Great saying about depression
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Hi everyone,
Thanks for all of the good thoughts. My accident was on Fri. I had to go to work on Monday as ER nurse said "they can find something for you to do" when I asked. Today is Tues. and after a rant by my BS with the ER finally got a tetanus shot which should have been done when I was there on Friday. Then I was on the phone all day Monday with HR and finally told that the WC people were setting up ortho consult. This morning still had no appt. Finally at about 9:30 they call me and tell me I have a 10:45 appt with the ortho specialist. Luckily the consult was with one of the best practices in town and the upper extremities specialist I saw was awesome. Very personable as was his staff. He was also very detailed about the surgery and what to expect in recovery - both good and bad that could happen and all the inherent risks with surgery. He then dictated to tape recorder or dictaphone thing in our presence all the while making eye contact with both DH and me to assure he had everything correct. Not used to that level of detail as never had it with BMX and reconstruction. My elbow is still very painful and quite swollen and bruised. He won't do surgery until those issues resolve as he said it is a surgical risk to the healing of the skin. Glad he is concerned. He hopes to do axial block so I can avoid general anesthesia and asked a bunch of questions about my BMX and if I had nodes removed or not - was surprised I told him no - and discussed lymphedema and his lack of concern for it to happen now. I never even asked about that so he was really on the ball. DH was also quite impressed with the level of detail we received. Now the long wait to Wed. for the surgery and with a removable splint I am using arnica gel and ice to try and get rid of swelling and bruising.
Kate - hugs for your poor friend fighting the infection. There is one ortho guy in the group I just was to that seems to have more patients with diagnosis of prostesis infections (infected hardware) than most of the others. Thought if I had to see him, I would have asked for a different doc. I think the nosocomial (hospital acquired infections) occur more often that people like to admit or think. It is not unusual when a foreign body is placed in the human, the chance of infection is greater. Guess I need to worry about my plate and screws next week - ugh just another thing to think about. Hope you are enjoying your getaway.
Stanzie - soak the pillowcase in oxyclean for a few days, changing solution daily and you should get it back to white. The thing you can used for odor is called odo-ban. I have used it in DH's underwear when he was having some issues awhile back and when he was bedridden in rehab. I soaked items in odo-ban and oxyclean then put just a little bit in with the washing detergent and removed the stains and odor. Just a thought.
Hugs to all.
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Oh dear! I have a better option!! THROW OUT the pillow case and underwear!!! Life is just too short....you know?
Delilah, how does the surgeon know the bruising and swelling will be gone by Wednesday? That's seem pretty quick. Good luck, sweetie!!
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Oh Barb! You do make me laugh! And laugh out loud! I actually would consider throwing them out but it is a sheet set and the sheets are still lovely- I do not want to know what the pillow case was doing! But I'll try the oxy-clean- never heard of odo-ban but if it would work the shoes and oh my soccer stuff- I won't even let them bring their bags into the house.... Ick!
Delilah- Wow what a great Doc- I'm glad you are in good hands... will will be interesting to see if the swelling is down by then - he may really know all his stuff.
Kate- Oh how awful for your friend... and how very very scary... I do now even want to think about alll the stuff I remember when I was in the hospital ... not good....
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Oh well, if it's part of a sheet SET...!!!
My EX-MIL used to wonder why I always put the sheets on the bed in the sets they came in. I told her it was because they came in the package that way. She didn't get it. Thought I was a snob. Duh. As an artist it would have offended my eyes to have it any other way!!
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barbe - if your ex-mil thought you were a snob to use a matching sheet set on a bed all together, then she would think many of us snobs. Heck, me she wouldn't even talk to because about 5 years ago I got tired of 15 different types of drinking glasses in the cupboard and went out and bought two boxes of two different sizes of the same style glass!
Since you are an artist, like me, then you know some things are meant to match and some things are meant to harmonize and yet be different.
Barbe - I once found a discussion group with art work and some of your needlepoint work was there. Could you tell me what group that is because I can't find it and you all had some lovely ideas.
Deliah - sorry to hear about your accident and wish you a speedy recovery.
Stanzie - that will teach you to next year send only clothes and linens to camp that you are willing to throw out when they come back home!
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Debbie, I think it was Let's be Creative or something. That wasn't embroidery, but work done on my sewing machine. As a fibre artist, I manipulate fabrics and embellishments and do a long of "free motion" stitching to create the art. The birds were free motion, just a build-up of stitching until they began to take shape. I LOVE doing that!! If you search for "creative" in the search engine here it may pop up.
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ooooh I want to see the artwork!!! Will look. I actually bought these sheets when he first went to camp many years ago and have only used them for camp so they have stayed pretty nice. Well, now he always says when we unpack and make up his camp bed- Aww my camp sheets- they make me feel loved... so ... OK, tell me now to lose the pillowcase! He is the sentimental one of my kids!!! Just like me!! I'd probably keep a rock if it meant something - LOL!
Snob for matching sheets... Hmmm I'm betting she is more like my former step MIL - she only had white everything so she could use bleach and lots of it- but then she was different... she wouldn't let anyone use any cups that were anything but glass - not even porcelain mugs as she thought it would make you sick. She washed her sheets, towels everything every time anything was used. And she thought cement retaining walls were beautiful... so each to their own.... but made her visits a ton of work and washing....
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Stanzie- I'm the same way. Right after we moved into our house my DH took our DS who was almost 2 for a walk around the property. When they got back my DS handed me my "present"- 3 little rocks he had found along the way. I still have them sitting on a shelf in my office and that was 13 years ago!
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Isn't it funny how sometimes things not matching is art and other times not?
Stanzie - I get how attached you, your son and Kate are to things. My DS and I are the same way - not my husband - maybe that's why I am his 3rd wife!
Kate: In my needlepoint basket that I use wool from every night, I have a couple of stones and seashells Max picked up on the beach here. I have kept almost all of the things he made for 'Mummy' growing up.
You talk about MIL: mine, when I first went to their home in 1980, still had those heavy plastic covers on the living room sofa and chairs with a plastic runner for you to walk on over the carpet. Heaven forbid you didn't stay on the plastic!
Barbe - I'll look for the site - your work was amazing and I am even more amazed you did it all on a machine - what you photographed should be hanging in an art institute to give students a true example of creativity!
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Lol- at the plastic ! Yipes! And too funny about the 3rd wife! One of my favorite things my son gave me is of this dreadful silver colored dog. I think the dog is a lab and it isn't plastic but something like that covered in some odd silver stuff. When he gave it to me he was so excited and so proud and held it out very carefully saying it could break - of course he said it was Liesl- a daschsund LOL! and said it was Real Silver! I just adored every minute and it still makes me so happy to see that funny labrador silver dog!Probably my favorite gift ever! He just laughs at me now... Mom love is the best isn't it!
Ok, just popping in but when I have more time can't wait to see Barb's artwork! How exciting!
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Hi All, just lurking the past couple of weeks, but started howling at Debbie's comment about the heavy plastic. My grandma had that on her couch and I can remember sweating on that plastic as a kid and sliding down. Then being told to sit up!
DH and I had a fabulous trip to Hawaii in June. Our two weeks reward trip! :-) we swam with the manta rays during a night dive. One very good thing about that? It broke the adhesions over my ribcage my PT said she would break up when I got back. Hee hee, what two hours in three foot ocean swells will do for a girl! Boy did my foobs get cold. My DH and I had a hard laugh in the car when I made him touch to see just how cold I was. Popcycle comes to mind.
Finally figured out I have truncal lymphadema. My therapist is awesome and I am learning how to tape my foob and side and do a self massage. Pain has dropped from 7 days a week to 2. So relieved to know what it is and now learn to manage it.
Diane, those cupcakes sound pretty good. And Stanzie, my mind is running wild about what happened to your sheets. Will go back and read tomorrow night. Just fun to come into the middle of a conversation and try to piece it together. :-)0 -
Hi everyone! Missed being on lately. I have had a very crazy month. Work kept me away last week. For all of you going through sisters who need to grow up, painful elbows, experiencing sadness because of dear friends being ill I am thinking of you.
Had a great time with old friends at an art festival last weekend. Had a melt down on the way there due to never ending issues with recon but my hero husband let me vent and then told me how much he loved me and thought I was beautiful. Words we need to hear more than ever after all this! Helped me refocus.
Saw PS and felt like it was going to be ok. I told him not pleased with shape of areola he had moved up because it is long and oval and he said it won't be after the grafting. So felt a bit more positive.
I do know we are so changed after this diagnosis. I know we look at things differently and hopefully with hearts that are more open to others and more caring than we ever were before. I hope I am looking with new eyes. So I can see the tiniest of things can produce a smile or a feeling of peace. Hopefully I am motivated to do what I can to maintain the honesty of the journey.
Ladies I hope you all have a wonderful week. No falls, no broken ac, no nasty sisters, no more infections!
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Hopeful glad to read your post...wish I read it earlier...as I fell...
wiped out rather...while running with Charlie on our new found safe path around the neighborhood (taking him to the park is too difficult due to his dislike of other pooches) I saw two dogs up ahead and was trying to distract Charlie from seeing them...and I didnt see the uneven sidewalk ahead of me...UGH I literally ate it! Skinned both knees, right palm and bounced my face off the sidewalk. I wanted to cry the rest of the way home but that wouldnt have done any good...just caused further humiliation from the passerbys that kept asking if I was ok..as I limped home with blood gushing (ok maybe just drizzling) from my knees and hand. I havent fallen like that since I was a kid. I had to come home and ice everything. On top of that I am having some lower back pain and dare I say my rib hurts..just one..tender to the touch. I didnt notice it before so I am wondering if it was due to the fall. its on my left side (not my bc side) where I have Alloderm to re-enforce the skin for my hefty implant 
..I am wondering if I tore something when I fell. I will ice that too now that I think about it. I hope everyone is having a good Monday! I went to buy some Powerball tickets the other day and won $12!! Buying tickets!! Go figure...of course I bought more tickets with my winnings. If I win...or shall I say ..WHEN I win.. I will rent/buy a plane to fly around and pick up all my BCO ladies for a much needed exotic vacation somewhere!! We all deserve that!! I cant see myself taking a vacation for a very long time any other way.
Anyhow, Happy Monday!!
Hope everyone survived the heat/rain of the weekend.
Diane
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Lindsay!!!! Sorry forgot I read your post the other night but was too tired to respond. Sorry for your truncal lymphadema. That sounds miserable but at least your pain has a diagnosis. Glad you like your therapist, always a good start. Also glad you are finding some relief to the pain you have been in...glad you are lurking!
Diane
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diane, Sorry about your fall. Keep everyhing clean, elevated and iced. 0
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Diane,
Sorry to hear of your fall. Hope you soaked in the tub to partially take away some of the aches and to clean your scraped area easily of any debris.
My dog isn't social either so it would be a risk for me to run with her on a lead anywhere other dogs might be as I'd do like you and trip or fall over when she tries to jump in my arms out of pure fear - ha 55 pounds of scared collie!
Hopefulhealing - your dh sounds to be a 'keeper' like mine. Hey, we are entitled to our meltdowns once in a while.
Lindsay, your vacation sounds like a treat! I visited the island of Hawaii many times while we lived there but usually we were doing outrigger canoe races or triathlons so saw the island from a different perspective. Kailua-Kona, I remember it as really a charming town but no beaches. My brother has lived there since 1963 and is a captain on one of those big-game fishing boats where they catch and release.
Let's try for a good week or a good day, or for me, right now, a good hour!
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Diane, don't you just want to yell enough is enough? So sorry to hear about your fall. Faces and sidewalks dont go together.
Debbie, I would like to have a good YEAR! :-). Would settle for a good week, and am thankful for a good hour! Ah, Jaki is a collie? I didn't picture that. Hee hee, I have this whole picture of your house, bedroom view from the top floor, pony in the kitchen, and lots of green lush property...but not a collie in there. How sweet, they are so huggable and hairy! We have dog hair dust bunnies behind every door right now with Rosie shedding. Murphy, our scruffy little dog is sound asleep in my lap. I have the IPad balance on his back.
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Lindsey - Yes, Jaki is a collie mixed (I think, she hails from the RSPCA) with Australian Blue Heeler but has the big body (55 pounds and long thick hair which, like your home, is everywhere). Problem with Jaki is she also, like your Murphy likes to sit on laps and also no one has told her she is a dog, and that presents a few interesting situations.
How many of us have dogs that eat off of forks or can get on by themself and walk on a treadmill? I didn't teach her to get on the treadmill - I just started it really slowly before I got on after having a surgery and next thing I know she is eyeing it up and I said to her 'walkies' and she steps onto it and goes!
I just bought (whee!) a new camera today so I'll see what I can do with it. I'll post the photos on facebook as I don't know how to do it on here. I can't find anything to let me on the Home page.
Now everywhere you look here, it's vibrant shades of green and my winter plants, shrubs and trees are blooming in tandem.The jasmine vine on the house is almost ready to flower so the scent will permate inside the house and the mock orange vine is heavy with lashings of flowers on the carport and my studio.
Both these vines had to be cut back to nothing for the painting of the outside of the house 2 /12 years ago, which happend to be the same time I found out about my bc.
So, I like to think if the vines and plants can bloom, so can I.
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Debbie, I LOVE the picture you painted of the re-growing vines!!!
As for pics, it's the easiest to post from FB. You just have to copy and paste. Go to the FB pic, right click and "copy" come back to the text box and right click and "paste". No mucking about with the little tree to the left of the smiley box at the top of the text box. But, that's easy enough with FB pics too, if you have to. "Copy" your FB pic, come back here and click on the tree icon to the left of the smiley icon at the top of the text boxy. "Paste" your into in the box saying Image URL and it will insert into the text box! Easy peasy. Can't wait to see pics of your world.
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Diane, Diane, Diane, what ARE we going to do with you!!! I hope your dignity was more hurt than your body. How do you feel today? Falling on cement can really leave a mess, can't it?
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Oh Diane - wow, that is some horrible fall! I am so sorry and I know what you mean about passerby's and sympathy sometimes it makes you feel even worse. How are you doing today. I can't believe you hit so hard but I guess running would do it..
I recently fell- Nothing like your fall but guess where it was..... It was on the handicapp ramp to my back door(I had one installed for my elderly friends in a wheelchair) and that is what I fell on... Just a huge bruise on my thigh. But then yesterday ran into the door so have a big welt on my knee(almost wrote nose?) and skinned a bit underneath - still can't figure how I did that.
I know how sore I am so Diane, I'm really worried about you. How bad are you today, please let us know you are really OK.
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Debbie, whenever you talk about your home, I feel like so jealous!! YOur home is what I think of when I want to relax and go some place in my mind. I would love to see pics, guess I'll troll FB now! And you are blooming, in my eyes.
Lindsay--glad to hear your time away from us was spent in Paradise!! You so deserve to have some special time, hope it washed away some of your worries and bc frustrations. Must have been glorious!
Diane, Diane, Diane!! I am so sorry to hear about your face-plant! Feel any better today? Road rash on your hands is the worst pain too. I have a boo-boo bunny in the freezer I'll let you borrow. . . and by the way I have a little bag packed with a bathing suit and sunscreen by the door, waiting for you to swing by after your big win!!!!
Hopeful--you are so lucky to have a DH that is so wonderful. Mine is up in Huntsville, AL negotiating a govt contract. He's been gone since the 16th and doesn't have a return date set---might not be until mid august or so. Give your DH a big hug for me!
Kate--when I was a little girl, I collected rocks. Would like to think they were something unique, but I have a feeling most of them were just parking lot gravel! We used to travel (in our camper) and I would collect rocks from every parking lot I went to!! Even had a rock tumbler and made jewelery for my mom and grandma. One day, my grandmother came to visit and I had a "rock stand" (think Lemonade stand) She ended up buying for a quarter a box of rocks. She kept it on her dresser for years. Four years ago when she passed, I reinherited my box that she had kept for almost 40 years.
Stanzie--you are so lucky you have a young man with such good taste. Mine are still in the chicken finger and pizza stage of life.
Delilah--is your surgery tomorrow? Sending you healing thoughts.
Ptdreamer--I love how you "pop" in with your words of encouragement and advice!
Barbe--I want to see your artwork too!!!!
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Claire you are funny...I gotta check my Powerball and Mega tickets to see how I made out. Everyone get those bags ready!! Ha Ha
I am ok...of course my ego bruised worse than anything. My PS said i could have torn scar tissue and thats why my rib near my incision on lefty hurts. He told me to take some ibuprofen and see how I feel in a couple of days if not better he will check it out. I heart my PS. Fortunately I only bumped not scraped my head/face..my knee hurts worse of all. But I am ok.
Debbie I think Jaki and Charlie are related. He too thinks he is a cat..or a teeny tiny dog which he is not at a whopping 80 lbs. He might be slightly over weight
...but he doesnt think so. Charlie doesnt do the treadmill but they have them at doggie daycare and I was gonna try to get him on it since he is a little beefy and a lot lazy. Unfortunately I think I'd have to get on one first to show him how it works. He's such a scardy cat dont know if he would do it...although he does love to run..for about 20 minutes then nap for 2 hours. My fat lazy puppy...gotta love em! Id love to see some pics with your new camera! thanks for the concern everyone...I got to get back to work. Will pop back later. Have a good day.
Diane
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Okay ladies........... no more falls!!!!!!
The vines sound wonderful and the orange blossoms!!!! We are so brown here. Finally got rain early this am but yards are brown.
CMbear oh how hard to have your hubby gone for so long!!! I know I am blessed with my hero husband. I can't even begin to imagine this journey without his support. I tell him he is my hero. He tells me I am his joy. The one thing good out of BC is our marriage grew and blossomed into a marriage we only dreamed of. I know I am not always "joyful" ha but he always says it's ok. Let it out you need to feel what you feel.
That is the thing isn't it. Sometimes we just have to say it outloud because if we can't we will implode or become so withdrawn. I always seem to feel better when I allow myself to vent or to cry.
I chose to be in the moment today! I try to think each day, "How do I want to write my story today"
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Diane - Sorry to hear about your fall and hope you are recovering.
Stanzie - and you fell too.
What is happening to all of us? I am having surgery to repair my elbow from the Fri. 13 fall. The swelling went down and bruising is a lot better.
The fall has done nothing to help my depression and with my boss acting all concerned, it makes me suspicious.
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Oh my goodness! I am going to be really-really careful. I hope everyone recovers quickly from the falls.
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Ok - 3 falls - enough ladies! Guess we should look where we are putting our feet, but I'm the last one who should be lecturing on that.
Delilahbear - your boss should be nice to you - and it may help him or her be nice to you that it happened on 'work time' and there are lack of safety issues involved!
barbe - I did try to past and copy a photo here and it said no can do. I'll have to wait until Max comes home this weekend from uni as I have cut and pasted on my email and to facebook. If you want to look me up on facebook, I'll 'friend' you - I'm Debra Lefkowitz, with same picture as here.
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Debra- I can't make the pictures work either. I do know using Firefox can be a problem but even when I switched it took my ages and then never could remember how I did it- LOL!
Diane- glad you are doing better. So glad you went and saw your PS. Gosh How lovely to have a PS you trust and like! Can't imagine!
Almost wrote hope everyone has a nice weekend but don't think we are quite there yet so it must mean I need to go to sleep!
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Hey everyone- sorry I haven't been posting much. Guess I've been kind of down in the dumps though I have managed to stay on my feet! Sorry for everyone's falls. I took a bad one a year or so ago so know it can "knock the stuffing" out of you for awhile. Very scary and painful! Hope everyone's bumps and bruises, scrapes and scratches are healing well.
I think my "blues" are just seasonal as it happens every summer. That's when I start cursing the desert- lol! The LE is making it particularly challenging this year which is adding to my angst. It was so nice getting away to my friend's cabin up north but am back to the raging inferno once again. I really hope you win that lottery, Diane, so you can whisk us all away!!!!
Claire- Sorry you and your DH have to be apart right now. I know it must be tough being away from each other so long. When my DH was still flying he would sometimes have to do 4 day trips and I thought that was tough! Hope he gets a return date soon. If not, maybe you should arrange a romantic rendevous in AL!
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Thanks Stanzie for making me feel like I am not the only one who is challenged by some of this technology. I've not dealt with Firefox before so will ask Max to help me when he comes home this weekend from uni.
Kate - there actually is 'seasonal depression' but I have only heard of it when some are deprived of seeing the sun or a clear blue sky or being able to go out into the sunshine. I have a girlfriend who lives in Washington State and she said her Dr called it 'seasonal affection disorder' - and with her being a nurse like me, she didn't like having a label with 'affection disorder' associated with her. Her treatment was to every day sit under this special lamp with a special bulb for 15 minutes and now she and her husband plan at least quarterly vacations, 3 or 4 days, to two or three weeks in a sunny location. She thinks the planning helps her too. Maybe for you the local grocery store could let you sit in their walk in refrigerator for a while! In all seriousness, I get where you are coming from and wearing your sleeves in that weather must be the pits. I know you have air-con in your home and car, but that limits activities too. Two or three months a year is a long time to be confined. I get stir-crazy if it rains for more than 3 or 4 days and even though I like lots of indoor stuff, like reading, movies, sewing, needlepoint and working on lamps or windows or tables or whatever, it seems being limited to indoor stuff makes me want to be outdoors even more.
I was beginning to worry where you were Kate - so, don't hesitate to tell us how you feel and check in here - isn't that what this is for? Friends to share with friends - people who understand and care.
I know not even my two BFF's, one whom I have known for 22 years don't 'get' me like all of you do.
Claire and Kate: guess you got used to your DH's traveling and being away but mine has been retired for the last 34 years, so he is here but luckily for me, he has an active social and exercise routine, so leaves the house before 7am and usually doesn't come home until after 1pm, which gives me the space I need. He's not very good at verbalizing the emotional stuff but I know I can depend on him to listen even if he doesn't understand nor will reply and he does care.
Hope all three 'falling friends' are healing and feeling better.
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