Calling all TNs
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Luv, my trend will extend to you. My favorite ARNP called today: after I left a message reminding her she didn't want me to go through the weekend
NED, NED, NED!!! NO EVIDENCE of DISEASE
I literally fell on my knees in my closed office and gave thanks: Then called DH
Thanks so much for all the prayers and being in my overalls ladies: we all , i mean we ALL are gonna kick this!!!
Hugs
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TOBY - wooooooooohoooooooooooo!!!!! SO happy for you!!! I think I will have some champagne to celebrate!!! I feel like already every bit of your news on this board is a little bit for all of us.
Let's keep this good energy going for LUV - pray pray praying for you!! I'm going to light a candle, have some champagne and send out some good vibes to you LUV!!!
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WooHoo Toby!!!! So happy for you!!
Thanks Becky! I'm praying for you as well, as you continue your treatment! You'll continue to do well!!!
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YAY Toby!! Wonderful, wonderful news!!
Luv - you're next! I definitely don't think it means bad news that you didn't hear today. I've had tons of scans in the last year and the only next day results I've ever gotten are on bone scans. Everything else always takes at least 48 hours. I'm sure you'll hear Monday, but it stinks you have to wait out the weekend.
Alan - your wife sounds like a strong, courageous woman. Her attitude will help her get through this, along with your love and strength by her side. I have always felt this is harder on the spouse. I truly don't know how my husband managed to hold everything together...juggling work, taking over the household chores, taking me to all my appointments...all while feeling helpless I'm sure. My heart goes out to you. Just remember to take care of yourself too.
Lisa - thanks for sharing that excerpt. I felt the same at times.
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Toby- yahooooo! Doing a happy dance for you- that is such great news!
Luv, your next- I hope you get that good call mon!
Lisa I liked that excerpt as well, explains it well- I sometimes get annoyed at the 'fight' analogy, and I was never really sure why.
Alan, you sound like such a supportive husband- you will obviously be her rock through this, thank you from every woman who knows how important that is!
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I am so happy to read Toby's update!! Now let;s hear same from you, Luv and Ally!
Becky and Alan, - welcome to the boards that we all wish that we didnt need, but are so glad that we found!!
Lisa, - thanks for sharing that excerpt. I copied it and sent it on to a friend dealing with pancreatic cancer and ongoing chemo.
The support, knowledge and 'sense of family' here has helped me deal with all this crummy stuff this past year.
Wishing everyone a good weekend, - and a warm one!
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So happy for you Toby!
((((Luv))))
Alan, we are thinking of you and your wife with many many hugs
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Alan - sending hugs and warm good wishes to both you and your wife. I'm only guessing, but I think it's just as hard on a spouse as it is on a cancer patient, no matter what kind or stage of cancer it is.
Triple negative....when I first heard the term from my surgeon's assistant, I thought "Oh good, better to be negative for something than positive!" How naïve I was.
Nat
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Nat, I had to chuckle when I read your reaction because that was what came out of my husbands mouth when we were told. My MO said, sadly that's not the case with breast cancer and for the first time I saw tears swell up in his eyes.
I hope everyone is having a stress free week end.
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Haha! Nat and Shari, my husband thought the same thing. Men! Bless their hearts...
I'm having major scanxiety!! Do you ladies think that they would've contacted me soon after my scan if they saw something like an obstruction or perforation in my bowel that's causing my pain? I keep telling myself they would, but I've never had a CT scan. My IBS is really acting up. At least I hope it's just IBS from high anxiety! Ugh. Thanks for any insight and comfort. XO!
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Toby wonderful news. Onwards and upwards from now on with all our strengths together.
LUV I'm sure you would have heard if it was bad news like an obstruction or a perforation as that is something that cannot be ignored. Hopefully you will get good news tomorrow so try not to worry.
I also think this is hard on our hubbies as well. Mine coped the only way he knows how by being there for me, cooking lovely dinners (sometimes after Dexamethazone I would be hungry in the wee small hours) and nothing was too much trouble for him. He was my strength then and still is. I couldn't have gone through this without him yet I could see the worry in his eyes every day. If anything I love him more for this.
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Luv, I believe in my heart of hearts nothing is wrong. I think the only reason I got mine is because my ARNP put a rush/ stat on it so I would not have to go through the weekend.
I know Monday you will get great news: can you go on a website that has your records in the meantime? If not, call first thing
Hugs,
K
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Thanks Cocker and Kath! There is a patient portal that I checked this morning and nothing new was on it. I don't knkw if they would even post it on the weekend. I'm not even sure I'll hear anything Monday. The paper said it could take a week and the nurse said that also but also said my doctor usually gets them before a week. I keep telling myself it's not Cancer but the unknown stinks. It's also hard because I've read about people who get a scan for a pain somewhere and the scan shoes something like a met that's not anywhere near the pain. Ugh... I'm not even sure that my Onc would've even ordered a scan if I had seen him for this issue. He never wants to do scans. My PCP just suggested talking to my GI since my pelvic and vaginal ultrasound were clear. Anyway, I'm trying not to have bad thoughts and to look to God for comfort and of course here too! XOXO!
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Read through the Middle aged christian women thread!
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And remember you are NOT alone
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This site has been a life saver.
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I wish my husband would join!
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hitting the "like" button, Alan!
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LUV= Remember" no news is good news". They always seem to call lickedy split when it is bad news. That has been my experience. In todays world with all the legal issues. Doctors are taking every precaution so not to get sued. They want to make you aware and quickly if something is wrong.
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Thanks Eileen! I'm trying to not read too much into it this morning. Last night I could not get to sleep and kept waking up. My mom had texted and said they were thinking about coming to NC for a week and I was like is that a bad sign? I know I shouldn't think that way but when I talked to her earlier in the week about the CT scan, she didn't sound too positive. Usually when I'm worried about something she's like oh it's nothing but this time I could sense worry in her voice and she just said she hopes it's nothing serious. Also right before I was diagnosed she told me she had a bad feeling about something and that was before I even told her I felt a lump!! Last night after she texted, I tried to focus on my breathing and took lots of slow deep breaths and it helped a bit.
Teka that's a really lovely pic you posted this morning. Love the colors!! Hope everyone has a nice day.
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luv=
F= FALSE
E=EVIDENCE
A= APPEARING
R= REAL
You have entire movie playing in your head and you are the only one with the script.
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You're right Eileen!
Has anyone heard anything from Arlene? I've been thinking about her.
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Luv, - I agree with eileen that anything serious would be told to you sooner rather than later! They wouldnt stall if urgent!!
Re husbands, - It's so very hard on them, too. I feel so guilty for ruining my husband's plans for a winter in the south, away from all the cold and snow shoveling. We both finally retired and had so looked forward to escaping NY for a winter, but all we do is go to dr appointments it seems. He is out chipping the ice away in our driveway as I type this. He helps SO much around the house, gets the brunt of my complaints re how I feel, and tries always to appear optimistic, but I am sure he's worried, too.
With hope that spring brings sunshine and GOOD NEWS for ALL here!
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Hi everyone, I heard from Arlene today and she is fine-she had some complications post-op and it is taking the wind out of her. She apologized for not updating but had typed a whole long post and it disappeared -at which point she was too tired to do again. I told her we were all thinking of her and were keeping her in our collective hugs. I'm sure she will post when she has some time to regain her strength and isn't clouded my meds.
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Don't be too hard on the guy. I'm not exactly a saint. When my wife first told me she might have bc, my response was, 'Are you sure?'
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What I mean is, this is tough beyond words for us hubbies. We're not used to having problems we can't solve. Cancer is not like a flat tire or a broken lawn mower. It's a tough thing to accept.
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Thanks, that's very kind.
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Eileen great post. Hoping all of you had a restful, SE free weekend. I love catching up on everyone. LUV, tomorrow you get good news!!!!!!
xoxoxo
Kath
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Shari, thanks for the update on Arlene! Glad she's ok!
Alan, hang in there and just be there for your wife. If she wants you to just sit all day and hold her do it. If she pours her heart out just listen and tell her it's ok to cry! It's ok for you to do that as well. While we need you men to be strong it's also ok to have a cry or two. All we ask is for you to love us through this and be there when we need a shoulder. Also take care of you too. Thanks for being here. I hate that you have to be but it's nice to have men here who show support to their wives and even for us here too. We are a big family here and we need each other. HUGS to you and your wife!
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LUV you are so right. The day after I got my diagnosis I got ready for work as usual and when I went down stairs I found my old feller with his head in his hands and he could hardly talk for the tears. It was me reassuring him that this would be ok, and all will go well. Sometimes we need to be the strong ones and reassure them. My mate helped me through everything in every way possible and I know that I would be there if anything (God forbid) goes wrong for him. He is one in a million so I'm keeping him lol.
Oh and we have been married 48 years this coming October.
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