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Good morning ladies. I had a rough time sleeping last night. I thought alot about LJ and Suze and I too wondered what dear Susan looked like. Thanks Painting for your description.
I know it sounds selfish, but when I hear about another sister lost, I immediately go to my dark place and think "what if it was me...", but I think we probably all have that fear and it is very normal and that is why we are all here- to help ease the anxiety.
Inmate- I will be thinking of you today. Sending you a big hug!
Good thing for the day- the kids are on Spring Break this week and today we are going shopping for my DH's birthday tomorrow- will probably get some ice cream along the way!
Sorry for the rambling- is it too early for a nap?? LOL!!
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Hoping all goes well today Heidi!
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{{Inmate}} Good luck today!
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Best of luck, Heidi - I hate those dang things - they hurt so much! The bench sounds wonderful and I would definitely like to contribute.
Linda
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Tif:
It's not selfish at all. We all do it. "There but for the grace of God......" is the mantra of each of us on this board. Comes with the diagnose.
L.
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TifJ,
I agree w L. I hardly slept a wink last night. Thinking of LJs and Susan's families. My husband would be so devestated; I worry more for him than myself to be honest. The randomness of it all just sucks.
I too thank Titan for starting this thread. Such a great outlet. I share everyghing with my DH but it's so great to also have peers who know exactly what you're thinking, without even having to spell it out. Or sometimes we cathartically (is that a word?) do... FC! lol0 -
Honestly, I didn't sleep very well either. I had some dreams revolving around LJ and Susan. In the light of day I can see them both zipping around in expensive heels and little sports cars.
Swiftbird, hubby and I don't have children, sadly it took BC for me to realize I am hubby's entire life, I do worry more about him, my main goal in life is to get us moved back up to Pennsylvania where we can be near family. I do try to share everything with him but sharing our loss this week and some of my fears is so hard on him that I don't want him to make himself sick worrying. It's why I choose to stay on this board, so I can be with all of you, we all just "get it" and I don't have to explain myself.
Tifj, I don't think your being selfish at all, I think it's very normal for us too. BC has changed us and now we are all a little different, not only do we grieve hard but now we worry just as hard too.
Thank you Titan for this thread!
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Thanks ladies! As usual you all make me feel better. I tell my husband everything too, but he just doesn't understand how I can be so upset about someone I've never "met". Now to get out of the dark place and into the light- the kids want to go shopping!!
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Checking in from my trip to England - visiting with my Mum at the moment. So sad and shocked to hear about LJ and Susan. Inmate - hoping for the best of news for you.
As we all know, we have other TNs who are now stage IV who will continue to need our support - Jenn from my chemo thread, MJB, Becca and blondelawyer immediately spring to mind.
In keeping with LJ, the best thing that happened today was to go shopping with my mother and buy her a new coat for mothers day which is Sunday here. We have talked and talked since I arrived. I generally only see her once a year so it's good to be able to make the most of family time. With the deaths of LJ and Susan, we are reminded to enjoy the time we have with our families.0 -
Heidi - ha! ha! ha! ha! You made me laugh - your last line read "Gotta run.... time to get the old boobs crushed". That was truly funny! However, not too funny the mammo? Good Luck!
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Good luck today Inmate, sending positive thoughts & vibes your way...
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Tifj: Our Dh's sound similar. When Dh saw me in tears yesterday, he asked what was wrong and I explained it to him. I ranted, actually stomped my feet, through my tears as to how much I HATE this disease and how unfair it is that mothers are taken from their children, daughters from their mothers, wives from their husbands.........He gave a nice supportive hug and I could see in his eyes his worry for me. But an hour or two later, he once again asked What's wrong??....Our dear friends and families can't possibly "get it" entirely. But ya gotta love em fro trying.
So glad we have this place to share with each other. Whether its bad or good or something that has nothing to do with FBC.
Best thing for me today: I went to yoga. It felt good to challenge my body and appreciate just Being.
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Inmate - Thinking of you today and wishing you good luck.
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Inmate - sending good vibes your way! When my FC came back, day 1 - discomfort, day 2 - redness, day 3 - lump. Just that quickly. (((Hugs)))
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I was just catching up on my reading of some of the threads and was so saddened to find out that Laurajane and suze35 had died. I really do not have the words to describe how I feel. They were two wonderful women and an inspiration to everyone. What a tragedy to have their lives taken away at such a young age and how awful for their families. They will be sadly missed.
Thinking of you all
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Best thing to happen to me today was a clean mammo.
I have contacted Children's Wonderlab and am in the process of seeing if a bench is possible. One of LJ's friends had also contacted them, I believe in reference to naming the garden in her honor.
If, for some reason, this is not possible Plan B is for me to contact Longwood Gardens. LJ listed that as one of her favorite places and it is in my neck of the woods.
Having now gotten another clean mammo, with lunch to celebrate, I am out to throw a side-saddle on my former stallion (horse, not husband). I'd like to get back into side-saddle riding.
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In the past day, I've received a lot of messages from people interested in somehow memorializing Susan's life. Today I created a fundraising memory page on the American Cancer Society website in Susan's honor.
The link to the page is http://main.acsevents.org/site/TR/Events/MosaicofHope?pg=fund&fr_id=9910&pxfid=1146572
On the page you can see a photo of Susan and leave a message for her family or a donation or both.
I have been deeply touched by what you all have written here about Susan. I knew the Susan who was a fellow mom and great friend - you knew a Susan who was a fighter against a deadly disease. Whether you choose to use the memory page or not, I do feel there is no memorial more suited to Susan's life than the fact that she touched so many of yours.
Thanks again,
Kim Shapiro
Edited by Mods to make the link hot.
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I've posted this before....
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Kim,
I'm headed to the page now.
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Heidi -
congrats on the clear mammo - I suffer through mine on the 3rd of April. Love the "Angus and Phil" - truer words never spoken!
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Heidi - Yay for the clean mammo! I have mine scheduled on the 29th, bright and early so I don't have to wait any longer than neccesary.
Thank you for posting the link Kim.
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Heidi- Good news!!!! Happy for you.
Inmate- Thinking of you. We will always be there in good and in bad times. Hugs.
Thanks Kim for the fundraising memory page in Susan's honor. It was good to finally see her picture. She was a beautiful person inside and out.
Hugs everyone. xx
Isabelle
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Heidi..YEah!!!! Whoo Hoo!
http://crazebase.com/art-and-design/golden-threads-by-visionary-artist-susan-medyn/
A painting I have dedicated as a remembrance to Laura and Susan.
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Heidi - Woo Hoo! Giddy Up!
Kim, thank you for the update and the kind words. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend.
Painting - Simply beautiful !
Heather - I hope your mammo on the 29th, is an unremarkable event!
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I feel too tired to move. Maybe I'm depressed.
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Heidi, I'm sure you let out a big "whew"! Good news and nice to have it behind you for a year.
This is a rocky time for all of us. I'm having trouble sleeping too.
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heidi......cingrats on your clean mammo!
Ladies...thanks for all the encouraging words. I will get the news on the scan later today and am now just trying to stay focused on something, anything really. I suddenly feel the need to get all my paperwork in order so my husband and family don't have to look for anything. What I really want to be doing is make jewelry or sew those curtains i've been dragging my feet on. Digging in the dirt has always been my place of solace but I got that done last week. Damn you adhd!
I will wait to post my "best thing" later. Have a great day! Love to you all!
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Good news, Heidi. I like the cartoon. too.
Love the colors of your artwork, Painting. Thanks for sharing your talents.
Thinking of you Inmate.....
Kim, thank you for posting. Nice for us to be able to put a face to a name. I am sure that you will find how generous the BC ladies can be. Thinking of you and Susan's family.
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Yay Heidi!!
Thank you for the link Kim. A very worthy cause fitting Susan.
Very beautiful Painting!!
Inmate- keeping everything crossed for you!!
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Heidi, my PC wouldn't show the cartoon until now. Very cute.
Sending lots of good vibes inmate.
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I have had this on my mind and while I don't know how it applies to us right now I am going to post it.
There was a blind man sitting with a sign that read: "I am blind, please help."
A man was walking by and stopped. He saw that the blind man had only a few coins in his hat. He dropped in more coins and, without asking for permission, took the sign and rewrote it. He returned the sign to the blind man and left.
That afternoon the man returned and noticed that the blind man's hat was full of bills and coins. The blind man recognized his footsteps and asked if it was he who had rewritten his sign and wanted to know what he had written on it. The man responded: "Nothing that was not true. I simply rewrote the message a little differently." He smiled and then went on his way. The new sign read: "Today is Spring and I cannot see it."
Though I am not blind, this disease makes it hard sometimes to see. Thanks for helping me see the Spring!
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