The dumbest things people have said to you/about you
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Tracey I truly hope u'r tests come out good and right people give u that OOOOO look for some reason most of us are sensitive at these times--so try to go with it and IGNORE like I do.
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OMG - I should start a new thread: "The dumb sh**t cancer patients do to themselves":
I live on the side of a small Mtn. My cabin is slanted, my sidewalk is slanted - so, when I was dumb enough to wear my favorite, treadless crocs outside - on the wet leaves, instead of putting on hiking boots or at least winter sneakers, I took a tremendous fall just a few mins ago. Wow - quite abit of pain I just don't need. Please feel free to laugh - I must have been a site in my shorts and winter jacket - standard wear in fall for Adirondackers, holding on to the leash of my dog, tumbling down a Mtn. side. I did not want my neighbor to run over, so I got up and acted as if I was fine. My knee has a golf ball under the skin and is covered with blood - awesome - NOT! Needless to say, the crocs are in the garbage. (At least I did not ruin the new downfill I had on - my daughter bought it for me last week). Oh well, too bad about my left hand aching - guess it's time for Ibu and ice packs. Can't bear to go to ER and give my whole friggin cancer history. When I went for ear canal sores last year - (side effect of AC), and a sinus infection that was bleeding, the ER doc ordered a CT scan of brain to rule-out brain mets - The Radiologists was furious with her for dragging him in on a Sun to read x rays - I told him it was not my fault! So nope - I'll get through it and see my PNP tomorrow - darn - should not have been lazy.
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Darn it all - I am going to laugh today in spite of all of it. I have been posting on several thread today - people are in rare form today - too darn funny!
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...The "Sh**t people say to mets patients" ladies are supportive and so darn funny. Just don't know what I would do without each and every one of you on this thread and all the others I post on.
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Oh Sherry I didn't laugh, I'm sorry I could feel it--maybe u should have a drink of u'r name=I would, Oh u poor thing. I fall too, but the last time I had my crocs on I fell at my oldest dgtrs house and they threw them away immediately --darn kids and one of the times too was when I was walking up to a judge about my foreclosure and I fell flat right in front of him- He's ready to call 911 and I'm yelling no I'm here for justice. Whoever that was cuz I didn't get it. But on the upside 2 very hunky young men helped me up that was nice of them Oh yeah
Anyway U certainly don't need this to happen with everything that's going on with u. And watch whst's going on cuz if u need to go to ER GO---don't hesitate, but keep that ice on and off wherever u need it. but please don't ignore it--it hurts like mad when u fall and u have to be careful. Keep us posted on how u feel
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Thanks, Cam - SO sorry about the foreclosure and falling in court. (The rescurers sounded like a plus, though!) We have gone through so much with this d**mn disease.
Also sorry about your crocs - darn, it's tough to throw-out crocs as the part that shows almost never wears out - those bottoms are deadly, though, when the tread is gone.
My knee is doing better - the huge lump is now spreading out - not so round. Looks awful. OMG it looked weird when I first did it. My daughter is a CNA - she worked a double today. I am not going to show it to her until morning. She will be upset and I just want her to get some sleep - she worked two doubles in a row this weekend, at a nursing home, on the Alzheimer's unit.
Thanks so much for your concern,
Hugs to all,
Sherry
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Fearless - my thoughts and sympathy are with you. One of my kitties is 17. He is doing well, but I now how fortunate I am to still have him. I also know that I have been fortunate to have him for 17 years, but no matter how long your dear pets are with you, it is just never long enough. Sending tears of love and hugs your way.
Sherry
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Oh barbie - thank you for the beautiful sentinment. So sorry you lost your buddy. (I used to live in Buffalo, so I know the Rainbow Bridge well.)
Hugs,
Sherry
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I know what you mean, Meray - "Be positive", "You can beat it", "You are so strong", "Please do it, Mom", - They all mean well and the last one breaks my heart each time one of my kids asks me to fight - I'm trying, but it's not to beat it - It's to be here as long as I can.....
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traceyinva: I, too, loved your description which cracked me up: "...when I'm just walking down a hall in school (I teach) just going about my business (trying to focus on work and set aside my worries about waiting for biopsy results) and people that would normally just smile or wave, suddently stop in their tracks, take hold of my wrist and shoulder, look deeply into my eyes with that morose/mournful face and ask very gently, "so... how are you holding up?". Well, I was doin' OK before your brought it slamming back to the forefront of my brain, THANKS!....... I just want to be treated normally... and I don't need people I hardly know touching me like I'm their best friend or something... it's just freakin' weird. Guess I'm a little overly sensitive but seriously..."
I really appreciate barbe's come back, because until now, I've just responded with something like, "I'm doing fine thanks because I had so much healing help from my closest family, friends, neighbors, and the local cancer patient advocacy group."
But if it starts to get irritating, I could come back with a zinger for those people I want to cease and desist with something like, "I guess it has been the Viking gods and possibly Charlie Brown's Great Pumpkin who has been holding me up!" Okay, maybe not funny. I have a corny sense of humor. But it just might work in getting these questionably well-meaning people to stop focusing on my health issue -- and could open a dialogue about beliefs and values !
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Sherry/Reality, I am going to tell you that I laughed out loud at your Buffalo comment. I have to. I even told my DH and he laughed too. We aren't laughing AT you, sweetie, we are laughing WITH you...it's about the Rainbow Bridge.....
There is a concept that when you die and go to Heaven, you will meet all your previous pets at a special place called the Rainbow Bridge. It's not in Buffalo, sweetie, (well, technically it is...) but it's a dream place in Heaven where you will come together will all your lost furbabies.
Can you laugh now?
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Oh barbie - yes, I can laugh now - too funny. I wondered why you chose the Rainbow Bridge I know to meet your pets, but thought, oh well, must be a special place. I think it is great when we can laugh at ourselves - I think I won the dumbest thing anyone has said prize for the day! As I stated on Mid-age thread - Missed you guys today. Grandchildren were dismissed early as a storm precaution - we had a wonderful day - almost like a snow day, except it was warm!
Love ya, barbie - you truly keep me going!
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Sherry I forgot I was watching this show about he town and are where u live--I probably wouldn't have watch it, but since I know u I had to see it. It looked so quiet ad peaceful except for some murder u had there a few years back and everyone was nerveous it was random, turned out to be the spouse. (as usual) But they showed the town ad views and said it's not a place where these types of things happen. It really looked cool, well except for the murder. So u live in a nice quiet place--Oh tat's so nice. My kids went to "downtown" in our little suburb of IL and they said it was beautiful--like really old fashion and cobble stone streets and the original buidogs like a times square and Leslie said everyone was so friendly and they enjoyed it and i didn't even know we had that here. I love old town looks and the feel of it.
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Oh yes, Cam - The Glanda murder. I worked in a historic hotel part time while teaching in 1997-98. Bus tickets were sold at the hotel. I had a strange guy sitting in the lobby for hours, waiting for a bus - After waiting for 6 hours, he got on a bus and was arrested at the first stop - he was the accomplice - weird.
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Here's one from today - A very friendly admissions person called to verify info for my upcoming port installation. She had all the info. from my onc's office, except for my lumpectomy - Also could not understand why I could not have blood draws, injections, bp cuffs, etc done on left arm, but advised me she would tell the nurses of my request. I appreciated that she was friendly, but as my Tracphone minutes dwindled away, she decided to add some personal info I did not need. She told me that a port is the "way to go" and that if she ever had to have chemo, she would definitely want one and blah, blah, blah. I just let her go on and on - when she finally stopped, I said, "Yep - I know - this will be my second one"...Silence on the other end and then, "Well, Sherry, have a nice day".
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When someone says that to me afer a stupid comment like that, I say "Now how could I NOW????" I hope it bugs them....
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hahahahaha--and u let her keep on talkinh--See that's funny to me
Oh the murder was on Those shows --I think it might have been Snapped meybe--it was just a couple of weeks ago. Oh and the 2nd guy was waiting OMG u saw him. It actually was very interesting how they told the story--I watch all these true crime things
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I'm sure I've posted this one before, but have to chime in again. Have a very old friend from many years that almost every time I see her will say "gosh you look good!" I finally got to my breaking point and said "how do you think I 'should' look?" That shut her down so fast and yet we are still good friends. I think it's important that we tell family and friends what bothers us and then they can actually think ahead of what to say or not say.
PS -- can't wait to say adios to the month of Foctober !
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Glad y'all have enjoyed my "Foctober"!! I, too, will be glad to change that!! In fact..I'll do it after this post. I'll have to make up a new word next Foctober.
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Crap!!! How do I change things now??? I can't find the normal page that lets me edit things...HELP!!!!
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Barbe,
Go to My Profile, then settings. Near the end of settings is a section "signature". That should be where you can change it. I've been reading all along, but not posting. Thank you for getting me through my first Foctober.
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Thanks Juliaanna!! I was looking on the left side menus!!!
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That's a good one, barbe - I may have to borrow it soon!
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Hello to all - did not have a chance to write today as I was in med appts. all a.m., went for a nice long walk and then cleaned so I will not have to do a darn thing all weekend - Having my port put in AGAIN, tomorrow.
I went to VT last time and they put in some fancy-smanhcy "Power Port" - the onc nurses were impressed. No one ever asked what I wanted and my ins. co. paid for it, so whatever. I am having the 2nd one put in at my small-town hosp., so it will most likely not be so fancy. I did not even ask - I honestly don't care what the darn thing is like. In fact, it may not be as annoying if part of it is not shoved under my skin! The entire port was under my skin last time. I have plenty of skin some places, but not on my poor chest! It always felt stretched way too far.
Anyway - here's one for you - As I was trick or treating in town with Grandchildren yesterday - (had an absolutely wonderful time - I went all out and made it as special as I could), we saw my ex (the "boyfriend" of 14 yrs. that some of you may recall me mentioning...) -He ran right over to us and began talking about himself - as usual. I could not believe he did not notice my hair was gone. I had on a winter cap, but parts of my head were showing and were obviously shaved. He never did ask how I was doing so I interrupted his self-indulgent mononlogue by pulling off my hat and saying, "Look what happened to me". He acted like it was nothing, pulled off his baseball cap and said, "Well, look what happened to me". He used to have a ponytail (that was thin and very unattractive on him- some late-life crisis thing), and he had to have it cut off due to a new job.
He still did not ask how I was - He only confirmed, more that ever, what an insensitive jerk he truly is. He then had the nerve to start complaining about an aching arm and leg. I cut him right off and said, "Well, at least you do not have to deal with six tumors in your lungs". That stopped him in his tracks. Fortunately, my gd was getting impatient and begged me to start walking with her. He then yelled down the street, "Call me sometime" - I just shook my head and kept walking....I was so hurt.
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Reality, I think instead of hurt, you should be friggin ecstatic that you don't have to put up with that idiot anymore. Not to sound dismissive of your feelings. I compleatly understand how that would be hurtful.
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Amen, I agree with stormynyte! Celebrate the fact you aren't with him anymore. He sounds like he experiences life at the same level as an ant!
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14 YEARS you spent with this guy? oh lord...... You are worth so much more than that guy!
Ive got a couple people in my life that are similar. One called me up recently after 2yrs to set up a time to catch up. I heard the briefest snippet about what is going on in her drama-filled life, and I just couldnt bear it - I just have no room for it anymore. I used to gravitate to people who would just go on and on about their problems, not even asking what was going on with me. Now, its like I cant breathe in the room when Im around someone like that. moving on.....
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Oh Sherry, did you really expect better?? Can you imagine if he was sensitive and caring? What would your poor heart and head think then? The Universe stepped in and saved you the turmoil!!! hehehehehehee
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Missed you guys today - spent all day in outpatient surgery for port installation - finally home - in pain, but Tylenol and ice will do the trick. I went to my local hospital - The nurses and the surgeon were wonderful .
talk to you tomorrow -
Thanks Shayne - I know - 14 years - duh to me!
Thanks to you, too, barbe - you supported me when I dumped him a year ago and I sincerely appreicated your input!
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