thread for middle age to older Christian women.
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Ade, Welcome to this thread but I'm sorry you had to have cancer to find us. This is a loving, Christian group of ladies who care and pray for each other. We will pray for you and especially for your husband right now. Its tough when one of you is ill, its much worse when its both of you. Praying they find an answer for your husband and that your second surgery turns out to be nothing new.
Today I am grateful to be alive to celebrate my grandson"s 20 th Birthday. I am also grateful that the meds I've been on seemed to have worked on my lung infection and I'm feeling better and coughing less. Please God, i continue on the right path for wellness. Our gospel yesteray was all about being persistent in prayer as Nancy has so often noted. God works in His time, not ours.
God bless you all and hold you in His loving arms.
Faith (in the future)
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P.S. Aurora, your grandson is adorable! Happy birthday to both our grandsons.
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Good evening ladies;
Nancy, I'm glad you made it back home from your mom's. To all of you, thank you for your care for me and for each other. Prayer does change things....the peace of mind we have in times of crisis is because we KNOW who is in charge of all things .praying that everyone is seeing some of God's blessings as you fight this disease. Blessings too for the folks who take care of us and encourage us.
I get so frustrated at the news...but a couple of days ago, I read an article by Max Lucado about what the world will be like on Nov. 9; talk about putting things in perspective! Read it if you get a chance..I found the link on Fox News.
Ade, glad you found us...will pray that the doctors will be able to give you some answers about your husband's illness. So frustrating when they are so sick and no one knows what to do!
It's official...I checked in with my Ortho surgeon today and will be having hip replacement (left) soon. XRay showed right one is doing great; left is bone on bone with spurs. Getting to the point where I'm tired of the daily, hourly, pain when I move.
God bless you all with a fantastic week!
Ellen.
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Welcome Ade to our thread. I am glad you found us. I think many feel like the Lord lead them here as this thread is not easy to find. I am glad you are doing well and we will certainly pray for James that they can find exactly what is going on with him and that there will be a solution. It is so hard watching our loved ones going through things. There are many wonderful woman on this thread. I hope you can be a part of our little online prayer family and support group.
Aurora, your grandson is so cute. Did you start rads today? Praying all goes well with your treatments.
Faith, so glad to hear that your lung infection is better and your treatment for that is working. Praying for the other things as well.
Jean, I remember when we did the 50 days of gratitude and that was a great thing.
I am grateful today that my 2017 Butterfly Calendar became a reality and is in a gift shop as of today. It has gone over so well I may have to order more calendars. I can't tell you how thrilled I am as I was able to have my story included in it. My desire is that people who need hope will buy the calendar and then be blessed by my story of hope in it besides the photography.
Praying that the Lord will give each one of you hope in all of your challenges this day. I know there are some very big challenges represented here but I know that we have a Big God who is still in control no matter what the situation looks to our human eyes. I keep hearing that Hillary Scott song running through my head..... Thy will be done.
Love,
Nancy
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Faith thank you so much! We all have so much to thank the Lord for. Yes we surely need to persist in prayer and thank Him for the everyday blessings. God is good ALL the time. These trials just serve to bring us closer to Him and trust in His love. Blessings on your day & happy 20th birthday to your grandson!!!
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Good morning or afternoon dear ladies,
We are having some days of glorious weather which will quickly change but I am enjoying it while it lasts. Remember that God knows exactly what you are going through and He is allowing it to fulfill His purpose and will for your life. He is excruciatingly slow but always on time. He whispers to each of us just trust Me.
Love,
Nancy
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Nancy, thank you for the warm welcome and prayers for James. We should know test results the 31st. Congratulations on your butterfly calendar and may it and your testimony bless and encourage many hearts. Ade
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I am grateful today for my counselor, for the gorgeous fall colors, for getting a shot that will hopefully take away my knee pain. Praying for all the needs here to be met by our awesome God. Love, Jean
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Beautiful post - thank you Nancy! We are from Ohio (transplanted to southwest Texas) so we know well the beautiful glory of fall leaves. Just think - The Lord did not have to make the seasonal splendor - or sight so we could enjoy it. . . but He did out of love. We never take our blessings for granted. Not many fall leaves here in the high desert - but the warm sunshine feels good on the old bones. Ade
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Ellen (my middle name), thank you for prayers for my husband. I pray the Lord will guide your surgeon's hand, grant him/her wisdom, that the surgery will go perfectly, your healing be swift, that you have complete recovery with no complications and your pain is gone - to God's glory! Ade
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Hello all, I have not been online for several weeks as I am in Hawaii visiting my son and his family. Having a wonderful time, but am exhausted at the end of every day....but a good tired. My sister and her husband came for two weeks so we have had a houseful and I have been able to get away and do some sightseeing.....even went snorkeling ans saw sea turtles! Even though I do not get on here and read daily, everyone on this thread are in my prayers daily. I do not just pray at night.....I thank God and pray many times during the day. He is so good.
Love to all,
Lynn
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Thank you Ade. In my prayer time today I was expressing to the Lord exactly what you said. HGod puts on this display of fall colors for our enjoyment. I was thinking of the dead of winter but quickly comes the rebirth of spring to renew our hope. He uses the seasons of the calendar to show us how he works in the seasons of our own life as well.
Joanne is from Ohio and will be glad to meet you when she posts. Her family is going through a very rough time and it has been extremely stressful so she has not posted as much.
Ellen, hopefully you saw my PM. Praying your trip goes well this week and praying for your knee pain while you wait for your surgery.
Jean, glad you got your shot and I hope it works miracles for your knee.
Ladies. let's remember to lift up G in your prayers. She has some unspoken needs and I pray that you would all lift her up for comfort and that her issues will be nothing serious.
Have a great evening dear sisters.
Love,
Nancy
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Welcome Ade! These ladies are amazing. I find so much encouragement here.
I am thankful for the amazing fall weather we are having. It's only supposed to last another day or two, but it's been glorious.
Blessings
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Hi my name is Patty, otherwise known on BCO as Tatatootsie62. I am 62 and newly diagnosed with invasive lobular carcinoma in
the right breast. I am the only person in my family that has had an occurrence of breast cancer. If you told me that I
could have been the one in 4 out of 7 or the one in 3 out of 5 that would get breast cancer, I would have told you that
you had rocks in your head. I am a Christian and I was raised to have a reverent respect for God. There is nothing more
important in your life than your dependence upon God....for it is His hand that is higher than ours that decides what
happens as well as His hand guiding the surgeon's hands to perform their so-called "miracle". And I say miracle
because I have been in medicine for the last 35 years and I have seen much improvement to our advantage. Breast
cancer no longer has to be a death sentence because surgery has made advancements, oncology has made great
strides in treatment for those of you (us) who have been diagnosed, whether or not we have lymph node involvement.
It sounds wonderful and promising I know, but the truth is that I am frightened....despite my faith in the Lord. It is
difficult to remain totally objective when you are the patient, but my faith in God is what will take me through this
ordeal. This website is "providential" for me as I have found it and several other women in nearly identical circumstances
have helped boost my morale, allay some of my fears and helped me see the "light at the end of the tunnel". We will
all reach that point at sometime in our own circumstances, but the key is while we are all able to share we will
edify one another with or triumphs and victories because of the bountiful blessings from our divine Creator.
Godspeed to you all (and I hope to see some new posts made sooner than 2012). Gals, we are all in this
together. HUGE HUGS TO ALL !
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So Sorry....I retract that last statement....I was looking at the date that some have joined
BCO....and not the most recent post. I humbly apologize....my BAD ! I am not
in my right mind right now.
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Hi Patty,
Welcome to our "current" thread.
Other than you being in the medical profession your post sounded very much like mine when I first started my journey. I was diagnosed at the same age as you and very similar stats it looks like except I have IDC and not ILC. When my radiologist called me on the phone to tell me I had IDC I said those very words to her. I was the last person I ever thought would get cancer. I had done all the things I thought were healthy and the bottom line is anyone can get this. I remember my mind spinning the first few days trying to figure out why I got it and then very soon woke up to the fact that I was asking the wrong question. I needed to ask how was I going to get through it. I got through it with a lot of prayer and lots of support from my friends and community around me. My family lives downstate and I am single and live alone but I did not feel alone at all. I felt very surrounded with support which helped me tremendously. I was someone that kept a lot to myself but I realized early on that I needed to tell as many people as I could of my diagnosis. I look back at that decision and I have to believe the Lord was in that because I definitely needed support since my family was not able to come up and help out. It is VERY normal to be scared and to have fear whether you are a Christian or not. I am glad you found this website. I didn't find it until I was almost finished with my active treatments. It was a Godsend for me. There is a wealth of information here and a ton of support. This is a thread that supports in prayer and emotional support. I have a feeling you are going to do just fine in your treatments. If you have an upcoming surgery date let us know and we will be sure to pray for you.
Feel free to post anytime and it won't take us four years to respond, I promise. LOL I couldn't resist.
Love,
Nancy
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Nancy, I deserve it (LOL); I do not know where my mind is sometimes. Please know that all
of the "guardian angels" of this website who unselfishly share their experiences will be in my
prayers tonight. HUGS, Patty.
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Tatatoot: Do they have a treatment plan mapped out for you yet? Once they get the ball rolling on that, it gets easier.
No history of BC on either side of my family, but I was diagnosed right out of the gate with advanced Stage IV with mets to my spine, other bones, liver, pancreas, and other organs. Talk about being scared to death...40 years ago I would probably already be dead, or at least a "dead woman walking" on death row. But w/all the medical advances, hopefully I can get a few more "quality of life" years. I won't lie, things aren't that great now - I had to quit a job I loved for over 21 years because the pain got too bad, plus the side effects of my chemo have given me neuropathy and neuralgia in my hands and fingers (I have no more feeling in them, and simple things like putting on pierced earrings or opening a simple jar are a nightmare), and my back hurts all the time. I'm only 57, but I have to depend on a cane and even a walker (if I have to go long distances). It's my "new" normal.
Did God give this to me? No! The toxic, polluted environment in which we live, and the chemicals in the food supply have contributed to this. Nevertheless, God "allows/permits" these tragedies for HIS purposes. "All things work together for good for those who love God and are called according to His purpose." Romans 8:28.
With my extensive mets, and if I didn't have my faith, I probably would have given up and asked for the barbiturate cocktail already. (California has a "Death with Dignity/End of Life Options" law, but you have to jump through a LOT of hoops to get that. You make a formal request, there's a waiting period of at least 2 wks, then you have to be evaluated by TWO outside drs (can't use your own), and then get a psych eval. before they'll get you the drug...gees, you could already be gone by then
.)That's not how I'm planning to go out...it will take too long! I'll know when it's finally time for the Lord to call me home. And when that time does come, I'll do what my friend's mom did: No more Tx, no more food, no more fluids, just HARD CORE pain meds to keep me comfortable, and the Lord can take me when it is HIS will. Don't mean to be morbid here, but when you're Stage IV, your perspective changes. You now have a "chronic" disease for which there is still NO CURE. The chemo/rads/AI's can keep it in check (hopefully, until the cancer mutates and outsmarts the drugs), but you will never be NED or "cancer free." But the time I have left COUNTS very much.
I read a little inspirational Christian booklet called "Don't Waste Your Cancer." I wear my "Stupid Cancer" hat and buttons, and people ask me about them. I want to be a beacon of light and share how God is working in my life. Everyone is usually shocked, and they say, "But you look so healthy and happy." And then I tell them, "That's the Holy Spirit working in my body, keeping me going so I can still walk."
Ladies, this is very important: Don't be afraid to share your stories. TELL people you have/had cancer. If you are Stage IV, like me, believers and non-believers alike will be watching how you navigate these treacherous waters and how you cope. You never know who you will inspire and who you will bring to Christ through your actions and your indefatigable, cheerful faith.
I've got a scan coming up in the next few weeks. I'm not scared...God already knows the outcome, either shrinkage or progression, and He'll get me thru it.
God bless you all and help you stay strong,
Lita
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Welcome Lita. Praying for you.
Today I am grateful for hubby bringing me coffee this morning. The leaves are beautiful. Hoping to take a walk later.
My granddaughter Alexia took off on Monday and we don't know where she is. Rehab reported her as a missing person. Please pray for her. Last night God told me..."You asked me to save them. Now let me do my job!". Love, Jean
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Welcome to all the new people here. I'm sorry you have to join us but it's a good place to be to share all our fears and sorrows and joys and hopes.
Jean, I'm praying for you and Alexia and the family, I'm so sorry she has left rehab. I pray that she will be found and get the help she needs so badly.
Today, I'm grateful for another beautiful fall day and a good night's sleep.
Godbless you all, hugs
Faith (in the future)
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Lynn, you sound like you are having a great time in Hawaii. Enjoy your time with family and sightseeing.
Jean, praying that Alexia can find the right path and that God can do a healing work in her.
Pray for G and for Joanne. They both need your prayers.
Have a great day today dear sisters and try to find the many blessings the Lord has for YOU today no matter what you are going through.
Love,
Nancy
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Hello everyone,
Haven't posted in a while but I do read and pray for the needs. Welcome to all the new people and know that God is in control of everything.
I will be going Nov. 1st for my 6 month Mamo/US and I've placed it all in God's hands, and I pray that all our petitions be answered according to God's perfect will.
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Lita57, Amen and Amen!
Always lifting all up in prayer. Specific prayers for our sisters that are stage 4.
Welcome to those just finding this thread! As others have said Sorry we have met under theses circumstances. I find this thread very supportive and God centered.
Love across the miles,
Angie
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God's beautiful fall colors. Went through the mountains today with my good friends. . It was a much needed day for me. . The xeloda is working but the side effects are tough and gallstone is getting worse. Meeting with dr Friday. . Praying for all. God knows each of our needs. Hug0 -
It is good to hear from some of you I have been praying and wondering how you were doing.
Lita, amen to living for the now. I am pretty sure that is what the Lord wants from all of us regardless of our circumstances.
Patty, praying against fear for you.
Ade, praying for James.
Arcats, did you ever get a reliable car? I have been praying for that.
Mini, praying for peace as you wait for more scans.
Charlotte, praying for your SE. Are you still working? Beautiful scene.
G. praying for you dear sis.
Joanne, praying that justice will prevail with your family and that you get some much needed rest and relief from all this stress.
Jean, praying for Alexia.
Angie, good to hear from you. How are YOU doing?
Faith, how are you feeling now?
Aurora, praying for your rads starting this week.
Have a wonderful day dear ladies.
Love,
Nancy
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Hello, I am feeling guilty for having such a wonderful time with my family while some of you are dealing with such serious issues. I do know what it feels like to be waiting on test results. I know the feeling of getting a cancer diagnosis, going through treatment and surgeries. I do give thanks to my God everyday that I have come through this and, so far, seem to be healthy again. I am so aware of each day and all the beautiful things around me.
With that said, I continue to read this thread and you are all so special to me and to our Lord. I shall continue to pray for all of us. God is in control.
Lynn
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I'm up late here having a hard tIme sleeping. I'm worried about Alexia my granddaughter. She has run away from rehab and has a court date on Tuesday. If she doesn't show up an arrest warrent will be issued and my daughter will forefit $10,000 in bail money. Not just that but if she truly disappears we don't know what will happen to her little girl Valentina who is with my daughter at the moment. I know God is in charge but it is scary. Hubby knows nothing about all of this since my daughter has told me in confidence. Sorry for the rant but I have no one else but God. Love, Jean
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Jean, I can imagine you are all very worried about Alexia. Praying that God can change her heart and mind and that she will consent to go back to rehab before any more legal problems mount for her.
Lynn, I know that is easy to feel that way but we all have seasons in our life that God has given us for rest and relaxation. You had your share of stuff during your treatments and I think God allows us to go through different seasons especially on this thread so that there will always be someone here that has the strength to lift others up when they are in a good place and then hopefully vice versa.
I can live vicariously through you know and imagine how beautiful and warm Hawaii is right now. Just embrace all the fun things and the blessings while you are there.
Have a good night dear sisters. I just watched the Cubs win and I know we are getting VERY excited around here about what might actually happen for the Cubs this year.
Love
Nancy
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Jean, I will continue to pray that God will answer your prayers for your granddaughter, that she may return to rehab on her own and get control of her life and for your whole family. What an awful time this must be for you.
Nancy, thank you for asking, I'm feeling better with just a sore throat now probably due to allergies. The meds continue to cause fatigue so I ask for prayers for that. All things considered I'm doing well.
I'm most grateful that we will be celebrating our 56th wedding anniversary tomorrow and I thank God for giving us so many wonderful years together, and our wonderful family of 4 children and 10 grandchildren. God is indeed good and we must trust that He will make all things right in His time.
God's healing blessings to all of you.
Love, Faith (in the future)
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Good day dear sisters,
I think satan has been attacking families on this board as I have seen this quite a few times. Without naming situations as some are private I pray that we would all stay close to the Lord during these times and always because that is our protection. It doesn't mean the darts of satan won't still happen but we know that He that is in us is greater than he that is in the world. Stay tuned into God's presence dear ladies. I cannot express that enough. We need to pray for our country and for the upcoming elections as well.
Faith , wow what a milestone of 56 years together, Congratulations. I do hope that you will feel well enough and have enough strength to enjoy your celebration. Praying for you in that regard.
Praying for all of you dear ladies and praying that this day is your day of break through for many.
Love,
Nancy
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