop'. Does everyone have to be perky and flirtatious and wear thigh-hi stiletto boots?

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 10,618
    edited March 2010

    I am like you, AStorm, I did everything right. I took up drinking wine after I was through treatment.  Before, I was a tea-totler.  I remember during BC week before my dx, The View listed all the factors which made for less chance of developing BC.  Out of maybe a dozer tings which they thought could lead to BC, I had only two factors.  So did those two thing put me over the edge?

  • AStorm
    AStorm Member Posts: 1,393
    edited March 2010

    Yeah, Meese. I don't think they know what they are talking about. The so-called experts have their lists and there are fringes out there saying that women shouldn't wear underwires or deodorant. In America? My husband read something in a magazine that said we should not drink alcohol at all to avoid recurrenc.Now he keeps eying me every time I have a glass in my hand. I gave up the underwires, and my breasts, but I'm keeping the wine!  

  • cakeisgreat
    cakeisgreat Member Posts: 188
    edited March 2010

    Hi, Meece and Astorm!  I agree about the wine and all these other possible.  Lately I have been seeing the BC thing all over the place...was reading about BPA and saw it on Dr. Oz, how the plastics cause higher risk of BC.  Then this morning I read on msnbc health that 1/3 of breast cancers could be avoided if people werent overweight.  They dont say it that much because they dont want women to feel like they caused their own cancers.  Of course, that is the only thing that I have that could be a true cause of cancer...and mine was 100% estrogen positive, so I am in that guilty party of always wondering if I caused my own breast cancer. 

    Then on the other hand, there are so many women on these boards that were skinny, healthy, exercisers, eat vegetarian, etc. who also got BC. It makes me mad when I think, okay, I was overweight the last few years, and yet there are so many other women who are overweight and never get cancer!  I guess either way, if I did cause it, there's nothing I can do about it now.

    And now I'm afraid of tupperware, LOL!

    Hi Sheila/Seyla!

  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 9,611
    edited March 2010

    Cake...According to Medical Society almost everything we did or didn't caused cancer.

    I did most everything they tell us. One thing I didn't do is Breast Feed and so many other women.

    Instead of finding a cure they are more concentrated what might caused it.

    You know what I'm sick and tired listening Researchers coming up with more reasons every week and makes us crazy and worried about everything we eat, we touch will cause cancerYell.

    BS tells me My BC was accidental and it wasn't from lifestyle. That supposed to make me feel better!!!!! I feel worse.

    I needed to vent. Sorry.

    Sheila

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 10,618
    edited March 2010

    I breast fed all of my children and that was supposed to increase breast health.  I was not over weight, in fact a bit underweight, I had children at supposedly the right time period of my life, as well as becoming regnant with my first  at the right age.

    The worst thing I did in my life was live in an oilfield, and there was a sign at the entrance to the road to our home that said "The State of California has recognized chemicals used on this property may contain carcinogens"  or something to that fact.  But, other women had lived there before I did, and none of them developed BC.

  • carollynn79
    carollynn79 Member Posts: 331
    edited March 2010

    A Storm you are right on.  I have been limiting my wine to 3-4 glasses per week but I so enjoy them I am not giving them up.  My BS and Onc tell me they do not feel it hurts, what the hey anyway if I don't get a recuurrence it will proably jusy show up elsewhere, the evil critter seems to be lurking in other areas as well.  I am looking at a lot of articles the past two days and if you look had enough you can find that somewher something is good for you and bad for you.  I beleive that moderation in all things and some of us are just going to be more susceptable than others.  I am glad we have these forums to talk to one another.

  • cakeisgreat
    cakeisgreat Member Posts: 188
    edited March 2010

    Sheila, meece and carollyn...you guys are sooo right.  I'm sticking with moderation, and thank you for reminding me not to blame myself.  So unproductive, and I am sick of all the stupid articles about causes of cancer too.  We should ban them, LOL...spam them!

  • cancersucks
    cancersucks Member Posts: 100
    edited October 2010

    Cakeisgreat,

    It's a known fact that tupperware (when heated in the microwave leeches into the food) creating environmental estrogen. (BPA) When you are 100% estrogen positive this plays tricks with your body. Picture healthy estrogen dancing along and then all of a sudden this nasty environmental estrogen mugs it, and starts mulitpying over it again and again, damaging DNA cells and making an abundance of fake estrogen. I am looking for a movie called TOXICBUST. It's supposed to be very good and be very informative Have a great weekend ladies.

  • cakeisgreat
    cakeisgreat Member Posts: 188
    edited March 2010

    heya cancersucks!  I had no idea about tupperware until yesterday...lovely!  I have cups that I am discreetly going to throw out so hubby doesnt see (he is picky about wasting).  Figures I always used them over glass when I drank water and such.  UGH.  If you find that movie, maybe you can post some of the interesting points for us.

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 10,618
    edited March 2010

    I think articles which make claims about what does or does not cause cancer, cause cancer themselves and should be avoided at all cost to enable us to enjoy life!

  • carollynn79
    carollynn79 Member Posts: 331
    edited March 2010

    Meece I agree, none of us can go back and picking apart our lives does not help.  I am planning on enjoying my life, yes I may need to make changes to adjust to energy levels or learn to put limits in place but by golly I am going to enjoy each and every day.  Maybe not every minute but something everyday is going to bring me joy.  Today my sister and Mom sent me a beutiful flower arrangement in a cute cup and saucer with roses on it, when the flowers are past I wil use the cup and saucer to remember the joy it brought.  We are all going to have down days and moments but trying to bring joy into each day is a good goal.

  • AStorm
    AStorm Member Posts: 1,393
    edited March 2010

    Don't waste one minute feeling guilty.

    I live in a very health-conscious, earthy community where organic produce and natural products are plentiful and there is a high level of awareness. My mother was a nutritionist and had breast cancer, so I have been very conscious of those things which I can control. Especially since my first pregnancy 18 years ago, I learned about the benefits of organic foods and have been a vegetarian most of my life. I also learned about the hazards of all kinds of environmental issues and have avoided as many as possible -- I make my daughters use "natural" soaps, makeup and nail polish. I am not and have never been obese. I used to work out everyday (before kids) and am still active. I do not eat junk food -- I cook a lot and as much organic as possible and I don't use any aluminum or teflon pans. My mother had breast cancer at 45 and I have been watched closely since my mid-20's. I was diagnosed at 47 so I guess I had a couple of extra cancer-free years for all my trouble. After 20 years of mammograms I'm wondering if it was the mammograms! Thank goodness I won't have to do that again.

  • C130sunshine
    C130sunshine Member Posts: 47
    edited March 2010

    Good evening,

    I agree......don't waste feeling like you could have done something different.  I was lucky, my dad always taught me not to "play" the what if games....you can not change the past only the future.

    Like Meece said you read one article something causes cancer then the next week another article says it doesn't.  It seems the "experts" can not make up their minds......I am too tired to worry about what ifs. 

    I now just try to live my life and enjoy it.....I just have to not to work too hard.  Still have not figured it out yet....but I am trying.

  • kac
    kac Member Posts: 43
    edited March 2010

    Hi Ladies,

     I haven't been on in a while but just read that new article and I agree, they need to quit writing those stupid articles until they have absolute proof.  IDIOTS!  I'm tired of hearing about being overweight, drinking and lack of exercise is the cause as many thin, vegans, and such get it as well. Let's see, I took estrogen for 8 years due to ovaries being taken out and was told that I had to take it because of my young age!  Also, nevermind that I had been burned in the breast years before (strange thing, a boombox shot fire out at me when I plugged it in).  Plus, I also have some family history.  Drs. didn't think any of that had anything to do with it.  Yeah, right!   The Drs. are missing something!  I really don't think they listen to what you tell them for history, they only write down what they want.  One of these years someone will figure it out and it will probably be something so simple and avoidable.  Unfortunately, we have to live in the here and now and deal with this the best we can.

     thanks for letting me vent!

  • AStorm
    AStorm Member Posts: 1,393
    edited March 2010

    The worst part for me is that whenever there is some study released all the networks broadcast the  'story' with little or no background on the study, so that everyone I know can now call me to tell me about it when I was finally not thinking about cancer. I'm off to my wine class now. We have a midterm tonight and a tasting (Zinfandel I think). I usually spit when tasting (we have a whole classroom full of spitters!) and since I started studying wine I actually *taste* it and I prefer one glass of really good wine.

  • carollynn79
    carollynn79 Member Posts: 331
    edited March 2010

    Gail well said, the wine tasting class sounds like a lot of fun.  I love wine, my DH and I make our own, I purchase my favorites and when I have a glass I enjoy it.  I was raised in a family that did their own canning, cooking, baking, raised theri vegtables, meat etc.  I have had weight problems and enjoyed too much junk food but I have ate well the majority of my life and I have 2 differnt cancers so go figure.  I think I will worry about my life and let my trusted doctors worry about my health concerns and listen to their advice not the TV. 

  • LauraM
    LauraM Member Posts: 41
    edited March 2010

    Hi Ladies - I received my oncology report back this week and they found cancer in three of my lymph nodes so they changed my stage to a stage 2, ugh!  Chemo will start for me the end of April.  So I will keep checking in with this group but will be looking to see if there is a stage 2 group that I can join.

    Lots of pink love out to you all.  Have a great day!

  • cakeisgreat
    cakeisgreat Member Posts: 188
    edited March 2010

    Stay Laura and go to stage 2!  We love having you here :)

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 10,618
    edited March 2010

    I am sure there is a Stage 2 thread, but we would love to have you here.

  • carollynn79
    carollynn79 Member Posts: 331
    edited March 2010

    Stay strong Laura and stay here too!

  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 9,611
    edited March 2010

    Yes Please Stay Laura.

    Unless you need and want to go to stage II.

    Hugs

    Sheila♥

  • LauraM
    LauraM Member Posts: 41
    edited March 2010

    You all are WONDERFUL ladies!  You have really made me smile tonight and for that you all Rock!  Thank you for asking me to stay, I will stay, because you are all great and have been such a great help with my journey!

  • AStorm
    AStorm Member Posts: 1,393
    edited March 2010

    LauraM,

    Well pooh! Sorry to hear about the nodes. Good luck with your treatment!

  • C130sunshine
    C130sunshine Member Posts: 47
    edited March 2010

    LauraM.....Sorry to hear about moving to stage 2, but remember you are still part of "our" family!!!!!  (((BIG HUGS))))